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I am feeling really guilty now with having sex with him, i almost feel like i fucked it up? Maybe, maybe not. Guys *really* do like it when you like them, and by sleeping with him you've made your feelings clear. The tradcons can clutch their pearls, but if it ends up working out with this guy, you've already proved to him that you're into him which can mean a lot to him. There's a great post on here somewhere about four types of men and how you can get a higher tier guy by taking a risk and sle…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 03:37 AM
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Just practically, if he was with his ex for 8 years, it will be hard for him to talk about a lot of his life without bringing her up. So it could be as simple as that, and if that's the case, it will fade over time as he builds his life without her. When it comes up you can say that it makes you sad to hear him talk about her because you're worried about your inexperience in LTRs. Just be careful not to let your sadness turn into anger or telling him that he needs to do something about it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/22 03:06 AM
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Could you give an example or two of the situations where you get frustrated? If you actually have information that he's looking for, you don't have to let him stumble around looking for it. Sometimes you can just say "hey this is what I did last time," and then drop it unless he asks more questions. For big picture stuff it seems like you wouldn't be able to already know the answer, because you'd be asking what his ideas and preferences are.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/22 02:18 AM
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Even if you have more local or practical knowledge in an area, you can ask for his input on the higher level decisions like what the goal or overall direction should be and then use your knowledge to fill in all the small decisions that lead toward those overall goals.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/22 01:25 AM
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Step one is to see him again, step two is to be enjoyable to be around again. Then repeat. Give him 3-4 days to see if he texts you, but if he doesn't, text him and invite him to do something. Don't bring up that he didn't text you, just say "hey do you want to do xyz sometime this week?" I know it can be easy to go crazy thinking that he might not be that into you or that he changed his mind, but he could also just actually be busy or trying not to seem too eager. Your best next steps are the s…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/22 01:00 AM
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Do you have any idea why he does this even though he knows it bothers you?
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/22 05:14 AM
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Can you be more specific about why you are resentful/hurt? Like, are you worried that he's not very attracted to you? Or you feel like you're making more of an effort than he is and it's unfair? Or something else?
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/22 04:37 AM
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About 8 years ago I lost a boyfriend who I had expected to be with for my whole life. What comforted me the most was to spend time with his close friends and share stories about him. It gave me a chance to talk about him to a very invested audience and hear new stories about him that felt so familiar as the person I had loved. Other than that, there was really nothing that made it better except time. Try to stay hydrated. Let yourself sleep as much as you can. Go outside every day. I'm so sorry …
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/22 04:14 AM
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It's not about empathy. Recording a conversation with someone, editing it down to the worst parts, and playing it back to them isn't a good strategy for improving your relationship with that person or getting them to listen to what you have to say, especially if they're already set in such a negative and non growth minded way of thinking. It's the kind of thing that feels righteous and vindicating to say that you would do in that situation, but it never actually plays out the way that it did in …
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/22 12:42 AM
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Have you personally ever recorded a conversation with someone and then played it back to that person?
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/22 12:01 AM
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That's a good way to make him feel attacked.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/22 06:42 PM
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I'm not sure I could do it. I specifically vetted for a smart guy so I could avoid that situation 😬
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 09:38 PM
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If I were you, I would move in with him and not push for the engagement. But moving in with him when you aren't ready because some internet stranger told you to would be doing him a disservice. You are hesitant on this and that is reasonable too. So I would say that you should reflect on why you are hesitant. Are you afraid that he would take advantage of you? That you would be judged by your family/social circle? That he would wait too long and you'd have trouble having kids? Whatever the issue…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/22 04:06 AM
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Trying to do some kind of nice gesture after a fight feels like trying to make up for or erase the fight. To me that reads as forcing one or both of you to get over it when you're not over it. In my experience, you can do something nice and pretend everything is fine for a while but the same or a similar issue will come up again. If it were truly resolved, you wouldn't have the lingering insecurity and need to do something "extra." Please take this with a grain of salt, that's is just how the si…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/22 03:17 AM
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We're not here to LARP as trad wives, we're here to talk about what is effective and not effective for creating happy lives for ourselves. This sub isn't so much about a list of rules to follow to be "good," as it's about principles to understand and apply. For examples, what qualities to you have that you feel conflict with red pill "teachings"?
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 03:04 AM
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I am not sure what your question is. Going into a first date without expectations or agendas is a good thing. You really don't know what people are like until you meet them in person, so if you don't end up liking a guy and decide not to go on a second date with him, that's ok, it's part of the process.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/21 01:21 AM
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I'm seriously so bad at detecting that!
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 11:41 PM
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I'm not really an expert in guy to guy relations, but it seems like usually they're more competitive but playful with each other. They respect competence so they like to compete with each other, but if one of them is truly better at something they'll both know and accept that. They don't usually go around picking fights and trying to completely grind each other into the dirt. Why are you asking this here? Is there something you want to change in your life or are you just curious?
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 11:31 PM
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Why do you think you feel so aggressive towards men you don't like? Why not just ignore them?
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 11:17 PM
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If you want to have a long lasting/lifelong relationship with a man, "oneitis" is actually a good thing. The problem here is with your vetting. You've just picked a guy at random instead of finding one who you really love and can see yourself being with happily for the rest of your life. Do you feel like you were just desperate to be in a relationship? I would suggest not investing emotionally in people you haven't met in real life.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 11:14 PM
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It sounds like you want attention from these men but don't know how to interact with them. And now that you've gotten into a pattern that does get some kind of reaction from them, you keep escalating. Edit: this isn't how guys usually behave toward each other, unless they are very insecure.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 11:01 PM
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Even if you are waiting until marriage to have sex, make sure you pick a man that you are very attracted to, that takes your willpower to keep waiting. If you find it easy to "make him wait" you are wasting both of your time. This is sort of "no duh" advice, but if you're trying to not have sex right away it can feel easy and natural to date a guy you're not actually all that attracted to. Once you are in a relationship, be aware of patterns that build you up together and ones that tear you both…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 04:43 AM
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You could plan a game night via zoom with his friends, if you think that is something he would enjoy. My friends and I do this pretty often and it's a lot of fun. Jackbox has some good party games.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 02:18 AM
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Consider that the reason this kind of post is not allowed in this sub is partially because the men in charge of both RPW and TRP believe that it is bad for you. Do you understand why they think that?
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/21 10:36 PM
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Why are you asking this here and not in r/asktrp?
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/21 09:17 PM
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True, I won't say to never do this kind of thing, because I can see how it can be fun and harmless. But more generally, consider that the reason something like this would be very sexy to a man is precisely because it wasn't a "move." Just don't overthink it, be genuine with him. ♥️
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/21 08:57 PM
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Putting your panties in a guy's pocket at dinner isn't some magic trick you use to keep him interested. It's something that a woman who is really turned on might do completely spontaneously because she was crazy for the guy. But it's such a trope now that it instantly gives me cringey/manipulative/insecure vibes. You can't plan that kind of thing in advance.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/21 05:34 PM
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My SO and I really enjoy racquetball, we have a community membership at our local University for like $60/year. It was a little slow at first but now that I am getting better we can really play, so it's pretty fast. (I have some serious welts from not getting out of the way, haha.)
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/19 04:15 AM
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She's already seen anything that's on there, so you might as well accept that. If you don't want her to see any more, I recommend that you delete your Facebook account. It's basically garbage anyways. Be aware that Facebook games are essentially gambling, and people with gambling addictions, like any other addiction, are not to be trusted. You have to decide if you trust your boyfriend's judgement. If you do, then really trust him and stop worrying about BS like this. If you don't, just break up…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/19 03:59 AM
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I drive a Porsche myself Haha, I remembered that, and I hoped you wouldn't take offense (why was I even worried?) But yeah, it's the way she says it, like anyone with their life half together can't buy one if they want. I know they can be nice driver's cars though. We can talk about men who are "high-value" in general, because it turns out there's a lot of overlap in women's tastes I think there are some traits, like stoicism, that are never not attractive, but I try to push back against the ter…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/19 03:34 AM
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Yeah but he drove a Porsche. /s (I bet he financed it though 🤢)
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/19 06:05 AM
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It's the lottery thing where people like to use their lucky numbers. I was just joking around, but I don't see Meyers Briggs types as being very useful.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/19 10:09 PM
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I'm an aquarius and my powerball number is 11-22-33-44-55-06.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/19 05:11 PM
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Me too. I think it's made me pretty sensitive (maybe overly so) to people trying to push me around/get me to do something without just asking.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 02:32 PM
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He could be able to get sex without paying for it but just not want to bother, especially if his time is worth a lot. It's not the paying for sex but the needing to pay to have sex that indicates he isn't good with women. It could still be a red flag morally depending on your values, but that's a different issue.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 05:38 PM
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So.. what you're saying is that you know how to attract gross clingy guys... And your bragging about it? I don't want to date a guy I have to push away with a broom handle.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 05:13 PM
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A "high value man" (I don't really like that term but I know what you mean) might pay for sex, but he wouldn't try to date the prostitute after.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 05:04 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/OutOfTheLoop/comments/4uaajk/is_there_a_story_behind_ufuckswithducks/ The world is a big, weird place.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 07:52 PM
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She probably doesn't know how to talk about her kinks with him other than to basically brag about what she's done with other guys, but intuitively knows that's dumb (obviously). That is the strategy that is modeled by mostly the only women who talk about their sex lives publicly though. At least that I've seen ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 07:44 PM
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I didn't say it was, I just said be careful, think carefully about it. Focus on vetting and building your relationship with him first because that's really foundational in helping your future kids to learn what a healthy relationship is. Kids take their parents as the primary example of what is normal.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 07:08 PM
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Maybe chicken salad? I especially like curry chicken salad. You could also experiment with some kind of Greek pasta salad but with veggie noodles?
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 04:58 PM
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Don't try to push a guy who's still in high school to act like the SO's of most of the posters you read about here. He has to figure himself out, you can't do it for him. You're trying to be too serious too young and neither of you are ready for that. Looking good is less about a one time "glow up" and more about habits that make you look healthy and show that you have self respect.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 04:49 PM
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If you're meeting so many guys that you're not interested in, you should reevaluate how you find them so you can up your chances of actually finding one you like.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 02:36 PM
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Be careful that you're not with him just because you want kids. What do you like about him?
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 02:29 PM
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I showed up, looked cute, and laughed at his jokes. Really I think mostly what I did was have the same values as him, which isn't something you can or should fake. Make sure the guy does know that you're enjoying spending time with him. Smile, laugh, show an interest in things he talks about, make plans to see him again.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 02:16 PM
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Do something hard that doesn't depend on your physical attractiveness or intelligence. I 100% agree.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/19 02:29 PM
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You did not look "anorexic" at 170lbs. I am also 5'10" and to get thin enough that people might start to worry, I think I'd have to get under ~120lbs. Your weight is up to you, but you are overweight and people tend to perceive that as sloppy. Maybe you do look gorgeous to the person who told you that, but maybe they have low standards, or maybe they just said that so that they could feel supportive and good about themselves. It doesn't matter, the reason you have trouble believing them is becau…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 05:14 PM
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😇
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/19 12:25 AM
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I hate the phrase "a real man does/is [blank]." Men exist for their own purposes, not just to be our husbands. If you say "I would like a man who does/is [blank]" that's reasonable, but the guys who don't fit the criteria aren't doing anything wrong, they are making choices they think are in their own best interests, as we all do. Also, all guys have a soft side. True, for some guys that side is the outside, which you probably don't want, but for the others, just because they don't show you does…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/19 12:45 PM
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Uh... I do, haha. That's the dirty part!
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 08:20 PM
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My SO has said exactly that florals remind him of old ladies. :( I think they're cute.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 07:39 PM
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What would happen if you just didn't plan anything? He might not be much of a plan ahead type, at least for his free time. My SO will rarely ever suggest an activity more than a couple hours beforehand. My tendency is to over plan everything but it's much more fun to just see how the day unfolds.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 05:09 AM
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I really enjoy her videos. Even though I'm not religious, I think she has a good message, and I like her aesthetic.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/19 04:20 AM
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I took a screenshot: https://i.imgur.com/fZyugOG.jpg Based on the reviews you don't want this one anyways, it seems to have bad quality control.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/19 05:27 AM
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100% agree. If you actually want to learn something, read the book.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 05:55 PM
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Screw the bitch. I've found this to never be a useful reaction. "The other person is in the wrong" might be true, but it's not a plan, stewing about it can get in the way of you actually thinking about a plan, and having this as your default reaction can cause you to lash out/stoop to the other person's level before you think about it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/18 11:54 PM
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So, she's rude. People are rude sometimes. Don't argue with her or get defensive or be snarky and offended. Just express your genuine sadness that she is choosing to belittle you for doing something that you are really excited for and have thought a lot about. I'd be interested to hear what your husband thought of the conversation with her today, since you said he seemed uncomfortable. Why do you think he was? When relating to your husband you are not going to get anywhere fun by trying to contr…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/18 11:38 PM
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If she starts trying to control his interactions with coworkers he is definitely going to start having doubts about having kids with her.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/18 11:19 PM
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Every so often I'm able to say something that hits my SO just right and gets him laughing really hard, but it's usually not something I'm saying to be funny, I'm just being super earnest and saying something he finds adorable but unexpected. For example when I moved into his house I rearranged the kitchen because it was mostly only my stuff in there (he's a chicken broccoli rice kind of guy, it was pretty bare before). So I was explaining where I put everything and I said something like "and thi…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 08:15 PM
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I like your username. :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 06:26 PM
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It's not about what's acceptable, it's about what is and isn't a good idea. I'm this situation, OP's lack of trust in her husband could possibly drive him away, leading to him cheating or just leaving her. I'm all for people looking out for their own future, but I don't think that OP's financial maneuvering is her best course towards a happy future.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 04:55 AM
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What I'm hearing is that you don't trust your husband (or men in general). It sounds like you are not willing to be vulnerable with him.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 04:44 AM
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https://youtu.be/LO1mTELoj6o If you can, make a big change in your life to try to snap yourself into a better routine. Move to a different city, get a new hobby and get really really into it, get a job you don't have to think about at all outside of work, get rid of all your clothes and buy yourself three outfits you love and then only wear those, etc. Depression is a habit you have to break.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 07:22 AM
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I just use soap and water with a sponge. My SO hates any added smell so I use unscented Dr. Bronner's.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 06:51 AM
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I anthropomorphize our robot vacuum so much. It seems so earnest!
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 06:42 AM
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SantaMonicaMonica on YouTube has a very feminine and family oriented vibe. I don't agree with her on absolutely everything and I don't know if she would identify with or even know what RPW is, but she seems sweet and thoughtful.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 03:29 AM
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Getting enough sleep made a huge difference for my skin and how approachable I act.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 07:19 PM
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Yeah, I hate to tell people not to reach out to someone who might need it, but this sounds like a good way to collect an orbiter.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/18 09:16 PM
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Sometimes guys are more willing to talk about their problems with other guys. Do you have a mutual male friend who you could ask to keep an eye on him and maybe talk about his diet with him?
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/18 09:15 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/1tjcbg/ltr_game_maintaining_frame/ The 8 articles together cover a lot of it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 07:30 PM
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I think in person is usually best. Try not to do it when there's a time limit like a movie time or dinner reservation, but before a more casual date is probably a good time. It's nice to have some activity to go do afterwards to ease any awkwardness, or take advantage of any close bonded feelings. This is kind of a fine line to walk because on the one hand your want to let him know what's going on with you - he can't help problems he doesn't know about - but on the other hand you don't want to b…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 06:39 PM
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TBH I don't really see a problem. You like him, he likes you, just keep doing what you're doing. I wouldn't bring it up with him if you can get over it, but I definitely wouldn't recommend hiding it if you can't get over it. If you are going to talk to him, be vulnerable, tell him that you're scared that you ruined something in the relationship, don't imply that it's his fault at all. You're maybe a little shaken up from being injured too. It's sort of blowing my mind to see all the people here …
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 06:04 PM
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Do we have to sign out? I was just going to not go to the website. Ultimately, private companies can do what they want, but we as consumers can tell them when they do something we don't like and go someplace else if they don't listen.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 05:32 PM
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From your description, probably yes. Are those really the things that you are looking for in a guy? What would you expect long term from that kind of relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 05:17 PM
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It's great that you've found a guy that you're really attracted to. So far does he seem like a good guy? Have you thought much about what you're looking for in a guy?
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 06:30 PM
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If it's something really yummy I'll just have a small amount of it, but a lot of what helps me say no to junk food is to remind myself that I don't actually like most of it. A lot of junk food is made to look appealing but it tastes sort of gross. I just imagine eating it and how after the first bite it's really not rewarding at all and probably makes me feel sick.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 12:33 PM
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If you don't trust him to be the one who has the power, then I think you should stop talking to him and try not to think about him. If you just always want to be the one who has more power, then I would advise you that this is a great way to turn men you are attracted to into men you aren't attracted to, and also a great way to add a lot of fights and drama to your life.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 12:00 PM
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I've seen it work with men who are more family-oriented/traditional, or men who are already keen on marriage. From what I've seen, these types of men get married in spite of this strategy, not because of it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 10:34 AM
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Well, "toxic masculinity" would imply that there is masculinity that isn't toxic, but the people who use that phrase don't really believe that, and what they use as an example of non toxic masculinity just isn't masculinity at all. So the feminism that isn't "malignant feminism" doesn't really have to be feminism at all, it can be like, floral arranging or something.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/18 03:27 PM
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Ha. Hahahaha. Did you just use the "real men don't" bait unironicly?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 03:55 PM
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You see a lot of tradcon stuff here because a lot of the women who find us and stay have varying levels of tradcon values, but it's not necessary in order to apply rpw ideas to your life.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/18 09:06 PM
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Bananas are less than $0.50/lb here in the Northeast US. Apples are cheap too but we grow them here so maybe they aren't cheap everywhere. Regardless, the amount of time it actually takes to cook beans and rice is probably less than waiting in a drive through line during the dinner rush.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 06:10 PM
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You should check out Richard Perkins on YouTube, he makes really interesting videos on small farming. https://youtu.be/nEQRjMb0Q_Y
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 03:09 PM
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Not wanting to sound dumb is a form of not wanting to make yourself vulnerable. It's a totally normal feeling to have and it's definitely warranted with some people, but with your SO you want to get to a place where you're not afraid to be vulnerable. It can be hard, I definitely still have to work on it, but it's so rewarding. The only way I know to work on this is faking it until you make it. When you have a choice between hiding part of yourself (for example: your lack of knowledge about a pa…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/18 09:21 PM
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Guys do like that wide eyed innocence and enthusiasm, I try to keep as much of mine as I can.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/18 08:59 PM
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Why do you feel like you need to catch up to him? Do you feel like he looks down on you for not knowing as much as him? Guys like to feel that they have something to offer you, he probably enjoys when you ask him questions that he has an answer for. I wish I was with someone who is going through the same things as I am so we can learn and grow together This sounds like you are not feeling emotionally close to him. Do you ever feel like you don't want to ask a question because you don't want to l…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/18 08:56 PM
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Personally I have always been really suspicious of guys who give even a few compliments, especially generic ones. Words are cheap.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/18 04:38 AM
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https://www.epicurious.com/recipes/food/views/Linguine-with-Chicken-and-Sun-Dried-Tomatoes-102868 I love making this and it smells amazing with all the basil.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/18 04:26 PM
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I think the best way to show commitment is to work towards living in the same city ASAP.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 08:44 PM
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Yes leave it at home! I have this same problem. I've moved the charger from my night stand to the kitchen so that I don't use my phone before bed or first thing in the morning anymore and I've deleted apps that I spend too much time on or don't add value to my life. If you have an iPhone, check out the app Feedless if you use Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram a lot (I haven't used it because they don't have it for Android sadly). I also put my phone in another room for dinner and when my boyfrien…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 05:42 PM
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I think it helps us learn the lesson of "almost nobody thinks they're the bad guy."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/18 03:07 PM
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I was never really bullied. I suspect that I was a bully sometimes. I don't remember much of my thought process but I assume it was just massive insecurity. But in high school I spent all night on the computer, slept for an hour on the bus, and then spent school in a sleep deprived haze. Any energy I did have I spent being angsty about being told what to do by adults, so I never had energy to have a problem either way with the other students. Edit: I didn't date until the very end of high school…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/18 02:38 PM
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Yeah but there's lots of people I'd sell a house to that I wouldn't have kids with.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 09:23 PM
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Sure. Apparently I'm the only one.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 06:52 PM
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The best help you can give to other women especially is just to be a good example.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 03:39 PM
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No, I don't really care, but I think my SO wants it for the social benefits.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 03:28 PM
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I would bet that women are more risk averse than men cross-culturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/18 03:18 PM
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Even if it's in good faith (I believe you), I also would feel uncomfortable speaking negatively about my SO. It feels like a breach of trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/18 06:53 PM
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Maybe this is too simplistic but my first reaction is to say that if they try to force the issue, they aren't your friend and they should be demoted to acquaintance at the most. So if a guy keeps trying to start chatty text conversations I would let them fizzle out by not replying promptly or with a lot of detail. (I don't usually text other than to make plans, ask a specific question, etc. anyway which makes this easier I think) If he asks something that's outright too personal I would probably…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/18 06:21 PM
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It doesn't seem like English is your first language. Are you able to talk to him in a language you both speak fluently? If you can't communicate clearly, you're going to have a hard time fixing problems. In general, don't try to force a guy to "solve problems in your way." He will feel trapped and pull away. Also in general, let guys have their privacy on their phones. Pressuring them to let you see won't improve any situation. But in this case, it doesn't sound like it's worth fixing. There's n…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/18 06:03 PM
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What may help you is thinking about what kind of person you are looking for, so you can figure out what kind of person they would be looking for and use that as your goal.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 02:38 PM
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I think you can be "just friends" but I don't think you can be very close friends and spend a lot of time together one on one without at least one of you wanting more. People get into trouble when they pretend the possibility of a romantic relationship doesn't exist, because then they aren't careful about setting and respecting boundaries. For the friendship to work, you have to keep a certain amount of physical and emotional distance, and it helps if the guy is on the same page about keeping th…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 03:48 AM
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Maybe you're just getting asked out in the wrong places? How have you met them? I dunno :(
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 03:05 PM
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Hmm :/ Do you notice any common patterns with the guys you date? (I edited my previous comment to be more clear) are you in a big city? What kinds of activities are your social circle into?
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 11:26 AM
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What other things are you looking for in a guy? Financial instability would probably be a deal breaker for me. Maybe you just have bad luck, but since you've dated a lot I wonder if there's something you're selecting for that you could change to find more commitment minded guys.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 11:07 AM
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I broke up with him and decided to pursue men who would be more fun, outgoing and experienced, in an attempt to change my boring self and my boring life. They aren't going to want to date you if you're boring and bitter. Partying and sleeping around probably won't make you interesting if you aren't already. Do you have any hobbies?
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/18 10:58 AM
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I would be more worried about finding a guy who shares your values and also wants his kids to be homeschooled. Then he will already be motivated to earn enough money to provide for his goal. What you want to avoid is asking him to earn and spend a lot of money on things that aren't his goals. Also, like others have said, homeschooling doesn't have to be crazy expensive.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/18 06:15 PM
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Might have a case of mild oneitis Just as a side note, oneitis is a problem for guys but it's ok for women. We don't really use that term much on this sub because you should be looking for a guy that you feel this way about.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/18 06:02 PM
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I was going to say the same thing. I grew up skiing and I specifically don't try to get better at snowboarding so that I can always go have fun with people who are beginners.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/18 04:41 AM
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I do this for anybody I drop off. Same, but I think I learned it from my bus drivers growing up, waiting to make sure that us kids got into the house ok.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/18 02:17 PM
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Asking him who he is texting all the time isn't respectful. It seems like your attitude of "I do everything for him" is not helping you at all. If you think he doesn't deserve you then just leave. If you don't want to leave then you might as well try to make the relationship better. And if you want to do that, my advice is to stop thinking about what he should do or what's fair. Stop keeping score. Just try to be someone he enjoys spending time with.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 09:41 PM
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You don't put your trust in someone all at once. Start with little things and work your way up.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 08:33 PM
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Matter to who? It matters to the woman because she still has to fight those urges so it's better for her if she can set her life up so that they are less strong to non-existent.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 08:24 PM
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/shrug. I think there's too many factors to try to predict how the future will look, I'll adapt to it when it gets here. When the mgtows say that sex bots will replace women, they are mostly just indulging in a revenge fantasy.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 08:13 PM
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It's more that we accept AWALT and discuss ways to use it for good and limit the bad parts. The thinking is that you have to be honest with yourself about your current situation in order to improve it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 08:07 PM
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So if I say that he should do x y and z, what are you going to do? Tell him that some person on the internet said he has to do x y and z? That doesn't seem like me helping you, that seems like me getting you into a fight. If you try to force him to do something, he's other going to not do it, or do it resentfully. I think a better way is to be someone that he wants to do stuff for.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 07:56 PM
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Why do you want him to throw the trash bag away? (I'm not saying you shouldn't care, I'm just trying to get to the root of what you actually want.)
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 07:30 PM
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Are you replying to my comment? You've put this as a reply to your own original post. If you want to reply to a comment, click the reply button below that comment so that it will indent properly and your conversations with different people will stay in the right order. I'm going to assume you were talking to me though. You seem to be new to this subreddit. One of the ideas that come up a lot is that it's not much help to focus on what the guy should or shouldn't do in a relationship, because you…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 07:20 PM
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What does he usually eat? Maybe you could ask him to teach you his favorite recipes? Cooking can be a fun activity to do together.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 07:03 PM
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Searching his stuff is a really bad idea, even the fact that you're asking him who he's texting is not good. Either he's cheating or he isn't, but demanding information from him isn't going to stop him from cheating, and will actually drive him away from you. So stop asking him what he's doing on his phone, stop even trying to glance at his phone while he's using it. Instead of focusing on if he's lying or not, why not focus on being more appealing to him than other women.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 06:59 PM
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I've been using my phone too much lately, especially at night when we're going to bed. I don't really use Facebook or Instagram but my drug of choice is mostly YouTube. I didn't listen to my SO when he said he didn't like it, which I should have because he's right. It's bad for my brain and bad for my sleep and I struggle with my sleep schedule anyway. We had - not really a fight, I guess - but a serious discussion about it the other day, and I've been doing a lot better with it. Mostly because …
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 06:33 PM
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Mmmmmm that seems too over-explain-y to me.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/18 02:20 AM
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Ok so when he suggests you hang out at his place as a second "date," do you suggest one of those free dates as an alternative? How does the guy usually respond? BTW I think you're right not to go to his house until you're ready to have sex.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/18 02:18 AM
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Exactly
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 04:35 PM
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Don't text him to be needy. Text him for logistical stuff like changing plans, and maybe occasionally to send him something funny or interesting. Let him have enough space that he's happy to see you instead of feeling more stressed.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 04:25 PM
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Wait, you met in TRP? Have you met these guys in person?
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 04:01 PM
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Yeah, it's sad but that seems like an ok option. Good luck to you!
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/18 08:03 PM
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It's definitely something that strikes me as perfectly normal for celebrities. The average woman would probably find it weird if her new boyfriend asked for this, but I think that's unfortunate because probably this kind of thing would be good for the average couple.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/18 07:28 PM
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Especially expectations as nice as those.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/18 07:24 PM
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It's probably not really a legal contract because if the girlfriend breaks the rules he's just going to break up with her, not sue her or something. Really it's just formalizing an agreement between two people and signing it is a sort of symbolic gesture that helps you take it more seriously. To some people it might seem a little weird to be that formal about it, but I think that's just personal preference. I think it's nice.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/18 07:21 PM
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I think you could give yourself some time where you don't flirt with or date any other guy to see if he will come back to you. I would wait a month or two (depending on how often you see him) and if he doesn't make a move in that time then move on. If he does express interest again, you have a very fine line to walk because now that you've had sex, you can't really start making him wait for it, but you also don't want it to be just sex. You have to make a judgement call here. Look at how much ti…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/18 06:40 PM
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It sounds like he is saying they should stay friends but not sleep together.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/18 06:16 PM
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:( I am so sad for you, that's really hard. People do grow up a lot during college too, so if you start a relationship with someone new you'll still get a lot of that feeling of growing up together with them. I agree with /u/girlwithabike that he is making an excuse to himself about the low T. That can be a really sensitive subject and he has to take the initiative to fix it. What you can do is give him a reason to do it by letting him know how exhausting it is to try to make this work (it sound…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/18 05:59 PM
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If they invited you then they think you're cool, so just act normal.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/18 05:20 PM
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I agree. It's hard to put a number on it because it depends how often they see each other, but it seems like maybe after 2-3 months of dating, or maybe even sooner. Probably not before the 4th or 5th date though.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/18 05:15 PM
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Everyone is saying to break up with him which is sort of my first thought too, but it also makes me sad to think about. People who you've grown up with are irreplaceable in a certain way. People will tell you that you were just kids when you met and you can't possibly have known what kind of person you should date, but I don't really buy that. You don't need shared hobbies to be happy together, but you do need shared values. If you have this, don't throw it away. Do you know why his libido is go…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/18 05:02 PM
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A Captain can't attend to his duties and be his best if he feels weighed down by his FM, or like she needs too much from him. Vulnerability isn't really about needing something from him. To me it feels more like being unselfconscious or at least forcing yourself to act unselfconscious even when you are. You aren't demanding from him, so even if you could use a lot of help and you don't "toughen up" and hide it, he will give a lot of help but not feel it as a burden or obligation.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/18 04:35 PM
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When I was using OKC I definitely filtered for guys who were taller than me, but I never advertised it. What matters is if you are attracted to the guy in person so if you're using some kind of dating app then you might want to consider lowering your requirement for first dates just to try it. I went on a few dates with guys who were shorter than me, but my SO ended up being quite tall so Idk what that tells you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/18 04:14 PM
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I'm not entirely sure, so I don't think I can do his perspective justice, but my impression it's that he thinks JP is punching down and using the media coverage to make money. I also don't think my SO likes the religious themes JP uses.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/18 07:49 PM
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which can be a bit frustrating since I’m the sort of person who likes to work things out as a couple Try to get this figured out, that frustration will get worse over time. If you're going to trust him, you have to really trust him and not be second guessing in your head.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/18 12:19 PM
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I met my SO on OkCupid. It can be done, but you have to sort through a lot of guys you would have no interest in.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/18 04:28 PM
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My SO hates Jordan Peterson. :(
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/18 07:12 PM
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Maybe she feels like you're leaving her behind. You could try asking her if she wants to lose weight with you or have a sleepover and do girly stuff instead of going out to party. Maybe she just wants to pull you down to her level, you've got to decide if this is a friendship that could build you up or one that will always be toxic.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/18 05:02 PM
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I guess that sounded like an argument for increasing immigration to Western countries but I really didn't mean it that way. I wasn't proposing a solution, just asking about the root cause.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/18 10:09 PM
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Culture could also be influenced by other factors, like environment. Off the top of my head it seems like places with harsher winters and shorter growing seasons would require lower time preference to survive, which would create a lower time preference culture. But it might also select for genetically lower time preference people. I'm not disagreeing with you necessarily, I just wanted to understand your reasoning.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/18 09:07 PM
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Why do you think it's a genetic race thing and not a deeply ingrained cultural thing? Or do you just think the distinction doesn't matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/18 03:59 PM
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I don't think they care if you approve or not...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/18 03:28 PM
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Yeah I think attractive and likable are the important factors. Some guys like the bitchy routine but I feel like I know just as many who only tolerate it. I think we also just interpret the word nice differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/18 02:46 AM
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What do you have to do to make them love you then? Maybe the word nice is too vague or too low of a bar? What he is saying sounds like my experience, I dunno. Maybe I'm interpreting this differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/18 02:26 AM
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I'm not sure if I feel the same way but I definitely understand your perspective. On the one had I like having that level of trust in my relationship but on the other hand, some guys have experienced/seen things that will make them always a little bit wary. I think at that point it's similar to finding out that one of you wants kids and the other doesn't - it's just a mismatch of values, and each individual couple has to decide if it's a deal breaking mismatch for them or if they can work someth…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/18 11:43 PM
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A much better question would be: "how would you react if a guy you were dating told you that he would want a paternity test for any kids that you have together?"
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/18 11:03 PM
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Women are childish, it's part of our charm. What are you actually arguing for/against here?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/18 05:52 PM
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Ok this analogy isn't the best fit but I'll play along. You don't buy a gun because you think they WILL get shot, but you do buy one because you think they COULD get shot. You don't (necessarily) get a paternity test because you think the woman did cheat, but because you think she could have cheated. Again, I'm NOT saying that men should just always trust women. Just that if a man doesn't trust a woman, it's reasonable for her to feel like he doesn't trust her.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/18 05:17 PM
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That doesn't make sense. If you get a paternity test you are, by definition, questioning the woman's faithfulness. Women don't spontaneously become pregnant with random men's children. And fair enough, I'm not saying you shouldn't question the paternity, but there's no way to separate that logically from questioning the woman's faithfulness. Edit: it seems like you're trying to separate asking for a piece of information from the social/interpersonal consequences of asking for that information.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/18 04:59 PM
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Isn't it? That's been my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/18 03:39 PM
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Don't worry about downvotes in this sub. Anyone who has an actual reason to disagree should be making a comment to explain their thinking.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/18 03:42 PM
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I would say women definitely have more social power.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/18 04:11 AM
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Lol I'm not talking about being too rough. I'm talking about when the girl decides she wants to stop but doesn't say so because she doesn't want the guy to be mad at her. But also, if the guy trys something and the girl doesn't like it but she doesn't tell him to stop, that's not rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/18 04:00 AM
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I think maybe that is coming from the idea that men are less picky about women than women are about men, so having accused a man of rape in the past is a red flag that's not worth the risk when the man could be just as happy with a different woman. It also comes down to how you define rape. Hashtag activism is somewhat associated with people who have a much broader definition of the word, so men with a narrower definition would want to avoid #metoo women because those women might accuse them of …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/18 10:04 PM
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If you're not a kid person, that's different. I wasn't saying all people should have kids, just that a lot of the assumptions people make about what is important or inevitable in parenting are inaccurate. I think that people do their children a disservice if they don't model a happy and fulfilling life for their children to learn from.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/18 09:21 PM
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TRP doesn't care if something seems hypocritical to you. They only care if works.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/18 06:16 PM
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Well, he's an accused rapist if you don't have any proof.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/18 06:09 PM
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I think that it wouldn't have much impact on my choice actually. If I liked him a lot it wouldn't bother me at all. If I already didn't want to date him it obviously wouldn't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/18 06:07 PM
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Having kids doesn't have to be miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/18 05:40 PM
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Why?
/r/askTRP30/01/18 08:29 PM
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I don't know if people treat me like an object or not, but whatever you call it, it works for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/18 05:17 PM
1

