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| 1 | Does/did the pill influence your behaviour?Did you have an initial breakout when taking ortho tri-cyclen? Because I just switched to it and my face is a mess. | /r/RedPillWives | 17/06/16 06:43 AM |
| 1 | Does/did the pill influence your behaviour?I've been on alesse (periods were too long, had chronic yeast infections), ortho tri cyclen lo (same problems, plus more acne), and now doctor put me on ortho tri cyclen as of two weeks ago. I am on week two and my face is breaking out like hell. Cystic acne everywhere. I want to cry, it hasn't been this bad since I was probably 14. The only advantage I have now is that I can treat the cysts fairly fast and reduce their size. But my skin is still a wreck and I don't feel like going anywhere with… | /r/RedPillWives | 17/06/16 06:41 AM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 06/13/2016I've thought about taking the hit, trust me, but I'd max out my credit card and go into the negatives. The idea of having little to no savings really freaks me out. I have a mortgage and all that. I am trying to sell my car, but it isnt happening quickly. If i had the car money, I'd be able to make it work by bringing my freelance with me. He wanted to do europe for two months. It would be amazing. I'd be all in, if i had the dough. We couldnt go for a shorter length of time because the flights … | /r/RedPillWives | 14/06/16 04:42 AM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 06/13/2016I haven't tried bullet journaling. I'll check it out tonight. Thanks. You're right, my attitude is off. I am a bit sour at myself lately. There are a lot of factors involved. he wanted me to come travel with him and do europe over the summer, but even if he pays for tickets i cant go unless i wipe out my savings and go into debt. So i think that i am annoyed that i dont have enough financial freedom because i chose a pretty hard industry lol. But you're right. A negative attitude doesn't accompl… | /r/RedPillWives | 14/06/16 02:10 AM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 06/13/2016Yeah i guess so. But if i dont do routine (morning workout then freelance) it's really hard to get freelance done efficiently. My brain sort of needs that regularity? Hard to explain. Ive been considering applying to companies instead just because of this. I know i need some self care and chill time. Cant really afford much tho, manicures are out of the question. Friends irritated me so i dont feel like doing any girl dates. Guess i should meditate or something, or go hiking. Honestly my morning… | /r/RedPillWives | 14/06/16 01:39 AM |
| 2 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 06/13/2016Edit: I'm removing my original reflection because it was really self-depricating. While it definitely helped getting it off my chest and typing it out, I don't think it accomplishes anything positive by floating around on the internet. I don't want to spread bad vibes. This week will be better and I'll just keep working towards my goals. | /r/RedPillWives | 13/06/16 10:44 PM |
| 2 | June 2016 EventsExcept I totally failed the last few weeks, LOL! Sorry, life got so busy. I didn't realize I was being relied on for those threads. I'll get back on track with them this week. | /r/RedPillWives | 10/06/16 06:35 PM |
| 3 | Age gap and sex talk, red flags? (x-post from redpillwomen)We haven't gone on any actual proper dates, I'm not sure why because this began based on a sexual kink, right? So you're right to be worried, sex is the dominant factor here. No doubt about it. But, anyway, let's get to a solution for you... He's expressed an interest in getting more serious with me, but his actions make me feel differently. Actions over words. Always. Look, you need some backbone on your part of this. This is why RPW say "no sex before relationship". You're following that so fa… | /r/RedPillWives | 10/06/16 05:20 PM |
| 2 | Put aside my personal desires-- allowed my boyfriend to move in so I can help support him. Friends judging.But the problem I see is that your vision is clouded because of all the different voices around you Yes, I think that was mostly the issue. Thank you for your encouragement. I appreciate it. I agree that it's good to know what it's like to live together first. You sound very high value and their jealousness is kicking them in their sides. I dont' think this is so much the case--from a purely superficial standpoint, I am "lower value" because I am unmarried, where-as a lot of the girls in that re… | /r/RedPillWives | 09/06/16 06:23 PM |
| 2 | Put aside my personal desires-- allowed my boyfriend to move in so I can help support him. Friends judging.DH threw out brown bananas I was going to us to make banana bread yesterday and I cried (I didn't tell him that) but food is super emotional for me and it's hilarious. LOL...it's okay my cat made me cry when I was pmsing once... because she puked all over sheets I just cleaned..... At least later on it just makes for a funny story, hahaha. Congrats on your pregnancy, by the way!! | /r/RedPillWives | 08/06/16 09:49 PM |
| 2 | Put aside my personal desires-- allowed my boyfriend to move in so I can help support him. Friends judging.I think it's partly the new birth control, but your response made me get teary-eyed LOL. Thank you a million, I really took what you said to heart. I think I also need to watch what I tell my friends. After what PhantomDream posted, I realize I could've just kept this to myself and my partner. It isn't their business. I'll definitely practice patience and keeping a lid on that inner micro-managing twat that lives within me! And sorry, this was nothing against Christians (I hope the post doesn't … | /r/RedPillWives | 08/06/16 09:19 PM |
| 2 | Put aside my personal desires-- allowed my boyfriend to move in so I can help support him. Friends judging.Ah, you're lovely. Thank you, I miss posting them (go ahead and post your own if you don't see me doing it, you were doing awesome with them too). Unfortunately they turn into me being on reddit for 2-3 hours on Sunday, so with all my work and this happening, I just tried to stay clear of reddit for a bit. I think it is always a bad idea to move in together before marriage as a means to save the relationship or if it is because it is just easy to do. You should want to live together. Yeah it's d… | /r/RedPillWives | 08/06/16 09:02 PM |
| 2 | Put aside my personal desires-- allowed my boyfriend to move in so I can help support him. Friends judging.However, you also seem to have some reservations about this happening, so why did you offer that space to him in the first place? Good question. There were a few events that triggered it--seeing your partner stressed out generally makes you put aside your feelings. I also had plenty of time to think about it---probably the last six months, since he brought up living together a long time ago. I realized I'd rather support him than stick to my original "i need to be married first" game plan. There… | /r/RedPillWives | 08/06/16 08:36 PM |
| 2 | A Comprehensive Guide To Vetting MenI agree. I think it is a wonderful guide, and I should not be using personal anecdotes. If a woman is happy to have this type of man, then that is absolutely her business. However, such traits are fairly unattractive to a large number of women, so I believe it is worth pointing out regardless. I never said that class should be ignored completely--I only meant that women should exert caution when using this as a limiting factor. I apologize if that wasn't clear. | /r/RedPillWives | 01/05/16 07:15 PM |
| 4 | Sunhappy's Friend Series: Ruining the Magic of your Own ProposalThis is a really common attitude. It's shocking. I would struggle keeping the friendship, but good for you. I would be happy with a sour-key ring. A paper ring. I would be happy with no ring. I would just be happy, and overcome with emotion. The fact that women focus on this superficial junk takes away any of the meaningful impact of the action itself. A good man is committing his life to you. Everything else is just noise. | /r/RedPillWives | 01/05/16 08:13 AM |
| 3 | A Comprehensive Guide To Vetting MenFantastic article. If only this was given to all women in their teens!! One small note though: Socioeconomic Status - It makes the most sense to focus on men of the same or neighboring class. He’ll have similar values, expectations, behaviour, and more. I am from a wealthy family. It made me more dependent and cushy until I moved out against my mom's will lol. Anyway, the men from similar families in my neighbourhood are generally godawful. Parents throw money at them and they don't know how to … | /r/RedPillWives | 01/05/16 07:22 AM |
| 1 | George Sand: feminist selfishness in the 19th centuryI just always felt like "what if...." or "maybe there is just something... better". I could never fully appreciate the people I was with because they had faults. Same...my teenage years were very...sandy. I'm actually learning the piano myself so this is so great to read. That's awesome! :) If you ever need piano pointers or advice just pm me, would be more than willing to help out! | /r/RedPillWives | 28/04/16 06:37 PM |
| 3 | An invitation to older women to get your feet wet.I am grateful to be here because I lack regular female companionship in my life. This. I have some female friends but the majority of women are NOTHING like the women around here. I am very grateful for this sub. I also have to point out that the younger women around here (including myself) are VERY grateful for the presence of women who have been married or in LTRs for a long time. We have so much to learn from you. I'm so happy you're here with us :) Thank you! | /r/RedPillWives | 25/04/16 03:48 AM |
| 3 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 04/24/20161. How have you brought value to your relationship in the last week? How do you plan on doing it this week? Uh…shoot. I think I could have done a better job with this. Oh, I tried to spoil him on his birthday in a few ways and went out with him a lot (I’m a complete introvert so this is pretty rare for me LOL. He’s much more extroverted.) I tried to bake for him and did my best to not be annoying. Unfortunately that failed a bit. This week I want to have a zero-annoyance streak. No whineyness, n… | /r/RedPillWives | 25/04/16 03:25 AM |
| 3 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 04/03/2016"Put you're shoes on! We're going exploring. I'll be waiting outside for you." And quick like a bunny I slipped on my shoes and grabbed my purse and had a fun night exploring the town with my SO. It was lovely, complete with a moonlit kiss in the middle of a field. <3 So cute. You two sound lovely. Try not to feel bad when he has to leave. Space is good. I am sure you'll get to this point :) | /r/RedPillWives | 04/04/16 07:16 PM |
| 3 | New independent RPW sub -- RedpillwivesBut then the red pill guys went and removed the post on RPW, completely obviating my position. Yeess, talk with them, because there was an announcement. But someone was too childish, took it personally, and took it down. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/16 05:33 PM |
| 11 | The Direction of RPW.My point was that an on-topic discussion from a red pill perspective should not warrant a ban. That's all. And my point is that such a discussion does not contribute any value to rpw. It would just cause a hamsterfest and question the validity of pursuing marriage from a female perspective. So, we will agree to disagree. There is a lot more to his ban and all of this, given his earlier comments. it's all very two-faced and ridiculous. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/16 04:47 PM |
| 11 | The Direction of RPW.RPW already know that the landscape is changing. That doesn't change the core sexual strategy for women (be nice, look good, don't sleep around, self-improvement). I still have no idea how this changes rpw core tenets and how it is relevant to that. And you never explained how it actually influences this subject, except that "omg whisper was banned" | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/16 04:41 PM |
| 11 | The Direction of RPW.Don't get me wrong, pro-marriage is on topic and a good goal. But in a culture where men are increasingly avoiding marriage, the question should be able to be asked, what does the future hold for women? Uh...wow this is just ridiculous. I won't be hanging around. Thanks. Of course it was a pro-marriage discussion, that's what rpw want. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/16 04:35 PM |
| 5 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 04/03/2016okay. hm. trying the format for something different. 1. something good you did for your partner/friend/or family this week: i tried being supportive and upbeat while he was away, because i’m genuinely happy he gets a break from school and work. sometimes it was hard, i wanted to whine so badly about my workload and i just missed him so much. i kept that to a minimum. TLDR i tried to not be annoying. i also cooked dinner for him and his mom when they came back, and picked them up from the airport… | /r/RedPillWives | 04/04/16 05:49 AM |
| 8 | Real housewives of Gen Y: Rise of the millennial homemakeri like how the women try to justify their decision to be a SAHM as "feminist", even though the stigma of being SAHM comes from feminism to begin with. lol | /r/RedPillWives | 04/04/16 05:16 AM |
| 11 | Important Notification...and let rpw become a cesspool of men saying "look, high value men don't want marriage" and a bunch of other trp truths that rpw are already aware of? just because it's the truth it doesn't mean it's relevant to the conversation or goals of a sub. might as well post about the earth being round, too. the other issue is that a lot of TRP men are going through the anger-phase, have become misogynist, plate-spinners, whatever. that is totally fine. but it absolutely does not belong in the RPW subr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/16 12:44 AM |
| 6 | Important Notificationhow is that discussion relevant to rpw? how does it add any value to core rpw tenets? this has absolutely nothing to do with becoming a good woman and being the best partner that you can be, so it is quite justified that it was removed. the RPW mods are very good at keeping rpw-related content in the sub. if women want to read about these sorts of things, they can go onto TRP or askTRP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/16 12:35 AM |
| 7 | Important Notificationit's quite interesting that you haven't brought up those "inconvenient" truths that they apparently do not wish to face. As far as I am concerned, the rpw mods are completely in line with core rp tenets. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/16 12:27 AM |
| 2 | OFFICIAL: TRP Endorsed RPW FashionLOL | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/16 09:33 PM |
| 3 | Welcome to RPW! Please Read Before PostingThanks ladies. We appreciate all your hard work (it's also nice seeing some of the old posts!) | /r/RedPillWives | 03/04/16 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Concern about SO drinkingYour concern could be telling you something. It is your choice if you want to live with this.I am not an expert on diagnosing alcoholism, but after rereading your post he does sound rather dependent on it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/16 06:39 AM |
| 2 | Concern about SO drinkingHe isn't dependent on it. He's had droughts of no drinking. He doesn't need it to live, it's social for him, or for relaxation. Dependency is weakness and leads to alcoholism. If he had to have a bottle of wine every night or hard liquor that would obviously be an issue. It would impact the quality of our relationship greatly. So i would say dependency is the best measurement. If your husband needs it just to get through the day and it is impacting the quality of your relationship, then you have… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/16 06:30 AM |
| 7 | Have hubs in room during birth?Beautiful. Thanks for sharing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/16 06:24 AM |
| 4 | Concern about SO drinkingMen tend to drink way more than women and hold it better. So i think it can be shocking. My partner is similar (Russian lol). Can drink lots and not even seem drunk. He's never been cruel. It's his choice and his health. Is this affecting you in any negative way, besides you hamstering about the future? I know it can be worrying but you dont have any right to mommy him out of drinking. He made his choice. You can make yours (if it's a dealbreaker or not). | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/16 03:12 PM |
| 2 | Pregnancy?Congratulations! Two of my not-so-close anymore friends just had/are having babies. I just finished organizing a baby shower which was expensive, overdone, entitled, full of man-hating, and only focused on praising the woman. Stay far away from that BS. I think it's probably tempting to make friends with other pregnant girls but chances are is that they will be toxic and overdramatic. One of my friends kept really in shape though. She kept exerciding pretty much all through her pregnancy and she… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/16 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 27/03/2015Just want to say...i feel you!!! Hope your week is going better! Good luck on your thesis (i have a crazy project deadline too and i pulled an allnighter. So gooned. Really craving bad foods ugh) | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/16 03:01 AM |
| 1 | My so is on a holidayFour months! Whoaa. Keep strong. ..i know it's hard! When he was in India he'd send me pictures of his adventures. Might be nice to do the same from you? (A meal you cooked,a nice sunset, your exercise class or something). It helps you feel connected both ways | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/16 02:56 AM |
| 2 | Is dumping a cheating husband about seeking validation while staying with him is about admitting you were a bad partner?It breaks the agreement. Women are the gatekeepers to sex, men are gatekeepers to commitment. That's why cheating feels so awful. It goes beyond the spectrum of "am i not good enough?", it also shows your partner doesn't have self control and doesn't value loyalty. That quickly demotes a man from being your rock to being someone you don't want to rely on. Also every day would be a constant reminder. What woman (or man) wants that for the rest of their lives? Do you mind me asking what culture yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/16 02:45 AM |
