I wish I took the blue pill

metallicirony · 2012-08-31T02:50:00+00:00

Damn if you do, damned if you don't...

If you took the blue pill - you would believe in fairy tales but you wouldn't be able to live it.

Now you took the red pill - you live the fairy tale, it just wasn't what you imagined it to be...

But I think the red pill has one nice side effect: You get to write your fairy tale. And that makes it a tad more powerful than the blue pill.

HelloHiHello · 2012-08-31T03:34:33+00:00

You don't wish you took the blue pill. You wish you could go into a reality where the "blue pill" is exactly how you think it is.

Life's better now. Make of it what you want. Don't you realize? You have that power.

Why wish your life could be anything other than what it is? If you want something different, simply reshape your life to match what you want. You've already done it once.

Why does anyone live a life they are unsatisfied with?

We have no trust. Trust in life. We feel like we are governed to specific paths, and if we move off these paths, we're met with failure. This is not the reality. This is what we've been told to keep us on the path we're currently on.

The reality? There are no paths, you are what you want. You are who you want to be. And there are no limits besides those you impose on your own mind.

Trust life. Why wish for something if you can have it? Fear. It's easy to wish. It's harmless.

But we can all get exactly what we want – and that's what we're afraid of. No one wants to take the jump off the cliff. We wish for what's at the bottom, but we are unwilling to jump off. Even though we know we've always gotten what we've wanted, when we're willing to put ourselves out there.

It's easy to forget that life is good. That out of all the possibilities, we ended up with this. We have control! It is incredible!

Could you imagine if we didn't, if someone else had power to control our destiny? Could you imagine?!

But that's not how it is. Somehow, someway, we're here by our own choices. There is nothing governing our lives but ourselves. That is a miracle.

destinys_parent · 2012-08-31T00:12:10+00:00

If happy ever after did exist

I would still be holding you like this

all those fairy tales are full of shit

one more fucking love song, I'll be sick.

2012-08-31T01:22:42+00:00

This post resonated with me a little. I've been thinking about this lately. Not to the extent that I wish I had taken the "blue pill". But it's been brought up plenty of times on seddit how Hollywood conditions people to believe in fairy tales, love at first sight, etc (which is complete BS in reality). I was also one of those people who believed that until about a year ago.

But I did come to the realization that I was actually much more unhappy when I had that mindset because what I believed wasn't based in reality. I took the red pill and overall I'm a lot happier now for a variety of reasons, one big reason being the self improvement from this community. There are definitely some shitty things about this "new" reality that I've experienced, don't get me wrong (won't go into that).

But I'll never go back. I'm happier than I've ever been. The whole idea of the blue pill reminds me of the phrase "ignorance is bliss", which I could never do simply because it reminds me too much of religion (no offense to anyone, just my opinion).

With all of that said, don't get the idea that all is lost. The new skills you've learned can help you be more picky about who you actually choose to date and you'll now have a chance at getting them. You'll just have to come to terms with the fact that life isn't like you thought it was, plain and simple.

Good luck to you :-)

obscure123456789 · 2012-08-31T10:10:32+00:00

You realize that if you hadn't gone forth, you would have been hung up on her forever, right?

Crabpeoples · 2012-08-31T00:54:01+00:00

right in the feels

weareyourfamily · 2012-08-30T23:58:00+00:00

Fuck...

captshady · 2012-08-31T12:47:37+00:00

The best thing about game and seduction as a young man, is options. Too many people marry "not the one", because they think they can't get any better, or that their options are limited, and wind up a few years down the road, miserable. Even the wife. Often they split up, and THEN live a happy life.

Game gives you options. When you realize that you can have a large choice of women, that YOU are a prize, you become more selective. When you can get laid all you want, eventually someone will come along that you just can't get enough of, that you might want to marry. THAT is the marriage that will last, provided you do a healthy mix of Alpha/Beta for life.

