I've been a member of this subreddit for a very long time. I've taken a lot of advice from this subreddit, have had some successes and some failures, and am here to tell you what has and hasn't worked for me from experience. Let's just go ahead and get straight to the point.
Women are not a game.
Fuck whatever anyone says about seduction being a "game." It's not a game. You're trying to establish a connection with another human being. Considering that a game is a manipulative way to think and girls can see right through that bullshit. All the pickup lines, negging, establishing "kino." and breaking it all down into a science is pointless. It's basic human interaction, and you'll be able to make much larger connections if they happen naturally instead of thinking of it as a game you win or lose.
seduction probably isn't the place for you.
I'm not negging on this community, I just think a lot of people here are misplaced. People come here and take everyone's advice because they want to get laid as much as possible, or manipulate their crush into liking them back. That's not the right way to think about things. People can see straight through that shit.
Stay in your lane.
I'm not saying if you're ugly don't go for hot girls, I'm saying if you're a well spoken, intelligent guy who enjoys playing D&D from time to time, you might not have anything in common with the party girl at the club. And that's okay.
The friendzone doesn't exist.
The friendzone should be more like the "Ugh, not this guy again" zone. There are a few situations that can lead to the so called "friend zone." And that includes,
Putting a girl on a pedestal and having a "crush" on her. You tell her how you feel, and obviously she doesn't feel the same way, because she barely knows you. You think you know her because you spent the past 2 months thinking about what your future kids will look like, but unlike you, she's normal and doesn't do that shit.
You're actually friends with a girl. There's nothing wrong with that. Most, if not all relationships begin as friends. In the next step I go into more detail about this, but if you're compatible with a girl, that means she is also compatible with you, therefore you should be seeing signs of attraction from her, and you should be sending signs of attraction to her as well. If she's not your type, you're probably not hers. If she's your type, there's no guarantee that you're her type. I realized when I went from trying to bang chicks to trying to make friends, I had a lot more success with women that way. It's not a zone. You shouldn't use it to restrict yourself.
You should never ever have to confess your feelings to a girl.
Maybe if you're in middle school, but as adults, communication goes a lot deeper than conversation. If you like a girl, she should know, and if she likes you, you should know. Read up on body language for more insight on that topic. Have you ever asked someone how they managed to have sex with a girl, or something like that, and they say "I don't know, one thing just lead to another and it just happened."
As with any interaction with human beings, you make an action, gauge their reaction, and act accordingly to their reaction. If a girl is very receptive of you, slowly progress things with her until her receptiveness slows down. It's not a game, it's basic social skills.
Finally, be someone that you can be proud of.
Congratulations. You made it to the end, this is by far the most important tip. If you're not proud of who you are, why would anyone else like you? If you feel like a lazy sack of shit, stop being a lazy sack of shit. If you wish you had more friends, go make more friends. If you don't know how, learn how. If you think you can't, stop being a lazy sack of shit. Girls don't like lazy sacks of shit. If you think you're ugly, you might be, you might not be. What can you do to make yourself the least ugly as possible? Dress nicer, get a better haircut, shave, stand up straight, lose weight, smile. You've probably heard it all before, but it makes a difference, I promise.
If you think I'm talking out of my ass, try reading the book Models. It's pretty good.
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