Am I Undateable/Unf**kable?

revente · 2022-08-31T14:38:13+00:00

You've been making these threads for at least 3 years. Move your ass and start working on yourself.

excentrik-art · 2022-08-31T20:27:06+00:00

You want someone that will take your hand hand and walk you through it, telling you what to do. You dont want to take the responsibility. You like the feeling of people feeling sorry for you, while you whine. Yes, those traits are undateable and unf-able

cleetusneck · 2022-08-31T12:07:17+00:00

If you are overweight that is east to fix. All it takes is a little willpower and commitment. If you are not getting laid then you are currently unfuckable.
I don’t know you well enough to know why, but the first question is why would someone want to spend time with you? Decent job and house? Women are emotional beings

Initial-Laugh1442 · 2022-08-31T21:34:08+00:00

You know what the problem is ...

appolonysian · 2022-08-31T14:10:55+00:00

Don’t throw in the towel like that. Work on losing weight if you want, but don’t think that you need to in order to date. If you’re humorous, fun, and confident it doesn’t matter that much. One of the more “fuck boy” type dudes I knew in college was overweight and smelled like shit, yet he was funny, had a lot of friends and was confident so he did well.

But to that last question: you’re definitely going to have a better success rate irl, as much of your personality is not going to be able to shine through on dating apps. They’re innately shallow places for both sides of the aisle.

2022-09-01T02:57:29+00:00

Dude, start walking around the block.

I don’t want to sound mean or anything but how will you meet someone with confidence at the dog park when you will start running out of breath starting a sentence? 😕.

I just gained weight back that I lost over a year and I want to lose it back so I’m starting with only drinking water today. Instead of the usual juice or sodas I’ve been skipping past me with the popsicles as well 😂 Tomorrow morning I’m going to hit the gym. Light elliptical and light weights since I haven’t been in so long and my joints are hurting 😂 I’m turning 32.

DeanG30 · 2022-09-01T12:03:00+00:00

No man is undatable, dating is a skill set and an attitude that anyone can learn, for a few guys dating and meeting women is an easy and natural process this usually comes from a healthy upbringing, positive affirmations and references when growing up.

However, for many men, the ability to meet, attract and date women seems like an impossible task and other than some brief and limited success can evade them for a lifetime.

Believe me when I say being overweight plays absolutely no part in sparking attraction in women I have seen plenty of overweight guys attract and date and marry beautiful women and I am sure if you look around you will see evidence of this.

The fact that you have been on a PUA Bootcamp shows that this is an area of your life that you want to master, I would be keen to hear more about your story and if I feel I can offer any advice that will help your situation I will gladly do so, please feel free to DM me.

That-Salad3472 · 2022-09-01T22:41:13+00:00

Woman here (i don't know how i ended up on this subreddit), but if you really want to smash, i think the best option would be to reevaluate what you really are looking for when meeting and talking to women. Guys, we know when you approach us for sex or just because you think "oh ! a nice looking female (hate that term btw, we are scientifically animals but no need to be beasts) i am going to seduce her and get her into my bed thanks to what i learnt on r/seduction !" and nothing could be more off putting than this. Nothing.

You want to know what is really attractive (and how i fell for my boyfriend) ? Having someone being interested in you, as a person, not just as a mate. Someone who genuinely wants to get to know you, and be a part of your life. Because then you want to become a part of theirs too. If the connexion is right, then you might developp a strong bond, and you both feel valued, loved, cared for, and you enjoy your time. It may be love, it might be FWB, or something else !

And also, please, take everything the super duper alpha males will tell you with pinch of salt. Apparently there the greatest ever, but they can't even give you constructive criticism without insulting you -and we all know people who degrade others usually crave to feel better about themselves.

So, TLDR : take some time off, think about your approach to women, work on yourself first, and then open your eyes and allow yourself to have a genuine interest in someone (though I must say, it is not because you are interested in someone that they owe you anything !)

+ sorry if i made any typos, i'm not a native english speaker

EducationalMeeting95 · 2022-08-31T12:05:52+00:00

To be successful on dating apps you need to be in top 15-20% of men Looks wise.

I haven't got much success through dating apps as well I'd say 1 match / month but even that's not consistent.

However my friend who is in the above mentioned bracket got 110+ matches in 1 month of signing up on tinder.

