On Being Alpha

I have been on a journey to draw a common thread in all this. To find the unifying theory of Red Pill. To date it seems to be a mass of theories and opinions with no cohesion in unifying It with human behavior. Much like string theory to physics, I have this feeling there is something more out there. Maybe I am wrong, much like string theory could be. Maybe I am right. I don't know. Still the journey and study have been rewarding. This is what I have found so far.

I have often said that there is no Alpha of Alphas. It doesn't exist in nature and it most certainly doesn't exist in humans. Ask a simple question: why aren't all Alpha males in nature actively fighting each other for their packs/prydes? They don't. They exist yet if challenged within their communities then the Alpha take action. It is an interesting question. Let's start with the fact that Dr. David Mech, the man who gave us the idea of alpha/beta wolf behavior, spends his time trying to remove the concept now. In his own words:

One of the outdated pieces of information is the concept of the alpha wolf. "Alpha" implies competing with others and becoming top dog by winning a contest or battle. However, most wolves who lead packs achieved their position simply by mating and producing pups, which then became their pack. In other words they are merely breeders, or parents, and that's all we call them today, the "breeding male," "breeding female," or "male parent," "female parent," or the "adult male" or "adult female." In the rare packs that include more than one breeding animal, the "dominant breeder" can be called that, and any breeding daughter can be called a "subordinate breeder.

So in nature really the Alpha is the one that fucks, and does so often. Ok makes sense. This adheres to Rule Zero. Yet is it enough for a human male? To just exist to fuck? Sex is a mans need. It's written into our DNA yet sex/women are the result of our work not the object of it. Alongside this Maslow's hierarchy is also often talked about. How do these two things go together?

It is enough to fuck all wimmens? To strive merely for physical pleasure? This is why Rule Zero is more than just fucking. It's using masculine qualities to achieve in life. To realize there is inherent risks involved in becoming someone you want to be. Making change and moving forward. Women and our relationship to them is an outward sign of this. It is one of the first things taught. Approach, learn game, keep going.

For example the Alpha may be the leader, but the Beta is the pack's protector, enforcer and goon. The Beta is also expendable. The rest of the pack has far more complex roles and services to the needs of the family. Does this play out in society? Alphas are usually also veterans, and who would deny tier 1 members not being alpha? Yet sex is not their priority yet it is a natural result of their life.

Then comes the little issue of we humans being social primates not canines . Both our brains and behaviors are more complicated than your family dog. Applying a hypothesis about wolf behavior to justify human behavior is a bit of a stretch.

However, in our cultural consciousness alpha=leader/alpha=bad ass is as ingrained in our psyche as the right to bear arms. It's not likely to let loose no matter how much KY jelly we smear on it. These days every Tom, Dick and Harry is swaggering around telling anybody who can't get away fast enough, "I'm an alpha.".

Still, we're kind of stuck with the term so let's run with it --knowing it's wrong. Being an alpha is a whole lot more than just ordering people around or intimidating people with the threat of violence (that's called being a bully). it's definitely more than just being able to beat people up. An alpha isn't immune to the things Red Pill abhors. To think such is hubris. An alpha has been there and he acts accordingly, even when he fucks shit up and he will. Life grows from pain. Our biology demands it. Our bodies whither if we sit watching TV but grow and strengthen when put under stress.

In the most simplest terms a man must improve, women must forget. There is no end here. When wrong admit it and move on from it. Take your lumps. Always ask yourself:

• where am I at?
• What am I doing?
• Where should I be?
  

You will be amazed at how often these things are not in sync. These fundamental questions your MAP should address. Every mistake in my life I ask these things.

Being an alpha has more to do with one's involvement in a group than it has to do with striking out on your own. So the lone wolf alpha? Forget it. The hyper aggressive mad-dog that turns on his own at the drop of a hat. Not going to be in charge for long. This we see in the MGTOW of today. If you study the State of Nature it is theorized that people look for society. They crave it and need it for protection. being an alpha is about the helping develop and maintaining a dynamic, hierarchy and the functionality of the group. One could say this strikes close to the real alpha plague we had where an Alpha is a leader but that is the end result not a skill to develop.