| 7 | My so is on a holidayMine is away with his mom right now. He was in India for a month before. But we went to Maui together for a month before that. He planned to take this year to travel before he met me. I am really grateful that he's decided to only take it a bit at a time! Whenever you feel upset, just remember there are ladies on here who have husbands away for much, much longer. Keep yourself super busy if you have a tendency to be negative or anxious. Don't let the hamster control you. Good rules of thumb: don… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/16 03:47 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend's female friendsIt's normal for a higher value dude to have orbiting female friends (or a thirsty beta lol) from before but not like this. He doesn't have guy friends at all? Yes big red flag in this scenario, imo. Why is he confiding in them like this? He has you lol. This doesnt sound like commitment. girls will throw themselves even harder at him now that he's taken. It's female nature. He's probably enjoying that attention. my partner has some female friends but he doesn't hang out with them alone. And they… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/16 02:13 PM |
| 1 | Friendships with non-red pill womenbut I'm having difficulty managing their strong personalities, negativity, self-absorption, man-hating mindsets. Not to mention, they're all overweight/obese while I'm quite careful to keep my figure. the people who are closest to us influence who we are. do you want to be influenced by these types of people? what value are these women contributing to your life? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/16 07:34 AM |
| 2 | How to navigate social settings with SO?when I first met my partner i had this happen to me at his birthday. i actually felt like you, then realized it was selfish to think he'd just cling to me the whole night when there were like 30+ people there. so i had fun meeting his friends, which i think he wanted me to do anyway--it was a good icebreaker and i approve of his closest friends for sure :) they're great, which is reflective of his awesomeness. they also spoke very highly of my partner and that really made me happy considering it… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/16 07:03 AM |
| 2 | Where to make high-quality, RPW-minded girl friendsi'm not religious, but my closest girlfriends are christian, girly, outdoor enthusiasts with good tact. they still have feminazi indoctrination and spout meaningless "i admire independent woman!!" crap every few months, but they are more RPW than they'll ever know hahahaha (don't sleep around, married, have good self-control, respect their partners compared to the average woman, are actually quite co-dependent, dress femininely, etc). the fitness-centered girls are actually NOT that great...i ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/16 06:51 AM |
| 1 | What do you ladies do for fitness? What are your opinions on weight lifting and pole fitness?Also, I'm kind of worried I might not attract the right kind of guy? Are girls who lift weights attractive to guys? Or is it offputting? to be honest, a lot of the feminazis at my gym go crazy with arms and upper body and try to compete with the guys. they look really butch IMO. they do not get positive attention. so be careful of that i guess. err putting on arm muscle takes time, of course, and you need to do some to maintain strength and use the barbell haha. "toned" arms look great. squat/de… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/16 06:12 AM |
| 1 | My bf has stopped inviting me out with his friends/to parties as much and I'm hoping it's just normal settling in to relationship stuff?i'm curious how old you both are. this sounds like a young relationship and a bit immature? you've also started this relationship on a rocky surface (per your comment below, you admitted that you met this guy while you were in a relationship with another man...branch-swinging is never a good surface to start out on. plus you sound super insecure with your comment in the second to last paragraph.) to put things in perspective, my man does stuff without me with his friends, and i do stuff without … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/16 06:00 AM |
| 2 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 27/03/2015gah I didn’t do my self-reflection last week. no real excuses, yes I’m busy but I think I could’ve taken at least five minutes. maybe my week would have gone smoother. :p here’s a quick one before bed. current issues: poor diet (over my calories a lot, craving carbs) overworking (a few late nights) lack of sleep some days = craving junk, sluggish, grumpy put up a bit of a fuss when my boyfriend announced he’s going away for another three weeks on a fishing trip. i mean, i said “that’s going to b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/16 05:47 AM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 03/14/2016I've noticed, though, that if I use the momentum (cooking, cleaning afterwards, chatting, working out, etc. etc.) I can remain active longer I notice this too! it's so strange. I want to be a better listener. Especially when I have a lot on my mind, I tend to focus inward Yes, yes, yes...same here. I really related to your post this week haha. Hope it's going well. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/16 03:51 AM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 03/14/2016I'm starting to really grasp that I - and only I - have the sole responsibility for my own happiness and that I have to prioritise my self care every day and cannot depend on SO for my happiness and good mood this is so, so important! keep it up. :) I'm having trouble accepting/not getting annoyed by some of my SO's acquired alpha behaviour. What behaviours are these? Workout continues to be once a week, my goal is three times pr week. you can do it!! Come onn girll...no excuses, load up those t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/16 03:49 AM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 03/14/2016My condolences for your grandmother. I notice most men don't love physical contact when they're stressed or mad. as women, we just want to be embraced and loved. men want to sort it out themselves and not feel coddled, i think? It's like... a stubbornness to resolve one's issues without asspats from loved ones to hold you together | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/16 03:46 AM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 03/14/2016I feel bad cutting her out of my life because it almost feels like I'm being selfish. it is selfish. but a good kind of selfish. if she is the type of person who is constantly aggravating you and bringing you down, she isn't adding any value to your life. IMO friendships should add value. (vice versa of course) We both spent a lot of time bitching and whining about how men suck you definitely don't want this type of influence in your life. It's actually really hard finding female friends who are… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/16 03:43 AM |
| 3 | So You're Now a Military Wife...You have to get comfortable with ambiguity. This was the biggest change in my personality in the last 10 years. I have grown to be someone who is okay with not knowing the future--or even the near future. Nothing is certain. i always love your posts and feel very fortunate that I get to read them. i needed to read this today (my partner isn't in the military, but this is very applicable to non-military relationships too). i think, as women, we are engrained (whether it be biological or social or… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/16 03:30 AM |
| 5 | Plan BA really old male acquaintance wanted to catch up a while ago. I told my partner and asked for permission and he said it was fine (he knows him too). This acquaintance is work-related and has a girlfriend. Anyway, even with permission and all of this, i still didnt go. It felt disrespectful, and i actually feel much happier that i didnt meet up. It felt good. i have only one important man in my life..why would i give my time to others? I feel like there is a lot of happiness in loyalty and commi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/16 05:08 AM |
| 3 | Intro & a little tip that helped meCongratulations. And welcome :) Writing those things down is an excellent idea. it also shows that you were genuinely listening to him, which is a very difficult skill to acquire. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/16 10:28 PM |
| 3 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 03/14/2016here’s some self-reflection over lunch break.. Good: taking vitamin stack daily and eating really well physical activity and gym 6 out of 7 days of the week no anxiety still, no caffeine studied and focused for longer periods, up to five or six hours my partner is coming back tomorrow from India. So, so so so so so excited. cooking dinner for him with his mom tonight and I’ll pick him up tomorrow afternoon. :) I had a camping/hiking trip on the weekend with my girl friends and was really well pr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/16 10:24 PM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 03/07/2016Your strong desire to change his mind (though you didn't which is great) was there. I can't determine if you were testing him, but your internal reaction made me think that way. I am not saying you did badly, it's just something to think about | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/16 03:19 PM |
| 3 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 03/07/2016That date is too soon. This week? your ex had the right to see other ppl when he was your ex didn't he? Were you two officially back together in iceland? The last statement troubles me and i don't think you're ready to move on at all | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/16 03:15 PM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 03/07/2016good luck. If your dog was stable I think he made the right call, you don't want to skip work if it isn't an emergency for your pet. yess, definitely update. and good for you for not putting up a fuss! the only thing that bugs me is you specifically asked him to choose... and he chose. Internally, you didn't like his decision. That means you already knew what choice you wanted. Were you trying to test him to see if he'd take the day off? Just be careful with that stuff, i know it's hard. it migh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/16 10:06 AM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 03/07/2016Too many quest bars seem to have stalled my weight loss this week, despite exercising and correct macros. are you weight-training too? You could be just gaining muscle mass, which is way more dense than fat (meaning the number on the scale won't move or might even go up) i love quest bars...had to wean myself off of them though temporarily because I find them addicting hahaha | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/16 10:00 AM |
| 1 | New low for me, I got mad over a pizza... please help me see this in a RPW lightWomen (and people in general) always see it from their POV and not the other person's. there's a term for this...(not thinking of solipsism but I guess that's good enough) the fact that you're aware of this in yourself is great, and you will see excellent improvements as long as you keep putting yourself in his shoes and realize that he loves and cares for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/16 04:42 AM |
| 2 | Is this goodbye to red pill?...please help.I haven't really found a way to make new friends. Gym, online communities, meetups, picking up the phone and calling old acquaintances and asking them over...there are numerous ways these days, more-so than ever before. Back in the day most of my friends were online. I've expressed my loneliness to my husband and he doesn't care. How did you approach this? what exactly did he say? Did he say he specifically doesn't care? Did you really marry a heartless tyrant or are you blowing this out of prop… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/16 04:13 AM |
| 0 | Is this goodbye to red pill?...please help.I think the post probably attracted a lot of lurking bpers and they gang upvoted her. Regulars know it's team woman talking | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/16 04:17 PM |
| 5 | Is this goodbye to red pill?...please help."Having friends or a job isn't an option because I have 9 kids and can go anywhere really. He wants more kids too so no end in sight. How do you accept it and let go of all ridiculous hope?" you chose this life. No one forced you to have nine children. And you can have friends...what kind of whiney bs is that? I know a lady who has seven kids and is a ridiculous socialite. Other women just come over to see her and they do their gossip and whatnot. Even my mom has a full house and she manages to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/16 04:06 PM |
| 5 | Is this goodbye to red pill?...please help.Relying on her partner to fix the issue wont help if there's a deeper cause. If he really isn't listening to her or caring about how she feels, ever, then that is a problem she should bring up with him without being accusatory I find it hard to believe that he's suddenly become a dickhead just because she has developed a more pleasant personality now, and easier to buy that she's realizing her issues are still there. She can also say "i feel that you aren't listening and it hurts" if he's really… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/16 01:05 PM |
| 14 | Is this goodbye to red pill?...please help.You have started to stfu more and use him as an emotional tampon less. As a result, you realize that you have deeper issues (abandonment). Only you can fix that. He isn't causing it; you need to address the source and work out the internal knots. whether that's therapy, self-help books, support groups...I am not sure. But you need to do something or you will grow resentful And i am sure he would be supportive of you in the process, as long as you stop thinking that he's the problem. And let go o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/16 06:53 AM |
| 3 | Should you give up on a good relationship if you don't feel you truly love your partner?If you can't face your flaws, then no one can help you get over this. You have zero respect for this man but you constantly try to justify your poor choices. If you want to actually improve your life, learn humility and don't take advantage of others. Learn to be grateful. Stop feeling entitled to a man when you don't even love him | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/16 06:33 AM |
| 7 | Should you give up on a good relationship if you don't feel you truly love your partner?Your whole post: "Wah wah wah, I need, I want, I feel---" if you've really been lurking you'll know that the women around here won't put up with this bs. You're hitting the wall, you're alpha-widowed, and you seriously lack any morsel of humility You don't know what love is, that's why you don't have it | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/16 02:11 AM |
| 2 | Go figure... traditional roles leads to less divorce.You aren't resentful, but you're RPW. the women in this sub are a very, very small minority. Don't take what she said personally. u/PinkFloweryBranches is talking about the majority of women who become resentful and naggy, even if their husbands are helpful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/16 02:05 AM |
| 4 | Dedication vs Constraint CommitmentI needed to read this. Thanks. The "normal thing to do" these days (cohabitating) can be more detrimental than people realize. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/16 01:48 AM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 02/28/2016You should also thank him sincerely for being patient. Most men don't want to deal with this or don't have the patience to. Just keep catching yourself. He's used to you shit-testing him so it will take time for him to realize the change is genuine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/16 07:02 PM |
| 3 | Advice needed. Feeling unloved and not sure if it's hamster or I should move on.You are a plate, sorry. Listen to phantom's comment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/16 06:07 PM |
| 2 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 02/28/2016PS: anxiety is a common withdrawal symptom of quitting pot. Maybe this is contributing? Might be good to keep in mind so you know that your fears are irrational. When i quit caffeine i became horrendously anxious too. But i knew it was the caffeine withdrawal so i managed to get thru it and not start drama lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/16 05:15 PM |
| 1 | Use sunscreen to help delay the wall.And don't forget to reapply sunscreen too! | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/16 05:04 PM |
| 2 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 02/28/2016Trust me, i know what you are talking about. Instead of being frustrated,work on getting the energy elsewhere. Can you pick up some exercise classes or get on some hikes with a group of friends? Diversions are best and once you get outside and moving you'll wonder why you were worrying. Reading,listening to a podcast, or just watching makeup videos on youtube (i binge on lisa elridge when i am pmsing lol) can help distract. I think going outside is better tho. Focus on breaking the loop...you ca… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/16 04:58 PM |
| 1 | Unsure about choices regarding college/career - Advice neededGlad it helped. Yes you need to fix the depression ASAP. Being happy and healthy is really important. Every feminazi will tell you that you need a high paying career to show the men we are capable, but the truth is that you don't. You just need enough to live healthily. (And men don't care about your degree as long as you're attractive and happy lol) Keep in mind that life isn't always brighter on the other side though. If your depression is deeper than a lifestyle problem, then that should be f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/16 04:31 AM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 02/28/2016You have relationship anxiety and insecurity. You are overanalyzing everything he does. Soon he will feel like he is walking on ice with you, if he doesn't already. You need to quit this, now. When you feel your hamster spin, go do something else right away. Most men need their distance and their space. Yes, you need to respect that. You will come across as needy. It makes perfect sense. Most women do this and justify it and use it as a way to nag and control a man. Work on your insecurity inste… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/16 03:50 AM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 02/28/2016I want to be done with getting into arguments with my SO over my feelz. It is awful that I do this. It makes it as though it is in question whether he is a good man or not. We don't fight over practical decisions, just my feelz. I had an excuse to put him through this over and over last week because I am quitting smoking cigarettes too, but if I am completely honest I have always needed to STFU a whole lot more about my hamster feelz. What are these arguments? This irritates men to no end. I've … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/16 06:57 PM |