Best advice I could give you is start working on yourself.

Body Mind Skills and Career. And keep approaching women on the side.

zapadz · 2022-08-31T14:47:47+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UnhWiq3E7eI

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=twTrrGiRXtY

Mediocre-Training-69 · 2022-08-31T19:45:54+00:00

Take a ballroom dance class. Always more women than men in those

Total_Obligation_371 · 2022-09-01T16:15:50+00:00

You are the reason why I don't feel sorry for anyone who doesn't have the dating life they want. You complain and whine and ask what's wrong with you and blah blah blah. And then you literally say "I'm overweight" (aka below average), have a decent job (meaning you make average money), a decent place to live (average), and have "interests and hobbies" (very vague but guaranteed they are not interesting to almost all women, so that's below average).

You have LITERALLY nothing going for you. Literally. You are not above average in one single thing in your life. Why the fuck would a woman want to be with a guy like that?

And the fact that you've been posting about this stuff forever just solidifies that it is 100% your fault, because you've known about it and haven't don't anything. And don't say you don't know what to do. Yes you do. You just don't want to put in the work.

I am 100% convinced you will never get the dating life you want for as long as you live. And I feel less than zero percent sorry for you because it's your own fault because you're lazy and whiny.

Jesus Christ some people.

kingpersnickety · 2022-08-31T22:00:21+00:00

I don’t like to whine but yeah sometimes shit sucks and I end up whining. Being delusionally optimistic isn’t something innate in me.

libert-y · 2022-08-31T16:49:06+00:00

Dear OP, with all due respect. Stop whining on the internet and get your fat ass in the gym at least 4 times per week. Build the discipline and woman will follow

desal · 2022-08-31T13:12:22+00:00

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desal · 2022-09-01T02:19:57+00:00

you say you acknowledge you're over weight but no where do you say "I'm counting calories and in the gym 2 to 3 times a week"

go to all the con artist boot camps you want, they won't turn fat into muscle

desal · 2022-09-01T02:22:31+00:00

but to answer your other question, yes you do need to talk to women if you want to sleep with them.

ice_jj · 2022-09-01T03:15:03+00:00

You got to lose the weight, otherwise you’ll never get the results you want.

I don’t like public places for pickup, I prefer bars and clubs or other social venues. Girls are too on guard at places like the grocery store. But not everyone likes bars, so maybe look into clubs or social gatherings.

Also word of advice, PUA doesn’t work for everyone. It’s easier to just be yourself, try to make a joke and just be cool. It’s not about what you say to a girl, it’s how you say it. Which stems from being confident in yourself, something that takes a lot of time and hard work.

Local_Blackberry_856 · 2022-09-01T04:16:47+00:00

We can't know that here, but there are threads of that here in reddish. Imiugly or sort.

ultra-sapien · 2022-09-01T04:58:50+00:00

Yes, you have to WORK at this if you want to reap the benefits. I’m starting out and am currently doing a 30 day challenge of talking to women everyday. The first 5 days I could barely look at a girl, now at day 28, I’m complimenting them and introducing myself. Slow progress is still progress, so yeah get out there.

UncommonSense89 · 2022-09-01T07:30:05+00:00

Hit the gym. Plain and simple. It makes everything 10x easier cos humans are visual creatures. People lied to you if they told you women don't like looks. By people I mean feminism. Trust me they're just as shallow, if not more than we are

ProbableCoconut385 · 2022-09-01T09:48:35+00:00

Uhm , well, how "overweight" , are you actually?

ZidaneLoire · 2022-09-01T10:52:34+00:00

Dude more than gymn, you need to visit a nutritionist ASAP and change your eating habits. What do you eat ?

Forget about dating, your general disregard for your body and health will make your 40s a living hell. Your 30s are already going to be shit. Break the cycle. Learn how to properly feed yourself healthy foods and get your ass into a gymn before your body starts taking away options from you. Your choices 10 years ago are your life now. Your choices now will be your life in 10 years.

Damn son.

tudor3325 · 2022-09-01T12:29:46+00:00

Get the fuck up and go to the gym, get a diet and some discipline and then maybe you will feel confident enough that women will want to go out when you ask them

Title	Am I Undateable/Unf**kable?
Author	kingpersnickety
Upvotes	16
Comments	72
Date	August 31, 2022 11:59 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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