What? The best sources of calcium are green vegetables like spinach. I'm not pro vegan but it doesn't seem like it could possibly lack calcium.
/r/MensRights21/01/18 05:04 PM
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I think a lot of the people that you're arguing with in this thread are libertarian-ish. It seems like you're just trying to feel intellectually superior without bothering to consider that the sound bites you keep regurgitating aren't as logical as you believe they are. https://youtu.be/rE3j_RHkqJc
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/18 06:25 AM
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I am not a dem. Ok, what are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/18 07:17 PM
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Women are not a collective, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/18 05:15 PM
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It's ok, I feel the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/18 04:46 PM
1

Top level response just means a reply to the original post (as opposed to a reply to another comment).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/18 04:40 PM
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I think he must think that "top level" is like, highly upvoted.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/18 04:38 PM
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I guess I'm in the minority even among the RPW here but I really haven't been made to feel inferior. I mean I've heard the examples that others mentioned but... I dunno, it's just words.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/18 04:33 PM
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Do you think morality is relative or absolute?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/18 04:34 PM
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Who else would you include in the original set? I don't recognize your username, but I'm only on Reddit sporadically.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 04:38 AM
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Do you consider yourself to be part of the original set?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/18 04:29 AM
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When people say "just be yourself" what they mean is "just act like a normal person" or "just stop doing that weird thing."
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/17 06:27 AM
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Do you see how that might give you skewed and incorrectly interpreted information?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/17 06:19 AM
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Yeah, my guy friends all seem to have seen each other naked at one point or another. But they're usually just messing with each other, or peeing on things, or something, so it's not like they're really looking or measuring.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/17 08:26 PM
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How can you make all these claims about women's behavior when you don't have any experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/17 08:02 PM
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The fact that most of the blue pill participants are women and red pill are men makes looking at the results by pill less interesting to me. It would be cool to see red pill men vs. blue pill men and red pill women vs. blue pill women, separated out.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/17 04:05 PM
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I've never been hit, slapped, punched, kicked or beaten by anyone, ever. * besides consensually, which is obviously not what you're talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/17 06:14 PM
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Yeah I just replied from my inbox, but now reading people's responses I see what you mean. No guy that I've dated has ever even gotten really angry at me, let alone tried to hurt me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/17 06:00 PM
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No, you're surprised?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/17 05:39 PM
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Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/17 05:26 PM
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My two big things are avoiding dimethicone and other silicone type ingredients, and using less product. For my hair I just use suave rosemary mint (Aveda knockoff) shampoo but no conditioner. I only use a small amount and only wash my hair every second or third day. Other than that I just finger comb it instead of brushing because I can be more gentle. I don't ever use heat styling on it and it seems pretty happy. The best way to look good is to look healthy and the best way to look healthy is t…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/17 01:39 AM
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Well, yeah, what do you think is different about them besides the seriousness of the consequences?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/17 07:23 PM
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Ok, back to this comment: https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/6uf838/q4bp_what_do_you_think_of_this_quote/dlssp4w/ I think the difference between hostility (or maybe aggression) and competition is a difference in scale, not a difference in kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/17 04:09 PM
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I vaguely remember reading about there being more to it than that. Not that what you said is wrong, but that some things can affect the likelihood of an x sperm vs a y sperm getting to the egg first. Like they respond differently to pH or "swim" differently or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/17 03:38 PM
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I like IPAs (but I also like tequila shots and pina coladas, so...) I don't usually wear makeup and when I do it's often just mascara My car is stick shift I'm pretty good at math Edit: I'm 5'10" which is pretty tall for a girl I don't wear any jewelry, but I wear my G shock watch basically every day
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/17 03:23 PM
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I have a pet snake! 🐍😄
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/17 03:20 PM
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Saying something "seems weird to you" is not an argument. https://yourlogicalfallacyis.com/appeal-to-emotion
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/17 02:40 PM
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The point is that there is still a "vs." which means there is still competition.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/17 02:33 PM
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What you're saying is that a significant difference in scale is also a difference in kind, which is true to an extent. Significant difference in scale can feel really different and need to be handled almost entirely differently. What u/theother-side is saying is that the issue is still just a difference in scale at it's core, even though it feels different.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/17 02:20 PM
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I give people I know lots of hugs, especially guys Do you do this to help counteract the "guys don't get enough physical touch" thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/17 03:05 PM
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That's all under the category of affinity I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/17 02:53 PM
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Tangential blows to the circumference! Work smarter not harder kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/17 12:11 AM
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F/24/red I think it's morally neutral in general. I don't think people have any obligation to breed, but I do think there are situations where it would be immoral to try for children, when there is no way you could provide them with a decent life, for example homeless addicts, completely non functioning mentally ill, people in abusive relationships, etc. I see them more as a continuation of oneself, but they in no way have any obligation or debt to their parents. The idea that you "own" your kid…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/17 04:43 PM
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What is your relationship with her like? In most cases there isn't anything you can say to just "fix" people like this. All you can do is be an example of a better idea for them to aspire to.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 04:58 AM
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Do you know what your score is? I think I remember you saying that at a certain level it gets hard to test (above 160?). But 125 is definitely not that rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/17 01:47 PM
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You're a saint. I made it about 30 seconds.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/17 01:16 AM
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125 isn't that rare, I thought. Only ~1/20 https://www.iqcomparisonsite.com/iqtable.aspx (idk if this is a reliable site or anything though) u/wub1234 don't you know a lot about IQ testing?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/17 01:13 AM
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They're just little animals that you have to train properly and provide an enriching environment for, like a zoo animal or a really smart dog. They need to be fed species appropriate food and have some discipline and structure and some variety and free time to play creatively and they need a lot of socialization and EXERCISE. If they don't get these things they can be depressed or aggressive and destructive or just uncontrollable and loud.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/17 06:07 PM
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The fact that you feel awkward talking to him in front of your SO should tell you everything. If you value your relationship with your SO you should let your friendship with this guy fade out.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 05:58 PM
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What are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/17 05:01 PM
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I mostly just run, and occasionally do some pushups and lunges or something. I find that I maintain my figure mostly with diet, and the running etc. is mostly for health and quality of life.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 04:58 PM
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Anxiety is just a maifestation of insecurity in my experience. Maybe we're talking about different things, how do you define insecurity?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/17 04:49 PM
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No, I read some more of your replies, it sounds like you're just a generally anxious person.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/17 04:40 PM
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What is your idea of success in a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/17 04:39 PM
2

This sounds like insecurity to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/17 04:17 PM
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For anyone interested, here is a great article about why we as a society have gotten where we are on this topic. https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/4nsl0r/who_killed_marriage_10_trigger_warning_dry_theory/
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 04:04 PM
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Well we can probably save you the trouble, haha. Nagging doesn't usually work out, being nice works great for me. Nagging seems to come from this weird expectation that someone should obey you. Do you nag your friends?
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 03:38 PM
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My instinct is still to not bring it up first. My SO just casually mentioned marriage the other day, and what I plan to do is be 100% on board if he brings up having a prenup, but not mention it first.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 03:25 PM
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It seems to me like you're kind of underestimating the ties of a lifetime spent together. If a legal contract were all that was holding a marriage together after 30 years, that would be pretty sad.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 03:17 PM
4

I think of it like vulnerability takes a certain amount of confidence or self esteem, where insecurity is the opposite.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 02:21 AM
3

I agree with him about the bedding tags. I have no idea why but I have to put them that certain way. I put the pillows into their cases tag end in too. Which is funny because I don't think that my SO cares which way they go. The video game idea is great, really thoughtful!
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 02:09 AM
1

I keep his water bottles filled up. We usually only drink out of the fridge filter and it's kind of slow, so it's nice for him if I have them ready to go. It's just a little thing but he's told me he appreciates it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 01:57 AM
15

she got drunk in a moment of weakness and made a terrible mistake ONCE and she swears never to do it again. This is a bigger problem than you're trying to make it sound like.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/17 02:51 PM
1

He's not going to. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/17 05:51 PM
4

No? We're all just animals. Animals do lots of gross weird shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/17 05:45 PM
6

Dear RPW, how can I be a rule-making tyrant without my SO thinking I'm a rule-making tyrant? Have you even read the sidebar?
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/17 02:34 PM
1

Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/17 03:58 PM
1

And breaking down the tradition too, to learn the principle that it was preserving so that we can apply the principle more accurately without some of the negative effects of the tradition.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/17 03:57 PM
8

As a general rule, if you're not sure, it counts. But I would worry less about the exact number and worry more about finding a healthy relationship and maintaining it. I think people sometimes get fixated on the exact number, like how people get fixated on exactly how much they weigh instead of just trying to get their body composition to where they like the way they look.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 10:57 PM
1

I like to think of it more like "I am like other girls, so how can I use what I know about girls to further my long term happiness."
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/17 03:29 PM
1

I know you're super into the Myers Briggs personality types, what do you think about the big 5 personality typing? I've been listening to a bunch of Jordan Peterson lectures (it seems like everyone has been) and he uses the big 5 traits a lot. He says that political liberals tend to be higher in openness while political conservatives tend to be higher in conscientiousness, which is kind of a "well duh" statement but it explains why liberals might tend to be more "cool."
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/17 03:28 PM
5

Being swayed by feminism can be a feminine trait though, since a feminine woman is highly agreeable and wants to go with the flow and get along with everyone, and feminism is the mainstream. Similar to being into horoscopes, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 11:57 AM
3

My only advice that I haven't seen here yet is to make sure you pull the area you're waxing taut, or you can get bruises. Also I agree with others that sugaring is the way to go.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 11:48 AM
5

Well, he sounds like a jerk from her telling, but I always try to be cautious about that and not just give people here the answer they came here looking for and validate what they already thought. Like the top comment says, what did she think people were going to say when she asked this question?
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 07:28 PM
5