| 1 | Unsure about choices regarding college/career - Advice neededLook, first of all, if you're only feeling happy around your SO, there is a deeper problem. -> "...and increasingly do what makes me happy and helps me " Yes, this is the only solution. Look, if you hate your job, what use are you? Are you always going to be unhappy except when you're around your SO? That's unfair to him. Find what makes you HAPPY in life. I know you said you enjoy programming and electronics, but there are obviously portions of it that make you miserable. How about keeping it a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/16 06:48 PM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 02/28/2016Bad: I've kinda been slacking on my diet and exercise since I've been so busy doing things for the new job ( no excuse ) & SO is noticing :( There are ten minute workouts by Zuzka and Fitnessblender that you can add to your routine if you don't have time to go to the gym. I seriously recommend them, I've been doing them even though my workload is high. It's totally manageable. (or just make your own routine, like 5 sets of 10 burpees with 10 jump squats in between and donkey kicks. it's easy,doe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/16 09:27 PM |
| 2 | I tried to rpw my dying 4 year relationship (with children) and it failed. But I'm still here.I'm not sure either, sorry. It's a huge transition to go from 4 years of one set of relationship dynamics, to a whole new set of dynamics. Relationships are fragile and people don't forget the past too easily. Anyway, stay focused on yourself, you have the right idea. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/02/16 10:04 PM |
| 4 | I tried to rpw my dying 4 year relationship (with children) and it failed. But I'm still here.I'm not saying you can totally repair your marriage, but if you were a control freak or nag all of these years, then he is trained by that.. My mom would do the same thing...control every aspect of our lives then complain that my dad didn't do enough. When he did do stuff, he never did it right. So he essentially stopped trying at all and they got divorced. My mom also used the same tactics on my sister and i. No one wanted to do chores because she's the critical type. Didn't stack this right, d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/02/16 05:44 PM |
| 3 | Weekly Self Reflection Thread: 22/2/2016The Good: coping with my habibi (lol) being away. Missing him madly…three weeks to go! But I spent lots of time working and with friends. Planned my girl friend’s baby shower and went shopping for some hiking gear with my girlfriends. We are going to do an overnight winter hike in two weeks. Super stoked! So honestly, I'm happy with how I'm handling our separation. after reading about how some ladies around here have gone 6+ months separated from their partners...well, a month is nothing. :p exe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/16 07:15 AM |
| 1 | What role do you expect your Captain to play in your life?"But there is a fine line between that expectation and the idea that you're entitled to his time, which I think might be deterring people from commenting here." Yes, absolutely. a lot of feminists feel entitled to a man's time and don't even want him going out with other friends etc. That's just ridiculous (but I think we know that around here). Flaking constantly much different. i've seen a few unfortunate posts where the girl tries to justify his lack of commitment, and this is just a waste of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/16 09:44 PM |
| 4 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 02/15/2016Alright, I pulled an all nighter on sunday night due to a tight deadline, so I didn't get a chance to type up a post. These are important for me, I want to stay on top of my game. Self-reflection from Maui: The good: We had an amazing time. I feel like I adapted to 'farm girl life' pretty well. My partner even complimented me for adjusting to it. Lots of mud and spiders, but for 20h/w of gardening and picking fruits and veggie, we got free accommodation and a community kitchen. The people on the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/16 09:27 PM |
| 7 | Advice on social skills neededi agree with "get out of your head". i also have some troubles socializing and connecting but i've had a ton of practice this year. i met a girl in Maui who had a very sweet personality and made you feel very comfortable. i studied her for most of the night at our dinner, wondering why she seemed to appear so friendly and sociable. I realized she was simply 'in-tune' with everyone there. she was an excellent listener...she wasn't telling the crazy stories to entertain people and be the center of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/16 02:29 AM |
| 2 | Weekly self-reflections with RPW 08/02/16that must have been brutal to find out about the cheating. you'll find yourself much happier in the future than if you got stuck in that relationship, as i'm sure you already know. hang in there and keep it up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/16 02:19 AM |
| 12 | What role do you expect your Captain to play in your life?hmm, i feel this thread is walking on eggshells a little since we don't want to sound entitled--which is great, of course. However, we should be honest that there are some very important & basic expectations which make up a good man. after all, choosing a good man to begin with is the most important step in finding a life partner. RPW can't help you much if you keep going for the wrong fish. here's my opinion of basic and important expectations: ability to maintain frame (as u/coffeedynamics exp… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/16 01:11 AM |
| 1 | What role do you expect your Captain to play in your life?i hope this is a troll | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/16 12:52 AM |
| 2 | SO is going away for a month to IndiaJust for himself to have alone time before making some big choices (applied for some masters programs).:) I suppose he is backpacking most of the trip! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/16 04:32 PM |
| 2 | Thoughtful GiftsI hadn't been to cirque du soleil since i was probably 7 or 8 years old. It ended up coming to my area. I sighed longingly at the posters and lamented at the price. Well, he bought tickets and surprised me before Christmas. He totally had me off track too, i thought he was bringing me elsewhere until we turned the corner! Obviously it was amazing, but the memory with him is even better. We were also planning a trip to Maui, but I was stressing out about the cost. He ended up surprising me with t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/16 04:42 AM |
| 2 | A Map of the Introvert's HeartI laughed because this totally describes me hahaha. nice find. :) loll "railroad of cancelled plans".... Sobs | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/16 02:33 AM |
| 2 | Year Reflection Thread: 28/12/2015So excited for you, especially when I read that you are dating now. :) Keep it up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/15 06:20 AM |
| 2 | My intro, story of how I desperately need this community and life changei don't think it's ever a good idea to start the "why did you stay with me?"/"why are you with me?" conversation, even if it's meant innocently or honestly. It comes across insecure and doubtful of the other person's love for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/15 12:38 AM |
| 3 | Year Reflection Thread: 28/12/2015" I'm particularly ashamed of ghosting out on two friends this year (my judgmental side reared its ugly head and I axed them" I struggle with this too, it's really hard to listen to all of the feminism after you've become so aware of it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/15 12:20 AM |
| 4 | Year Reflection Thread: 28/12/2015This year has been the most amazing year of my life. I also want to learn from mistakes I made this year and I’ll probably add to this post more later. This will be super long, but it’s for myself, sorry. :) (Rough background context: was a feminist with typical beta boyfriend that i disrespected in my teens (I didn't even have sex with him, ever..for THREE years.. i was "christian" at the time but honestly the thought of sleeping with him never turned me on. whose fault is that, i wonder? maybe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/15 12:09 AM |
| 3 | Ladies, I want to say a huge thank you!He didn't give her commitment. they weren't official. she was just a plate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/15 11:33 PM |
| 2 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 21/12/15Lol this is so difficult, already screwed this one up this week I think. :| I was repeating it over and over in my head too, hahahaha. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/15 07:51 AM |
| 5 | Is there a cure for Alpha Widowery?She doesn't need to hear this "advice". This guy just wants to sleep with as many women as possible. The advice she NEEDS to hear is that she's oblivious to how badly she fked up by cheating on her husband. She has NO awareness regarding her hypergamous nature. She doesn't realize that if she was with "S" to begin with, that she would've cheated on him anyway because she would want the "next shiny object". She has zero respect for her husband. And the fact that her husband forgave her is heartbr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/15 07:48 AM |
| 3 | 18 Rules Of Behavior For Young Ladies In 1831(Sidenote: Highfive, fellow Canadian!! :D) | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/15 06:18 AM |
| 13 | Just married!CONGRATULATIONS!! :)))) You know what I love about this sub? We have more "Just Married" posts than "Just divorced" posts, unlike in r/relationships hahahahahaha...... In fact I haven't even seen a "just divorced" post yet. :D Never forget to appreciate him, no matter how many years go by. Be grateful for every moment you have together, life is so very short! In Stephen Covey's book he goes into how people often complain that "they're not in love anymore". He explains it quite simply that these … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/15 06:12 AM |
| 2 | 13 Women Reveal How Much Their Engagement Ring Cost, And What It Means To ThemShe's really good looking. At 50 she looks like she's in her early 30s. She makes your average 50 y/o woman look pretty bad. Good at managing money too, but I don't know if he cares too much about that. He's way more masculine than my father ever was. But she's a control freak and treats him like garbage behind his back (always shittalking him when I'm around lol). They butt heads like crazy. I stay out of the drama, it's so draining! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/15 11:18 PM |
| 4 | Why did you have children? /Is childbearing selfish and is that okay?"Without that, there'd be a lot more non-consensual sex and stealing produce from supermarkets." These behaviours are NOT evolutionarily stable and that is why they are not the "norm" in modern societies. You can't even compare this "urge" with having children. Rape and stealing is not an urge in the majority of people. Where did you get this notion? The reason people cooperate with one another is because it benefits our species in the first place. Having children is not the same as binging on c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/15 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 21/12/15Yeah, that was actually in a pretty "upscale" area. I had the wrong impression of where we were going, thinking it would be more of a restaurant atmosphere....I had no idea it would be so club-like, i thought my sister didn't like that anymore haha. His workplace party was in a restaurant/pub and we were with his coworkers (mostly 30+ yr old people), so it was way better. Ah well. :/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/15 06:11 PM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 21/12/15She didn't notice at all, but I told her later that this wasn't our scene. Honestly I thought the place would be more casual and sit-down. I was thinking of how much i wanted some ice cream for dessert until i walked in and saw it was pretty much a club.😅 | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/15 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 21/12/15Woww this week wasn't easy but I think I handled it OK! the good: Christmas shopping was finished pretty early last week! Stuck to a really good diet and my eating goals mostly Got out of my rut (thanks Tempest, zinc is helping I think lol) Tried to sleep more when I could! Didn't escalate my mom's bad mood (was very tempted to give her a "piece of my mind" for some childish behaviour she's been parading around) Had some great convos with my boyfriend. Had an awesome time at his work party and m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/15 10:03 AM |
| 3 | Why did you have children? /Is childbearing selfish and is that okay?It's basic biological programming. Why do you have to justify that? I don't see being "selfish" as a bad thing unless it's hurting the people you love. Is being in 'monk mode' selfish? Sure. Is it good? Absolutely. Selfishness is survival. From selfishness comes independence, and from independence comes healthy interdependence (relationships). Read Stephen Covey's "7 Habits" if you need clarification on that. Families are all about interdependence. They are beneficial and satisfying when they ar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/15 08:50 AM |
| 7 | 13 Women Reveal How Much Their Engagement Ring Cost, And What It Means To ThemQuite frankly if a guy invested three to six months of his income into buying a ring for me, I would be concerned and see it as a red flag. That money can be used on MUCH more important things. I would want my partner to understand that giving his commitment to me is already a huge deal. The ring is simply a symbol, nothing more. I cant stand the wedding industry. I've been a bridesmaid twice and won't do it again (except for my sis). It's all about how special the woman is. Most of these women … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/15 08:27 AM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 14/12/15Fantastic, congratulations. It's really hard to take in at first, but so worth it on the long run. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/15 09:50 PM |
| 2 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 14/12/15Do you browse food blogs or look at recipes via pinterest? They really get me hyped to cook, haha, even though my results aren't nearly as nice. I really like detoxinista's stuff (mostly for myself), since I'm into cooking healthy and delicious without fluffy calories. Her instagram looks delicious... Cookie and Kate is really fun too. There's something about her food photography that makes me want to cook really badly lol. Usually when i start cooking i end up getting an attitude similar to you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/15 06:14 AM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 14/12/15Thanks for the sources, that's awesome. i'm going to get on the B-Complex supplement too and be diligent about taking these daily. i just forced myself to go running with sprinting intervals. it helped lift the "weight" off me and my headache is a bit better! some good temporary relief lol. I've only been weight-lifting the last few days. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/15 09:07 PM |
| 2 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 14/12/15i'm really excited for you. :) I think you will see a huge change in your relationship with time. it's a lifelong commitment of self-improvement, but you can do it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/15 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 14/12/15congrats! this is a huge step forward :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/15 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 14/12/15Hey Tempest! I started taking some zinc like you suggested. hopefully I'll feel the effects next month! but i was wondering if post-PMS is an issue too and if my zinc could still be out of whack? Because right now on my birth control i get my period a week earlier than it's supposed to happen. My mood and everything is great the first two weeks, it's even okay during my period. Then when it "ends" (that is, when it's supposed to come on the placebo pills), I seem to be a hormonal mess. I've woke… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/15 06:58 PM |
| 3 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 14/12/15No, in a couple weeks...Mon, December 28th will be a "year reflection". :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/15 07:48 AM |
| 2 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 14/12/15Thanks, that's very helpful. you're awesome. :) i don't take any zinc right now, i'll definitely pick some up!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/15 07:46 AM |
| 5 | Attracting menit's your ATTITUDE that needs an adjustment, not these men. you don't see any faults with yourself even though your post history is stuffed with them why do you deserve some man to give you all this attention you crave so badly? what makes you so good when you're constantly emasculating and putting down other men? learn some humility first the shitty cake will still taste like shit no matter how much icing you put on it. your attitude will always show, no matter how sweet you make your countenan… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/15 09:29 PM |
| 3 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 14/12/15Keeping it brief: the good: Sleeping more, 7-8 hrs, even last night when i thought i was going to pull an allnighter. decided that I just need to stop doing that crap. turns out I didn't need to be stressing out about a deadline lol drinking lots of water been REALLY good about daily cleaning maintenance, apartment is clean and not embarrassing (my rule is..if someone were to walk in right now, would I feel embarrassed?) Made food for my hard-working boyfriend :D he appreciates it even though it… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/15 09:21 PM |