Perhaps your opinion of yourself changed, and you subconsciously realized, you're too good for this girl. You have options, so she's no longer ideal. Perhaps you'll find a girl that rings your bell better than this girl ever did, because you know there might be better fish in the sea.

dejai80 · 2012-08-31T04:43:30+00:00

I hear you.

The fairy tales came crashing down once I took her off the pedestal. The "games" and "lines" didn't really work for me. But what the various methods taught me was confidence. Suddenly I was working out, successful at my job and the girls that spurned me, desired me. Not for any real reason except superficial changes....were they shallow as us guys I wondered? Perhaps more?

I was once blind but now I see....

That the fairer sex is as shallow as us, as manipulative, as human. Once you begin to see them as people, and not as your savior, you realize that pedestal image that was force fed down our throat was false.

It is, in a sense, loss of innocence. Of course, I no longer get hurt, I have fun, I am more carefree. I no longer wait for phone calls. I am more confident, more in shape, more charming...

but finding out Santa doesn't exist, that the tooth fairy friendzoned you, can be a bummer. Oh how I yearn for the simpler times... =)

itsmevichet · 2012-08-31T03:20:01+00:00

Life means what you make it mean, brotha. Don't sweat the small stuff.

The truth is only discomforting when you make it that way. Women are still women, and I still love 'em, even if I do know what's going on under the hood.

Why so serious?

puapsyche · 2012-08-31T12:03:13+00:00

What I've discovered is, your problems don't go away when you learn from the community- you just start to get different problems, ones that start to involve more and more women. But you're the man you thought you could never be, and that should be damn well worth something-not even just for getting confidence to be social around women, but for life overall.

Jatacid · 2012-08-31T14:29:54+00:00

Once you game. You'll never be the same.

Interpret as you will.

centurijon · 2012-08-31T15:19:34+00:00

Life is about balance.

I wish I could look at people the same way and not have every little body language be analyzed and processed in my head

It's unfortunate that this is what you took away from 'seduction' and how it's affected you.

Personally I've used the community & techniques to gain confidence in myself, approach better, gain interest better, and stopped there.

Why? Well, once I had interest I was always a pretty strong closer, so I didn't feel that I needed a lot of help there. I also never had an interest in going home with a different girl every night ... it's a nice fantasy, but doesn't mesh well with my personality in reality. But, primarily, it's because I could not stand thinking of people in a way that reduces them to a series of data points.

For your own sake, I hope you manage to "detox" your red pill and start rewriting your fairy tales.

El_Chap · 2012-08-31T17:01:51+00:00

Dude. It might be the whiskey and cokes, but this seriously made me shed a tear. Damn.

HumanSockPuppet · 2012-08-31T21:37:12+00:00

The magic pill is realizing that there is no magic pill. There is only hard work.

And this is the case for all things in life that are worth doing.

2012-08-31T22:43:54+00:00

Anyone else think this was gonna be about erectile dysfunction?

forgetitok · 2012-08-31T02:39:54+00:00

Dude, based on the title I thought you were going to tell a story to promote the use of viagra. Then I awww'ed while reading this and felt sadly better.

2012-08-31T06:18:28+00:00

All of this is metaphorical speech, it makes no sense to me. I used to have a girl of my dreams as well, she is no longer the girl of my dreams. I move on and know that there are others. I can't grasp this concept.

zfolwick · 2012-08-31T13:02:19+00:00

I know that feel bro

realtalkdude · 2012-08-31T15:34:36+00:00

Blame Disney. The idea of a fairy tale romance as being a normal aspiration and expected for everyone is a fairly recent invention. Through most of human history, marriage served one purpose: to bind the property owned by two families. The reason why in Western tradition there is a "best man" and "bridesmaid" is because a marriage contract required two adult witnesses, and traditionally this would entail one man who was friends with the husband's father, and one man who was friends with the bride's father. In Eastern cultures, there is a clear dilineation between the "arranged marriage" and the "love marriage," with the arranged marriage being the norm and the love marriage rare.