I wouldn't be so quick to recommend single motherhood.. if her judgment is poor enough to get her into the situation she's portrayed here, I'm not sure she'll be better off back in the dating market but now with a young child in tow.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 07:13 PM
0

He's mad that you're invading his privacy but he lets you put a phone tracker on his phone. He sounds like a weak person who enjoys being the victim. This is a very messy situation because of the child. Your focus should be on providing a good example to the child of how to be in a relationship, but I'm not sure how that can happen. How did you get into this situation? Does he even want to be in a relationship with you? What attracted you to him in the first place? What are your faults that coul…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 07:07 PM
1

Not very long I don't think, maybe 7-8 months, but I probably should have waited more like a year and a half.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 03:39 AM
2

Hey, I went thorough basically the same thing about 3 years ago, feel free to pm me if you think it would help you. My experience was that at first I wanted to tell everyone I met, to sort of warn them, and also because it had a big effect on things that would usually be safe small talk with strangers, like what I'm doing for school/work, what I did this week, what my plans for [upcoming holiday] are. It's hard to talk about that without bringing up his death since it causes so much upheaval in …
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/17 10:47 PM
1

You could set a calendar reminder on your phone for one or two months out and just have it link back to this thread (or write yourself something more personal) to remind you of how your perspective is now.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/17 03:21 PM
4

Be the kind of girl that makes him care whether you to trust him or not.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 09:10 PM
1

Oh, ok. I think it's definitely ok feel those feelings but what you do with them and how you express them is important. Sometimes just a hug or a cuddle with him if you can will make you feel much better without feeling like you're expressing doubt. Does he seem satisfied with what you are doing now? If he is under a lot of stress he may not praise as much as he would usually, but do you think there's anything he would feel you aren't doing well enough? You might be doing everything right and yo…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 07:22 PM
3

It's hard for me to judge what's going on in your post. It sounds like you are in a tough situation. If you do trust him and believe he is working to improve the situation, then it seems like a good opportunity to show your loyalty. But, from the way you tell it, he is not someone I would trust as my partner.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 06:50 PM
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NO. There is not a "nice way" to ask him for this. The implication is that you will be monitoring his activity and dole out some kind of punishment if you find something you don't like. Is this the kind of relationship you want to have? Have you read the sidebar or tried to understand anything about this subreddit? I don't trust him fully, but I want to get there. You can't make someone be trustworthy. Either he's trustworthy and you find that out over time, or he's not and you leave, preferably…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 06:40 PM
2

Idk what the Duggar show is, I've never heard of it. This isn't a kink subreddit though, if that's what you're looking for.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 05:37 PM
3

Yes but ultimately all she can control is her own actions so dwelling only on how he should be isn't really useful. What should she do in order for him to step up and take care of the situation? Can she do anything, should she have just vetted better? What's her best strategy now?
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 05:28 PM
8

You're speaking all from emotions here, it sounds like you've been swept up in the whirlwind and now something has happened and reality is peaking in. The way he described how he left his job is a red flag to me. It has a sense of impulsiveness and denial of agency. But then again this is only your side of the story. He promises me we are closer every day and he will get us there. I'm confident he will. If you were confident, you wouldn't be making this post. I'm torn here because this seems lik…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 03:55 PM
8

Like another user said, if you're sexting a guy but not sleeping with him, you will constantly have to deescalate when you are on a date with him, because you have already taken it to that level over the phone. Intimacy is intimacy so you should probably vet more first.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 05:44 PM
3

Well, that's kind of a different situation and not how you presented it before. It's still a red flag to me that he would be wanting to propose marriage after only 5 months though. Is that not a red flag to you?
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 05:31 PM
2

Is what you are doing working? (I don't know anything about you, you have no post history here, so all I know is what you say in this post)
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 08:18 PM
2

Sometimes I think trying too hard to be exactly his type just pushes a guy away because it's almost like you are being pushy and making a covert contact of "I made everything exactly how you like so now you HAVE to love me." He will rebel and push back against this because he feels forced. Plus you could be being overly attentive to the point of smothering and overly accommodating to the point of timidness.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 06:14 PM
1

I'm so worried that my alpha-on-the-outside persona will only attract 'Captains' of this variety- the really aggressive, domineering, controlling type (while appearing perfect and innocent at first). If what you're doing is not attracting good guys, then maybe you should try something different?
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 05:30 PM
9

Why does it matter if he admits it? Just keep doing things he likes and he will realize it on his own.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 05:09 PM
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The big red flag to me is that when confronted with a problem, he brought up the engagement ring to distract you, and especially after just 5 months. Using it to try to appease you shows that he does not really take it seriously or understand what he is promising. Notice how he said he had a ring for you, not that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with you. To me it sounds like he's just dangling the thing he thinks you want in front of you to keep you around. I could not be in a relations…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 04:55 PM
2

I think for these situations a good support system is by far the most important asset you can cultivate. Having people you can lean on is valuable for all kinds of difficult situations, we humans are mostly not meant to be alone.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 03:49 PM
3

Sure, but it's just a metaphor, and it's really meant to play on some common stereotypical situations - like the woman who doesn't know anything about the task but is anxious about it so she starts reminding him about things that, to him, are either really obvious or not relevant, or the woman who has her particular way of doing the task and starts correcting him towards how she would do it, without any thought that it might not really be that important or that he might have a valid reason for h…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 03:15 AM
1

Why would he feel emasculated/weak/unneeded if I simply offered information? He wouldn't have to, he could just feel neutral, which is fine but it's just kind of a missed opportunity to build the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 08:58 PM
1

I'm not talking about insecurity. I'm just talking about relating to people in a way that makes them feel good so that they enjoy being around me. At the risk of sounding like a yearbook... "people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 05:45 AM
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Right, I think it's still the same process most people have to go through at some point, but you have more of an initial resistance hurdle that you just kind of have to psych yourself up for and jump and trust someone a little bit. What I would do is make it just something (or a few things) small enough that even though it's emotionally hard, you can rationally know that no real harm can come to you. Like jumping into cold water, you know it's going to be uncomfortable but you can still make you…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 05:26 AM
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How old are you and he, and how old is the relationship? My general advice is that it would be hard (and silly) to just start trusting someone with a big thing like this. Trust is built over time, so start by giving him smaller bits of trust and as he continues to live up to them, work up to bigger things. Going from zero to one hundred with trust is dangerous because you could be wrong, and also because it can be a red flag to a good guy that you might not have the best judgement.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 02:40 AM
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It's not so much about what is "fair" as it is about "what guys like and are attracted to." Solving the problem himself and receiving admiration and gratitude from an attractive and feminine girl makes him feel masculine, strong, needed.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 03:51 PM
3

I'm glad it resonates with you! I would say that you can reduce but probably not completely stop the irrational emotions. Taking care of your health and getting even a little exercise can help, and being mindful and reflective of your moods and what affects them is a great help but also something you're never completely done working on. I think separating the emotions or more "allowing yourself to feel emotions even when they don't seem justified, but still acknowledging that they don't seem jus…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 05:45 AM
3

Is it possible that you do feel upset but you just don't know why, so you are just subconsciously deciding that you can't really be upset because nothing happened? Sometimes irrational things can make you upset and that's ok. The trick is just to separate "I am upset" from "something needs to be done to fix it." Right now your SO feels like you are hiding yourself from him and shutting him out, but he will probably have a much easier time accepting "Idk I just feel sad today and I don't know why…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 04:23 AM
2

I have read things which indicate that your belief that you are helping your patients and their belief that they are being helped can have a significant impact on their outcome. I'm skeptical, but this book is interesting. So if your patients feel more confident and you feel more confident then I agree that what you are wearing for work seems right. What I noticed though is how you said that dressing more girly makes you feel vulnerable. I think that part of intimacy with a man is letting yourse…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 04:09 AM
1

I would HIGHLY recommend that you check out this post, I think I would give you a lot of insight on a better way to relate to your SO.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 08:08 PM
2

Seconding Pacifica! I don't wear perfume often but I do like their Hawaiian Ruby Guava.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 07:54 PM
1

My advice would actually be to not make any moves on either of them yet, but instead become more of a regular customer than just 3 visits. Especially try to go when it's not too busy. Take any opportunities that present themselves to make casual conversation or joke with them, just a little bit at a time, and become more of a familiar face.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 07:40 PM
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This is bad advice. Throwing it back in his face that he turns her down might seem satisfying, but how is he going to react? He's not going to go "oh you're right I didn't think about that," he's going to be even more upset that she's arguing back instead of listening to his concerns. Micromanaging is never ok. Tell him that it bothers you and that you expect it to stop. You're not even listening to OP and trying to give advice that's good for her. As a reminder, you're not OP, she likes differe…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/17 07:11 PM
1

I think those are the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/17 03:38 AM
1

Doesn't plan b work by delaying ovulation?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/17 10:55 PM
1

I know, I'm not really​ talking about implementable solutions, more trying to decide what I think is ethical.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/17 03:42 PM
2

Well I didn't propose a system, but what I think would be good, and what I think /u/Ercole-- is also proposing, is not to remove punishments, but to drastically reduce their necessity by structurally fixing the causes of crime (as much as possible).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/17 02:48 AM
2

It has a lot more to do with circumstance than you seem to think. I'm all for personal accountability, but as humans we all have a capacity for violence and cruelty, and I think it's naive to ignore that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/17 02:29 AM
2

Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/17 02:27 AM
1

Crazy how much I've been seeing his name this week, did he do something new?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/17 02:09 AM
2

I like this argument, but I wonder if the situation is a little different because the mother has willingly caused this situation? Like if you let someone get into your car with you, you're responsible for not killing them in a car crash. Idk what the right solution is, because preventing abortions cause all sorts of other problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/17 01:53 AM
3

Violent crime is mostly just correlated with high income inequality.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/17 01:41 AM
1

Hi! I buy my clothes at Walmart.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/17 04:25 PM
1

https://youtube.com/watch?v=wfYbgdo8e-8 I'll just jump on the train here. /u/OurThrownAwayDreams
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/17 02:59 PM
2

The people who want to do that don't care about laws. How often do you hear about police getting called to the same house over and over for DV? Think hard. Why are you being snarky and condensing? Idk if I've just missed something but this whole thread seems kind of out of character for you, I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/17 02:35 PM
2

Protective instincts. Benevolent sexism. The fact that they don't want to?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/17 02:28 PM
1

Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/17 08:28 PM
3

No, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/17 08:17 PM
7

I agree, if a guy wanted to split the check on the first few dates, I wouldn't think less of him but I would think he maybe wasn't that interested in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/17 05:53 PM
5

Would you go around punching women is if* there were no laws against it?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/17 05:15 PM
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I can't tell if you're serious. Do you think the law *is* what stops them?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/17 04:46 PM
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It seems like if all those laws aren't stopping people, then removing them won't change the behavior of the guys who were willing to follow them. I don't think it's the law that keeps most guys from walking up to girls and punching them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/17 04:35 PM
1

It seems like "grab a coffee" is the day time equivalent, which in my experience seemed to end itself less awkwardly, because if you meet at say, 11am, then you talk for a couple hours and are both like "ok, I have other stuff I have to do today." Honestly though I feel like I still never got the hang of dating, I just escaped from it. You might learn more from people who enjoy it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/17 04:19 PM
1

It doesn't really matter what's fair. Also it seems like you're using "confidence" and "alpha" to mean the same thing, but they aren't the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/17 10:01 AM
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I know I hated it! It's just kind of a weird way to interact with a person. I think humans are designed to meet people mostly through our social networks and communities, which gives us time to interact in a group setting first. That's hard to replicate for a lot of people after college though. My suggestions would be a.) day time dates where you can have plans later that do create an end time for your date, like meeting up with with a friend or something. I think it works best to set this expec…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/17 09:51 AM
1

>Claims women are as visual as men >Links romance novels as proof gg
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/17 04:09 PM
1

❄️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/17 04:54 PM
3

I am mostly just focused on finishing up my semester. This is one of those goals that will be over in some fashion no matter what at the end of the month, so I'm just trying to finish up my last few assignments and finals as much ahead of time as I can.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 03:38 AM
3

What works for me is to let myself have something if I want it, (especially seasonal/hard to get normally stuff) but be super strict about portions. A lot of times even just a few bites will keep me from feeling like I'm missing out, but I don't have to eat the whole thing. I HATE wasting food, it helps to have a friend or two that will split something with you, or get a box.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 03:28 AM
3

Try to stop yelling so much. Sometimes I feel like I just yell all the time, but I need to stop, get down to their level, have eye contact, and just talk to them. 😍 This is great, you are setting an example for them of how to negotiate relationships with everyone in their lives, and building a foundation for their self esteem.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 03:20 AM
1

I was lucky in that my parents, while being toxic and vindictive to each other, both did their best to avoid taking it out on me and my brother. My dad only moved one town over and I saw him every week, I think it was one of the healthier ways it could happen. I was also about 12 and already very independent. If anything the fighting and storming out in the years beforehand were possibly worse for me than the actual separation, but I remember very little of it. The one lingering trait that I cou…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 03:04 AM
3

The little victories can be really satisfying. 😊 Let us know how the weekend goes!
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 02:23 AM
3

Give it time, you'll find your way to something which feels authentic. 100% agree. It just takes some time.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 02:17 AM
1

As an aside, I don't believe spanking is good for children, there are studies linking it to lower IQ, poor social skills, lack of emotional control, etc. (It might be only correlation and not causation but I would be hesitant anyways.)
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 02:12 AM
1

I have to remind him to choose his battles and that "all of them" isn't an option. Hahaha :) In response to his overbearing mother, I have a theory that they tend to cause both extremes depending on if the guy has more of a tendency to learn to crave it or to rebel against it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 02:09 AM
3

OMG I love these, they're so soothing to listen to. I especially have liked the beauty/hygiene ones. I've been trying to incorporate some of the advice from them into my routines for the past 6-12 months: MILD soap and nothing fancy, but I've been diluting more concentrated soaps and gels. I've also been greatly reducing the number of products and potions I have; there's so many for this or that problem, and I think simplicity is much better. Similarly, less soap, less often. I can be a little b…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 01:58 AM
2

I don't think neediness is a quality that you need in order to make your SO a priority. My SO is my priority over other people because he is my favorite person, and because my relationship with him is more important to my long term happiness than my relationship with anyone else. That doesn't have anything to do with neediness. Being needy is very demanding of the other person, vs. just being a kind, happy person, which is what guys actually like.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/17 09:14 PM
1

It looks like you're getting a lot of the same arguments and giving a lot of the same replies. Let's try something else. Are you needy in your relationships, do you know other women that are? How does that work out for you/them?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/17 08:02 PM
6

I'm a CompSci student, SO is a software developer. (My dad is also a software developer, haha)
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 05:44 PM
2

Use it as an opportunity to practice not needing to have that last word! It's a good skill to have for dating a guy who has less confidence. You might use your understanding of how it feels to be the dominant one in a relationship to know what you can do to make a dominant partner feel confident, loved, valued, and trusted.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/17 10:44 PM
2

It looks like he's trying to reply to SouthernAthena's comment, she used that phrase.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 10:08 PM
1

it will take a lot of pressure and persuasion from your part. That's almost never a good strategy. He will resent it and it isn't fair to him or the children. A better idea would just be to communicate how you've maybe changed your mind and see what he says.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 09:14 PM
2

If he's mad because of something you did, the best thing would be to show progress towards fixing it or not doing it again. Your instinct to avoid smothering him is absolutely correct, and when in doubt I think less if more.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 06:11 PM
2

Yeah. A woman could be masculine for a woman, but it would be very rare for a woman to be masculine compared to actual normal men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/17 03:15 AM
3

I would think that, given the data you have telling you that none of them were careful, it would make you more wary of all of them, regardless of how they look. 🤔😬
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/17 02:55 AM
1

Yeah, "bad personal branding" is kind of a subset of "bad social skills."
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/17 02:49 AM
4

Well, I would​ make the argument that nothing is "absolute bad" because objective morality isn't real. It's just bad in nearly every human moral frame of reference (including mine, for the record).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/17 02:47 AM
1

Idk, I'd say not particularly, but I don't have much of a frame of reference, so maybe? I have no idea how old I was. Sorry I'm not more helpful with your theory :/ It just always strikes me as odd when guys talk about how good at sex they are. Like, I'm pretty good at breathing and eating?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/17 02:18 AM
1

My point wasn't to brag about guys I've been with, but to say that I don't understand the emphasis placed on what seems sort of like ranking guys based on skill.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/17 08:42 PM
2

I think the disconnect comes from two factors: how much of a risk you think there is of not enjoying​ sex with someone, and how much you feel like you're giving up if you commit. It's hard for me to imagine being attracted to someone and then not enjoying sex with them. I guess it would be possible, but seems rare enough to not bother worrying about. It's also not a lot to ask at all for me to be committed/exclusive with someone, since I hated the dating process anyways. I rarely dated more than…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/17 08:36 PM
1

It's really unclear what you are trying to say in the sentence I quoted. Can you rephrase?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/17 07:35 PM
1

I don't have a huge sample size, but I've never had sex with a guy who couldn't do that. It really doesn't seem that difficult. Sex is something we're biologically programmed to be good at, it's not rocket science.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/17 07:28 PM
3

It's crazy to me that you can decide someone is worth having sex with but still not be sure if they're worth committing to.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/17 07:18 PM
0

And yes, I do think it's a lot easier to "spin plates" when you bore the shit out of them, yes. You mean boring in bed?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/17 07:14 PM
0

Some guys just don't like casual sex. Out of curiosity, what do you consider to be requirements for a guy to be "good in bed"?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/17 06:55 PM
0

Are you bragging about being able to get commitment from women?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/17 06:38 PM
2

It seems like a lot of women here are answering with their current SO. I feel the same way but I have to wonder how objective I can be, based on that pattern.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/17 04:44 AM
3

Holy burden of proof, Batman!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/17 07:37 PM
6

You seem kind of fixated on the "top 1% of guys." Alternatively: Be yourself: make it seem like you're being yourself, don't be awkward. Guys should listen and be sensitive: guys who don't ever act like they care should sometimes act like they care. (I don't think that people who give this advice acknowledge the distinction between things that make women happy and things that attract them.) When you stop looking someone will come along: don't act thirsty, do interesting stuff, value your time. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/17 01:08 PM
1

There's also just the difference between makeup done for men's benefit and the makeup women do mostly for approval from other women, which tends to be much more interesting but possibly off putting to a guy. I think when most guys say they don't like a girl who wears a lot of makeup, they mean that they don't like a girl who wears unnatural, distracting, or badly applied makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/17 12:13 PM
1

