First time texting on tinder need advice

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BuyerOfCoins · 2024-04-23T18:53:25+00:00

What is this way of talking? You’re overly trying to be cool because in your reddit post itself you don’t talk like this. Just be yourself. Texting is mostly for logistics and a bit of small talk but sometimes you also use it to get to know each other, yes these days girls are like that. Mutual interest for that is required. Pointers for you: Ask open questions, your texts are so damn closed. That ending line just killed the conversation and now you have to double text her to get it going again. Dont ask her what she’s doing on there, it’s obvious what she wants, she’s not gonna say out loud ‘I wanna fuck’. You basically asked her two times why she’s on there, bruh why? Meetup and get digits asap when you match. Tinder is a fast going app. One min she’s interested the other she found a new guy Work on these points first

vain-- · 2024-04-23T19:03:16+00:00

had a seizure trying to read this shit

gtaIIIstan · 2024-04-23T19:36:18+00:00

Missed a ripe opportunity for misinterpretation brother. Need to stop assuming the negative and start assuming the positive. Meaning is created not just by what she says but how you respond to it:

Her:I'm actually deleting it

Me: Haha you move quick... don't you think we should grab drinks before you go all in ; )

Etc. But the key is, in my interactions, I'm giving value rather than beating around the bush and having platonic small talk. You instead are taking value, not being a leader, and hoping she's the one who brings the conversational gold. And never ask "what u doing on tinder" it's irrelevant and women who barely know you aren't invested enough to seriously/honestly answer such a question. Instead, you (through your actions) need to show what YOU are about. And interest women will respond in turn.

sainiaakarshan · 2024-04-23T19:28:30+00:00

It sounds so desperate. Be cool and natural go with the flow and ask questions about her interests bro

Powerful-Ad9392 · 2024-04-23T20:23:46+00:00

Me: What u doing on tinder

Her: I don't even know tbh

Me: I know why you're here. Let's meet up.

That's how you do it.

Powerful-Ad9392 · 2024-04-23T20:21:36+00:00

You lost her when you asked for permission to ask her a question, and maybe even sooner than that. Nothing was actually said this whole conversation.

MystiMamba · 2024-04-23T19:28:30+00:00

Bro delete this shit

LAlynx · 2024-04-23T19:58:09+00:00

I'm going to try and phrase this positively, but try and talk more how you would with a real human being in real life, rather than using "text talk" with all the abbreviations and words trying to sound cool. In my opinion it is extremely awkward and off-putting for someone on the receiving end. Look at how much you typed... what was actually said? Basically nothing. Ask REAL questions, give meaningful answers than prompt a full conversation (focus on common interests etc.) Asking why they are on tinder multiple times isn't the way to pick up someone.

DaygameCode · 2024-04-23T19:50:56+00:00

You are really bad at picking up girls. No game whatsoever and zero personality. Everything you said feels like it came from a generic NPC dialogue.

Dumbass1171 · 2024-04-23T20:56:26+00:00

Bro after asking her about her day just briefly introduce yourselves beyond just the tinder profile and then get her contacts. Don’t ask someone why she’s on tinder. She might feel shamed to be on there then because you asked. You have to show interest in actually wanting to know her!

Art_of_Malice · 2024-04-23T21:02:43+00:00

You still have time to delete this 😭

Urfuckingtapped · 2024-04-23T21:48:34+00:00

The game of tinder is to get girls off tinder asap. That gets you into the pocket of guys who have her number vs guys who are just throwing the line into her dms. A message as simple as “Hey” will most often get you seen, and that’s it. Go off her bio based on what’s there, if shes got; “Looking to become a passenger princess😍” slide in with “Hi, I’d like to apply for a passenger princess pls” or perhaps something more witty if you can think abt it. Anything will get the ball rolling if it isn’t just a greeting. And always remember the most important thing is to steer the conversation toward securing the number. Good luck bro we all started there at one point

Free_Style_20 · 2024-04-24T00:38:38+00:00

I used to think my texting skills sucked. Until I read this post.

middletown-dreams · 2024-04-23T23:32:23+00:00

The best responses I have ever had is by opening with the following emoji:

🚩

gandalfdoughnut · 2024-04-23T20:13:46+00:00

brainrot

Videogamesarereel · 2024-04-23T21:16:20+00:00

Probably obvious, but you asked a negative question.