| 4 | If, per RP a woman wants a man who is better than her (women date "up") does it not seem rational to assume that she wants a man she feels "less than"?Hypergamy simply means seeking the "best you can get". Women tend to branch swing when they find someone better than their partner. Not generally with ill intent; I would say it is a more subconscious mechanism since women rear children.it is in our evolutionary biology to seek out the best provider (both sexually and securitt-wise,aka alpha and beta).This is where a lot of the resentment in TRP comes from. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/15 07:46 AM |
| 2 | Understanding The Difference Between Men And Women (Dissect this article!)"Relationships between men and women are not impossible or necessarily difficult. Problems simply arise when we expect or assume the opposite sex should think, feel or act the way we do." i feel that this is the heart of the matter and that a lot of rpw is built on this. it's definitely missing more important aspects though, since it's written from a feminist viewpoint. sexual strategies between men and women are very different. and, well, no feminist writer is going to admit that men judge wome… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/15 09:05 AM |
| 8 | Husband "doing" RP, and I'm struggling"On the positive side, he is going to the gym and getting healthier. He's also taking more responsibility in our family and doing better at work. He's playing soccer and going out with his guy friends more, and I'm happy about this stuff! So, guys, why is he doing this and how should I respond?" you cultivate an attitude of gratitude for this husband who is doing his best to shape up your family. he is working hard and he is also trying to make himself more physically attractive for you. be pati… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/15 08:48 AM |
| 1 | Field report: Your grass is greenest where you water itlol yeah I do that too. I instantly cringe. it will probably take a while to stop. i hate it when I say "are you sure?" aaaargh it's a huge pet peeve with myself | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/15 08:37 AM |
| 5 | Weekly Self-reflection Thread: 7/12/2015just remember that your partner's preference takes precedence over Laura Doyle's suggestions. but if he's cool with managing the finances that's fine, as long as you aren't shoving it onto him "because the book said so" i think it's very sweet that you are going to him for all your financial decisions now though. :) TLDR her book is lovely, but just remember the mindset should be to live by what he wants, not what the book says | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/15 08:31 AM |
| 2 | Weekly Self-reflection Thread: 7/12/2015That's because they are awesome rules. Do you know how many times i've caught myself being a silly hamster this weekend and said "no, fhigurethisout, own your shit. Own. Your. Shit". hahahahaha. that flu sounds awful. Hope you're feeling better now. the last time I came down with a cold on my birthday i became such a moody drama queen in my head, it was awful. i know you'll work out your irritability, i feel the same towards Christmas (this world is so crazy with the xmas shopping madness, we to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/15 08:25 AM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-reflection Thread: 7/12/2015"(i definitely used to be one of those girls who only has male friends so this is important to me)" same. it took me a couple years to 'weed out' the girls that cause drama and aren't very rpw, but now i have a pretty solid, but small, girl circle the last year and it feels great. we hike, exercise, and even travel together to hike in other places lol. most of them are married or engaged. it's awesome have fun on your yoga retreat, sounds amaazing :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/15 08:19 AM |
| 3 | Field report: Your grass is greenest where you water itThis is so true, great field report. Leaves me with the feeling that i need to be more introspective with myself too. Especially with those innocent questions, those are hard to catch with oneself. Good job. I absolutely believe that input = output. the more effort you put in, the more you get out of it. And congrats on your engagement. That's fantastic and not surprising, since you definitely have the right idea. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/15 08:50 PM |
| 4 | Weekly Self-reflection Thread: 7/12/2015Keeping it short since i will write more thoroughly in my planner (and i am on my phone lol): whiney sometimes, not sleeping enough due to work but i am actively working on solutions to be more efficient (at a pretty intense stage w my career). Deliberately trying to back away from being too workaholic...must have fun and relax w boyfriend, which i think i did :) been good with diet and logging, but gym workouts were abysmal last week and that hasn't happened in a long time being a bit lazy with… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/15 08:42 PM |
| 2 | How can I be attracted to my (wonderful & attractive) husband?^ great post. It's really frustrating that she isn't seeing this. i hope it clicks and that she can take some action with herself... for his sake. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/15 02:55 AM |
| 2 | The ‘Luxury’ of At-Home MotherhoodYou are just amazing | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/15 09:17 PM |
| 1 | How can I be attracted to my (wonderful & attractive) husband?Yeah i feel bad for him too. And true! It will be a long road,but if she is willing, it will definitely improve in time and she will learn a lot in the process | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/15 02:58 AM |
| 2 | How can I be attracted to my (wonderful & attractive) husband?yea but why wouldn't you have both of those things in a relationship? Your partner needs to turn you on and inspire feelings of love sooo..i am more willing to bet the issue is her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/15 02:52 AM |
| 2 | How can I be attracted to my (wonderful & attractive) husband?Thank you..so true. so many people just dont get this lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/15 02:49 AM |
| 2 | How do I compliment my man?it needs to come from a genuine place, meaning, you need to really notice these things about your man (or anyone else). then you just stop worrying about how silly it might sound. Compliments never sound silly unless they aren't genuine (and we know girls are good at insincere compliments lol, that's probably why so many of us avoid it growing up ) My man's biceps and shoulders are massive. I probably compliment him on them or squeeze them every time we hang out... yeah i sound goofy. I legit ju… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/15 02:38 AM |
| 9 | How can I be attracted to my (wonderful & attractive) husband?Thank you...this is the response she needs. She was allowing herself to indulge in thoughts of other men rather than fix herself after admitting she withheld sex lol. And then she just gives him books to try to get him to be like those past experimental sexual relationships she had... ...so cringeworthy sigh OP stop trying to control your husband | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/15 02:22 AM |
| 5 | Very disturbed by my sister's husband's actions, don't know if I should tell her.If her sister is red pill enough to see that, then maybe it'd be okay. If she isn't, OP is going to start a huge hamster fest of "he's cheating on me" and bring in even more stress during their baby time, when there is no real proof of anything I understand familial loyalty, i would want to tell my sister as well. That reaction would be strong.but i think it would be wiser to support her, help her through the tough period...and then if there is any more compelling evidence that he is a sleazebag… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/15 12:45 PM |
| 2 | [Field Report] OK let's keep it real for a moment...."Maybe this relationship doesn’t work out, but it has already been one of the best experiences I’ve ever had. Does my past dictate my future? I don’t think so because I feel like if you are reallllllly fixing your shit and owning up to it, then you too can find someone who is worth it. Do I still have work to do? Yes. Will I always be working on fixing myself? Yes. Am I afraid of the work? HELL NO! I want to be better. I work to be better. I come here to seek advice from women who are living it.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/15 06:26 AM |
| 2 | Do any of you subscribe to poly? How do you make it work?this whole post sort of feels like you're trying to justify it to yourself...idk what's so alpha about letting other dudes bang your wife? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/15 04:59 AM |
| 7 | Do any of you subscribe to poly? How do you make it work?"If the goal of RPW is to get a commitment from a good man, isn't giving that man your blessing to continue to seek out attractive, compatible partners one of the worst things you could do? Aren't you plating yourself? " yes. "And assuming you go and get with other dudes... don't you think that devalues you as compared to the new ladies he's going to meet who haven't fucked another guy while in a relationship with him?" absolutely. OP i'm sorry, but in my opinion you are a plate and this isn't v… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/15 05:20 AM |
| 7 | Approached by mostly older men. Am I doing something wrong?how is there any team woman here by saying some people dont want an older man? plenty of my friends are with older men, my closest girlfriend is married to someone nine years older than her. but harping someone for not being into that or having no sexual desire towards older men? that is just ridiculous and comes across insecure If you are going to harp girls around here for not fitting generic TRP assumptions please just stay out of RPW | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/15 06:03 PM |
| 2 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 30/11/2015what type of dance? i really miss ballet and I'm thinking of picking it up again once i can afford it :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/15 03:52 PM |
| 8 | Approached by mostly older men. Am I doing something wrong?this just reeks of hamster no, not every young woman is attracted to men in their late 30s and 40s. there is a little biological hardwiring in a lot of people to have someone closer to their age (health reasoning etc...people were dying much younger in our evolutionary history and living into your 90s and later is a pretty new thing after millions of years of dying early lol) yes it works for some and yes it makes more sense to have a matured man for an LTR, but you can't argue laws of attractio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/15 03:46 PM |
| 15 | Are we really less logical than men?It doesn't say ANYWHERE in here that you are "dumb" because you're a woman. some of the smartest and wisest women i've ever known post in this sub lol, i'm constantly saving advice... BUT... the fact that you are taking a rational statement (the majority of women are emotional and less rational than the average man), and then getting upset over it and twisting it because of feelings...ironically just proves the statement... | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/15 03:37 PM |
| 13 | Approached by mostly older men. Am I doing something wrong?If she doesn't want someone a decade older than her, i don't see how this is such a big deal. " If you think you can do better, why haven't you? " This is unnecessary and i don't think she needs this warning or probing. She isn't being snobby or thinking she can 'do better'. She just wants someone closer to her age, as a preference, and some preferences are vital for mutual attraction. It works for you, but it doesn't work for everyone. OP, you're fine...just realize most men in your age group d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/15 12:51 AM |
| 2 | My SO does exciting things with his friends but would rather stay in if it's just the two of us. I feel bad about that. Help?" it sounds like you are a bit needy and possibly controlling, but at the same time - he's drawn to that. " i don't think he's drawn to that at all. he's clearly annoyed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/15 07:35 AM |
| 2 | My SO does exciting things with his friends but would rather stay in if it's just the two of us. I feel bad about that. Help?You NEED to drop this subject and fix your attitude before you annoy the crap out of him. From your post, it really sounds like he's annoyed by you and is seeing this behaviour as bratty/ungrateful. It will make him even more reluctant to take you out. Does that sound unfair? Yes? Good. Because this is red pill women, and we know 'equal relationships' don't exist and that women's incessant need for special attention can tear relationships apart. This is your current attitude: "He isn't meeting m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/15 06:51 AM |
| 5 | Should we break up?"However, it's not clear the above reasons will be resolved to his satisfaction and if not, then I don't want to miss out on finding someone great at school who might be the one." Hypergamy at it's best... you are hamstering that he doesn't want to marry you six months in to your relationship (his reasons are valid imo). Yeah, that could be a problem or a red flag. But 6 mos is such a young relationship Get your life together first then see where it leads. Everything starts with you | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/15 05:20 PM |
| 1 | Mini rant regarding calories and womenThey don't routinely dine there though, most of my girl friends are health conscious so I didn't think making a joke about the meal being more than my daily intake would be fine. I know better now though lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/15 07:03 AM |
| 0 | Mini rant regarding calories and womenThanks for the reminder! Yes it was a good learning curve, and it really sucked because she's actually a good friend! The atmosphere was so tense when we were talking about it. I'm DEFINITELY going to avoid the subject and be more mindful about it in the future!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/15 05:54 PM |
| 1 | Mini rant regarding calories and womenHaha that sounds like the best problem ever. :D But yeah, there is so much misinformation and misunderstanding...people think watching what you eat or being skinny is "starvation mode" when you're actually just being careful lol. You sound like you're in great physical shape for your age (judging by other posts)...keep it up, you're a huge inspiration to me around here hehe | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/15 03:56 PM |
| 1 | Mini rant regarding calories and womenYeah you're right. I'm letting it get to me too much. It's just frustrating when it's your one of your closest friends saying it to you. Now she's being awkward with me, haha. Keto is tough, I tried it for a while. Did you get pats the low carb haze? I felt really tired but after some research, maybe I was lacking sodium. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/15 03:41 PM |
| 4 | Back with ex boyfriend but things are not the same and I'm worriedIMO a clean break would have been better because you need time to yourself to get your act together. you're all over the place and very needy Otherwise, listen to TempestTCup | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/15 03:15 PM |
| 4 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 11/23/15Last week I didn’t post; my blocking applications went off (LOL) and I was pretty busy. Excuses aside, I should be posting weekly!! I have a long way to go. stuff i’m not so proud of: I was really bad with shit-testing the last few days and really fought negative thoughts about relationship. Boyfriend is very busy applying to grad schools, working, and juggling school and whatnot and we live about 30-40 min away from one another. So we are barely going to see each other twice this week. I kept t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/15 03:40 PM |
| 2 | Simple QuestionsYou are 21, a housewife, and found the manosphere at 14? Respect. I have to admit that I am jealous of your maturity! I was browsing the wrong part of the internet at that time lol. If I found and accepted red pill at 14 I could have saved my teenaged self from my serious case of selfish brattyness and feminism. Oh well. Serious respect, I look up to your posts. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/15 02:52 AM |
| 3 | What are some reasonable expectations for a first date?Once you are in an established relationship, of course we want more traditional gender roles (around here anyway). That's how it worked for us; once i earned it (not entitled to his wallet) he felt right looking after me. Once he demonstrated to me that he is a good leader (aka not a pushover and desperate), it felt great to submit to him!!! But the context of this thread is a first date, and yes, it is entitled to assume you get xyz because you're a girl. Your lack of humility will just slap yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/15 02:31 PM |
| 14 | What are some reasonable expectations for a first date?Giving him the opportunity is fine. Most men end up doing this anyway. However, expecting it and then judging when he doesn't pay? Absolutely entitled. sidenote: If a man spends his money too easily on random women, i take it as a red flag, to be honest. I want a man who is smart with his money and is smart about who he is giving it to. If he is shelling out a large sum on me on for the first date and doesn't know my personality, he looks a little foolish. This man can be easily taken advantage … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/15 07:24 PM |
| 11 | What are some reasonable expectations for a first date?I don't know if I totally agree with all of her advice. I had no expectations, i have personal standards but you cant judge by a single action on the first date. I had my own car for safety reasons (a little hypocritcal on this since I did go into his house the first date lol). Also, men can be pushy on the first date and having you in his car may escalate things quicker than you would like. He didn't offer to pick me up, too, which actually made him stand out from the usual beta schlubs who ben… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/15 07:12 PM |
