Things have been rough for over a year, had a few ups but almost always downs. Yesterday my wife was traveling home from a work trip and asked me to send her a naked selfie while she was at the airport, so I did. Then I told her to turn off iCloud sync so it doesn’t show up on our computer where the kids might see it.

She then proceeded to accuse me of cheating on her because I know that pictures sync to the cloud when you have cloud sync turned on. Basically the straw that broke the camels back.

Today, I’m a worthless lazy husband that treats her like shit because I don’t engage in enough chore play and worship her every move. She does have a good job and works hard and makes almost what I do, and I appreciate that and work to make it known, to no avail. I’ve told her to quit several times because she’s so stressed, and today for the first time she said she won’t quit because she doesn’t know if we’ll be together much longer.

She accuses me of anger issues and unrealistic expectations. I can’t argue that too much since things have been shitty for a long time. She wants me to go to a shrink to get some meds.

I haven’t cheated on her and she says she hasn’t cheated on me, but I don’t know for sure. I wouldn’t be surprised if she did.

Basically my only way back is chore play, shrink, and kissing her ass. I don’t mind talking to someone and helping out more, but the point is the hammer has fallen so I don’t see the point. We’re in our early 40s and have 2 elementary age kids, and all finances and property tied up between us. Separation would be a bitch. I don’t want to but I’m not sure what’s best at this point. In the last year I’ve brought my SMV to about even with hers, which I know she recognizes. I lift 4-6 x per week along with cardio, so it’s not a physical issue anymore. Other than knowing I need to STFU and read more, I appreciate any comments.

Edit to add we’ve been married 12 years.

Edit 2, she cried a lot while she was giving the speech. She also said she cries a lot while I’m not around. I told her I don’t believe that, to which she said how could I love her if I would say something like that. She did not want a hug when I apologized for saying that. Not sure if it matter but the tears seemed real.