Caesar Milan coined the term Insecure Alpha, or that's where I heard it from. I recommend you watch his show.

Basically, Caesar's summation of an insecure alpha is a beta dog that is thrust into a leadership position. This dog lacks alpha attributes. Most of all it doesn't have the calm assurance of a true alpha. As such it is unstable and overly aggressive. An additional problem with this is other dogs in this situation also become unbalanced and aggressive. This is what I see in people often, especially men these days with the popularity of 30 Shades. Men who see the awesome porn they want but have no idea how to execute nor get it. I also see it in men who have nothing more than money. They throw themselves around. Make sure everyone knows who and what they are. I see it on the dojo floor, in the bars, on the street. Take a look around. They are everywhere.

They have these tricks they like to pull to show off being alpha. One I heard was a guy who would make a loud sound in order to startle everyone then he would strut around the room pointing out beta behavior as he saw it. Thing is noise sensitivity is just that. Sensitivity. It can be trained out of you but it is also perishable. A M109 howitzer suddenly going off next to my head never used to bother me, but years later a paper bag blown up and popped behind my ear can. There's also environment, expectations….I am not expecting a loud bang in my own home, but out on the gun line? Yeah I kind of am expecting it.

Now it doesn't take much imagination to take this out of the kennel and imagine the same dynamics occurring under a bad manager. A stressed out manager, gets the entire department upset and on edge. This is usually seen in a street confrontation, where fear of perceived loss of 'respect' will often motivate a beta (who is trying to convince everyone he is an alpha) to over react.

Face it you are not Alpha if you aren't leading somewhere in your life and delvering value to it. It is not just enough to be large and in charge. If you have access to 21 University Jack Donovan has a marvelous discussion about this. Lone wolves are rare among people. Humans are, by their very nature, social animals. Even still, some people don't want to be lead, primarily women. They don't. People aren't empty vessels to be filled, they have thoughts, and ideas, and dreams. these can and do get warped by social conditioning. Rollo talked about the Alpha Female. Problem is women do get it warped. With no guidance without proper male influence from the get go, there is no "Alpha Female" and it will be a fight uphill to get to that. Some get it once they met an alpha, some do not. For those that plan to teach their daughters consider the concept of Trophic Cascade. While it isn't ours to change the world and society, it will happen by our actions over time. The result. Not the goal.

To tangent: what we are building here are self-actualized males, with strong personalities. This requires understanding where something went off the rails and making sense of it. Sometimes this conditioning is so bad no one can see straight. Of course, over time anyone can be conditioned and reconditioned, but as a man who has achieved Alpha status you have to determine if someone is worth that level of commitment from you. While your goal is to establish and lead the group, you must also be willing to remove bad actors.

Just are as our nature to love is sacrificial it is also our will to work and give. Everything a man does is rooted in sacrifice. Therefore it stands to reason a man is much more capable of dropping his world and moving forward, but it also means it's harder (sunk cost mentality). Women whom are based in Opportunistic love, do not see it that way.

Understanding the idea of the State of Nature, as an Alpha you are providing cohesion and security over the group. Your involvement, leadership and dominance brings the group together. Taking care of it doesn't mean you are sacrificing yourself, and I find it amazing that I have to add this. I know someone will point this out as a weakness. Yet it is true. Think of it more as a garden.

The Alpha tends to the group, makes sure there are no weeds, culls the dead plants, ensures it's growing and developing. When it comes to people? Do they really deserve to benefit from your presence? You can and will come to point in all your relationships where you will wonder are you giving more than you are getting from this?

Be ready to sacrifice (ie removing people or yourself, leaving your past, moving forward) for what you want. The ultimate risk is becoming who you want to be.