| 3 | Lurkers, we would love to hear from you!I think TRP attracts younger men from reddit (late teens and early twenties) which could explain the anti-marriage and anti-LTR mindset...and obviously a lot of other societal issues as well. But in the red pill blogging world, before the TRP subreddit, men like Rollo Tomassi and Ian Ironwood are married and focus on how to keep healthy interdependent relationships alive and strong. Your husband probably knows them already! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/15 07:27 PM |
| 3 | Lurkers, we would love to hear from you!Congratulations, this is so fantastic! Keep at it!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/15 07:23 PM |
| 2 | Friday Evening Anxiety/Help Quashing Need to Control/Please reassure me that my boyfriend is not an awful person and that this is just a dude thingYou feel insecure that you aren't always apart of his fun, and he feels insecure because he feels the same. You feel frustrated that his plans aren't concrete, and you want more solidity and affirmation. Make your plans concrete, change your attitude...you can only control yourself, not him. Control YOU first and foremost. You have come across very anxious and insecure whenever he goes out, so now he may be feeling the same towards you. You are feeding off each other's dread. If you begin trusti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/15 07:07 PM |
| 3 | Friday Evening Anxiety/Help Quashing Need to Control/Please reassure me that my boyfriend is not an awful person and that this is just a dude thingYou need to chill, you are out of control with this. You hang out every day? My bf lives 40 min away and we are super busy, and we probably saw each other twice last week at most. Is it possible that you feel this way specifically because you are lacking hobbies, interests, and ways in which to spend your free time? You sound too relationship-focused in a bad way and too whiney about your Friday nights. That can come off clingy/insecure to men and push them away. In fact, I think a lot of this i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/15 09:07 PM |
| 6 | Weekly Self-reflection Thread: 11/09/2015Last week I kept two major things in mind, as it was my goal to overcome the two dramas that had happened: You're the captain of your ship -- you are in control of yourself and your actions, don't focus on the uncontrollable (thanks to cats_or_get_out) Have an attitude of gratitude (tempesttcup's post!) relationships: Yes, my mum tried to extend the drama by getting other people involved. But I stood my ground this time and didn't involve myself; i ignored her actions, focused on my own life (an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/15 02:55 PM |
| 2 | Weekly reflection thread: 11/02/15What a great comparison! Thank you :) Very wise. Saved. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/15 02:17 AM |
| 1 | Weekly reflection thread: 11/02/15You can do it! Just think of how good you'll feel if you and your daughter eat well and keep the ball rolling! For the reddit/internet distraction issues, have you tried an application like StayFocusd (chrome) or WasteNoTime (safari)? You can block all social media for a certain period, or the entire internet if you want. It really helps me, but I need extreme methods to counter my bad habits :/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/15 02:08 AM |
| 2 | Weekly reflection thread: 11/02/15Thanks for this reminder, I was wondering why I've been allowing myself to feel so upset. You start losing yourself when you reflect on things outside of your control. I will work extra hard to control my own behaviour this week, and focus less on the external dramas that I can't prevent. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/15 02:01 AM |
| 6 | Weekly reflection thread: 11/02/15This week wasn’t the easiest! I found out my mom has been lying to some family friends regarding my career situation. Long story short, she has been making me look like an idiot and herself look like the “poor mom with a terrible kid”. Her ability to victimize herself absolutely disgusts me. When she admitted she said these lies about me, she began blaming other people, including myself. She’s bitter that I’m not who she was; she had seven stores and ran everything. Work came before family, she … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/15 11:22 PM |
| 6 | RPW in relationship with past violence?IMO, an abusive man breaches an important part of the unspoken 'relationship contract' (him providing safety and security). Yes, you have a lot to work on, but this man is not a good captain and it will take a long, long, long time to move past this and fully trust him again. You will frequently think of the past and be scared that he'll resort to that anger again. One slip-up is all it takes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/15 11:06 PM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 10/26/2015If you become one hundred percent relationship centered---while it seems noble and everything --you will lose sight of yourself. I am not saying to stay in school, but you need some passion and self purpose to stay afloat. at least hobbies that you love immensely. You may risk seeming boring to your partner, too. For the gym, have you looked into Bret Contreras' Strong Curves program? Great book. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/15 03:47 AM |
| 3 | PatienceExcellent post! Thank you, I needed to read this. This is really why women who follow this mindfulness are much stronger than their feminists acquaintances. It takes much more control and self-discipline to trust others and be mindful, rather than becoming stressed and freaked out when things don't go according to your own plans. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/15 04:28 AM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 10/26/2015Great observation, I'm going to try to see that with myself this week. Awesome about the sewing group. I miss sewing!!! Btw, you sound like you're quite self-aware, you can totally accomplish your goals of bettering yourself! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/15 04:27 AM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 10/26/2015I have cranberry extract in my cupboard!!!! I will keep this in mind for next time. I don't think it'll do much now but I'm going to pop a few anyway. You are awesome!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/15 04:24 AM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 10/26/2015Ha, thank you. It feels good to hear that. I am (and was) very embarrassed about my moodiness and irrationality. I went to bed with a scratchy throat and woke up with a full-blown cold the next morning. And thank you for the wishes! :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/15 12:08 AM |
| 3 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 10/26/2015I’ve decided to organize myself-reflection into four different faucets. This is going to be LONG, but it’s for myself, so I suppose there’s no reason to keep brief. Relationships: Partner: This is awful. Frustrating. It felt like I was back to square one of being caught in the Princess mindset trap. I believe lack of sleep and new birth control were an influence, but that isn’t an excuse. I got really mopey around my birthday. The night before, I somehow envisioned that he’d show up at my place … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/15 05:47 PM |
| 1 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 10/19/2015Amazing! Congratulations on your engagement!! :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/15 04:50 PM |
| 2 | Hi everyone, I'm 23. How do I not screw up my love life and future.there are 7 billion people on this planet. What makes you think you won't find this good man? Look at the older male crowd who wants to settle down--- try online dating, join volunteer groups, activities, sports, meetups, etc. Yes, of course if you don't PUT yourself in the position, you won't meet a good man. You have to do that work yourself. PS, online dating is even better if you have a religious background, since you can filter by religion on some websites. I don't think you can turn on a f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/15 04:35 AM |
| 3 | Is this rude or self respect?making noise at 2am when anyone is sleeping isn't exactly polite or considerate. But that's besides the point, it happens, especially if she is dating a party guy. However...most people would feel bad about it if someone told me to be quieter, not offended! Getting offended over it seems a silly,unless there is some miscommunication happening. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/15 05:21 PM |
| 7 | Is this rude or self respect?Not rude at all. Your sleep is important. If it continues to be loud for some reason btw, (i had a guy living at my moms who would not be quiet when i asked politely), buy some women's ear plugs. they are comfortable and help loads. If he is upset over it, that is a poor quality for your sister's boyfriend to have. i agree with the other poster though, face to face communication is better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/15 04:54 PM |
| 7 | Help on writing my dating profile, RPW style./u/phantomdream09 made an excellent post on this: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/1zjuef/online_dating/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/15 04:02 AM |
| 14 | Hi everyone, I'm 23. How do I not screw up my love life and future.Lol seems like troll post since you have no history and an interesting username. Your ego in terms of needing to look better than your future man is a turn off and sort of a red flag. It is obvious where to look for good men, so just make sure you are a good woman to begin with...it's much more than being an 8.5 out of 10 and being approachable,lol, but i guess that's a start | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/15 02:26 PM |
| 22 | Renegotiating the marriage contract.Biology? a child is made up of both parents and thus both pass on their genes.it is the only way a male may pass on his lineage. men love their children too, and probably in a less selfish way than women do lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/15 02:47 PM |
| 4 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 10/19/2015This week was a struggle, but better. Progress: I am very close to completion on an important project and will make the deadline Wrote out my important goals every day like Brian Tracy suggests (this helps SO much!!) Managed to see my partner three times in our busy schedules (and even baked for him to help him out) Woke up at 5:30-6:30 daily until today (slept in til 8 30 with partner lol) Worked out every day, counted my calories every day Treated my sister and mom much better even though they… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/15 05:57 PM |
| 11 | Spinsterhood?Yes, yes..good thing for the men | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/15 04:42 AM |
| 11 | Spinsterhood?Then go find someone "more compatible" and let him find a good woman who will be supportive. God help your future man when they go through worse crises and you leave because they are hindering your pleasure | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/15 04:02 AM |
| 4 | Spinsterhood?you dont believe he is stressed with what he cites,you arent looking from his point of view. you either BELIEVE IN HIM when he says he is stressed and ride out the rough time, supporting him and increasing your attractiveness, ir leave him to go hop into dickland and get validation | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/15 03:59 AM |
| 17 | Spinsterhood?So you have put a "maybe i love him" on a five year relationship?he can probably tell you arent into him lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/15 03:45 AM |
| 1 | Spinsterhood?Have you asked why? Have you communicated that you are upset that he doesnt?you have given no further insight | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/15 03:43 AM |
| 8 | Spinsterhood?A man who makes a good income and loves you. You poor thing. I am still vetting that the dead bedroom is him seeing you as mom rather than girlfriend. If not, he could have testosterone issues. Look, you can btch about your partner's shortcomings, or you can start being more introspective of your hypergamous nature. Honestly just leave him and go find your own way, let him find a girl who loves him and you can go hop onto your last few years of the carousel | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/15 03:41 AM |
| 17 | Spinsterhood?"His job is not anymore stressful than most". ... You are seeing this from your own eyes and not his. it's all about you. Yes, you only need to improve yourself. why are you with someone for 5 years when you don't even "truly love" them? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/15 02:02 AM |
| 34 | Spinsterhood?If relationships were easy, the majority of the population would be happily married. Go ahead and leave. He deserves a woman who truly loves him if he's this great man you are describing. Soon after you break up with him, you will realize how much you took his love for granted. Edit: I took a peak at your posting history--it sounds like you don't respect him. You criticize and him for playing video games, not working out, not having many friends, etc. You even say he has "no real stress" (even t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/15 01:12 AM |
| 3 | Is it that wrong and bad to be earning more than your boyfriend? ;(THIS. This hit the nail on the head. Thank you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/15 01:10 AM |
| 5 | Marriage for a guy is a big farewell party.This is the problem with this subreddit. Most of you don't acknowledge what healthy, interdependent relationships actually look like. They are rare, but they exist. He has made a conscious choice to share the workload. She does her part, he does his. It is a working unit, creates a strong family, and is efficient and satisfying. It doesn't make him any less "alpha" for making this choice. She isn't whipping him to do the dishes. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/10/15 07:15 PM |
| 5 | Is it that wrong and bad to be earning more than your boyfriend? ;(^ This could be detrimental if her mouth got ahead of her, or even if she brought up the subject of her earnings/career too much in passive ways. My mom did this ALL the time at home in a very passive aggressive way, it gave me a lot of low self-esteem and internal angst. I ended up moving out. I really hope you aren't doing this OP, be careful of what you say! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/15 05:05 PM |
| 2 | Is it that wrong and bad to be earning more than your boyfriend? ;(Men like to be the providers. There is a hierarchy in relationships, whether we like it or not. Maybe I'm wrong, but if you are paying for the vacations and the majority of the expenses up front, he may feel less romantically inclined towards you. And now that you are making double what he makes, well...i don't think it will help matters. You also don't seem too romantically inclined to him if you're considering letting him go over this matter? (question mark because I can't really tell with you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/15 05:00 PM |
| 3 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 13/10/15Happy to report that i woke up at 5 45 and got to the gym by 6 15. Aiming for the same tomorrow. Getting lots done and feeling good :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/15 04:20 PM |
| 3 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 13/10/15Of course!:) | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/15 04:15 PM |
| 3 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 13/10/15I'm sorry you are struggling so much. Are you exercising? That might help boost your mood, and then you might be more motivated to diet. I'm always more motivated to look after my diet after I've had a hardcore workout...don't want to ruin the progress. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/15 06:33 AM |
| 2 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 13/10/15Late to post this. It was a busy day. Relationships: Let my PMS/emotional side come out and was pretty crabby to my sister. Got emotional over boyfriend not reciprocating an "i love you" text when he was having a bad day. Trying new birth control, but I knew in both these instances i was being irrational. Makes me irritated to admit these things, since I was totally aware of them and it was preventable. my sister didn't take it too well and tried adding fuel to the fire, rightfully so i suppose.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/15 06:24 AM |
| 1 | Trying to better myself in the emotional availability and direct affection department. Does anybody else struggle with this?You're right. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/15 05:53 AM |
| 3 | Looking for a specific blog... man talks about women in RP fashionhttp://www.therulesrevisited.com/ :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/15 04:57 AM |
| 3 | Ladies night ideas?We are doing a fall baking night,making some pies and other treats. :) then probably watch a movie! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/15 05:52 AM |
| 2 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 05/10/15"Surely I must be the most boring person [...]" Wrong mindset, wrong attitude! Get your hands into some new hobbies. Go rock climbing, volunteer, take music lessons...there are so many ways to remedy this. Are you exercising enough? | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/15 07:00 PM |
| 2 | Blue and Red pill, why should I or should I not, get married?Congrats <3 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/15 06:15 PM |
| 2 | When Hypergamy doesn't care and women are primarily attracted to status and security, why do some stay with a man in ill health?There are MANY reasons why a woman stays. Social pressure is massive. What would her reputation look like? How would her social circle react? How would she secure her next man when he finds out she left her husband because he fell ill? There are women who exploit this situation, there are women who truly empathize and nurture their loved one, there are women who lose all attraction but stay so they don't become subject to the ruin of their reputation, there are women who do all three... but you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/15 05:38 PM |
| 2 | UPDATE: Am I making a mountain out of a molehill and overreacting to my bf helping out his mentally unstable ex?How did this end up? Curious to know. Best of luck! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/15 05:42 AM |