The Red Pill isn't a crusade. It doesn't tell people what goals to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/17 04:35 PM
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I think I had the most potential to be attractive at 16-18, but I didn't know how to wash my face, or wear clothes that fit, or sleep, ever, so in reality I look better now, at 24.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/17 10:17 PM
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Taller than me for sure (I'm 5'10"), and lots of bonus points for being significantly taller than me. My SO is 6'2"-6'3" I think. I really like being able to snuggle into his chest when he hugs me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/17 08:41 PM
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I just googled it and apparently "ultra high IQ" is A Thing, so maybe I'm not, depending on your definition. The tests can have different scales but I get around 140 or 99.4 ish percentile, which I guess would be Mensa level but not anything above that. (Mensa is not that exclusive) I'm a computer science major, but I have terrible study habits so I really only do well in classes where homework isn't a big part of the grade.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/17 08:21 PM
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Ultra high IQ people are more likely to be self destructive. Hi.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/17 06:33 AM
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I think RP correlates to an extent with conservatism/right libertarianism, but not with location as much. I would guess that redditors in general tend to be more in urban areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/17 06:30 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/64nha0/q4all_whats_the_worst_way_your_romantic_partner/dg3u84o/
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/17 11:54 AM
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I think this is the post she's talking about. https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/1krml5/ponderings_on_maturity/
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/17 11:39 PM
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I just eyeballed it before, but I just measured and I got 1.02 for my left hand and 1.00 for my right hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/17 05:51 AM
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I've learned a lot from other RP people on here, honestly. As if it were just another RP sub but with different writing prompts. But I've also learned a lot about how BP sees RP, so that's been useful. (I'm only a part time regular, but I've been here on and off for probably as long as it's been a sub)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/17 05:17 AM
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Age: 24 Pill: red Scores​: 70 on the PPD test, 63m 63f 55a on the BSRI test MBTI: I lean slightly introverted but average about 50/50 for the other three. I just took one and got ISTP if that means anything. I think I've had a relatively easy time dating. I think being more extroverted might have made it a more enjoyable process, but I'm sure my boyfriend likes that I'm not, and I wouldn't want to have been more/less feminine. I tend to be playful and prefer to play a supporting role. I stay up …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/17 02:11 AM
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In the sidebar, right under the subscribe button. But if you're on the mobile site or the app I have no idea. It's the same for any subreddit though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/17 11:46 AM
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Remember that anyone can set their flair here as RP, that doesn't mean they actually know anything about it. Taking a quick look at /r/TheRedPill should answer your question well enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/17 11:37 AM
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Seconded, guys like cookies, why not make them happy? 🍪 What's the sparkling water thing? I missed how that started.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/17 04:08 AM
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Only if she feels like it. Yeah, and if she "feels like it", she can use the book (or lots of other, similar resources) to help her achieve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/17 03:06 AM
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Lol what is this.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/17 05:53 PM
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Whoa calm down. I was just disagreeing with your assertion that it's pointless for you to lift weights. If you're skinny, it would definitely benefit you in terms of attractiveness to most girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/17 05:13 PM
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Just because women aren't attracted to huge oily hairless bodybuilders doesn't mean that going from skinny to having some muscle won't make you more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/17 04:49 PM
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Honestly I think almost all of the discussions fall victim to this problem. Even in real life, two different people can observe the same situation and because of the biases they already have, come up with different/opposite interpretations. I still think the conversations here are an interesting thought experiment and mostly worth having.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/17 05:07 AM
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Hi, I love your flair. 🐈
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/17 02:31 AM
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I was going to ask the same thing. Good control of emotions is very attractive to me, and neither losing control nor bottling them up seems like good control to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/17 02:25 AM
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Lol no. Isn't it well known ​that Cosmo is a ridiculous joke? I thought that was a Thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/17 01:48 AM
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"The reason women are so bad at parking is because they keep getting lied to about how big 6 inches is."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/17 08:09 PM
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I can't upvote this enough 👏
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/17 10:26 AM
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One that both parties are satisfied with.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/17 10:09 AM
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Looks: tall, mostly. Generic average to good looking masculine traits, Idk. It seems like I tend to go for darker hair but that's not a conscious preference. Personality: independent/distrusting of authority is a big one. Intelligence; book smart, but also critical thinking and skepticism. More outdoorsy than urban but not "country." Knows something about programming, partly as a metric for intelligence and partly because I tend to like that kind of thought process. Not romantic. Not overly mate…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/16 03:43 AM
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If it's a comfort test, living together would be passing it, not failing it. It might be overkill to pass one comfort test but my point is that I think you're misusing the concept.
/r/TheRedPill15/12/16 03:54 PM
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Oh.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/16 03:44 PM
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because they are atheists Is that a thing? What's the reasoning?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/16 01:09 AM
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Lol @ Failing to accelerate to traffic speeds when entering a highway on-ramp. Thank you. Driving is a social skill as much as anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/16 01:08 AM
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But also social skills of the younger age groups are terrible compared to their parents and grandparents. It's becoming more normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/16 12:57 AM
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Btw I'm more introverted than extroverted.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/16 05:24 PM
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You don't like their culture. Okay, so what?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/16 10:52 AM
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I'm paraphrasing, but it was something like "What if a person doesn't have any friends because they are detached from reality and prefer to spend their time in imaginary worlds than interact with most people?"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/16 10:33 AM
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*the comment I was replying to in my comment that you initially replied to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/16 10:26 AM
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I know it's deleted now but did you get to read the comment I was replying to?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/16 10:14 AM
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Can you rephrase that?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/16 10:07 AM
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Why would I want to interact with someone who is detached and doesn't want to interact with me?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/16 10:37 PM
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They wouldn't like each other, probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/16 10:35 PM
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I didn't solidify my rejection of feminism until I went to college and had classes that were dusted with it unnecessarily.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/16 07:57 PM
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I'm red because I like things that make my life better.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/16 02:45 PM
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I don't think it really matters if the woman is RP or BP; as long as the guy is RP, the dynamic between them will be RP.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/16 02:42 PM
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Ok but we weren't talking about being misogynistic, we were talking about being dogmatic and not adjusting to new information. Maybe try again?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/16 02:54 AM
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Thanks that gives me a lot of information. Wouldn't denouncing them be not taking responsibility?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/16 09:30 PM
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Lol who are these neo-nazis you're talking about? I wasn't denouncing people on TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/16 09:01 PM
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Whether or not hints were given and how the woman feels about it after are very fuzzy lines to be basing law on.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/16 08:38 PM
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Ok but when women only give those vague sort of no's and the guy doesn't stop, is it rape, the crime, or just a dick move?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/16 03:26 PM
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I can see that being true about a lot of TRP posters, but it's interesting because the original guys who started it, and probably a lot of the guys who post good content with actual new ideas, were/are doing exactly the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/16 12:18 AM
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Pretty much moral nihilism. There's no objective moral good or bad, only good or bad for a particular goal. But yeah, Voluntaryism is good for my personal happiness and the culture that I would like to live in.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/16 06:37 PM
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No because when they're on their way to a party they seem happy and aren't asking for help. Someone might tell them that if they couldn't be around other people for a while and got really sad and lonely. I'm not really an extrovert btw, I'm basically right in the middle but I might lean slightly introverted.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/16 06:21 PM
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Like me! :D
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/16 06:17 PM
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Ok I'll just leave you to wallow if that's what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/16 05:30 PM
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So when people tell lonely or bored extroverts that they need to rely less on others for their happiness, are they not telling them that they should be more introverted?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/16 05:10 PM
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So when people tell lonely or validation seeking extroverts that they need to rely less on others for their happiness, are they not telling them that they should be more introverted?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/16 05:09 PM
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Most atheists worship at the altar of the state.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/16 07:12 PM
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I agree from a personal perspective, but arguably everything including coercion is amoral.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/16 07:11 PM
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I don't understand what you're looking for? You're basically saying "I want to have a skill but not have to work to learn it." Yeah, learning calculus is a more enjoyable process if you already like math, but lots of people who hate math still force themselves to learn it because they see the benefit of being able to do calculus.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/16 06:51 PM
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Also, note that no-one ever tells extroverts that they could become more introverted if they tried really hard What problems do extroverts have that becoming an introvert would solve?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/16 06:45 PM
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It also reads as super defensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/16 06:26 PM
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Most people are really pretty similar to others in their culture/"tribe" so I think "put yourself in their shoes" works well enough for them that it has been considered good enough, but now with globalization and the internet it doesn't work as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/16 06:19 PM
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I would guess that if you could measure such a thing, the average man is more "good," based on your list, than the average woman. I would attribute this to men on average being raised with more accountability and having more of a protective instinct.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/16 05:39 PM
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It's good for your skin. He's just giving her a spa day!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/16 05:30 PM
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They might not know that dread game is a strategy but they can still see the way the other person is acting. If they don't leave then they are consenting to the way the person is acting. They don't have to be explicitly informed.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/16 05:14 PM
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I've heard that there was a study on mice where they found that a half and half mix of butter and sugar was more addictive than heroin.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/16 08:25 PM
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A double cheeseburger at McDonald's is 430 calories, 22g fat, 25g protein, 35g carbs. That's not the worst lunch in the world. It's just that people get a large fries and a sugary drink with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/16 08:23 PM
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Men wouldn't be cool with their woman hanging out with an ex or orbiters, why should it be any different if the genders are switched? In this case I think you're right, depending on the situation. In general though, I don't think that something being a double standard necessarily makes it bad in a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/16 10:10 AM
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I'd be interested to see your examples if you have links.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/16 11:04 PM
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How does it follow? I don't understand the connection you are trying to make between "women have some days where they have much more intense libido than other days" and "women's sexually is "for" (directed at?) themselves." Answering the second part: are you a guy or a girl? How are you so sure that you're right? You didn't give any reason, you just told me that I'm wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/16 10:49 PM
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That's not even what I asked. How does not being super bitch any of the time mean "not having any personality"?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/16 10:42 PM
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Why is not wanting to be domineering and adversarial always made into a bad thing by calling it "no personality."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/16 03:56 PM
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Her sexuality is for her. Does not follow from These days of high libido can easily be 24/7 and be far stronger/longer-lived than anything men experience. Also I would disagree with it being stronger than what men experience. From the things I've read and the way I've seen guys act, I think those high days are the only time women get close to knowing what it's like for guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/16 03:49 PM
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"A woman can't tell you what she wants you to do, she can only tell you how she wants you to make her feel." Women say they want nice guys because they genuinly think that is what will make them happy. When they date nice guys and aren't happy, they rationalize that he must not really all that nice. And you could make the argument that he isn't nice. Part of TRP is giving guys the tools to actually make women happy, despite the women not knowing how.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/16 03:42 PM
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I think the distinction is not so much STEM/not STEM as being willing to spend your whole career making money for other people and not having as much responsibility, or moving beyond that eventually. I think it's pretty easy to see how this would line up with the traits you are observing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/16 04:36 AM
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Drugs are always the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/16 08:31 PM
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I just read a lot. Most, if not all, of that comment could be credited to various TRP/RPW mods and ECs.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/16 03:36 AM
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made it their conscious cause to bring themselves up out of it. This is more attractive to me that being a "natural" because it shows determination to change for the better and willingness to entertain ideas that contradict your worldview; to adapt to new information. But I also don't really think there's such thing as a "natural" alpha, there's just guys who learned younger and guys who learned older. Maturity and toughness are things you get from experience. I think that when women on here say…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/16 05:32 PM
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Personally, I think the common denominator is whether or not a food is in it's whole form or not, not whether is has "this sugar" or "that sugar". I'm not an expert, but this sounds more like opinion than science.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/16 04:44 AM
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IIRC fruit has a different kind of sugar in it (sucralose sucrose?) that does not affect you the same as table sugar(fructose?). /u/Whisper wrote some good articles about it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/16 11:40 PM
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I'm running a 5k in the middle of August, and I'd like to be under 25 minutes (8 minute mile pace) which is completely doable, I just need to set aside time to do a few more long runs this week/weekend. My eventual goal is to do one in under 20 minutes before it gets really cold this winter. (Maybe Thanksgiving?)
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/16 06:01 AM
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Sounds like you only want him because he isn't interested anymore. If he is perfect for you then why did you not "give him a full chance" when he first expressed interest?
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/16 11:01 PM
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You're right, avoidance to that degree would probably be a deal breaker for me too. I think it's something he can work on if he chooses, but besides presenting his escapism as one of the core issues and letting him deal with it, all she can control is how much she has contributed to it. (Which could be a lot or almost nothing)
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/16 10:54 PM
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The fact that he hid it at first shows that he knew there was a boundary there, I think.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/16 10:45 PM
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I think it's maybe a bad spot to judge the relationship and the guy. I wish she had answered the part of my response where I asked what attracted her to him originally. I'm sure the relationship could be fixed, but it's hard to know if it would be worth it for her to try.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/16 10:42 PM
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Yes but you can't maintain boundaries by insisting/demanding, you have to get him to care enough about you to want to maintain them himself.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/16 09:29 PM
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I agree. I was trying to show that winning the power struggle isn't important, having a happy relationship with your SO is.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/16 09:14 PM
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It just seems kind of counterintuitive to try to force someone to act trustworthily. That defeats the point.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/16 09:10 PM
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I saw someone complaining about SRS, so I was discovering the hilarious mess that is that sub, and they had TRP listed in their sidebar as low hanging fruit. Thanks SRS!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/16 07:13 PM
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Flooring tiles don't seem like something worth arguing about, to me. I would rather have a happy relationship and not have my first choice of tile.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/16 06:23 PM
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I mean he said that's why he didn't want to tell her, but probably he was just trying to avoid having to tell OP in case she got mad. I'm not so sure this whole making demands of him to tell her more details is a great plan. It seems like it will make the situation more adversarial.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/16 05:28 PM
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I admit wasn't always the perfect person to around Don't gloss over this. Your behavior towards him is driving him away from you and he has sought external comfort. How is your sex life currently and how has it been over the course of the relationship? He is not happy and is lacking purpose in his life, that's why he leaves his jobs and has basically fantasy emotional relationships online. He is escaping. What was he like when you met him, what attracted you to him?
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/16 05:22 PM
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^
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/16 11:18 PM
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The best thing about being alive so far has been being me and not someone else. Me too 😄
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/16 11:17 PM
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Yeah but I think having it cycle/go away on its own is why women tend not to understand how it can affect guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/16 01:13 AM
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I'm not saying that they are unconnected, I'm saying that we can come up with other (better?) ways to satisfy our conscious desires than the way that was originally "intended"(adaptive), the way that caused that desire to evolve.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 06:11 PM
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I think this comes from the fact that women's hormones cycle every month, so even women with high sex drives don't experience it all the time. My understanding of it is that for men it's much more constant, which makes it harder to ignore.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 06:02 PM
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Yes, but that doesn't mean that promoting our genes is necessarily the most effective way to satisfy our conscious desires. Humans have sex drives to encourage breeding, but we now have recreational sex much more often than procreative sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 05:23 PM
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I think it's maybe a regional thing? It never happens where I live.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/16 04:45 PM
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Cold showers are better for your hair and skin.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/16 04:39 PM
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SCIENCE 😄
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/16 03:53 AM
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I'm in school for CompSci. I like computer type stuff and so far I'm reasonably good at it, and it's one of the better paying things I could do. Mainly though, I picked it because I like the kind of people I'm around. And there's so much interesting stuff going on! I think a lot of guys pick jobs for the money but also maybe to feel like they are building/contributing to something, or for personal achievement/prestige? I want to be good at what I do for my own satisfaction, but I don't necessari…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 08:23 PM
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:( /hug
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 05:10 PM
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I like being out Pokemoning at night anyways because I can turn my screen brightness way down and make my battery last longer. If you run on a treadmill usually, you could go to an indoor track type facility maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 11:24 PM
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I logged almost 26km yesterday...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 07:10 PM
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Not me, it definitely works. I think well applied dread game can actually make the relationship happier for the woman. It makes use of the chemical reward mechanisms in our brains.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 06:19 PM
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I regularly put emojis in my PPD flair, but I will try to refrain here.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/16 06:29 PM
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I think maybe what girls mean when they say they don't prefer super muscular guys is that they don't prefer super low BF% guys. At least that's my experience. And the guy in the second picture looks less cut than he is because he has his arms up and isn't flexing?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/16 07:44 PM
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If a guy you like drops something, snatch it and run away. :D That's cute. Right now the two guys I interact with the most are my housemates so my example is maybe more calibrated towards being only friendly.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/16 06:14 PM
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Oooh! Aleppo pepper chicken kebabs are one of my favorite recipes ever. They're great grilled with orange and yellow bell peppers, yellow onions, and quartered tomatoes.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/16 04:59 AM
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I made somewhere between a double and a triple batch of tortellini soup. Dinner plus lunches/snacks for my housemates this week, plus half in the freezer so we can have it in a few weeks when we feel lazy.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/16 05:46 PM
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Right? I feel like anyone who isn't laughing is missing the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/16 04:57 PM
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I do a lot of active hobbies, and I run. Sometimes I do hill sprints if I feel ambitious.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/16 10:56 PM
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Flair is accurate: I don't even lift.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/16 09:47 PM
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Right, but I think most people would look at that and say that we need to get out of paradise somehow, either by destroying it or creating some new struggle. I don't want to be self destructive like that. I would rather build some kind of culture that teaches us how to live happily in this relative paradise we have.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/16 05:12 PM
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Like any habit change, it takes time and practice. You can try making the change more gradual. Instead of ratty jeans and a big hoodie, you could wear a fitted, flattering pair of jeans and a sweater like this or this and then work your way up? Femininity is much more how you carry yourself than how you are dressed, and again, it's a habit you work on every day, not one big overhaul that you give up on if you fail.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/16 08:39 AM
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It's only a power struggle if you struggle. A concept we use here that I think will really help you is "bring him your problem, not your solution." Men are naturally protective towards women, but resist being told what to do. This is a man who loves you and who you trust, so be a little bit vulnerable. Tell him that you're scared of the changes this is causing and that you miss the closeness you had before. Make sure not to imply that you blame him or think he is obligated to do anything about i…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/16 08:20 AM
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::shrug:: And the price we paid was the price men have always paid for achieving a paradise in this life - we went soft, we lost our edge. Dune is actually a pretty good example of what this thread is taking about.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/16 08:07 AM
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A society that promotes integrity allows you to trust others. I didn't mean your own integrity.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/16 07:51 AM
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Let the beauty we love be what we do. There are hundreds of ways to kneel and kiss the ground. -Rumi
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/16 06:58 AM
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Red Pill information is amoral - it is just information. You can use it towards whatever goals you want based on whatever moral system you have. I don't believe there is any single, objective morality. At least, I've never seen any evidence for one. We as humans have certain general moral concepts that we tend to develop since they promote behavior that is good for building societies. We value integrity [in other people] because it allows us to trust [them](edited for clarity), and not having to…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/16 06:53 AM
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That's life. People say offensive things. They aren't doing anything to you, if you don't want to hear their conversations, wear headphones.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/16 06:47 PM
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The goal/difficulty for women is not getting laid. I agree that it is amoral. For example in some people's morality, sex before marriage is immoral, but it would still be a valid action that a RPW would make. However, while we don't make moral judgements on things like being ruthless and manipulating, we know that those are not attractive traits in women. Part of the general strategy for mostly all women should be to develop a kind, feminine way of interacting with people.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/16 11:24 PM
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I think eventually you start to realize that all the nonsense they pull isn't really making them happy, and you start to feel bad for them. Maybe it sounds kind of hippy dippy, but I've found that the more you yourself start to act in a sweet, positive, feminine way, the more people will reflect that back at you, so you can try to lead by example. If you want to try to influence your friends, the important thing is to inspire reflection, to avoid making them feel judged. "I'm going to try to mak…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/16 05:37 PM
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Why do you need to be proud to be a woman? The accomplishments and failings of other women are not something you've contributed to. Value yourself based on your own accomplishments and failings.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/16 05:15 PM
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I am a firm believer in dressing the part. I think that when you start to lose weight and make your appearance more feminine, you will find it easier to act more feminine. I know I'm always more graceful if I wear a skirt than pants. This has actually been studied. Sarcastic and distant are defence mechanisms to protect you from getting hurt by others. See if you can start to open up and share your genuine thoughts with people, especially build your confidence with people who tend to be nicer an…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/16 06:19 AM
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Yup, the nurturing aspect of feminity. :) We have to be careful not to cross the line into mothering territory though. Some guys are a lot more sensitive to this, if they've had someone be way too overbearing before. I like to think of it as not setting goals for the guy's health, but supporting him in the details of the goals/standards he sets himself.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/16 05:49 AM
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There are individual cases where a woman can improve and take care of herself and rise above the average woman (which is a pretty low bar), and make herself desirable enough to attract an individual guy who is considered attractive. This is a good reminder to women who find RPW after having checked off some big red flags, that there is still plenty they can do to affect their long term happiness. But it's not good advice for women who don't have that history to go trying to acquire it. It can be…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/16 03:07 AM
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Right or wrong, it sounds like he's going to feel that you're leading him on, so plan accordingly is all I'd say.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/16 03:52 AM
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He is giving you these things with the intention of building a relationship with you, and you are accepting them with little plausable deniability that you are aware of his goals, and no desire to be a part of them. This is not a sustainable relationship dynamic and it's probably going to end messily. In general, we say that it's better to change yourself to attract the people you want to be around, than to try to force the people you are with to change. If you keep avoiding his questions, he is…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/16 01:28 AM
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There's a lot more to attractiveness than weight and face structure genetics. I would recommend checking out The Rules Revisited. http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2011/09/feminine-beauty-is-highly-controllable.html?m=1 There's lots of other good info on that site too. And beyond physical attractiveness there is your energy and approachability. Do you smile, make eye contact, laugh easily?
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/16 11:41 PM
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The thing that jumps into my mind is that pulling out takes a lot of control and he probably doesn't want to get too "in the moment" and slip up. I'm assuming that since he doesn't use condoms, he doesn't want to? I would say try using some other form of BC.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/16 01:33 AM
2

I'm reading the other replies, maybe instead of saying no or I'm busy, suggest that he invite the girl who likes him. But also it's only a month, you could just not worry about it and put it out of your mind. The only thing I would say is to not let him build up the interaction any more, and not allow him to get the impression that you two will have any contact after school.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/16 01:08 AM
1

Hmmm. He sounds kind of pushy? When he invites you out how do you decline? Like do you say you're busy or just say no you don't want to?
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/16 03:25 AM
2

How do you end up taking to him? Could you avoid it?
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/16 11:21 PM
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The kindest thing you can do for him is to let him move on. Think about a breakup, it's much easier to get over if you are able to get away from reminders and stop thinking about it. Same thing for him. If you are talking to him enough to bring up your SO, I think that is still too encouraging because you're sharing semi personal about yourself/your life. How a part of your social circle is he?
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/16 10:12 PM
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From what I can see of abusive relationships, they are very destructive to self esteem. I think it's important to try to work through this, because otherwise you are more vulnerable to another person with abusive tendencies, and may even subconsciously seek that kind of person out. I guess it depends, do you feel ok in this regard? Meeting guys during the day or slowly through friends is going to set the tone for not having sex right away.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/16 02:31 PM
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I think maybe when women get too secure in a marriage, it's not only that they know their husband won't leave, but also that they don't care what he thinks of them, or have an unrealistically high idea of what he thinks of them even when they don't try. You can know that your husband can't easily leave you but still avoid being too secure if you still care about not disappointing or embarrassing him. If I were married I wouldn't want my husband to just not leave, I'd want him to be proud of me.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/16 06:36 AM
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Having a LTR yes, that's part of what's included in "Do I think he is invested in me/interested in a serious relationship." If he's not interested in any kind of long term partnership, it's not going to turn out happily for me. Kids though I can go either way on. I'm all for them if he wants to have them, but if it comes down to it, I'd rather be with a guy I really like than have children. I do find that "would I be willing to raise children with this man?" Is an excellent metric for judging if…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/16 12:07 AM
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Idk.. Letting a hundred flowers blossom and a hundred schools of thought contend is the policy for promoting progress in the arts and the sciences Sounds like capitalism to me! xD
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/16 06:00 PM
1

Can I have mine please be yellow and have the text 23. Focusing on science.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/16 05:50 PM
1

Everyone keep in mind that flairs can be kind of slow to update. Sometimes reddit will show you two different flairs for the same user in the same thread. Just give it a minute and then refresh, it'll figure itself out.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/16 05:49 PM
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There are two (Edit: a lot more than that) different structures that different groups use. The more technical one has alpha, beta, sigma, delta, and omega, and possibly others (?) The one most TRP readers use involves more of just alpha and beta so it's definitions of them are different than the first model. I tend to not worry so much about putting guys into categories like that. I focus on the metrics of Am I attracted to him Do I respect him/trust his judgement Do I think he is invested in me…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/16 04:07 PM
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I mean if you're 5 years in and you live together and have friends together, I'd say you're reasonably safe. Also if he, y'know, acts like he cares about you. I'm maybe too trusting but it seems like a lot of effort for a guy to go through just to mess with someone. Maybe depending on the type of guy? If he specifically wanted to, for whatever reason, then yes I would do it. I think the same relationship foundations that would make me comfortable with not being married would see me not wielding …
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/16 07:11 AM
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I think there comes a point in an LTR where you can say that you know realistically he is not going to leave you, unless you do something really terrible. I am not sure how I feel about the idea of trying to avoid feeling too comfortable and safe in a relationship, ideally I'd like to have those things. That doesn't mean I would stop making an effort to nourish the relationship, but I would want a partner I have trust and intimacy with, which would kind of imply that I don't think he's just goin…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/16 02:32 AM
1

Oh well that works too, hah.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/16 10:01 PM
1