That will kill the conversation almost instantly if you don't have a good follow up.

Fuzzy-Bottle-4138 · 2024-04-23T22:36:03+00:00

No wonder so many guys say dating apps are hard

monkman99 · 2024-04-24T00:29:54+00:00

No offense but is English your first language?

Tellmesecretsmyguy · 2024-04-24T02:19:43+00:00

The key for me was always getting her off the tinder app ASAP. I’d tell her that I’m not on there a lot and get her number. Once I have her number and the ice is broken after a few daysI start to call/FaceTime her. It works wonders when she can see that you are the person you say you are, plus it’s easier to flirt/ be charming when yo can use tone of voice and facial expressions, unlike text. After this, it’s easy as hell to set up a date or hangout in person.

Jasperbeardly11 · 2024-04-24T02:45:36+00:00

This is horrible.

Talk more naturally. Be interesting. Get her talking about things she's interested in.

mwills267 · 2024-04-23T20:40:39+00:00

You sound like a Refugee

field512 · 2024-04-23T19:58:55+00:00

what is the point of this convo if you are not asking her out. the top % of men just use the phone for setting dates, not silly chitchat, because they don't have time for it. The line "Me:ayt honestly same" was a mistake imo because it shows you are not direct and intentional. I think she was probably just thinking that this guy is a dud

BravoPUA · 2024-04-23T22:27:32+00:00

Her:I'm actually deleting it

Me: that's extreme I'm just trying to talk= horrible

-Perfect timing then, because it doesnt get better than me!

mitcht3 · 2024-04-23T23:41:37+00:00

My advice is to delete the app

TRTGymBro1 · 2024-04-23T19:56:31+00:00

Oh god if I were that girl I'd kill myaelf after the 10th loser send me the exact same text.

JohntheAnabaptist · 2024-04-23T21:41:01+00:00

Practice

Ola_lax · 2024-04-24T01:05:35+00:00

“Hebana” Mzansi people 🤣

coldbrew18 · 2024-04-24T03:24:37+00:00

How did you expect her to respond?

perpetualomerta · 2024-04-24T05:25:28+00:00

too many texts that didn’t lead anywhere ..

you want to show her you pay attention first, get her talking, then work on logistics.

say something you notice in her photos .. something that isn’t obvious

get her to open up in a lighthearted way, make her chuckle, then get her to meet up

perpetualomerta · 2024-04-24T05:27:17+00:00

don’t say “hey pretty” .. don’t waste texts giving compliments

too many lames give compliments and gas women up.

separate yourself from the thirsty crowd of sausages in their inbox

perpetualomerta · 2024-04-24T05:31:07+00:00

also, use proper grammar. concise sentences.

perpetualomerta · 2024-04-24T05:33:49+00:00

just focus on the meet-up. you don’t even need her 📱 #

perpetualomerta · 2024-04-24T05:42:40+00:00

if you have no text game or no clue what to say ..

get her to facetime.

ask her in a mature, funny way if she is a bot.

Fuzzy-Bottle-4138 · 2024-04-23T19:52:47+00:00

Are you 12 years old?

ClitPlayaBootySlappa · 2024-04-23T20:20:44+00:00

after that 2nd text i would've just said "so when are we gonna fuck?" and then tell her to come over.

texting over and over is just a waste of time

Title	First time texting on tinder need advice
Author	Aggressive-Corgi-485
Upvotes	59
Comments	72
Date	April 23, 2024 6:38 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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