| 2 | Blindsided by BFI think there is more to it than that, to be honest (judging by her post history). But yes, there are men out there who would rather have a woman "control" at least "half" the relationship, due to the way most men are raised in the first place... | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/15 01:30 AM |
| 4 | Damn it.So he's an alcoholic? Addictions are dangerous, and Laura Doyle has a pretty stern opinion about not being with a man who has an addiction. My father was an alcoholic-- he never changed. It got worse. Not sure what he has been like post divorce, but my mom struggled with the "I'm sure I can change him" mentality and it created a really bad environment for me and my sister. I would have rather been raised in a peaceful household than living through the way they argued and how he drank (aka, i wou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/15 01:27 AM |
| 12 | Blindsided by BFLooking at your post history, I'm assuming this is the same man you were talking about: "It's not hard for me to spend time with him at all, but I don't feel that 'love' thing either." You didn't feel love for this man and you're shocked he left you? A man can tell when you aren't into him, trust me. He isn't a fool. Your "submissive" attitude probably revealed your lack of emotional investment... I am sorry for your breakup...but i don't know, this is weird. :/ You also said this: " I've never … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/15 12:54 AM |
| 4 | Damn it.Some women on here will say the BJ and kissing another girl is not worth the cost of your marriage, especially since it seems like he did these things when you were both in a bad place. Others will say that any form of cheating is a violation of their boundaries and that would be it for them (I'm more on this side but I haven't had children--I am assuming that changes how you feel about this). I can't tell you what the right choice is, you will have to decide that. But I do know he let you down.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/15 12:47 AM |
| 2 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 05/10/15Good for you for being honest with yourself. Attitude is everything. It sounds like things aren't good, and he sounds very stressed out with a 16 hour day job. However, you can change yourself...and there is great power within that! It's time to find some solutions. Is there a reason your period is being so erratic? Have you tried birth control? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/15 12:36 AM |
| 2 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 05/10/15I am guilty of this as well. When I'm not on my guard, sometimes I will passively aggressively say something, like, "Oh, you do it that way?". It's stupid and I'm trying to iron out this problem too. I think the solution is to practice being grateful. Learn to appreciate and notice the little things, such as every time he says "I love you" or "I miss you". It should be a good 'brain prompt' to start training yourself to see things from a "grateful lens". Then you'll start really appreciating all… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/15 12:31 AM |
| 2 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 05/10/15Congratulations! :) The daily exercise will help you control the anxieties, I find HIIT especially helps me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/15 07:32 PM |
| 2 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 05/10/15If I don't exercise I find I'm much more irritable and moody than I would like to be as well!! So I agree on the direct correlation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/15 07:31 PM |
| 7 | Weekly Self-Reflection Thread: 05/10/15I'll start. I feel like I have done a lot of judgement on other people's situations lately. The women around me, the relationship problems I see, my mother and sister's behaviour, etc. I must realize that judging this behaviour can only be as helpful as to teach me what NOT to do. It is more useful to focus on what I have to do and where I need to improve, because there is a lot i need to improve on. Disallowing my career and my partner to mingle: the career path I've chosen is strenuous (lol li… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/15 05:23 PM |
| 4 | Ladies, how would you deal with your man's lack of passion?"I am just trying to figure out if I can help him help himself" No. That makes it worse. My mom thought this for 20 years after she chose to marry an alcoholic. She is very controlling and it made it much worse. He is actually a better man now that they are divorced. "The dilemma is figuring out how to get him going in that direction[...]" The dilemma is that you want him to be xyz, and he wants something else. It's that simple, and it's a very big issue. "How many people are lucky enough to kno… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/15 08:44 PM |
| 7 | Ladies, how would you deal with your man's lack of passion?You chose this person, and now you are babying him and trying to change him. He is dependent on you now, and he probably sees no point in stepping up to be a leader and breadwinner. You aren't married. Leave him alone to find his path (you are controlling him) or find someone who works harder. Was he always lazy and unmotivated like you are describing? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/09/15 08:22 PM |
| 3 | What to do when your guy doesn't like to text, yet you thrive on it?Yes, it's different. Accept it and change or keep whining about it and lose a good man. You're making this all about you. Social media is making this generation a disaster. Put the phone away. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/15 07:40 PM |
| 6 | What are some ways to improve my attitude about sex and get excited when I don't feel like it?This is the major issue, and I guessed it in your post--you can't have enthusiastic sex with someone you aren't attracted to. Sex is based on attraction. And you said you are overweight yourself. Work hard and exercise most of the week, and he will probably start doing the same. You both probably feel unattractive and too comfortable with being unattracted to one another (or you to him specifically). You need to bring the attraction back. Is he working out? Working hard? Focus on those things. I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/15 04:00 PM |
| 15 | living with boyfriend abroad for a semester -- too much on my plate?This is life. It wont get easier. You will become bitter if you keep up this attitude. If you feel overwhelmed, simply ask for help in a non-threatening way. No one is asking you to burn yourself out. Women are professionals at feeling overwhelmed, victimized, and not asking for help---even refusing it. They become moody and bitter and take it out on their partners even though they didn't express their needs for help in the first place. You will disrespect your partner if you let it come to this… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/15 03:28 PM |
| 1 | Feeling nervous about moving in together.Excellent, fantastic advice. Thank you so much. I feel like it's a list I should print out and keep at my bedside, hahaha. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/15 03:30 AM |
| 4 | Man Flu...Partner and I recently had HFMD. It was brutal. Instead of letting it get to us, we spent some quality time together on our sick days and watched films, cooked, etc. I tried rubbing ointments on his hands and feet. We got medicine together. It was nice and we turned a crappy illness into an excuse to be together and laze around. Why are you so concerned over trivial responsibilities? Why are you so crabby that he is taking time to heal? Get better first and don't shame your husband for taking ti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/15 07:17 AM |
| 2 | What are some nice things I can do for my boyfriend?Every time you reject his advances, resentment will grow. It is equivalent to him not telling you he loves you or flaking out on spending time with you. It matters to men. You might think it's okay, he might appear patient and understanding, but rejecting your partner's sexual advances so often has consequences that you should not ignore. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/15 07:03 AM |
| 3 | What are some nice things I can do for my boyfriend?So it's all about your needs, and not his? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/15 05:56 PM |
| 5 | Getting a guy to see you as more than just a hook up?You can't force or persuade a guy to see you as more than just a hook up. Red flag for you, and nothing in it for him. Move on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/15 05:51 PM |
| 2 | How likely will a woman cheat if she is happy in a relationship?Follow the advice on this sub! That is your best protection from her getting 'bored' and potentially cheating. Maintain your frame, stay attractive (imo, good to keep female friends for smv...she will get jealous and try to stir drama out of it but it's better than you looking like there are no females competing over you lol) Don't give into her irrational emotional bitch fests Demand respect In my more self-entitled days, I dated a 'beta' who would apologize when I had an emotional trainwreck o… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/09/15 05:38 PM |
| 9 | Hey girls! I need your honest opinions - do I need to change my behaviour?As long as your partner likes these traits you have listed above, there is no problem. The list is very generic (as well as biased, probably based on this man's experiences and taste in women) and satisfies traits for the majority of women---and, as we know---the majority of women these days are on the CC with sky high partner counts. Tons of women, both here and in feminist world, dye their hair, have piercings, were cheerleaders, and tan (please don't though, this is rather unhealthy). Of cour… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/15 01:44 AM |
| 2 | Post-wall women tells the truth, that you become invisible after 50.Great thoughts. I agree that much of the attention dependency is due to the lack of shaming and father figures. However, I truly believe social media is taking it to a whole new level and that it will only get much worse. Tumblr, Instagram, and Facebook are exploited on a daily basis by females to get their dosage of "attention" crack. It's way too easy to post a picture of your boobs and heavily made-up face, tag it, and get a surge of attention. Even older females can get away with this by edi… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/09/15 08:30 PM |
| 1 | UPDATE: Thought I was his girlfriend until he said I'm not...am I a plate? (mid-20s)So relieved this took a good turn!:) | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/15 07:32 PM |
| 4 | Jealous/Controlling or Rational?You were asking him to give up his friends because you thought he was going to run off with one of them. Don't deny it---you were hamstering a lot over this "what ifs" rather than focusing on the important things, like him and his needs...most importantly, his need for respect. As a result, he was pissed that you had so little regard for his loyalty--it's disrespectful. Hence the breakup. Stop thinking men and women are the same. They aren't. Yes, it's believed that men and women can't be friend… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/15 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Feeling nervous about moving in together.Great advice. Thank you for the list. One month is really quick! You are brave and I am so happy it worked out for you. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/15 01:04 AM |
| 2 | Feeling nervous about moving in together.Good points, thank you. I agree there are consequences and I will still be careful before jumping in. It looks like we wouldnt be able to for at least four months now, anyhow! | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/15 01:01 AM |
| 1 | Feeling nervous about moving in together.I agree for the most part. Thank you for your input. First, it is not what I would call a "moral value". Let's call it a fear-driven opinion based on observance and research. If you re-read my post, it mostly reflects on how often couples fail after cohabitating. I am afraid of being subject to the same failures. However, many ladies here have pointed out that I have a great deal of control over the outcome, and they are right. I am not sure how I could even say cohabitation is morally wrong, I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/15 12:58 AM |
| 6 | Women you admire...Lady Jessica Atreides from Dune! She is the concubine of duke Leto in the book (he doesnt marry her for political reasons, but she is the only one, hehe). She holds her poise beautifully. The author sets up instances when she is tempted to speak out due to her emotions, but manages to get herself under control. She is calm and feminine, her ability to be submissive shows her strength. Her loyalty to Leto is fierce and she respects him entirely. Apologies for the fictional/geeky interlude. But sh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/15 07:39 AM |
| 1 | Feeling nervous about moving in together.That's so sweet. :) I feel like my relationship gets stronger every time we're together, too. Your husband sounds amazing. Thanks for sharing a positive story about cohabitation. There are so many negative stories out there so my brain was having a difficult time seeing the light. I really appreciate your encouragement. In fact, it will be an exciting new step and as long as I stay true to my goals (the ones you listed of course), you are right...it will be okay! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/15 07:03 AM |
| 2 | Feeling nervous about moving in together.But if he thinks it's best for our relationship, why shouldn't I trust that? Just because I've read those studies and observed those instances where people worsen with cohabitation, it doesn't mean it will necessarily happen to us. I think the fact that I'm aware of how the majority of women become annoying/naggy to live with will help me steer far away from that. Am I worried that he won't see any point in going further? A little, yes--- but at the same time I'd rather trust how serious he says… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/15 06:59 AM |
| 2 | Feeling nervous about moving in together.Thank you, it's nice to hear success stories. I think I've just acknowledged all the bad instances and it's made me pessimistic. You're right, it's in my power to not become those things. It's a poor excuse. I've decided to take his lead and move in when he wants me to. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/15 06:50 AM |
| 9 | Boyfriend did something that completely broke my trust; how to rebuild and move on from this?No, he won't change. The fact that you got back together with him just reinforces that you'll take him back when he crosses boundaries. You are wasting your precious time. Find someone who doesn't go behind your back to meet up with an ex. This is a massive red flag. He LIED to you and saw his ex girlfriend THREE TIMES to "catch up". Wake up and find someone who has the decency to actually respect you! If I went through what you did, I would be running the other way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/15 06:44 AM |
| 1 | Feeling nervous about moving in together.Thank you :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/15 10:07 PM |
| 2 | Thank you RPW. I am now engaged and have you ladies to thank for itCongratulations! This made me so happy to read :') | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/15 09:04 PM |
| 8 | TrustI admittedly fell into this trap with my ex. He gambled, had serious money issues, anger issues, and flaked on me. I was a plate. No flowers or anything on my birthday. No thank-yous. He hated listening to me if I was upset. It was all about him. I tried to justify it in my head. I would cook, put in boundless effort, and spoil him. I got zero in return. He would legitimately see me once a week (sometimes once every two weeks) and he lived five minutes from me. Now, the problem was me, of course… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/15 12:50 AM |
| 3 | Update: When to Sacrifice Things that Weaken Future SMVThe more and more you post, the more i am thinking you two dont fit. i know you are trying to improve yourself and you have slipped up. but you do complain about him a lot and it is quite clear you are not happy with him. Either accept how he is and put aside your own concerns, or move on. Dont delude yourself into thinking you can change him. Can you see yourself like this the rest of your life? Your answer or hesitancy to come up with an answer should help your insight | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/15 09:56 PM |
| 3 | Help staying positive, grateful, and poised in disappointing situationsPractice. there is no immediate cure, trust me. Just be as aware of it as you can. Keep a journal to self-reflect. Take a lot of time to yourself and judge your recent behaviour from a subjective standpoint. If he's in a bad mood and is the type that doesn't want to talk (most men don't like "talking it out" FYI), don't talk, let him be, and don't take it personally! if you're coming from the mindset of "if I don't make him happy I've failed", you are approaching it from a selfish mindset rather… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/15 08:48 PM |
| 1 | I'm so frustrated with myself and the pill.Thanks for the insight! I eat a TON of plain yogurt but i'm guilty of putting in honey or coconut chips which sweeten it quite a bit. that might be counteracting its helpful effects. :P I'll look into the soil probiotics for sure...i just want to be back to normal! So frustrating about the fluconozole. my doctor just keeps prescribing it to me even though I tell her it doesn't work! she just frowns and says it should. Graghh! I've probably taken it seven times this year. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/15 08:38 PM |
| 1 | I'm so frustrated with myself and the pill.YES that is completely the feeling...sometimes I just get so overly anxious that i'm going to mess up and i think it makes it so much worse! i definitely won't bring it up again. thank you for the great reminder :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/15 08:35 PM |
| 1 | I'm so frustrated with myself and the pill.Thank you! I remember my mom loved sleepy time tea, maybe i'll pick some up today. :) i exercise almost daily so that isn't a concern right now--but yoga might be a better option to centre myself. Yes, i will just focus on getting through day by day. :) thanks for the encouragement, i'll do my best! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/15 08:34 PM |