I definitely got the vibe from the one about the boyfriend smoking and especially the one about the boyfriend who doesn't want to get married. They could be just users who are excited to finally be able to ask their questions, but they come off as asking too precisely the questions that were being discussed in the split. There is nothing unique/random about their situations like you'd usually have in a real question I think. Their situations fit too perfectly. (Less so the smoking one)
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/16 09:50 PM
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You're no longer going to get banned for this but that doesn't mean people won't disagree with you or tell you that you're wrong. I personally, would be fine with your situation, but really the decision is up to you, do you value this specific man or having real (legally binding is probably a better word) commitment more? Life is about the decisions you make; we can help you see all the the pros and cons but you have to weigh them for yourself. Ex: do you want kids? Does he?
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/16 08:16 PM
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That's one good strategy for women. Possibly it's the only good one, possibly not. Possibly someone else might even come up with something better. But they never will if they aren't presented with the discussion. Allowing alternate viewpoints isn't the same as condoning them or saying that they all have equal merit. It's just allowing each person to read and think about and decide for themselves what arguments are convincing to them and what ideas are useful and beneficial to them. Deciding that…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/16 07:31 PM
1

I spent too much time on the internet when I was a kid. I still do, but I did then, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/16 03:11 AM
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And only dumb kids take math classes because the smart ones come out of the womb doing DiffEQ.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/16 02:15 AM
1

It shows the flair how it was when the comment was posted.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/16 10:00 PM
1

Skittles? Haha I've never heard that one.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 04:05 PM
1

>implying men want to date ambitious women.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 03:52 PM
1

Coconut oil is your friend! Put it in your hair before you wash it.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/16 06:56 AM
1

So, I can tell you what I do but I'm not sure that it will help all that much since I have very cooperative hair, and I don't do a ton with it (I don't even own a blow dryer or straightener). It's mostly straight/wavy and below my shoulders. I tend to shower in the evening but not right before bed. So I just wash it with whatever generic shampoo, like suave or something. Mostly something that doesn't have a bunch of extra stuff or conditioners in it. I use just a little bit and massage it into m…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/16 10:37 PM
1

What do you want to do?
/r/askTRP29/03/16 02:54 PM
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I think I left it running on my phone and got banned for lurking lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/16 11:02 PM
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Guys spinning plates are adapting to/embracing the world blue pill creates. They try to maximize their happiness based on the social climate they find themselves in.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/16 01:21 PM
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Noooop. She never taught me how to dress nicely or do makeup or act femininely or interact with boys at all either. S'ok I'm a fast learner.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/16 05:32 AM
1

the misplaced belief that relationships are a struggle for power. You have this backwards. In the captain/first mate model, there /isn't/ a power struggle specifically /because/ one person defers to the other. Not knowing where you stand with someone is what leads to power struggles. Having a relationship with a clear leader allows both parties to feel more secure. Just from my own observations, I would say that a woman being overly dominant in a relationship actually correlates to her having lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/16 05:44 PM
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Based on the very recent history of my relationship, I don't see telling him that as a good option. If you don't tell us what the real problem is, we really can't help you.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/16 10:40 AM
2

I'm apparently gaylubeoil's alt! :D such an honor.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/16 04:27 PM
1

How old are you?
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/16 01:59 PM
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It sounds like you aren't super attracted to him. You were "never in the right place to date" but now you are interested in him sounds to me like you've realized you need to look for a provider and he suddenly looks like a good option. When someone I really like texts me, I am always happy and excited to get it, but when someone texts me who I know likes me a lot more than I like them, that's when it feels like a burden.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/16 05:08 AM
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But the way it's phrased, he's basically claiming to have these qualities himself. A little self-absorbed. I read it more as her commenting on how she perceives them as they are talking, not them actually saying they are these things.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 11:31 AM
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It seems like you're going for a certain type of guy who is academic enough to want to debate like this. So you could try branching out from that "type." I also feel like you must be doing something to provoke these conversations. If you really don't want to talk about your studies you would be much more vague. Him: what are you studying? You: I'm a grad student working on some neuropsychology stuff Him: oh that's pretty cool, you're interested in psychology? You: yeah, it beats working at McDon…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 06:22 AM
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Two of my friends/housemates have been dating for like 4 years, and I witness this every day :( I wish I could do something about it but there's no way I can see involving myself helping anyone. And the thing is, she's not a bad person, I feel like she just has no idea what effect she's having. It's very sad to watch.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/16 06:35 PM
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See, to me, they both look, Idk.. "lumpy." Do you think most men feel similarly to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/16 02:30 AM
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VS models are 18%.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/16 02:29 AM
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Right? One of my favorite things to do with an SO or even with my close friends is just tag along on their errands. Being able to enjoy "doing nothing" with someone is a mark of genuinely enjoying that person's company.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/16 07:21 PM
1

slight abs pls I always thought abs on girls were kind of gross.. What would be ideal vs. too much?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/16 05:10 PM
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My opinions have definitely been reinforced. My willingness to question my beliefs has always served me well, it's not something I learned from this subreddit though. Mostly I'm here to refine and better understand my ideas by having to come up with arguments and explanations for them that are satisfactory, at least for my own standards for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/16 04:30 PM
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Moderately. I use reddit obviously. I spend more time reading and in more subreddits than my post history would suggest, but not a huge amount of time total. I have a Facebook that I mostly use for organizing plans with my friends. I hardly ever post anything but every few days I might scroll through my feed and see if there's anything interesting. For the most part it ends up being just another method of sharing media with my close friends. Almost like if my friend group had a private subreddit…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/16 01:44 AM
2

Oh, in the quoted part of OP it says they adjusted for the fact that the guys got better grades. I only read the part of the study that is quoted in OP though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/16 01:26 AM
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So... What I'm hearing is that men are more likely to pick a man as the smartest, and women are equally likely to pick a man or a woman as the smartest, in a class where, as the study states, men get better grades overall. Meaning that the men actually had a better idea than women of who was their smartest classmate?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/16 07:52 PM
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She's saying she's not attracted to him, or at least not turned in right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/16 05:11 AM
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:(
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/16 03:16 AM
2

They don't want to change women's personalities, they know that women change their own personalities to fit with men they are attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/16 04:00 PM
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You would have loved the first girl more niavely. Being more experienced and cynical is not the same as damaged (for guys).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/16 03:15 PM
2

Once someone thinks you're a misogynist, you get to stop caring what they think!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/16 02:56 PM
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The problem isn't saying positive things, it's saying undeservedly positive things because you're attracted to her. If she measures up in terms of actual merit, that's fine. However you might not want to say this to her, if she's used to being rained with compliments you might appear to be trying to say what she wants to hear in order to get her to like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/16 02:49 PM
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Children need fathers, so if I had to pick between the two options I'd go with the below average guy, but IRL if these were my options I'd use my money to buy a really fancy cat.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/16 02:31 PM
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Don't use Facebook as much, and try to avoid seeing his Facebook activity in your feed.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/16 02:19 PM
1

I love how you're fishing for approval from the bloops. "Please tell me this isn't thoughtcrime even though deep down I know it is." You're not gonna get what you're looking for here.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/16 10:19 AM
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Define respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/16 10:15 AM
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Sure it's misogynistic, whatever. You can slap that word on anything you want I guess. Some people, I know this is crazy right, but some people don't really care about not being misogynistic. WHAAAAT.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/16 09:44 AM
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And you forget to be nervous or self conscious.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/16 05:47 PM
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They do care about personality, they want someone who is sweet and feminine, not sassy and sarcastic.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/16 12:38 PM
2

This makes my practical steakstreak really happy because valentine's activities are cheaper/less crowded on not valentine's day (restaurants, flowers, etc.), lol!
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 01:00 AM
2

Firstly, I myself really couldn't care less about valentine's day, and wouldn't even remember it if it wasn't for grocery store displays, radio ads, etc. The kind of guy that I like is not so much specifically very masculine as very rational/logic driven and more than happy to just not do anything. It's not about some anti-blue pill defiance sentiment, we just don't care. I'm single so likely I'll sleep in, go for a run, finish my homework, play some zombies. Typical Sunday, except that my house…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/16 12:46 AM
1

Take a picture when you have them how you like, and bring it with you to the nail place.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/16 10:58 PM
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allowing myself to be vulnerable and freely share my emotions, for example expressing joy at silly things, or not feeling like I need to hide fear or stress behind anger or distance being totally invested in the relationship obedience that comes from trust; if I trust his judgement, I don't have to question what he tells me to do
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/16 10:47 PM
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Make an effort to look good, presentation is a big part of how much people want to be around you, and will also make you feel more confident and friendly. Have you life together, or appear to, you don't want to seem frazzled and stressed, you want to seem calm and happy. Don't be awkward. To break yourself of this, keep reminding yourself to get out of your head. Instead of thinking about how others percieve you and being preoccupied with yourself, think about the people around you. What are the…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/16 10:23 PM
1

The idea you want to strive for is to bring him your problem, not your solution. Don't tell him to keep you in the loop, just tell/show him how sad/uncared for it makes you feel when he doesn't. Let his protective instinct do the work for you.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/16 04:15 AM
1

What's wrong with TIA?
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/16 03:47 AM
1

Well I didn't really mean what fashion decisions are associated with older vs. younger women. Human instincts evolved before hair dye. If nobody dyed their hair, in a lot of populations, young women as a group (18 ish) would have lighter hair than older women (30 ish).
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/16 05:43 PM
1

Oh, no I was thinking of a fashion model. You're right then, a glamour model would be a good example.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/16 05:31 PM
1

Sure, I'm not saying you're wrong to be more reserved, just explaining how he is different. You'll only make you both miserable by trying to change him too much, so your options are basically to adapt or try to find someone who communicates more like you do.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/16 05:52 PM
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Victoria's Secret and glamour models are used to sell things to women. They represent women's ideals for themselves. Examples of the average man's ideal woman as defined by what is used to sell to men would be professional cheerleaders, promo girls, women in commercials for men's products, women who make porn, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/16 05:09 PM
1

Blond is considered the most youthful, I think. I guess most people's hair darkens as they age (until it starts graying obviously). Dyed unnatural colors makes people percieve you as "alternative" and more likely to be promiscuous and attention seeking. But there are certain guys who do really like dyed hair, so you have to tailor to what you're looking for. Pastels definitely come off as more feminine than bold colors though.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/16 05:02 PM
2

MRA is not TRP, I think a lot of them don't really like each other. I probably won't make any effort to watch this.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/16 05:10 AM
1

You're more reserved in your relationships and he is more open, like, I'd guess he is more extroverted than you. The pattern I see is that he communicates more subtly, by implication, and you communicate more by explicitly saying things. Even his approach with the dog, while abrupt, gives the owner more feeling that they can save face; when you lay the whole thing out you're showing that you've thought about it a lot. I would say being more vulnerable is definitely a yes. You don't have to analy…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/16 05:02 AM
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I think compliments and admiration always mean more if you go into some detail or "why," so maybe telling him how the work he does makes you feel confident about your future, or very cared about, or whatever is relevant to you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/16 10:16 AM
1

Yes I'm sure. You could just Google it and find out for yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/16 11:21 PM
1

But dem sweet sweet victim points that feminists get for yelling about how oppressed Muslims are.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/16 09:43 PM
1

You're using the failure rate when not always used correctly for pulling out and then the failure rate when always used correctly for condoms.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/16 09:39 PM
2

Because they are special and oppressed and need to be associated with and protected on the internet but never gone near in real life except for a sterilized few who have completely adopted the feminists' culture.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/16 04:34 PM
1

You do know that condoms also have a failure rate of like 4% or something right?
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/16 04:17 PM
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My thoughts: 1: when he asks your preference on something, instead of either telling him what you're both doing or telling him he has to decide (which is also telling him what to do), just tell him your preference and ask if he is alright with that. "Oh! I was thinking of making xyz, does that sound good?" 2: Arguing and then begrudgingly yeilding isn't very good first mate behavior. That is the opposite of building his confidence. Is he really not worth the small inconvenience of having to get …
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/16 11:50 PM
1

never rely on the method of he's ejaculated in the past 24 hours. If you don't like it you don't have to use it, but it's effective when used properly.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/16 11:24 PM
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22% of couples aren't doing it effectively then. The guy needs enough self control to always pull out in time and to never rely on the method of he's ejaculated in the past 24 hours. Lots of couples aren't mature enough to handle that but if you do it, it works.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/16 04:19 AM
2

Don't tell girls you're a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/16 12:16 AM
1

Single dads are kind of a mixed bag I think. We don't specificity advise against them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/16 11:55 PM
2

I've heard of paragard causing bad cystic acne, the explaination was supposedly that the copper caused a zinc deficiency out something.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/16 01:22 AM
2

Yeah, if you can trust the guy and he knows what he is doing, I'm pretty sure pulling out is more effective than condoms.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/16 01:16 AM
4

When people are sad and I can't give them anything else I give them hugs.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/16 03:17 PM
5

Remember that it's ok to be upset when upsetting things happen. RPW isn't about being super happy fun times all the time and never getting upset, scared, frustrated, etc. I'm not sure how to voice my concerns without nagging Focus on how it makes you feel and not on what he should do about it. Say "it makes me really nervous and stressed when the account is that low" and "my car has needed service for two months, I'm worried that I could be damaging it by driving more." (Do you know what's wrong…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/16 03:11 PM
3

I would consider the way she responded to be "falling off the wagon."
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/16 02:50 PM
2

Save some money, spend the rest on craft beer. Touch each other's butts. LIVE THE DREAM. We've found common ground. ❤ Edit: right up until someone wants kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/16 04:01 AM
2

The Focus does have an active modding/enthusiast community actually. Idk why exactly, but some people really like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/16 03:56 AM
2

Reservoir dogs 👌
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/16 03:39 AM
1

Yes. My question was more for her reflection than for my information.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/15 08:00 PM
2

Please make your browser window wider. If you are using a tablet (e.g., an iPad), please rotate it into landscape mode. This experiment will not work on a phone. Welp...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/15 07:53 PM
5

Dude calm down. Not everybody has to like the stuff you like.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/15 06:54 PM
1

Yes exactly. Don't tell people what to do, ask them questions that cause them to reflect and come up with the answer themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/15 06:53 PM
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How is your question related to RPW?
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/15 06:28 AM
2

Right, but she'll still be a human female. AWALT is about human nature, not modern entitlement and bad parenting.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/15 03:27 AM
2

That's why I said to remove your colleague from your mind.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/15 11:47 PM
1

So.. Find another job? Not attracted to my husband, who is the greatest man a wife can ever get. What makes him the greatest?
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/15 07:19 PM
2

No I hate when people flake too, but he should be upfront and honest and trust that his gf is going to be understanding. If he feels like he can't say no, he needs to bring up why he feels uncomfortable about that. My whole point was that she probably isn't understanding and that's why he's uncomfortable.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/15 07:14 PM
1

I would consider that pushing them up then?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/15 04:48 PM
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I say again. It's because he doesn't want to go but has been made to feel like he can't say no, especially without justification.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/15 04:25 PM
2

This is the first post on this sub in a long time that really made me think about something in a new way, and I love when things get laid out all nice and pretty with numbers and graphs. :D As an example, I drive a car that has a pretty active enthusiast community. Most guys don't take any special notice but occasionally I'll meet a guy who drives one too and he'll always be super excited that I know/am interested in what he's talking about.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/15 10:47 AM
1

If you have a good rapport, he's going to give you a heads up at the first hint of other plans for the day so it's not going to feel like he's flaking in the first place.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/15 10:13 AM
2

Even before that, I think the problem is that he is agreeing in the first place to go to something that he doesn't really want to do. I'd guess that if he says no from the start, he knows it'll turn into the inquisition: "but you don't have anything else to do right?" "It's important to me, don't you care about me?" "[Nagging about how he never does the stuff she's assigned him to do so he wouldn't be productive at home anyways]". This also leads to him not being transparent when other plans do …
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/15 10:05 AM
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The same way you get over a guy who breaks up with you. Don't contact him. Don't look at pictures of him or look at his social media. Get rid of anything that is his or reminds you of him. Try not to think about him at all, stop every time you catch yourself doing it. Basically, forget you ever knew him. Meanwhile, you can take time to admire your husband and cultivate respect for him.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/15 09:41 AM
1

30%s boobs are either fake or very padded. Real boobs don't have shadows on top.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/15 09:02 AM
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No I understand what AWALT is. But I don't think there is any "proving otherwise."
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/15 06:11 PM
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😄😘
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/15 04:35 AM
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Yeah it's like, cheers. http://emojipedia-us.s3.amazonaws.com/cache/51/ed/51ed97139d6c7339a7d5a647a53d7680.png
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/15 12:46 AM
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🍻
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/15 12:41 AM
1

Oh :( glad you're doing better. Do you pick things up and put them down? :D
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/15 12:33 AM
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What kind of problems did that cause with eating, are you OK now? Edit: oh! You meant be wary of girls with eating disorders? Haha I didn't get that on the first read. (never mind)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/15 12:17 AM
1

Oh, sorry, I'm a RPW actually... Is that something you personally deal with?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/15 12:06 AM
1

?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/15 11:58 PM
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Increased self awareness; not allowing myself to rationalize stupid, irrational actions. Social skills: understanding/predicting other people's behavior, motivations, etc. My friends tell me I give really good advice and that I'm good at meeting people on their level. Understanding what people want and getting what I want from them. Specificly, no longer using rationalizations to hide from how important my looks are in my attractiveness, and subsequently committing seriously to looking my best. …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/15 11:47 PM
2

I like self improvement, especially improving critical thought and insight.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/15 11:11 PM
3

How does having more information put you under more control?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/15 11:04 PM
1

No, my parents are pretty chill. Is this list familiar to you at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/15 10:46 PM
1

What do you mean "until proven otherwise"?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/15 10:33 PM
1

Not really anything. Have you noticed a pattern to the responses? Haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/15 12:43 AM
1

Dying is the ultimate dread game.
/r/TheRedPill24/12/15 08:20 PM
5

richer women tend to look better. How do you know it's not "better looking women tend to get richer."?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/15 06:52 PM
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If pretty much everyone was a feminist, why would we need to talk about it so much? Wouldn't it have already accomplished all of its goals and faded into something that only gets brought up rarely?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 09:48 PM
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That's exactly what someone pretending to be reasonable would say! 🎅
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 09:38 PM
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I don't think I thought about it at all. I didn't find out about TRP until college so in high school I never really thought about inequalities between genders much. I think if you had asked me, I would have said that the women's rights movement had finished it's job, and men and women were reasonably equal in society; I never felt oppressed by men but I also wasn't aware of any privileges I might have had.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 07:01 PM
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If you are interested, Nikki Blackketter has a fun YouTube channel that I like to keep up with. Lots of butt workouts and cute vlog type stuff, and she is mostly pretty sweet to her boyfriend. Not RPW, but definitely feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/15 05:34 PM
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It's definitely a calibration and TRP is, like I said, mostly using examples of entitled American and maybe Canadian and British women, and probably much more beta guys as well. I'd be willing to bet the relationships your friends have are still better the more the guy passes shit tests and the more he holds his own frame. (The guy can do those things with humor, he wouldn't need to be mean about it.)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 08:13 AM
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Yeah, a lot of TRP's practical examples are calibrated for the US, specificly colleges and cities. But I'm pretty confident the theory behind the examples would apply across cultures. Do you see patterns in which of your male friends are more successful in dating/social situations?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 07:40 AM
1

Ok, what are the people like that you would consider to be what TRP portrays?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 07:17 AM
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Right, I understand what you're saying, and trust me, I've had a LTR that came about as close to what you're talking about as any could. But in most relationships (platonic or romantic) there is some degree of imbalance of power, and whoever has less to lose has more power. For mutual happiness and stability of the relationship, it's better for the person who can be more trusted not to abuse that power to have it. Friendships that last tend to rely on a very small imbalance and/or the benevolenc…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 07:13 AM
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Not issues; differences. Not negative things; feminine things.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 06:45 AM
1

When you make decisions as a team, what happens when you just can't come to an agreement?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 06:41 AM
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RPW talks about family and kids a lot because that's what a lot of women want.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 06:31 AM
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This is interesting because you have the same "show me" attitude that I have, that made TRP convincing for me. I see it all around me so I'm curious what the people you are around are like that you don't see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 06:27 AM
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Yeah, so can Nazism. What do you mean? Either you are not getting the distinction /u/Sepean is making, or I'm not getting the point you're making. How does a player or a husband or a DT "use" Nazism?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 06:21 AM
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What TRP is saying is that the game is human nature, and we don't want it to stop even when we think we do. We aren't rational, as much as we like to think we are. It's like when jcpenny or whatever store it was stopped playing the retail game where they mark things up to then put them on sale. They were trying to give customers what they said they wanted, but their results ended up being really bad because people really do want to feel like they're getting a deal. So in a relationship you say w…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 06:15 AM
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[Two paragraphs of disclaimer, etc.] ...If we're calling working out and being confident as TRP, that works on pretty much everyone, even outside of romance and sex, but is hardly a specific TRP thing... BP talks about this nebulous concept of "being confident" and say that that's part of the "good advice that TRP has but you can find it other places too!" What specific behaviors make someone confident? So basically, the girls I see TRP working on are some combination of 1) Interested in sex wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 05:45 AM
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the type of girl TRP techniques work on And what kind of girl is that exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 03:03 AM
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I don't think solipsism necessarily has to be as negative as selfish is though. Let's say you have an introvert that isn't used to hanging out with extroverts and an extrovert that isn't used to hanging out with introverts alone on in a train car together for a long trip. The extrovert might try to talk to the introvert because they wanted to but also because they think the other person would prefer to talk. The introvert try to leave the extrovert in peace because they don't want to chat, but a…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 01:13 AM
2

I'd date a TRP reader if he wanted to be in an LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/15 06:38 PM
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This is a fundamental disagreement that RP and BP have on here every so often that boils down to how malleable you think personalities are. BP says that if you act different, you're pretending to be someone else. RP says that if you act different, you are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 05:48 PM
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F/22/Red secretly one 10 be great at oral but ok at sex (but I'd prefer the guy to have the other option) 11/10 kiss if you mean invisible all the time then I'd rather be catcalled, if you only mean invisible in public/with strangers/at bars then I'd rather be invisible.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 05:41 PM
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Did you not take biology in high school? This isn't some radical idea with one source study that I have to dig up and link for you. Shaped for babies heads.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 07:24 AM
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I think he meant that she was surprised at his strength. She knew she couldn't do it but didn't know how easily he could.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 06:58 AM
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Men's skeletons are shaped for athleticism, women's skeletons are shaped for having babies.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 06:48 AM
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Listen to what people do, not what they say. He says he doesn't care what people think of him because he wants to be perceived as not caring. He got upset, so that tells you he cared.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/15 02:36 AM
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Haha, are you Google plus?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/15 02:50 AM
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I think that if she thinks you showed interest but gave up, she won't care. But if she thinks you showed interest and then changed your mind about her, she will be more interested than she was before.
/r/TheRedPill13/12/15 01:11 AM
1