The way I see it, seduction game is not a recent invention, but merely a publicization of what most people knew innately throughout history: sexuality is powerful, but must be controlled and put to productive use. Meaning, women could tend to housekeeping and childrearing and in return receive safety and stability, while men must provide financially for their families, and in return receive lifelong companionship and respect from his community. The old rules no longer apply in modern America, and increasingly the world. Ignorance is bliss, but unfortunately for you and the rest of society, knowledge of the true nature of human behavior is seeping to the surface everywhere. I predict great changes in society as we grapple with returning to traditional values, where love is valued, as the modern experiment with free love, and its natural consequence, game, fails to fulfill basic human desires.

2012-08-31T18:16:34+00:00

I agree with that people are saying. If you took the blue pill you would be just as misserable. You have a long way to go, dont give up now. Its like macbeth who after he committed his crimes he could not return to the way things are.

I think that deep down you lost faith that there is another woman. Fuck that woman who you pine after, get out there and find another. There are billions of people in this world, even if strictly speaking you are unique there lots of people who are shockingly similar. Stop moping in your misery and find your dream girl. Crying gets you nowhere.

fl0l · 2012-08-31T09:19:04+00:00

I don't have the wittiness others people have. Hell, I may not have the writting skills or the experience to speak well about this.

But I do believe a thing. I do believe, you can still have this blue pill. It's all a matter of point of view.

I never used anything in this subreddit to pickup girls or anything. It's not a game, there is no tricks, I don't pretend to.

I just pick up myself.

Damn other people.

Life is being so happy that your hapiness glow and pass to all the people you care about. Life is having enough of what you like to be able to give it to the people you care.

I still believe in fary tale. Fuck it, i'm aswome, why would'nt i be the charming prince of someone ? Life is hard tho. That why I need to be awsome.

You need to realise that you didn't change for someone else then you realised it wasn't worth it. You changed so you could be better. So you could face life way better than before. So you don't need the aproval of anyone and being awsome enough that you can live by all your principle.

This way, you can believe to your fary tale. You can believe whatever you want. Fuck them, you won.

ndewhurst · 2012-08-31T06:29:04+00:00

Boy, that got pretty emotional.

PUAbox · 2012-08-31T08:57:53+00:00

I feel the same way sometimes. I'm still beta deep down, despite trying to work on the inner game. Sometimes I wish I could just be myself and have it all work out. I think those younger guys who have their eyes opened by this early enough will have much better lives.

squarehouse · 2012-08-31T14:25:58+00:00

Not me...never once. The whole point of The Matrix was that, before he took the red pill, he knew something was wrong, he just didn't know what. Something was simply bugging him, deep down, about the way he thought the world was.

Before the red pill, I had that problem, and so did all of you. Now I get it. Attraction isn't a choice. Being attractive has nothing to do with being a good person. White knights are delusional betas.

Closure.

2012-08-31T04:29:47+00:00

I know exactly what you mean. I truly belief I'd be a better person had I never found this stuff 6 years ago. Considering It doesn't work for me, I'd have lost nothing :\

MrStarbuck · 2012-08-31T05:29:11+00:00

Man you need to lighten. The game is fiction. No wonder this chick didn't want you. You sound like a chick. There is not just one soulmate out there for you. There are six billion people on this planet. Chances are there are dozens out there that you could fall in love with and you only need one. So take a teaspoon full of harden the fuck up throw the game in the bin and go out and just meet women. It's a numbers game and it's completely random. There is no princess of your dreams. But in your adventures you will eventually meet someone. By the way there is no golden rule leave them better off than when they started. Cause there are no rules. There's just life. That's it. And we are here for tragically too short a time. So get out there and live.

Title	I wish I took the blue pill
Author	nihckered
Upvotes	120
Comments	38
Date	August 30, 2012 9:29 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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