| 1 | I'm so frustrated with myself and the pill.he said I have nothing to be concerned about and I (should) trust that. she isn't an ex. Yes, it gets the hamster spinning, and yes, i'm aware of the mindset here that "men and women can't just be friends". i lean this way, but i also see situations where male/female acquaintanceship is probably going to happen (especially at work, networking, and old family friends etc.). however, he thinks men and women can be friends despite circumstances, and i need to respect that. it isn't my choice. i jus… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/15 08:31 PM |
| 1 | I'm so frustrated with myself and the pill.Thank you for the insight. :) very much appreciated | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/15 06:17 PM |
| 2 | I'm so frustrated with myself and the pill.Thanks for taking the time to respond. after reading your post I took my vitamin B (stopped when i was on birth control because...it aaid there was a conflict???). I have probably been having too much sugar lately too with yogurts etc. Unfortunately i slept poorly last night too, this is probably a major factor since I feel anxious today too. I exercise almost daily but that could be negative on my health if i am not sleeping. After this cycle I will try a new pill. My doctor was against the IUD… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/15 06:15 PM |
| 3 | How much do you invest in a new relationship?you've come a long way :) glad to see you want to be attractive for him rather than caring about your future dating self. my current partner is very confident, so i don't have the problem with him becoming insecure when i'm not around. but i think my best advice would be to make your moments together extra special, fun, and memorable...so when you are apart or you go out with your girl friends, he can rely on the recent awesome memories of you to remind him that you love him. i had an insecure f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/15 12:06 AM |
| 1 | Should I stay with him after what I know now?settling for you? no emotional connection during sex? wants to be friends with his ex? he doesn't respect you or love you...sorry. 3 months is short. break up. you don't want kid/marriage obligations with this kind of guy | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/15 07:35 PM |
| 3 | Dating question, would like this sub's opinioni just mean when you really feel happy with him, adore him in the moment, and don't want anyone else but him...let him know :) it will sound more genuine than pre-planning how you're going to bring up the relationship | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/15 03:43 PM |
| 3 | Dating question, would like this sub's opinion..oh. lol. woops. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/15 06:17 AM |
| 3 | Dating question, would like this sub's opinionah sorry, my bad. i missed the part where you said it was a few weeks ago. i thought you told him you wanted to wait after almost 2 months of dating. in that case i think it's fine to bring it up again--- or just honestly express your feelings in the moment, which is probably on the more submissive end. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/15 01:05 AM |
| 3 | No more excuses! What are you doing to keep yourself fit? What are your goals?i am a gym and weight training enthusiast almost daily...but lately i have been hiking and camping pretty intensely and love the extra calorie deficit it gives. nature and being outdoors feels so good for me too...it is inspiring, meditative, and challenging. and addicting...i am already dreaming of my next destinations. 5'1" and around 107lbs. could probably lose the 7 pounds but i think muscle is more dense than fat anyway, so just keep that in mind if you weight train...the number on the scal… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/15 06:07 PM |
| 2 | Don't know what to do about my friend (me, 18F & him 22M)you can keep business as business but i wouldnt bother to ask why he is ignoring you. who cares? except you seem to care more than you are letting on. be careful of having your heart pining on the wrong person | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/15 06:13 AM |
| 3 | Don't know what to do about my friend (me, 18F & him 22M)idk. do you have a crush on him? if so i would stay far away, you two clearly dont fit. judging by this post it sounds like you had a romantic interest in him. he wont commit though, and you know that...maybe its bothering you? is he a very close longterm family friend ? work connection? will it actually impact your life significantly if you lose contact (other than some heartbreak that you will get over soon enough)? My guess is no. Ps...i dont think any of my close friends would ignore me sans… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/15 05:29 AM |
| 9 | Don't know what to do about my friend (me, 18F & him 22M)he made it clear. he is into casual sex. he gave you the eye all night or however you described it. but you arent into it, he gets that. therefore he doesnt have much interest in you anymore. he probably still feels judged too. sorry, but it is pretty rare that a hookup type guy friend sticks around when he knows he is getting no sex from the chick. example...when these sort of guy "friends" in highschool found out i was christian (not anymore) and didnt sleep around they usually stopped initiat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/15 04:26 AM |
| 5 | Accepting Realityi completely understand your frustration. just remember that the truth you see can leverage you in ways you can't imagine. you are now aware of the generic male and female behavioural dynamic, and therefore you have the ability to shape yourself into the best person you can be and learn from other's mistakes. in my opinion, this is a great gift. pre-redpill/in my teens i was truly on the path to becoming a feminist princess, doomed to be forever alone because "no man was good enough for me". (al… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/15 01:16 AM |
| 1 | Advice for handling mom during household meltdowns and man-hate mode?thanks, that's very encouraging! you're right, there are so many expenses in owning a place and there is no way I could pay the mortgage off quickly enough. i definitely want to be in a position like you and your partner. It sounds like you're able to save a lot and will be able to afford a house when you are ready! I found a place to rent for 500/mo (in Vancouver, which is cheap considering the usual prices around here).They just phoned me and I'm seeing it on Sunday! Now I'm actually excited a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/15 10:57 PM |
| 1 | Advice for handling mom during household meltdowns and man-hate mode?thank you so much for the sympathy. I'm also a bit scared. Even though I'm in a decent financial position temporarily I've just associated renting with being set back in life (mom has told me never to rent...I have plenty of friends that do though and they're just fine lol). I just want to be able to feel happy and relaxed around her someday. I was in a great mood while she was gone, but as soon as she walked in my whole body tensed, like I was preparing to hear it. I completely shut off to the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/15 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Advice for handling mom during household meltdowns and man-hate mode?I didn't realize how true this was until today. I was being a bit grumpy towards her since she was complaining about everything so much after she came home, so I finally texted her how I felt. Even though I was crying, she just screamed at me so angrily and didn't listen at all. It really sucks. I'm looking for a better job now and a new place. i can't do it anymore. everything is about her and how her life sucks and she just wants us to feel guilty for being her children. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/15 06:11 PM |
| 2 | CMV: If TRP doesn't work on some women, it doesn't need to.Excellent points! It seems obvious but didnt even occur to me. Thank you for the further insight. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/15 12:09 AM |
| 3 | CMV: If TRP doesn't work on some women, it doesn't need to."How can you feel attraction towards a spoiled, narcissistic, childish woman?" because attraction is attraction and it is mostly physical for men, especially if it is just for sex. more substance is obviously required for an LTR. Also, i would like to argue that the majority of us women are spoiled, narcisstic, and childish. it doesn't really matter where you are on the hotness scale. we just do an excellent job of playing special-snowflake and get men to believe that "not all women are like tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/15 07:56 PM |
| 0 | Mr Nice Guy (TM) was not created by feminism, it's a vesitage of traditionalismIf it's a random person it is even better. Random people outside her social circle are noticing how hot she is. When women say they dont like this, they are usually playing the innocent card. Women love attention. When they complain about it they get double the attention. "Oh you poor girl, men are so horrible" etc etc. As a man, i can see how it is difficult to understand...but when my female friends get together and "complain" about a random guy who was noticing them, its almost a way of sayin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/15 06:43 PM |
| 0 | Mr Nice Guy (TM) was not created by feminism, it's a vesitage of traditionalismThen please understand when a man objectifies a woman or remarks how hot she is, she actually feels sexy. Feminism tells us we shouldn't, though, because we need to be "equal" with men and "men shouldn't see us for just our looks because it's shallow and wrong" etc etc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/15 06:23 PM |
| 2 | Mr Nice Guy (TM) was not created by feminism, it's a vesitage of traditionalismThat's because women are sexual. On the contrary, men are success objects. It goes both ways. For example, show me that a lazy man who never works is accepted into society as much as a fat, unattractive woman. Actually, fat unattractive women are accepted much more frequently than the lazy man who has no job (there are even songs written about them, and they appear on magazine covers!!). If you are a woman (I'm assuming you are? if not, my apologies), then you are not understanding the way men o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/15 06:08 PM |
| 1 | Mr Nice Guy (TM) was not created by feminism, it's a vesitage of traditionalismWhere are you pulling the stat "majority of women don't identify as a feminist"? Just because women respond unfavourably to 'nice guys', it doesn't mean that men aren't being told to 'be nice'. This is engrained in every young boy as a child...treat women with respect, be nice to her, hold the doors open, pay for dinner, etc etc. Women treat "nice guys" like dirt because it doesn't fit our biological desire to have a male leader and provider. Being too "nice" is a red flag that he might not be a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/15 05:57 PM |
| 0 | Mr Nice Guy (TM) was not created by feminism, it's a vesitage of traditionalismHow are women treated like garbage in first world countries anymore? Feminism belongs in places where women truly don't have any rights. This is not the case in North America. First world countries are in favour of women, going so far as to totally screw over men in divorce, careers (gotta balance out the work place), as well as in education and politics. If you don't believe it, read "Men on Strike" by Helen Smith. I think it's time to start fighting for MEN to not be treated like shit anymore. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/15 05:45 PM |
| 2 | Mr Nice Guy (TM) was not created by feminism, it's a vesitage of traditionalismI still believe female influence is responsible for the "nice guy" syndrome due to female solopsism. Humans tend to think they want qualities similar to their own. (I.e., men claiming they want a smart independent woman and women claiming they want nice, understanding men) Being "nice" is an inherently feminine trait to begin with. Even if we blame traditionalism, where did the "nice guy" who throws himself at any women come from? Most likely from the women who thought nice guys were what they w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/15 09:44 PM |
| 5 | When to sacrifice things that weakens your future date-ability/Need help fully surrendering/Ethical Dilemmait's better to work on being your best self with your current partner. The future is not your concern unless he's a legitimately bad captain or you're not in love with him (and if you aren't then why are you with him and wasting his time?). I know how easy it is to worry that he will leave you etc, but you won't EVER fully enjoy a relationship unless you focus on the PRESENT. Enjoy what it is. Give up control. the only way you'll ever be intimate with someone is allowing yourself to be vulnerabl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/15 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Blue Pill, are you attracted to the Red Pill model of being "Beta"?IMO a happy healthy relationship isn't being my man's 2nd mother. Nagging and complaining tends to kill attraction. If my man was playing too many video games (he doesn't, i'm not attracted to those types), I would probably go over, squeeze his bicep, and state that I would love to spend some time with him...maybe in a suggestive way. or that I'd rather do something else etc. If I told him "You play too many video games", I would sound naggy, right? That would make me feel like his mom, which wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/15 02:19 AM |
| 1 | Blue Pill, are you attracted to the Red Pill model of being "Beta"?but you are implying there will be complaining in your relationship judging by the context of these comments, so i'm just wondering why there should be any complaining or nagging in a healthy, happy relationship? all that aside, we can agree to disagree, because I think women are more childish in nature and that our complaints, especially regarding our partners, are usually trivial. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/15 01:56 AM |
| 1 | Blue Pill, are you attracted to the Red Pill model of being "Beta"?i see. Please tell me why you would want to date someone that you have to complain to constantly? why do you have to stand up for yourself with your own partner? to me, that's way more unattractive than any RP behavior that offends you so much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/15 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Blue Pill, are you attracted to the Red Pill model of being "Beta"?like gaming women? spinning plates? treating women like children because they are the more emotional and childish of the genders? not taking a woman's complaints seriously because they are usually quite trivial? aka, a man standing up for himself and not taking a woman's crap. ps, imo "gaming women" and spinning plates isn't much different from plastic surgery and makeup. it's all game. it's all confidence. people are offended by it because they see it as 'cheating' | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/15 01:24 AM |
| 8 | When to sacrifice things that weakens your future date-ability/Need help fully surrendering/Ethical DilemmaI'm not saying he's perfect. i'm saying she's already made up her mind about how long this relationship is going to last if she's thinking about her future date-ability over her partner's feelings | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/15 01:21 AM |
| 7 | When to sacrifice things that weakens your future date-ability/Need help fully surrendering/Ethical Dilemmano. you're into rowing and your 'future date-ability'. By even mentioning your smv and future date-ability you're just giving yourself an excuse to be (advanced apologies) selfish | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/15 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Is it really “submissiveness” or sycophancy that TRP men desire in a woman?It's not insecurity. What actually makes a man insecure of himself is when a woman is nagging him constantly and he feels like he can't do anything right. Submission is simply acknowledging that your partner is leading, and then respecting that leadership. It has nothing to do with being clingy or emotionally needy (that is actually disrespectful and annoying). It has nothing to do with filling some ego quota. It means letting go and letting that person take the lead, and it means not nit-pickin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/15 09:50 PM |
| 2 | Blue Pill, are you attracted to the Red Pill model of being "Beta"?"The behavior red pill men do is very off putting and not something I would find attractive." ftfy: "Men who work out, take care of themselves, have confidence, stand up for their rights, and possess solid leadership skills are very off putting and not something I would find attractive." ..ok | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/15 09:23 PM |
| 11 | Boyfriend wants me to be more emotional, but I feel like it isn't his responsibility to take on my issues. Thoughts?He wants to be there for you and support you. He probably feels quite uncomfortable that you tell your friends rather than him. it really sounds like you're scared of being vulnerable with him. being vulnerable and emotional is fine, you're not offloading your burdens on him. The part that men don't like is when you start getting annoying, use him as an emotional tampon, or take it out on him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/15 02:29 PM |
| 8 | How to determine if he's ready/looking for an LTR?Yeah he soft-nexted you and you were a plate...sorry, that really sucks. Move on. Next time make it clear that you aren't seeing anyone else and only have sex once you are monogamous. He could have gotten bored, might be interested in someone else, or he's not over an ex. Whatever it is, he didn't respect you enough to explain himself. That is a major red flag---he simply wouldn't be the right leader for you in hindsight. Take some time to reflect on things you can improve, but definitely don't … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/15 07:53 PM |
| 2 | Advice Needed - Just Moved In TogetherNot to be rude, but your post was very aggressive towards him rather than what you might be doing wrong. In my opinion the problem was mostly yours, you overreacted at his requests and honestly his reasoning is probably solid (esp using cold water for dishes, much smarter). He sounds more monetarily savvy than you are too. Want him to be the leader? Stop whining that it isn't your way, getting upset over criticism, and start respecting what he wants. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/15 03:50 PM |