Part of good game seems like it would be a good first impression. And, I'm not an expert, but "hey how are you?" doesn't strike me as the most interesting opener.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/15 12:05 AM
1

How are they rejected before they start?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 11:38 PM
1

But it can be learned, even by ugly people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 09:55 PM
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They "work" for women in the sense that they give them more power in the relationship, but not in the sense of making them more satisfied with the relationship. Would you rather be with someone you can control, but disgusts you, or someone you are madly in love with and very happy to do favors for?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 07:42 PM
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It's only derogatory against bitchy women. But yes, we always have to bring [cis] white men into it don't we? You're a meme.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 06:56 PM
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Right, it's a bell curve with a few really ugly and a few really pretty people on each end and mostly everyone in the middle. And there can be a lot "wrong" with a face and people will still like it. The main guy from Teen Wolf's face is way crooked but he's still considered attractive enough to be the star of a show on MTV.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 06:42 PM
1

Good social game > all.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 06:26 PM
4

Wut.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/15 06:23 PM
3

The necklace and the hair, and also the shorts maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 07:30 AM
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I'm 22 and single. A guy in a truck stopped me while I was out running to tell me he thought I was pretty, maybe a month or two ago. I just said thanks (awkwardly) and went back to my run. That's the only time I can think of this year. I wish he hadn't approached me, I felt bad for not wanting to keep talking to him. I'm perfectly fine with essentially never getting approached, I hate disappointing people and I've never given my number out to someone who approached me. I don't really make myself…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 07:19 AM
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I can tell you right now that for me to like someone based on one picture, they have to be really attractive. The more I can tell about their personality from the picture, the less that applies. 1 Hello 90s. Not really attractive. 2/5 2 Lol. If he's making a joke then I like him, otherwise no. 3/5 3 Yes attractive. 4/5 4 He's 12 years old. 1/5 5 Attractive. 5/5 It's all for such hard to define reasons, mostly how much I like the way they carry themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/15 06:07 AM
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Her staying home or not staying home is a decision you guys need to make yourselves based on the situation you are in. What worries me is the slippery slope you seem to be on where she basically makes a decision, you resist, and then you give in. Make the decision you think is best for both of you, and stick to it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/15 04:13 AM
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Right I was just saying that just because FTO isn't alpha doesn't make it bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/15 12:32 AM
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You don't seem like a resistant or overly dominant woman to me. I think that if your husband had magically been able to implement RP perfectly right away, it wouldn't have been that difficult for you to relax into a RPW role in the relationship. But he is still figuring it out, still calibrating. He's probably being too heavy handed in some ways but not going far enough in others. (You've noticed the "too much" but probably not the "not enough" since it's what you're already used to.) I think it…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 09:11 PM
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She just phrased it awkwardly: If he doesn't defer to me [anymore], as RP suggests [that he stop doing], does it mean he doesn't respect me?
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 08:54 PM
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Well sigma is something different isn't it? I just meant renaming the less common definitions of alpha and beta for clarity. But I don't know what you'd call them instead, it was mostly hypothetical.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/15 08:33 PM
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The two metrics get mixed around so badly for using the same words. Alpha and beta are too much a part of the vernacular of western media for TRP to effectively get people to stop thinking of them/using them in their more common definitions. We really need two other words to go along with omega in order to have people really get it. (And maybe a different word for omega just to fit in with whatever new theme.) It's not going to happen since the words are such a part of TRP now too, but for clari…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/15 07:47 PM
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Yes but FTO (I've also heard it called low time preference I think,) is generally considered to lead to higher long term happiness and satisfaction, which is the end goal of TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/15 07:32 PM
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"So instead of acknowledging applause, I stand there unmoving while they take part in the boldest form of dissent they can manage. Silence. Which says we do not agree. We do not condone. All of this is wrong." I don't want to kill people. But I don't have the balls to fight the fact that that's what my income taxes pay for. I guess I'd try to run away to Canada or become a nurse or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/15 03:37 AM
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This would first require people to understand their own intentions/desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/15 07:00 PM
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It's weird. Why is it weird? What do you think makes it easier online? Let's have some introspection and critical thought.
/r/TheRedPill07/12/15 06:34 PM
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I am a woman. That shouldn't make my advice more valuable to you, but since it apparently does, my advice is to go to TRP and read the sidebar and the top posts, and then read them again.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/15 02:15 AM
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She can be unplugged, but she'll still be a human female.
/r/TheRedPill05/12/15 04:26 AM
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That sounds perfect. I think I'd be so uncomfortable with a really grand gesture, especially in public. I'd also be ok with not getting legally married, but I wouldn't mind having a celebration of the relationship type thing with our friends/family. I like the idea of wedding bands but not an engagement ring.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 06:57 PM
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RPW advises being someone that men care about and want to help. That's useful in pretty much any country.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 07:57 PM
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As far as drying my hair, I also like to just wash it first thing in the shower and then squeeze out the water and put it in a bun while I do the rest of my shower stuff. I might squeeze it out again partway through and before I get out, (shake the water off your hands first) and then I don't really have to towel it at all.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 05:49 AM
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I didn't really mean silly to ask his preference, I meant more like silly to ask his advice about actual hair care, ex. you asking "do you think I need 30 volume developer to get my hair like this picture?" Unless he has another reason to know about it, he probably doesn't.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 05:40 AM
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Ok... So what are you looking for in this thread? I get the sense that you are not really open to our advice?
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/15 03:53 AM
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If you don't want kids you should definitely not date someone who wants them.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/15 09:44 PM
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Ask him directly if he thinks you should grow it out more. If he says yes, tell him you're worried it won't look good because of your hair type and see what he says. I know it seems kind of silly to ask his advice about hair stuff but it puts the ball in his court. But ask him directly first because he might not be intending to drop hints.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/15 09:14 PM
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I agree. When we talk about encouraging SOs to take charge here, we're mostly talking about undoing damage that the women has done over the course of the relationship, not changing someone from the way they have been the whole time you've known them.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/15 08:43 PM
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Number 1 is a really good point. I think a lot of guys would say they find intelligence to be a turn on without giving it a second thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/15 07:12 AM
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I know TRP likes to say "guys don't care about intelligence" but I think what they actually mean is that intelligence isn't sexually attractive to men. It doesn't raise their heart rate like a fit body and feminine behavior might. Also that it won't make up for lack of attraction in other areas. But it's still something a lot of guys might value in a date or relationship, similar to valuing a common interest you have.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/15 07:07 AM
2

The word "should" triggers me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/15 06:49 AM
1

You're still blue to me baby <3
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/15 06:40 AM
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Female, I got ESTP this time. (But 57% E, 58% S, 68% T, 57% P, I basically have no personality, whatever.) I'd say I'm pretty mainstream red.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/15 06:32 AM
1

So.. blue then?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/15 06:26 AM
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I was raised by the internet and I learned to respect people who've earned it, and I learned the massive difference in respect I have for people who argue to refine their ideas vs. those who argue to protect their ego.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/15 05:53 AM
1

It's more about setting the tone for dating. If she initiates, she is taking control of the interaction.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/15 05:33 AM
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It doesn't really matter if you break up or not. If you do, you can probably get into another relationship with a similar guy while you're at school, but you'll be in the same boat you're in now. Your solution is to hope he changes his mind?! The problems are you, not him, and we really can't help you much unless you change your attitude.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/15 05:26 AM
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If you ask for advice from RPW, you're going to get RPW advice. You can't argue about it, just use the advice or don't.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/15 05:13 AM
1

Your BMR is how many calories you need if you lay still in bed all day, so the amount you're actually supposed to eat is your TDEE. http://www.bmi-calculator.net/bmr-calculator Vs. http://iifym.com/tdee-calculator/ Depending on your activity level they can be pretty different. (Mine are about 1000 calories apart.)
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/15 09:42 PM
1

I feel like the easiest thing you can change would be to move from t-shirts and sweatshirts to slightly more mature shirts/blouses and sweaters and jackets. Shirts that maybe aren't fitted and you tuck in, or are oversized and slouchy, or shirts with some embellishment or structure.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 10:53 PM
1

What shoes do you wear?
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/15 07:44 PM
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Right, that's why I like the car wash, it's something fun that you wouldn't normally do.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/15 06:15 AM
3

Haha I like the car wash!
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/15 06:00 AM
6

I'd feel weird about giving a guy a coupon for a blow job. I can't think of anything I'd want to put on coupons, like, wouldn't I already do those things?
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/15 05:09 AM
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when I'm more concerned about him and how hes feeling Guys often don't want to talk about their feelings and unload on other people like women do. He doesn't want to talk about them, he wants to not have to think about the issues for a little bit. He wants to immerse himself in your world for a break from his. Your two jobs are to cultivate a bright, happy place to share with him and to enthusiastically invite him in. You're thinking that worrying about him is good because it shows you care, but…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/15 06:34 PM
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Right?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/15 04:48 AM
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Oh huh, never mind then.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 05:26 AM
2

I use the browser too because I have a giant phone, haha. But if you replace www with m in the url, you'll get the mobile site. https://m.reddit.com/
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 05:14 AM
3

"[S]he'll never be gone! Not as long as those who remain are loyal to h[er]!"
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 05:11 AM
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That's the impression I got too but with further context, I guess not. It's not that he wants someone who is more strong, ambitious, and self-reliant than him. It's that he wants someone who is more of those things than the average person.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 05:00 AM
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Sure. Use whatever you can from here that is useful and productive in your life and leave anything that doesn't apply or doesn't work the same. Bear in mind that, as a community, we don't have much experience with lesbian relationships (I think there are a few bi girls) so, as you should with anything, read thoughtfully and use your own critical eye. Are you looking for any specific information here at the moment? There is also r/altTRP, I think it's mostly gay/bi men but you or your partner mig…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 04:42 AM
2

Or has nothing to do with the seriousness of your relationship and everything to do with your and your SO's political feelings about buying marriage licences from the government.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/15 07:42 PM
2

I see this is a thread where my flair will be appropriate! Why do you think it only works on 25% of women?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/15 10:30 PM
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Just remind yourself that the best way you can help him is to help him relax and trust him to take care of his stuff. Show your confidence in him by not trying to do his things for him.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 07:46 PM
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Your chance of actually meeting someone who reads here is pretty low, I'd recommend looking for advice on r/asktrp. Also I think technically it's against the subreddit rules for guys to ask for advice here, but at least you were polite about it.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 06:34 PM
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You can help him by not worrying about his goals, let them be his and don't try to do them for him. Instead work on being a companion he can relax and have fun with. Forget about all the stuff you think he should be doing instead of relaxing; it's not your job to keep track of his life. You can build up his self esteem by asking for his help/advice/mentorship in some area and letting him solve a problem for you. (You have to be genuine though or this doesn't work.)
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 05:57 PM
1

I just made a batch of my grandma's recipe for sugar cookies. There's something about these that I always liked better than any other recipes I've used. 2 cups butter 2 eggs 2 cups brown sugar 2/3 cup milk 3 tsp. vanilla 1 tsp. salt 2 tsp. baking soda 7 cups flour Cream together butter, sugar, eggs, and vanilla. Alternate dry ingredients and milk into the mixture. Refrigerate, roll flat, cut into shapes. (Use some flour so they don't stick to the counter) Bake at 350° for about 10 minutes. The i…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 06:55 AM
2

Voting is stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/15 04:53 PM
1

Horseback riding. Running. Nazi Zombies.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/15 07:23 AM
1

See but I feel like girlfriend/boyfriend kind of trivializes serious relationships. It's fine for when you're first together but after a while, especially if we never plan to marry, I don't want to call someone "just" my boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/15 12:52 AM
2

I read most of the posts in RPW and I very rarely see posts like that...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/15 12:41 AM
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I think "read the sidebar" is not so much about learning the information (although that's important), as it is about displaying a willingness to put in your own effort to learn, and a genuine interest in understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/15 12:28 AM
1

feminism could certainly do a better job in terms of silencing and eliminating the radfems that give mainstream feminism a bad name I get the sense that you think this is all just a big misunderstanding and that all of us anti-feminists are just reacting to those you mentioned who are in the public eye "giving the rest of you a bad name." That if only we could understand how you think, we'd change our minds about feminism. AND THEN IN THE SAME COMMENT you name catcalling as a serious issue. It's…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/15 08:08 PM
2

I'm not sure we can do much more for you here until you deal with that, but I definitely encourage you to seek help asap.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 01:40 AM
2

I think you might want to consider some sort of counselor in order to get your shaky relationship with the truth under control. Have you considered this?
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 01:26 AM
0

So, there's no chance of a relationship ever again, correct?
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/15 01:24 AM
3

Yes. It's possibly less cartoony than you might be picturing it, if you don't think it's real? But it definitely is, I hear it all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 08:03 PM
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Go to /r/asktrp.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 02:14 AM
1

When you go out in public, you run the risk of being approached and talked to. That's just life. You claim to be a mature adult but your post and comments tell me otherwise, you have a very immature view of other people. It's not their job to know how you would like to be treated, and even if they did know, they don't owe you that. You get the response that YOU inspire from other people. If you are not getting the respect you want, you could do something differently. I get the sense that you thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/15 03:22 PM
7

The household doesn't fall apart if you run out of q tips.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/15 11:36 PM
2

It's just a raised eyebrow face. But seriously, the people who make these threads are either on the fence about TRP but are being lazy and wanting you to spoon feed them, or they disagree with TRP and want to feel superior by refuting your explanation and showing you they don't need any of that stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 07:45 PM
1

Right but they don't need to start with an absolutely dismal strategy to be in search of a better one.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 07:39 PM
2

😕
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 07:06 PM
1

http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m4vokkifqJ1qztwte.gif My flair is a joke, bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 06:50 PM
1

Everything we do is just something to pass the time, really.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 06:44 PM
1

I think it's more about how satisfied the individuals are with their own results than it is about how well they are doing by your metric. Self improvement doesn't have a finish line. There are lots of way to find TRP that don't involve looking up "how to get girls to do the sex with me" on yahoo answers.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 06:23 PM
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when all others have failed them. TRP isn't necessarily a last resort. I see that argument made a lot here when RP is trying to appeal to any shred of empathy a BP might be hiding away somewhere, but it isn't true for all of RP. Lots of us were pretty successful in relationships before RP but saw it as an extra tool to make things better.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 06:01 PM
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RedPill is for people who are UNABLE to have frequent happy relationships or get laid with any consistency. This is not really true. RP can improve basically any relationship. But just because it can help you doesn't mean we're trying to convince you to use it. RP is the advice we give to people who ask for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 05:50 PM
2

You probably know as much as me. It's just heartbreaking to hear how upset she is in her last videos 6 months ago. But I just went to her channel and there is a new video from yesterday! Gonna watch it now 😄
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/15 05:05 PM
1

SpringbokASMR too! She's my favorite. It's really sad what happened with her.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/15 05:02 AM
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I think the standard answer here is "no." We're not selling an ideology. If TRP speaks to you, stick around. If it doesn't, k g'bye.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/15 12:57 AM
7

I've always been all about improving by getting better information. I want to know the underlying structure of things for the purpose of more effectively getting the desired results, in pretty much every area of my life. For a sport that might be learning about the physics and most effective body mechanics. For baking that might be learning about the chemistry behind it and what exactly adding more of x ingredient does. Even when I was really little, I always wanted to thoroughly understand conc…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/15 07:39 PM
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Never heard this argument before.. What we're going to circle back to is that you trust your textbooks (and the people who wrote them) when they tell you that women were oppressed and not just uninterested. This never makes sense to me because if they were so oppressed, how come some of them made it into the history books for the scientific advances they made, wouldn't some evil patriarch have ordered them back to the kitchen and taken all the credit? Gosh it's almost like people respected peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/15 07:54 AM
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That's a nice list, it's even pretty long. But still. The fact that you would think it reasonable to make a list only serves to remind us that men have done nearly all the science and innovation throughout history. I'm a woman and I like STEM, but I'm not so ungrateful as to pretend that it's not men's shoulders I'm standing on.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/15 07:33 AM
1

TRP and TBP have much more fundamental differences than " how to treat women. "
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/15 07:20 AM
1

OP, do you believe in universal morality?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/15 07:00 PM
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Or they are the kind of guys that are willing to have children with women so awful that even the family court doesn't give her custody. My (limited) experience with s single dads doesn't make me eager to date one.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/15 08:29 AM
5

They want people to view them how they themselves view the men they are attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/15 03:07 AM
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And feminists will say "yes but we're also trying to abolish the idea that any discipline can be female-oriented or female-dominated!" Besides the fact that this is stupid, it also isn't true. They might not have any problem with those ideas going away, but they aren't actively trying to get rid of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/15 11:17 PM
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My ego gets in the way. I have one belief about myself and I’m holding on to it because “that’s who I am” There really is no "who you are" and I think it would help you to really understand and internalize that. This comment https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/1z3emb/why_put_on_an_act_when_you_could_just_be_yourself/cfr51a5 is a pretty good way to think of it.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/15 05:16 PM
3

I'm not sure if /u/archwinger is disagreeing with you necessarily, but in order to give good advice to you we need to know what your goals are. We need to know whether your looking to date straight men or gay men because, as you said, they're attracted to different things.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/15 04:48 PM
1

What is your reason for wanting female friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/15 05:58 PM
2

I was going to say the same thing. I think it's pretty normal to tell someone your need some space after a breakup.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/15 12:44 PM
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You'll find your guy that fits ALL your criteria! Don't settle for any less This is not an attitude we encourage.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 09:09 PM
2

Why would you not use imgur? :(
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 07:40 PM
1

How do the posts that I linked not have to do with "a person's outlook on life and how they perceive the world"?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/15 07:23 PM
1

Why don't you explain it in your own words. And you still didn't answer my question.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/15 05:56 PM
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You didn't answer my question. How do you judge if someone is pretending to be someone they're not or if their personality actually changed? Yes I do. Personality changing posts from just the first page of sort by top: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/39qnwd/how_to_talk_to_everyone_you_see/ https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3a2bl4/stoicism_101_a_primer_on_how_to_be/ https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/32gcqe/so_youre_a_boring_fuck_how_to_become_interesting/
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/15 05:44 PM
1

So you're saying that people who don't go to the gym already shouldn't go to the gym?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/15 05:24 PM
1

WTF do you propose they do, sit at home and wallow in their not together life because at least they're not pretending to be someone else?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/15 03:06 PM
1

See, the problem is that you say TRP can't/won't/isn't really useful for changing you personality, but then if people actually do change their personality, you just call it "acting like someone else." How do you differentiate between acting and an actual change? Also did you read the link in my first comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/15 02:52 PM
2

It has been shown that personality traits are more malleable by environmental influences than researchers originally believed. Is this really the argument you're trying to make?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/15 05:27 AM
1

How do you define personality?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/15 04:53 AM
1

Mine isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/15 02:57 AM
2

I think you're falling into the trap of thinking that "who you are" is something innate and therefore, acting differently from that is somehow false and unproductive. This has been talked about on here before.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/15 12:14 AM
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What you are doing is called a covert contract, where you do something under the pretense that that is just what you want to do, but really you are expecting something in return that you don't communicate to the other person. You do this because you convince yourself that there is still potential. You need to accept that you are never going to be in a relationship with this guy, and take some time to reflect so that you can avoid more "mental breakdowns." As a general rule, guys who are serious …
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/15 09:43 PM
1

Oh that's where it went.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/15 12:34 AM
2

That's nice for you, but this is Red Pill Women, where talk about things like how to build and maintain LTRs. So, as you have just told us, "have direction and goals" is bad advice.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/15 08:48 PM
2

Well, good luck I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/15 01:23 AM
2

So does she sacrifice her goals and direction when they interfere with yours? She must not really be that dedicated to them. Or does she sacrifice something of the relationship to continue pursuing her goals and direction? This is the archetypical career woman.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/15 10:11 PM
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There's a lot of women who probably don't have much going for them in your eyes that most people wouldn't consider to be "basic bitches." The stereotypes of basic bitches are girls who like candles and hobby lobby wall decor, so I don't think "don't be a basic bitch" is good RPW advice, it's the wrong thing to focus on. "Don't be a basic bitch" doesn't convey anything about not being aggressive or rude and possibly even encourages "sassiness" and other unattractive behaviors.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/15 12:29 AM
1

But you're not looking for someone who is your equal as far as "substance" goes, right?
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/15 12:06 AM
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I know what the term means, I was mostly looking for his definition of it. Those things that you describe wouldn't prevent her from being cheerful, kind, respectful, and attractive though. It seems like there are worse things to be.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/15 05:25 PM
3

What does it mean to you to be a "basic bitch"?
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/15 06:25 AM
1

They're all on YouTube now!
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/15 06:46 PM
2

I think that was the point, you were supposed to go as quickly as him and not worry so much about making it exactly like his.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/15 06:03 PM
2

It sounds like his reasons for breaking up were more emotional than rational. Oh, yes compatibility in that sense is important, and what I'd call similar values. Sometimes that word gets used to describe rationalizations for much more trivial disagreements.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/15 08:14 AM
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I think that love and compatibility can be mutually exclusive Love would be choosing to be compatible. It seems like you have a very idealized, almost mystical, idea in your head of what love should be. I don't honestly understand this idea, although I think it is fairly common. But I don't think it will serve you well in the long run. Instead of love, I would place more value on trust, shared goals, similar values, and reciprocal investment.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/15 06:42 AM
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We were mutually in a weird place where we were not "in love" - but I was like - hey, why have we been together for two years and adore spending every second together then? What does it mean to you to be "in love"?
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/15 03:44 AM
1

Do you want to be the captain or the first mate?
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/15 02:11 AM
1

we have agreed to not borrow money or go into debt anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/15 01:57 AM
1

You do have an opinion. You expressed it. He chose not to make use of it in this circumstance. Do you want to be the captain or the first mate?
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/15 01:52 AM
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has less to do with control, more to do with, he didn't talk to me about it. Never asked me for my opinion, didn't tell me anything about it. So basically, "it's not about control, it's about control." we have agreed to not borrow money or go into debt anymore. You say "we" here, but he doesn't seem to have felt the same way or he wouldn't have borrowed money. It sounds like you made that decision more than he did. His actions read to me like a guy who just didn't want to deal with you freaking …
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/15 01:33 AM
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He knows he should have told me He frequently will do things and I get upset, he promises it will be different next time. It happens again and again. What? This is not red pill at all, it sounds really controlling. So he didn't tell you. Why are you freaking out?
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/15 01:12 AM
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There are people who participate here with the purpose of convincing you of their view, or even better, of testing their ideas and learning from you. And then there are people who participate here to make themselves feel morally superior.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/15 10:46 PM
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What they mean is to treat women the same way you treat people you actually respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/15 10:32 PM
3

Remember those logs? These will likely come in handy in divorce prceedings. Whoa there, Sparky. Preparing for a "possible" divorce is basically asking for one.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/15 12:15 PM
1

I ride at a mostly hunter jumper barn, I don't really show any more though. There's /r/horses lol, if you haven't checked that out. It's a good mix of discussion, articles, and "this is my horse" pictures.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/15 02:14 PM
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Firstly, I don't think TRP is a sub for abusers. But also RPW subscribers don't necessarily date guys who know about TRP, we just want someone who is a good leader. How is it sad for us at RPW to come together and support each other in our goals?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/15 02:04 PM
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You have to be with someone you trust. It kind of blows my mind that anyone would be in a serious relationship with someone they don't trust to not take advantage of them. Making yourself vulnerable to the other person is part of the intimacy.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/15 11:58 AM
1

😄 what discipline do you ride?
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/15 12:27 AM
1

Sorry but, can I have a source?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/15 12:07 AM
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This premise has all kinds of would not happen to the point where it's hard for me to realistically know how I'd feel. It's very hard for me to imagine ending things with someone I liked enough to raise children with. It's also hard to imagine being on friendly terms if that did happen. I think my answer would be no, I would not want to pay child support. But really I have no idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/15 11:04 PM
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RedPillWomen is a subreddit for abuse enablers What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/15 10:35 PM
2

So are you saying that religious people are more charitable?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/15 07:53 PM
2

15-20 y/o women aren't less fertile than 21+ y/os AFAIK. Where are you getting that from?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/15 07:28 PM
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Everyone can see you're looking for a sound bite you can twist out of context.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/15 04:33 PM
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It's basic if you already know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/15 12:06 AM
2

Some of the posts are to teach you the proper mindset and part of the mindset is to observe people who have what you want and study their habits. (A lot of the proper mindset is depedestalizaton so that's what most of the posts you mentioned are for, it's one of the first steps)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/15 12:05 AM
2

So, some of mine are maybe a little different... horseback riding/training skiing and snowboarding - I like both but I'm much better at skiing longboarding (I don't do big hills, I just cruise around with my friends) fitness/running reading - about 50/50 fiction and nonfiction, right now I'm reading Dune computer games - mostly Minecraft and Rust hiking Things I'd want to start yoga/gymnastics/ballet (flexibility and cool flips/tricks)
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/15 08:32 PM
1

Is a bully not an overly emotional child?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/15 11:00 PM
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There's a great concept that gets mentioned in this sub about dealings with your SO; that is to tell him your problem and allow him to provide the solution. I've started applying this more broadly in my life and it still sort of startles me how well people respond to my vulnerability. When your dad says why didn't you get 105% you could just allow him to see/hear that you are sad he doesn't seem to think it's good enough. (The trick is to not sound accusatory) And you could just go to your husba…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/15 06:13 AM
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Abuse is often cyclic.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/15 06:40 PM
1

I'd actually prefer a non-natural I think, because it's good to be conscious of what you are doing and why. It makes you more resilient against influence.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/15 06:36 PM
2

I have a ceramic citrus juicer that my mom gave me for Christmas that's really pretty. It's not functionally any different from a regular glass one but it makes me happy every time I use it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/15 06:03 PM
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Not bullying people about their looks != trying to make people feel better about their looks If you're fat, that's not a reason for me to be cruel to you, but it's also not my job to actively prop up your ego.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/15 07:22 PM
1

On a different note, it's bad for your phone's battery to let it completely die.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/15 09:18 PM
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Humans are not that complicated. Situations are not that unique.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/15 06:55 PM
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The difference is, your tears make him protective, your anger would probably make him defensive.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 05:36 PM
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At least you cried instead of yelling at him. That's what I was preparing to read about.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 04:09 AM
1

That's strange... Idk I would just cook him what he likes and cook yourself different stuff. Make things you can portion and reheat for one or both of you. My thinking is that this is not so much about the trouble of cooking two kinds of meal as it is your frustration with him for not eating what you think is normal. But you picked him so just let him have his quirks.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/15 12:04 AM
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No. I can't imagine what his reason would be (most likely it would be due to a specific circumstance), but I would accept his choice if he did have a good reason.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/15 11:50 PM
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I'm 22. A guy knowing that marriage is a bad deal for him would make me more attracted to him. I would like to have a committed LTR though. I would definitely want to live with him, and probably wouldn't accept otherwise unless he had a very good logical reason. I think living together is more intimate and being able to live together long term is a mark of a healthy relationship. Children would really be up to the guy. I want children but my relationship with him would be way more important. I c…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/15 09:13 PM
1

What does he eat for breakfast and lunch?
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/15 04:26 PM
1

What about chicken or pork or other meats?
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/15 04:24 PM
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The audiobook is on YouTube also. It's kind of like the difference between dieting and changing to more long-term healthy eating, but for organization.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/15 11:57 PM
1

Also NYC/Northeast Corridor.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/15 11:07 PM
3

"Interesting" is to bitchy what "curvy" is to fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/15 04:36 AM
1

You could look into paleo takes on traditional baked goods. I don't fully believe in paleo but a cupcake made from dates and nuts or something like that will be healthy and still taste good. For example: http://greatist.com/eat/paleo-dessert-recipes
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/15 04:59 AM
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You have to let yourself be vulnerable with the people close to you. This brings you closer to them. You also have to allow them to comfort you. Trust if they tell you it will be ok, allow yourself to feel better.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/15 04:54 AM
3

I don't see how what you said shows that what I said is false. If your partner seldom initiated but also never responded to your advances with anything other than instant enthusiasm, you'd most likely be ok with that right?
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/15 04:43 AM
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The guys who say they wish their woman would initiate are guys who regularly get turned down by those woman. With that said, you don't have to completely stop. Try just initiating flirtation and sexual tension but remove the expectation that it lead to sex.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/15 10:23 PM
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his flu stops him from functioning and addressing his responsibilities while the rest of us just get on with it. Do you jump in and cover his responsibilities when he doesn't do them?
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/15 10:18 PM
2

No, that's why we can then unicorns and not American Creams.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/15 09:08 PM
2

O yeah, so damaged.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/15 08:53 PM
1

Seconding this. But do you think that kind of relationship is sustainable and contributing to OP's long term happiness?
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/15 05:16 PM
10

Yeah really. Sex isn't just one option for something nice you could do in a relationship. It's part of the foundation, something you have to do to maintain the relationship... Not that it should feel like a chore ;)
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/15 04:24 AM
4

Honestly I feel like if you know someone well and have a genuine desire to do nice things for them, it's easy to get ideas. If you can't think of any then usually you either don't know a person that well or aren't truly thinking of them with a spirit of gratitude and service. For example, you care more about sleeping late than you do about doing a small nice thing for him. To me that speaks to your attitude towards really making an effort for him.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/15 04:18 AM
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Support your husband in whatever he chooses to do about it. Make sure he knows you support him. (Show, don't tell.)
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 10:08 AM
1

Me too!
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/15 05:50 PM
1

"do something or have or show qualities worthy of (reward or punishment)." But "worthy" is a judgement. So you could judge that anyone who can take something is worthy of it.
/r/TheRedPill01/09/15 04:18 PM
1

Why is it incorrect, who defines what you deserve?
/r/TheRedPill01/09/15 04:44 AM
1

Having hobbies and interests and keeping up to date on news and topics that I care about gives me interesting things to talk about. But mostly I ask people about their lives and what they think. The idea is not to "have something to talk about" but to have a genuine interest in and care for the people that you are talking to.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/15 03:06 AM
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I just hang out with my housemates. Cook dinner, play games, watch a movie. Whatever chores I need to get done like laundry and cleaning. Anything that I want to do by myself like reading or going on the computer, I would usually do first and then spend the rest of the time with them. Not much of a routine really.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/15 02:53 AM
2

When you say "this is what I'm doing, come with me or don't." You are saying "what I'm doing is more important to me than our relationship, I would rather lose you than this opportunity." That's massively damaging to a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/15 02:18 AM
2

Whatever She's Got by David Nial is basically about how much men love feminine women.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/15 11:27 PM
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So, you get what you deserve.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/15 02:50 PM
1

That doesn't stop people though.
/r/TheRedPill16/08/15 04:09 PM
2

When I think about this stuff I always come back to nihilism. Everything's made up and the points don't matter!
/r/TheRedPill16/08/15 05:18 AM
2

His videos are real brain food, packaged beautifully to appeal to my dumb millennial brain. What's not to love?
/r/TheRedPill16/08/15 05:10 AM
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I know it's just an ego thing, to want smart/successful people to have kids more than the people who are, for example, just doing it to get extra welfare, because realistically what the population is like in three or four generations doesn't affect me. (On a deeper level, I guess ego could be considered to be showing preference for people who are genetically more similar to me. Breaking out the evo-psych...) But even though I know that logically, it still kind of irritates me. But because of the…
/r/TheRedPill15/08/15 11:39 PM
8

The only thing that makes me :| though is, think about who is still breeding vs who isn't.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/15 10:29 PM
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People who think this isn't happening or isn't a big deal should definitely check out CGP Grey's Humans Need Not Apply.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/15 06:56 PM
5

When I picture myself in that situation, with a guy I love and that happens... It's just how I know I'd react.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/15 04:16 AM
3

You really just have to force yourself to do it. You're being guarded, which I understand because I've been there, but there's no trick that I know of to make it easier other than to force yourself to be a little less guarded each time.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/15 12:32 AM
3

How's your relationship with your parents? These are good parent questions.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/15 12:02 AM
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So, two things: Maturity is not necessarily the goal. If you're waiting for the "right time" it's never going to feel like the right time. If you want a LTR/permanent relationship, you should work towards this now. Is it possible that you just weren't very attracted to the guy who was pushing for a relationship and your subconscious knew that?
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/15 11:27 PM
8

Ask him what I did wrong. Probably cry.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/15 11:04 PM
11

Make sure to tell your boyfriend you prefer his style and then leave it alone.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/15 02:30 PM
1

Original Post(er). If you're new to reddit, you might want to spend some time familiarising yourself with how the comment threading works.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/15 09:14 PM
1

No, the OP.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/15 08:47 PM
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Thanks Dad! 😄
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/15 04:13 PM
3

Trust him when he says he wants you. Don't think you know better. Exactly. OP you're going go have to learn to really trust, which will be a significant paradigm shift for you, but it's the most important part of this whole idea. You have to learn to think of it as, by you deciding that you are damaged goods and won't make him happy, you are making his choice for him which is exactly what you don't want to do.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/15 04:05 PM
1

You get an F for effort or reading comprehension or both. But if you're a troll you get a B+.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/15 10:17 PM
2

Some of my favorite dinners: http://www.epicurious.com/recipes/food/views/penne-in-cream-sauce-with-sausage-3072 (If you can get the "Bob Evans Savory Sage Pork Sausage" it's the only kind I use to make this.) http://www.epicurious.com/recipes/food/views/linguine-with-chicken-and-sun-dried-tomatoes-102868 http://www.cooksrecipes.com/sandwich/chicken_and_avocado_quesadillas_recipe.html Edit: all three of these make great lunches too. For the first two I keep the pasta cooked but separate until I'…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/15 03:47 AM
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I know you got deleted for being new, but just spend some time here, read the sidebar stuff. The more you surround yourself with the material, the more comfortable and natural you'll become.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/15 03:30 AM
4

Oh trust me, women can make any choice they want, as long as it tows the feminist party line. They are all about denying women's agency as soon as anyone starts choosing to be submissive.
/r/TheRedPill29/07/15 03:13 PM
2

When he does something hurtful, what do you do?
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 09:53 AM
1

Cupcakes are easy to overbake, and then they will be dry and gross. Baking takes practice, maybe try to make something every week or even twice a week. This is my favorite recipe. http://www.whatscookinitalianstylecuisine.com/2009/06/soft-italian-cookies-with-frosting.html?m=1 Make them with almond extract and put some amaretto in the frosting. 👌
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 12:36 AM
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The female equivalent is to treat him so well that he wants to step up and give you a better version of himself.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 12:27 AM
7

I agree with most of this except for You keep trying to pass the torch to him but he just won't take it, he's pushing it away. I don't think she's REALLY trying to pass the torch, to me it sounds like she's trying to make a token effort without actually giving up control and submitting to him. Do you think maybe he wouldn't have used to be inclined to send an article like that but three years of "progress" has taken him there?
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 12:18 AM
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The article is terrible and you need to put it out of your mind completely. That way of thinking is exactly what breeds your contempt for him. You don't need to parent him, you need to RESPECT him. His "existential crisis" or whatever is coming from his lack of purpose and responsibility. Let him see that you need him and he will step up to fill that need. When you are sad or scared, trust him and let him comfort you. When you are happy, share that with him. Work on being a "goddess of fun and l…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 12:10 AM
1

I'm not sure, probably only if she was really hurting him.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/15 02:04 PM
3

Come to /r/redpillwomen. Don't post, just read and absorb for a few months.
/r/askTRP23/07/15 05:27 AM
3

The police would have done something if she had a knife or a gun. The fact is that if a man is angry enough to be hitting a woman and not care about the damage, he could easily put her in the hospital. A woman without a weapon is not nearly as likely to be able to do the same to a man, and the police know this.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/15 02:53 PM
2

Who are you to say that whatever your goals and desires are are better than pussy or guild raids. You have the goals you want. Let other people have theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/15 06:25 PM
12

Unselfish Hahahahahahahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/15 06:49 PM
12

I let my subconscious do the work and just look for guys whose decision making I trust.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/15 02:18 AM
2

In general, if you feel like you have to say that you're being genuine, you're not being genuine.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/15 02:17 AM
15

I once brought him nearly to tears in a power struggle because he just didn't know what to do with me. This isn't something to brag about.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/15 03:42 AM
3

If you keep on not trusting him, he is going to leave.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/15 03:14 PM
1

Better Living Through Chemistry, reminds me somewhat of American Beauty with the protagonist's beta to alpha transformation.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/15 12:21 AM
3

This is definitely not a must read; I didn't even finish it. You're only hurting your own reputation by continuing to do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/15 09:57 PM
1

I don't know anything about the MRP stuff. You seem really agitated about it but I don't know anything so I can't speak on it. I literally never go there.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/15 09:08 PM
1

Yeah pcadrian! I forgot him :(
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/15 09:06 PM
1

No, we don't want to exclude anyone who makes constructive and on topic contributions to the discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/15 07:53 PM
5

SirNemesis, ColdEiric, Aerobus
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/15 04:09 PM
3

He handed off the day to day running of the sub to women. That doesn't mean he's completely abandoned it. Regardless, men aren't excluded from RPW.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/15 03:44 PM
3

But they aren't excluding men, they're just asking them to stay on topic. There are even male mods in RPW.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/15 03:32 PM
3

The mods are NOT asking for a safe space. They are NOT saying "men, please don't post here, this is a place for women to feel comfortable without your presence." They ARE reminding men that the topic of the subreddit is how women can achieve long term happiness. They ARE saying "men, please don't post here asking for advice for yourself, because that is off topic." Men are free to post in RPW and be as un safe space-y as they want as long as they are being constructive and staying on topic. Edit…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/15 10:46 AM
2

Why would your dad just take your money? I would definitely open some sort of account that he doesn't have access to and move all your money over, whether it's with your boyfriend or not.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 03:36 AM
3

I don't see any reason not to have an account with your boyfriend, as long as he's cool with it. That doesn't seem to be the main issue in this post. Your dad is taking money from you for no reason that you can see and you're just letting him? Do you still live with your parents? It seems like there's more to this situation.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 03:20 AM
1

It's what I and many other RPW have observed in our lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/15 09:10 PM
2

Yeah if you're completely satisfied with your relationship, there's no reason to go trying to change it. So then don't read RPW, we don't try to convince people who don't want to be there.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/15 01:41 PM
2

Where did I say anything about naturally? Besides, you can always improve.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/15 03:59 AM
2

RPW essentially is advising women to be more loveable. When a man loves you, you don't have to motivate him to take care of you, he just wants to.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/15 04:33 PM
1

Well, I thought it was funny. I do agree that prostitutes are probably a better bang for your buck than a sex therapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/15 04:40 AM
4

"Other women did it" isn't a very convincing argument. Broadening my perspectives is synonymous with personal growth. I just asked you, "how will this help me grow" and you replied "because it will help you grow." I can only conclude that you don't actually have a good reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/15 04:09 AM
1

So you're telling me that there are no men in this thread? Also, if you don't think women feel pressure from other women, I question the amount of interaction you've had with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/15 03:56 AM
1

You said you want to know why women wouldn't want to discuss sexuality here "in the presence of other women," and I asked why you feel that is an important distinction to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/15 03:50 AM
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Based on your definition of empowerment, I have no interest in it so it's not really relevant to me. As for growth, I do value personal development, but I don't see how violating the intimacy of my sexual experiences is an effective way to do that. I'm really not seeing what I have to gain by sharing with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/15 03:45 AM
1

I don't see it. What does the phrase "in the presence of other women" in the way you've used it, have to do with anything?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/15 03:28 AM
2

You keep saying "in the presence of other women" like that means something. There are women in the rest of this sub too.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/15 03:07 AM
6

I'm already self confident enough to act the way I choose, I didn't get that from sex. I don't think you understood my first comment. I'm not uncomfortable with talking about sex, I'm just private about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/15 03:00 AM
3

Honestly anytime I see the word "empowerment" my brain pretty much shuts off in self defense because I know I'm about to read something painfully stupid. Classical conditioning is a helluva drug. What do you even mean by "empowering"?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/15 02:26 AM
1

I'm only going to answer some of the questions. I'm comfortable taking about sex with someone that I'm having sex with. I don't think sex is shameful or embarrassing, but I do think that it is private; something you share with someone special. I'm straight and comfortable with that. I can appreciate female beauty, but it doesn't do anything for me sexually. I have to reject the whole premise of the second question. Sex isn't about personal empowerment, it's about bonding with the other person.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/15 02:13 AM
2

That's adorable!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/15 02:10 AM
2

My relationships with the people I care about are the most important things to me. I'm also pretty fond of my good health.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/15 01:41 AM
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/r/RedPillWomen31/05/15 12:54 AM
3

If he vents about work, definitely listen and admire him for his work like some other users have said. But in general don't bring it up often, don't remind him about work when he isn't there. You want to be his respite from that stress. Be affectionate and playful. What you are saying by this is "I respect you and know you can do it, and because of my confidence in you, I am unconcerned and cheerful." Men care about your respect more than your emotional support.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/15 02:44 AM
1

showing appreciation for what I do, but not by telling me things will get better Tell him how much you appreciate what he's accomplishing, tell him you love how strong he is, tell him you love him even more for being able to get the job done even though he's on his own. ♀ This is really good advice and demonstrates clearly the line between being mothering and being encouraging that I think a lot of women struggle with. Edit: are points working? Can I give them out?
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/15 02:27 AM
3

He might not care if she asked him "do you like dress A or dress B." (Although he might, I've definitely had boyfriends tell me they liked a certain item of clothing and even request that I wear it that day) But if she goes dress shopping without him but with the mindset of wanting to get a dress he will like, vs whatever makes her feel like a princess, that's still an attitude I like a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/15 02:16 AM
3

Getting into a relationship with someone you hope will change is never a good idea.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/15 01:55 AM
1

I think Sundays are good. Even though my work schedule is always changing, (for example this week Monday and Tuesday are my weekend) I still always end up thinking of Sunday as the end of the week and a time to review and plan.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/15 12:04 AM
7

Are you playing red pill terminology bingo?
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/15 11:53 PM
1

The best thing you can do for her is be a good friend to her and be there for her. You can't change people who aren't ready, but you can set a positive example.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/15 11:51 PM
1

😱
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/15 11:34 PM
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Every time I read "man here" or even worse, "male invader," all I see is fedora.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/15 05:02 PM
7

Who usually initiates? Have you tried waiting for him to do it? It sounds like you're maybe trying to be more suicide girl sexy, you could try being more anime character cute. Flirt with him non sexually, just be playful and get him to lighten up. Especially since he is a serious person, he will appreciate you doing this. When you compliment him, make sure they feel natural and genuine. If you're complimenting his looks, try to instead compliment him by saying how big and strong he is/how protec…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/15 03:29 PM
7

If you were 20 and he was 25, I might say to give it a year and see what happens, but as it stands, you don't really have the time to wait for him. At this point in your life, you need to be looking for someone who is interested in an LTR now.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/15 12:12 AM
2

To quote something I said in /r/fatlogic a while ago: I hate the assumption that everyone is as good as everyone else but just in different ways, like everyone got the same number of points and they just put them into different stats. It's a lie people use to keep from feeling inferior instead of making an effort to improve themselves. I.e. attractive people are not automatically mean or stupid, you just tell yourself that to feel better without having to do anything.
/r/TheRedPill29/04/15 11:31 PM
6

Except when they get mad at men for not finding them attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/15 01:59 PM
4

So are you saying that the idea that the beach isn't for you if you aren't aesthetically pleasing isn't ok, but [the idea that a bikini isn't for you if you aren't aesthetically pleasing] is ok?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/15 01:56 PM
21

The simple solution is: go have sex with him right now. To me it seems like you are looking for us to give you a solution that doesn't involve actually having sex.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/15 12:04 AM
1

All my past LTRs have been more interested in me wearing clothes they liked than worrying about other guys liking them too much, but I never really pushed the limits. But I'm not religious and don't date religious guys, so that is also a factor.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/15 02:05 AM
1

What makes you feel better has no bearing on what is true, and TRP doesn't change its story to appeal to more people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/15 01:41 AM
1