| 5 | Trying to better myself in the emotional availability and direct affection department. Does anybody else struggle with this?Can relate. Was raised in a "crying is bad, be strong" household. I overcame this when I saw friends of mine (they are a couple) being a bit overexplicit with their PDA. It made me uncomfortable and everyone else (they are from europe, i think it's a bit more normal over there). But one day when i was with them he announced "I love this girl, and she is coming with me on my next trip!". That is when it really hit me. I thought...wow, it must be so nice to be so openly affectionate with one anoth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/15 06:19 AM |
| 8 | I need some advice on a rough spot in my relationshipDefinitely sociopathic. You lost your virginity to him so you may be clingy and unaware of these massive red flags (I can relate, trust me). Ask yourself this simple question: Can i live my whole life this way, without a doubt? I think that question is answered since you have so many doubts already. And the animal roadkill thing???? Dealbreaker imo. My boyfriend coos over my (rather annoying and derpy) dog more than I do. He would never hurt an animal and has a genuine sincerity with those aroun… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/15 05:59 AM |
| 5 | Question to the women here. What made you choose the red pillAbsolutely this...society is conditioning men to avoid leadership. They are creating little boys and narcissistic women. TRP promotes leadership and masculinity. That is far more attractive than snivelling boys who put up with a woman's shite. However, I always thought the masculine guys were assholes and that I should stay away from them at all costs. Turns out masculinity keeps me in check with myself, creates attraction in a relationship, and makes me feel more feminine and happy overall. Lik… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/15 07:33 PM |
| 3 | RPW and proposalsIt's hard not to worry, and I can sympathize with where you're coming from. However, if you said everything else is 100% great, then keep doing what you're doing. It's most likely that he meant it...unless he's shown behaviour where he promises something important and then goes against his word. If this was the case, however, I highly doubt you would still be with him. From the sounds of it, you really love and trust him. Put yourself at ease and don't let your anxiety create any hiccups. Relax,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/15 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Advice for handling mom during household meltdowns and man-hate mode?Great advice...will do my best to not feed the negative behaviour and start getting my act together in terms of finding another living situation! It really is like a shit test, you're right. :/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/15 07:22 PM |
| 3 | Help! I'm a newbie who is separated.I know right? :) I feel so lucky that this place even exists! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/15 07:24 PM |
| 2 | Advice for handling mom during household meltdowns and man-hate mode?Thank you! Yes, distance is probably the best solution. I will see where things go in the next year...I heard relationships between parents and their children improve when there's some distance between them, haha. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/15 07:24 PM |
| 5 | Help! I'm a newbie who is separated.Seconding this...thank you for all your wisdom on this sub, seriously. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/15 07:15 PM |
| 3 | [UPDATE] Bedroom Situation Starting to Decline, I'm Not Sure How to Handle It.Fantastic...the fact that you weren't nagging him or getting emotional about it about it probably turned the situation around. Good work! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/15 07:12 PM |
| 1 | Advice for handling mom during household meltdowns and man-hate mode?Thank you for your reply. I feel as though she would actually see this as offensive, and resort to "You don't know how hard my life is" and "You've never been a mother, you can't say this, I've done so much for you". Maybe if I reword the above it would work. I'm not sure. The problem right now is that I teach piano at home on the side from freelancing, so it's my main source of income. So unless I find another place with adequate studio space, it's going to be hard to move locations. Budget is … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/15 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Advice for handling mom during household meltdowns and man-hate mode?Exactly, I can't change who she is...especially after she spent almost half her life running so many businesses. My mom victimized herself a lot too and made us feel awful all the time. I get anxiety when she's home, or when I hear her sigh or complain or yell. I never want to be like that. Great advice, thank you. I think I'll go back to keeping a journal and reviewing my reactions at the end of the day to keep myself on top of my behaviour. I love my mom, but I do not want to react like she do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/15 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Advice for handling mom during household meltdowns and man-hate mode?You are amazing, thank you so incredibly much for taking the time to respond. This really hit home with me and now I don't feel so bad that I go silent. I won't jump in and help when she complains so wildly, because I agree...that just shows her that every time she has a meltdown it's okay. Yes, it does become ingrained in you...a few years ago I noticed how much I emulated my mom's behaviour. I was miserable over the smallest messes people would leave. Now I realize how silly it is. Deep down, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/15 07:01 PM |
| 3 | Advice for handling mom during household meltdowns and man-hate mode?Very true. It's sad. I just want her to relax and be happy. A few household mishaps shouldn't ruin her day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/15 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Advice for handling mom during household meltdowns and man-hate mode?Thanks for your response! I will try this today (pretty sure her complaining will come up again, she's just in an awful mood). It might help lighten her mood. And if it totally offends her I'll just take a deep breath and walk away. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/15 06:55 PM |
| 2 | Advice for handling mom during household meltdowns and man-hate mode?Because I am more than certain she will become even more angry and hostile and add me to her list of complaints. She may try to blow it up into a massive argument. I wouldn't fight back, but it would definitely make me emotional. It doesn't seem worth the time or energy(?). Don't you think she'll take my honesty as disrespect, or see it as me being unable to understand how she's "such a victim" and how her life is so hard yadada....? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/15 12:01 AM |
| 1 | Woman is thinking of making her husband a 'list of chores' before he gets a blowjob.Yeah, but if he is a loser, she still chose him---and chooses to stay. Therefore she's enabling this behaviour. She has literally chosen to treat him like a little kid and discipline him for not doing his part, rather than seeing him as a full-grown man and treating him as one. | /r/TheRedPill | 31/05/15 09:52 PM |
| 6 | How do I go about another woman threatening our relationship?Exactly this. If you really cared about him, I think six months would have driven you mad enough to make sacrifices on the career end so you could go be with him. But three years? And you're actually surprised this is happening? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/15 06:55 PM |
| 4 | Week of 5/25: Weekly Goal Thread!Pasted from evernote since my girl friend and I are doing this together weekly :) General: Keep a positive, happy mindset. Be grateful for everything and everyone you are blessed with. Laugh more and focus on loving This is also "monk mode" week for work...aka not making many social plans until my freelance work is complete. Personal: 3 to 4 liters of water per day Floss daily Vitamins every morning! 7 to 8 hours of sleep per night Daily exercise Vegetables and protein with every meal Matcha ins… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/15 06:51 PM |
| 5 | What are some some things that you do to to increase your femininity/sexuality?Seconding this. Putting effort into your appearance everyday is quite important. However, I'm trying to make my makeup more natural and working on my bare face as much as possible. My partner hates heavy makeup, so I've been fine-tuning the bare essentials (improving skin quality, only using dots of concealer under my eyes/over redness rather than full on foundation, good eyebrow/mascara application, cleanly drawn eyeliner). It's tough but well-worth it! But yeah, men are very used to seeing wom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/15 06:38 PM |
| 1 | field reportAmazing. What? Thus far in life, I have always thought of a relationship just "Being what it is" and either 2 people work, or they dont work. Basically, I have taken 0 responsibility for anything that happens in a relationship, because "It's just how I am". This was me as well. Blamed PMS for my moods, and if a relationship didn't work it was that person, it had nothing to do with me. Being the victim, the martyr, and the woman who "just deserves better" and is waiting for "Someone to step up to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/15 06:31 PM |
| 2 | How do you not panic when SO doesn't message me at all during the day?I went through something similar. Had to realize two things: Understand that the majority of men are not avid texters like (most) women and get annoyed when they're expected to text 24/7 (in the beginning you both messaged all day since it was the honeymoon phase). Realize that your dependency & need for him to text you is selfish and you should have better things to do anyway. Honestly, I think it means you need to put your phone away and put yourself to better use. That will create more attrac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/15 06:03 PM |
| 4 | Negative Effects of Withholding Intimacy?As they should be, sadly enough. Marriage should be the most fulfilling and beautifully interdepent relationship in a person's life...but it's rarely that now-a-days and ends up being a selfish game usually on the woman's side... I also just read that post on observations in Japan, and it just confirms how screwed men are in the majority of marriages... Thankfully, one of my adult students in her 60s has a beautiful marriage that I always look up to. She is so incredibly supportive of him and vi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/15 07:20 PM |
| 5 | Negative Effects of Withholding Intimacy?That was an amazing read. Saved it. Reminds me of my mom's social circle. It's made up of divorced women, and I know a couple of them let themselves stay with men who mistreated them for a long time...but I know for an absolute fact that there are a large handful who were simply shrews and selfish partners. I even observed this growing up as a kid, and it would make me quite uncomfortable. One of the divorced ladies is very overweight, used to complain about and ridicule her husband nonstop thro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/15 07:06 PM |
| 6 | Trying to do it all and feeling discouraged. Could use someone to talk to maybe.Social media makes me feel the same way. This is why I hate facebook and instagram in particular. The other posters are right: it's all a show, and those photos are just for validation from strangers. These people could actually be in shambles, and they are anything but our role models-- the fact that they must post how 'perfect' they are online just shows how backwards their priorities are. You sound like you're doing amazing, to be honest, and that your expectations of yourself are simply extr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/15 06:44 PM |
| 3 | Week of 5/17: Weekly Goal Thread!I've been slacking on keeping up with housework/chores too. It's so difficult to remember after a busy day, but putting in that small amount of effort makes a huge difference. It also means you're not stuck with a junkyard at the end of the week that takes two hours to clean. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/15 03:32 AM |
| 6 | Week of 5/17: Weekly Goal Thread!This is going to be a tough week, but I really want to step up my game! RELATIONSHIPS: Be loving and kind to my mom and sister. Don't bring a bad mood to the table. Take mom and sister out for lunch when they're free. Listen and understand before speaking with friends, family, etc. Don't talk at people, talk with them. While my SO is busy, be patient and understanding. Cook at least two meals and help out whenever I can. Make dreamcatchers on our day off like he wants to :) Definitely don't get … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/15 10:43 PM |
| 12 | Five thingsWhile your list is true and necessary for a successful relationship, I think it's even more important to not be a thorn in your partner's side at any point. Be supportive, loving, and caring. Listen and don't add to any problems. Maturity and respect go a long, long way. If I were a guy and my woman did all the above things, but was incredibly annoying and caused a lot of drama, I don't think I'd be very happy. Unfortunately most couples just complain about each other. I get a little depressed o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/15 09:11 PM |
| 12 | Why are there so few RPW subscribers compared to TRP?I feel the same, in the sense that I have more power over myself as an individual. The fact that I had to exert it on other people in the past (grumpiness, needing to wear the 'pants' in relationships, being entitled) just meant I had insecurities I wasn't willing to face. I think RPW will continue to be a fairly unpopular sub. It means being honest with yourself and reevaluating your life. It also means not being in control of your partner and whipping him to do your bidding, which most women a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/15 08:58 PM |
| 2 | Stop Swearing, Complaining or GossipingWhooaa I want to try this this week! It'll go on my weekly goals. Thanks! :) I complain and gossip too frequently still...after the words escape my mouth and I realize it I feel so silly. It's a waste of breath, really! | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/15 08:01 PM |
| 2 | Week of 5/10: Weekly Goal Thread!Taking some time today to review my goals and self-critique. :) 1. Exercise daily again - I exercised every day this week, even went on a 25 min run on Saturday. Feels amazing, though I'm a little tired and need to be better about getting enough rest. 2. Finish my freelance work and become involved in the art community again, practice diligently and work through Scott Robertson's "How To Draw" book - I made decent good progress on two of my freelance illustrations, however, I did not study the b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/15 07:43 PM |
| 2 | When to say "I love you"?I just wanted to say thank you for this awesome post. I was overthinking the entire thing, feeling too nervous to say it and being afraid of coming across desperate or being too 'vulnerable'. But now I know we have to accept vulnerability in a relationship, or there won't be a relationship to begin with. "When you with him, happy and you feel thankful to have him in your life - just let the warmth of that emotion guide your voice." When the feeling is genuinely there...there is no better time to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/15 07:26 PM |
| 3 | Long distance ways to show my worthAll these ideas are fantastic! Distance is really difficult to handle at times, especially after you grow accustomed to each other's company. I think I agree most with not being overbearing in text messaging. Don't be annoying, don't create drama, and keep yourself busy in a positive, attractive way. When you genuinely miss him, say so, and don't seek attention or shit-test him to see if he misses you too. It's really tempting to do this when you're apart, and I think it crosses every girl's min… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/15 07:21 PM |
| 5 | Week of 5/10: Weekly Goal Thread!My sister and I just spent three days preparing & cooking for a huge turkey dinner for mothers day, as well as a big breakfast for her too. I'm definitely feeling a little out of my normal routine! Three days off from exercising makes me feel quite awful (I should've done some at-home workouts before bed or something). Exercise daily again! Finish my freelance work and become involved in the art community again, practice diligently and work through Scott Robertson's "How To Draw" book Be more st… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/15 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Did I make the right decision?That's so sweet...:( Yeah...maybe less than five minutes...it sucked majorly and I felt so neglected... thanks for taking the time to reply! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/15 03:03 AM |
| 3 | Did I make the right decision?Yeah you're right, it's true, I just miss having a man around. Time to just work on myself and go meet new guys i suppose, dwelling won't solve anything. :/ Thanks for the reply, the confirmation that I made the right decision really helps on these days that I'm second-guessing it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/15 12:00 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend's low libido early in a relationship and lack of time being spent togetherThanks so much, this is exactly what it is! And you know what, I ended up talking to him about it politely and he said that he's going to put in more effort! He's been very busy and actually thought I've been too tired too--he said that he has the impression that girls don't want it as much as guys do and he was trying to not be pushy. So...now I'll just hope that things turn around from here and be patient :) Lol you're so right though, I definitely have 'honeymoon hangover'...hahaha. Great way… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/14 05:55 AM |
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