In today's society, nearly everything tells women that a RP relationship shouldn't make them happy. If a woman decides to try it and finds that it does make her happy, despite having every encouragement to stop if it didn't, that seems like the opposite of being brainwashed.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/15 07:02 PM
1

If we were in our sub I'd give you a point. 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/15 05:49 PM
1

What's false consciousness?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/15 05:46 PM
1

I personally usually roll my eyes when I see "male here" on the RPW sub. There are a few regulars who have something worthwhile to say but the majority of guys who comment are not saying anything useful. They get away with it because the sub is still small. If we had as many subscribers as TRP, we would probably have similarly strict rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/15 05:34 PM
1

http://i.imgur.com/3TY3Ayah.jpg Tits or GTFO is true equality.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/15 05:28 PM
5

Try to voice concerns in the same way that you would to a boss or other authority figure.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/15 06:14 PM
16

I think there is a big misconception that being a RPW is about following a checklist of outward things and becoming exactly like every other RPW. Cook meals, stay at home, keep the house spotless, take care of the kids, knit, dress conservatively and femininely, etc. That's not really what being a RPW is. Really, is a mindset of treating your SO with love and respect, acting in the best interest of your relationship, and actively growing your self awareness in order to improve on all aspects of …
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/15 05:30 AM
1

I don't really pay attention to downvotes in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/15 05:04 AM
1

"Any dog under 50 pounds is a cat and cats are pointless." (jk though, cats are cool)
/r/TheRedPill22/04/15 11:40 PM
1

advocating Nope nope nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/15 09:10 PM
2

I feel like we have this conversation a lot here.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/15 08:58 PM
4

Any who are crying unfairness have not fully understood TRP yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/15 08:37 PM
1

"Fair" is a form of saying how things should be. No matter how many times you word this question differently, TRP will still not concern itself with should. We are not MRA, we only care about what is, and what is our most effective path to increased personal happiness based on that "is."
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/15 08:30 PM
8

Yeah I think you're right here, if you bring it up, even in this positive way, he's gonna think that you were thinking about your ex's.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/15 12:30 PM
3

Like others have said, the big thing you're missing is to improve your mindset. There are some great posts on that here, definitely read through the sidebar. To start you out with, you want to be sweet and make your company more enjoyable to him. Think about all the things he does for you and how grateful you are to be with him. Be affectionate, be happy to see him. Think of him as your king, and treat him like it. Most importantly, trust him. This requires you to change not only your actions, b…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/15 11:29 PM
1

Oh man. I have about $500 worth of dresses sitting in my modcloth shopping cart taunting me. But I'm hopefully about to get a new job so I'll be able to justify buying some of them for work outfits.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/15 08:47 PM
1

What are you talking about?
/r/TheRedPill19/04/15 07:56 PM
2

If your collage has coed intramural sports that would be a great place to start, especially the soccer thing. As far as finding a LTR, I honestly think most guys would be open to one with the right girl. Be sweet/kind and fun to be around.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 12:38 PM
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Feminism gets its power from moral outrage. To maintain power, it has to keep coming up with things to be outraged about.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 08:17 AM
2

Buying food for two people usually costs less than double what it would cost to buy food for one.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/15 07:58 AM
2

If she understands male/female interactions from a RP perspective and uses that for to improve her life, she is RP. The RPW ideal tossed around here is not the only way to be RP as a woman. It's just the easiest and most reliable way to achieve the family/long term goals that bring the most happiness to most women.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/15 02:03 AM
3

I cringe every time I see the word oneitis on this sub. This is all excellent advice.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/15 01:56 AM
1

Oh look at all those nice dudes putting the signs up.
/r/TheRedPill09/04/15 07:10 PM
3

'Murica
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/15 06:07 PM
1

I think it would take more than one day and only some women, but I think that if all women in a community started doing it all the time, it would desexualize them. I think that's the whole idea behind nudism.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/15 04:34 AM
2

I never like saying "I have a boyfriend" in this type of situation. I feel like the guy always interprets it as "if I didn't have a boyfriend, I'd be interested." Just say "I don't want to talk to you, please don't contact me again." That's not awkward, it's how adults speak. He might try to gaslight and make it seem like you're being unreasonable to ask that of him, but you're not. He's just a child.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/15 04:23 AM
1

Feminism tries to give women more privileges and less obligations. This makes life easier for women but not happier or more satisfying. You think feminism is in my favor because it tries to give me a bunch of stuff. But in reality it doesn't give me anything I care about and actively works against the things I do want.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/15 06:26 AM
1

What does he do? Will he eventually match or at least get closer to your salary?
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/15 11:08 PM
2

I would totally do this if it worked out, but my hours are weird :/ But no robot voice needed. Anyone close enough to me to recognize my voice won't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/15 03:18 AM
1

Me too! 😊
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/15 05:31 PM
9

Sometimes people grow together, sometimes they grow apart. This is the kind of advice/excuse you would see in r/relationships. What it really means is: sometimes people prioritize their relationship and sometimes they prioritize other things.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/15 05:24 PM
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The first thing you need to do is fix your sex life. You say he has vague "bedroom issues," like that is some minor thing you can gloss over, instead of a core pillar of a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 01:11 PM
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“Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 01:04 PM
8

Also, having a "limit" in mind isn't really the right mindset either. Are you going to stick with a man forever to avoid passing that number? Agreed and also if say, you decide your limit is 5, and you're only at 2, that leads to the mindset that you have 2 "freebies" which is obviously a destructive way to think. Meg Jay does a good ted talk called "why 30 is not the new 20" and one of her points is to stop having relationships that "don't count" or "don't matter."
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 05:24 AM
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But all those times where it "didn't work out" matter. The whole point of caring about partner count is that a low one demonstrates the ability to care for and build a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 05:11 AM
3

Do not withhold sex and do not pressure him for exclusivity. Both will drive him away.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/15 03:51 PM
2

I personally think your number one priority should be to drastically improve your sex life. Do you keep yourself in good shape? Work on being/feeling attractive and practice consciously fantasizing about him. You can, with some practice, teach yourself to have higher libido.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/15 05:38 AM
1

Why are you asking this. There is no secret hairstyle to attract a RPW, we don't have an official preference as part of our philosophy. Beards are the "cool thing" on the internet right now. I think it is a very real thing for women to like them because other women do, like any trend.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/15 05:21 AM
2

It just seems like if you can't trust the guy's intentions, you shouldn't be dating him anyways.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/15 04:08 PM
2

so I tried to be cool with the "not really dating" thing, hoping that not putting pressure on him to call it a relationship and remaining passive/cheerful about the whole thing would somehow make him see me favorably and want to eventually commit. (Didn't work, of course.) Actually this is how both of my past LTRs started, with the guys initiating the "what are we" talk. I'm not sure if it is replicable though, so I'm hesitant to advise this route. Just be aware that it has worked for me twice.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/15 10:07 AM
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Yes, in the sense that you can apply girl game to keep him happy/attracted to you (and the other guys too). No, in the sense that this sub is dedicated to building long term happiness and this sort of relationship isn't likely to bring that.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/15 06:08 AM
7

Yes, but this sub is not TRP.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/15 05:33 PM
3

Also back and scalp massages! They are my go to for getting a guy to relax.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/15 12:47 AM
2

Notice and thank him for small things he does for you. Be physically affectionate. Smile/show it when you are excited to see him.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/15 12:31 AM
1

You could try changing your voice a little bit. Not so much higher pitched but you can get into the habit of speaking more softly.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/15 11:38 PM
2

Anything athletic. Maybe not an actual gym because people who are serious about it don't want to be disturbed, but coed sports leagues and athletic hobbies like dance, skiing, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/15 05:38 AM
1

Those are the women that TRP talks about most (because there are so many of them) but it doesn't just work on those women. You seem to be mixing the idea of a "shit test" with the idea of a woman trying to determine if a guy might be willing to commit to her. They are different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/15 11:06 PM
2

You're sure you want to have someone that you spend the rest of your life with though right? So why would you not want to have an extra decade with that person if you could? Better to grow and figure life out together than to get everything planned out and then try to find someone who fits. I'm 22 if that makes a difference.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/15 12:03 AM
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If you can say you're in love but you're only 75% sure you want to have a future with him, I question your knowledge of love..
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/15 11:06 PM
2

I don't know what you're trying to argue with that, but all I got was that A.) the more women that men sleep with, the more the men feel confident in their ability to get a woman to enter a relationship with them. And B.) Women know their partner count is important and know they have a limited time to get a man to commit to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/15 05:54 PM
3

"Damaged" woman reporting in. Also apparently all my friends and every woman I know are all damaged too. Wow, I must be toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/15 05:12 AM
4

Outcome independence is the term I think you're looking for.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/15 06:03 PM
8

22/F/NY, white, suburban/rural, upper middle class, parents are divorced, one younger brother. Post-atheist. Politically apathetic but libertarian leaning. Strongly anti-feminist. Modern feminism is pretty boring, irrational, and useless. Which I guess would be ok if they just left everyone alone, but of course they try to convince people that they have the moral high ground and shame them into agreeing. I see it used as an excuse for blatant harassment, entitlement, and cruelty. I see all the h…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/15 10:35 PM
2

Omg can I vote for GLO to be on the podcast pleeeassseeeee? This is a thing I want to exist. OP, he would be great.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/15 09:21 PM
2

Exactly. Thinking about how he can fix his flaws at all is counterproductive to cultivating the mindset that leads to being a better partner herself.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/15 05:59 AM
2

Thoughts? I mean, what do you think we think about it? It's pretty obvious the song is the opposite of what this sub is about...
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/15 05:52 AM
1

At my school they have social, professional, and service fraternities. The service fraternities are co-ed and while I wasn't in one, I had some girl friends who were and they are the nicest people.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/15 10:08 PM
1

I would only for my (hypothetical) SO and for my little brother. But I don't have children. If/once I do, I probably wouldn't risk my life for anyone but them.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/15 04:02 PM
2

But not everyone hates doing dishes. It's also not really her job to manage his motivation.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/15 06:36 PM
3

Maybe it's just because I'm a healthy 22 year old who enjoys dancing around the house blasting Taylor Swift while vacuuming, but I don't tend to think household chores are that time consuming/tiring that it is imperative they be accomplished with 100% efficiency, especially when it comes at the expense of pleasant interactions with your SO. If he wants to help her with dishes, I wouldn't advise her to do anything other than be appreciative. This is an example of men not being the best ones to gi…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/15 01:49 AM
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Not really. Like. If you're doing the dishes and he starts helping but then you suggest he does something else instead, that doesn't seem very gracious. If he wanted suggestions for what to do he would have probably asked for suggestions instead of just jumping in with the dishes. Also maybe it's not as much about getting things done as it is about working on something with her.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/15 01:03 AM
6

#2, no. "Oh you're helping me by your own choice, how about I boss you around while you do it."
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/15 12:30 AM
4

Haha! No, I'm average too.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/15 06:52 PM
2

This just reads like it was written by a delta male who wants to be the cool guy with all the girls but "doesn't want to be an alpha" because "those guys are jerks" (aka that's the excuse he's using because it's too hard to actually make himself into an alpha) and then of course everyone comes in and says they are one or they are dating one or whatever. You are all just in denial about being completely average and unremarkable people.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/15 08:19 AM
3

Sounds like heaven to me haha! Good choice.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/15 10:27 PM
3

When you say "I love you," there is a pressure to say it back that isn't there when you say "you make me happy."
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/15 10:23 PM
5

Same! It has this feeling of being in your own little club with just the two of you.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/15 10:22 PM
0

I want to date someone more mature than me, not necessarily older. That being said, a lot of people who are 21+ just don't want to deal with the logistics of dating someone under 21. This isn't really the right subreddit for this post though. It'll probably get deleted, jsyk.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/15 03:13 AM
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I think it's important to note that both rpw and trp are about how to maximize your individual happiness in the society you live in. We are associated because we base our advice on the same information, not because we are each other's ideal partners.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/15 08:44 PM
1

You could bring home a literal angel, wings and all, and your parents would be suspicious. They're your parents. I will say that, whether I agree with them or not, everyone in this thread is trying to help you. Keep it all in mind.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/15 12:32 AM
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I didn't say "/u/Archwinger is 100% wrong and /u/dreampizza has handled the situation perfectly." I am familiar with his online presence. That doesn't make him beyond question.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/15 11:48 PM
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resigning yourself to a life of mediocrity and being an eventual housewife Would you have her take on a huge amount of debt to become a career woman, be chained to that career in order to pay off her debts, and then try to start a family at 35? We don't shame women for wanting to be homemakers in this subreddit.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/15 09:11 PM
1

The death of someone you are close to does not automatically cause depression.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/15 06:32 PM
1

You just need to vent your stress. Do you work out?
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/15 11:09 PM
1

So you disagree on something politically. Is it possible that he's right, have you asked his reasons for what he thinks? Even if you can't agree, when you tell him to stop talking about it, calmly or not, you are trying to control the conversation. You're basically threatening to throw a temper tantrum if he doesn't do what you say. You have to decide what's more important, your beliefs on the issue or your relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/15 10:48 PM
2

It's much less difficult once you truly stop seeking to control him. In your example where he was talking about current events, what did you mean when you said it made you upset? ie. You felt like his irritation was directed at you? Or you didn't agree with him on the topic? Or you just didn't want to think about less than happy current events?
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/15 08:23 PM
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This one is fairly well known but I really like it. Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place. Also, one that is very often relevant here “You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.” -Friedrich Nietzsche
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/15 07:40 PM
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I feel like you think your two options when something bothers you are to either bottle it up and then snap or to calmly tell him it bothers you. The second option is one I see given as advice all the time in mainstream subreddits. Everyone thinks it's so much better and totally the proper way to handle the situation, but honestly I think it's sometimes just as bad as bottling it up and then snapping. What you actually should do is let the issue go. This is not the same as just not saying anythin…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/15 07:22 PM
2

What? Of course we can, because we are able to look at his situation and think about what he wants and how it looks from his perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/15 01:48 AM
1

Compared to his own sister, it basically is some random guy. You can't give OP good advice because you can't look at the situation from his perspective. You are saying what you would do if you knew OP's sister personally, not what you would do if it was your own sister who you loved.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/15 08:38 PM
6

Why would OP work against his own sister's long term happiness for the sake of some random guy?
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/15 03:46 PM
2

I wouldn't recommend it... My mom was non practicing until she had kids, then she got all religious and it basically broke up my parents' marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/15 01:16 AM
3

I like Blake Lively in Gossip Girl, haha. She's maybe not the most red pill but she is super feminine and mostly a sweetheart.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/15 01:39 AM
3

You can totally be tall and still pull off more cute than sexy. It helps to be on the thin side though. Hourglas can mean a few things, could give an example of your body type? You could also try more natural looking makeup depending on what you usually wear.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/14 08:17 PM
4

What I see in all four examples is an argument because both partners refuse to yield to the other. Obviously in this sub we have ideas about who should yield for the long term happiness of both parties, but either party could yield and it would smooth the specific interaction. You can't have two people trying to lead in different directions, you have to have a leader and a follower.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/14 07:47 PM
1

Chances are you consume other stuff by the same source I agree with you, but could you give examples?
/r/TheRedPill24/12/14 11:08 PM
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I go makeup free nearly every day. Sometimes I put on mascara and fill in my eyebrows but that's about it. I try to take good care of my skin so that I don't need foundation.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/14 07:50 PM
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This is why BP keep thinking that RP are trying to restore Dark Ages. I don't know about actually trying to, but it's clear there are RPers that'd rather go back to an earlier kind of society You've both missed and proved his point.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/14 08:28 PM
3

Because it's easier to blame the world for your problems than to actually put effort into being a kind, friendly person.
/r/TheRedPill17/12/14 06:59 PM
6

I'm curious as to why you are asking here and not on TRP or askTRP?
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/14 06:30 AM
3

This is right in the sidebar. You are not special. Your situation is not different. Go to /r/theredpill.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/14 08:24 PM
2

Don't nag kids, it doesn't work on them either.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/14 09:12 PM
1

I'm sure you don't like people making assumptions about you either I don't mind actually. If the assumption really isn't true then it's easily corrected, no harm no foul. People get offended by assumptions made about them when they are a little bit true, but not how they like to think of themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/14 01:37 PM
3

I was definitely raised by very open-minded parents I was brought up with a very feminist mindset Wat.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/14 09:32 PM
2

Julie has a naturally RP viewpoint in regards to appearance and boys. She wants to avoid anything flashy until she's "old enough to find a husband" Validate her feelings here. Warn her that her peers are going to try to change her and that she doesn't really have to do what they do to fit in.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/14 05:11 PM
2

You've missed my point completely :( Men are better what?
/r/TheRedPill09/12/14 04:37 PM
0

See but I don't know what you consider to be virtues or not virtues. one must be better True, but not universally better. Just better at some X.
/r/TheRedPill09/12/14 04:17 PM
0

Also, she is not going to verbalize her nature to a beta because she knows that he will judge and hate her for it because of his sense of noble morality. She might be more willing to straight talk to someone who has demonstrated that he understands that morality is not universal and that women are, not better or worse, but different from men.
/r/TheRedPill09/12/14 03:44 PM
2

That's just biology, you can let it make you sad or just accept it. Human brains are not wired to function in our modern society, they are wired for survival in much more primitive times.
/r/TheRedPill09/12/14 03:33 PM
5

I agree. You've decided you don't want to continue the date so there's no reason to keep trying to be pleasant, you can switch to a firm, professional tone.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/14 03:30 PM
2

Exactly.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/14 07:11 PM
5

No, she would be weighing her options and making a choice because she has this thing called agency. Go troll somewhere else.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/14 01:21 AM
5

It seems to me that #2 is more likely to save your relationship than #3.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/14 12:07 AM
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I really doubt most guys could even pretend to be so into needlework.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/14 04:11 PM
3

I wouldn't have told him to change his relationship status on Facebook. It seems pushy and insecure. Listing himself as single when he isn't would be one thing, but simply not listing his relationship status is no big deal, and pretty common for people who don't get into Facebook drama. There are plenty of good reasons for him to not list you on his profile. Maybe he doesn't want people finding his new profile through yours. His free time is probably pretty precious to him right now, and if you …
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/14 05:01 PM
6

It isn't so much a rule in my head as just, why would I say no?
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/14 02:58 AM
2

I personally don't understand marrying a man I wouldn't trust with an inheritance Agreed. It's like keeping a part of yourself back from the other person, keeping walls up.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/14 08:12 PM
1

It's really not feasible in reddit but if I could, I would have a very thorough redding comprehension test of the entire TRP sidebar before you could make comments in TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/14 01:44 AM
1

Yes, changing yourself just for sex is pathetic. Seems like this person feels a lot of shame/guilt about their own desire for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/14 01:37 AM
1

It comes from the desire for her to know she was wrong.
/r/TheRedPill24/11/14 04:11 PM
1

I mean if they weren't committed then it wasn't really cheating. To me it reads like a guy who is feeling cornered and looking to see if there are better options out there. Mostly because of the fact that he is making so much time for her, it sounds to me like he'd like to stay with her if she'd trust him. But really only OP can judge this I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/14 07:19 PM
3

/u/ColdEiric said it better than I did. Some guys could probably tell if asked but most are not really thinking about her makeup so it never really even crosses their mind that she is wearing any.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/14 06:54 AM
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Since guys don't really wear makeup, a lot of them just think that most girls naturally look like the right hand picture.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/14 12:35 AM
1

Making him feel defensive enough to delete them is very similar to making him delete them, either way he will feel controlled. We don't know him and can only judge from what you tell us so we really can't make that decision for you. I see other posters here saying he is definitely cheating, my initial reaction was that he just feels cornered, but really only you can decide.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/14 08:20 PM
2

First of all, you're never exclusive until you talk about it and clearly say that you are. Second of all, even before you found out that he was talking to another woman, you already felt the urge to look at his phone. So subconsciously you were already aware that he might not be completely happy. If you act jealous or like you don't trust him, you're going to drive him away. Making him delete the apps will make him feel like you're controlling his life. You have to either end it and move on or d…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/14 07:47 PM
4

It seems like your two main points are that catcalling makes women uncomfortable, and that men don't usually experience that discomfort themselves. Ok, so what?
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/14 07:42 PM
1

Maybe you don't want to get along with women? Because what /u/TheTerrorSquad said could just as easily have been said by a man. Your comments show a lot of victim mentality which is kind of a big pet peeve of the community.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/14 04:14 PM
3

Aww I love Mean Girls. Why didn't you like it?
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/14 03:03 PM
3

I like it better this way. The personal stories are always the same anyways, it's not really interesting after the first few. Like /u/Douknowthemulletman said, it never hurts to hear these points again.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/14 02:57 PM
2

I'm not sure I've ever watched it... I've never had cable.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/14 08:47 PM
1

Yeah you really want to worry about carbs a lot more than fat.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/14 03:08 PM
2

Eat less potatoes.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/14 02:54 AM
1

Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/14 09:10 PM
3

In the end, this is all good news. It’s good news because it means you are in control and you can change your fortunes. Bingo.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/14 09:07 PM
1

I definitely prefer taller guys and I will be any weight/bfp I need to be. It's a small price to pay to not feel like a giant!
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/14 07:42 PM
1

It's still validation/attention seeking though. Not as blatant but still.
/r/TheRedPill12/11/14 06:19 PM
2

Possibly because reddit is mostly introverts though?
/r/TheRedPill12/11/14 12:13 AM
1

Yup!
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/14 07:39 PM
2

If you spent some time reading here and at /r/mensrights, you'd be able to answer your own questions. Also, this sub is mostly a "for men by men" kind of thing, come hang out at /r/redpillwomen!
/r/TheRedPill06/11/14 11:29 PM
1

I've been a little busy with Halloween cleanup and then a few hectic days of work but I'll jump in now. Including today (11/6) I'm going to stop: -eating sugar (limited socially is ok) -eating after 6pm (again, limited socially is ok) -sitting on my bed when it's not time to wind down/go to sleep I'm trying to improve my sleeping habits and I think that all 3 but especially the second two will help with this.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/14 09:24 PM
3

I think this is a really good distinction to make, I never explicitly thought of it this way before. I was going to say that I feel vaguely bad/guilty about nagging and I don't about truly helpful reminders, and you've more precisely explained why. ♀ Edit: can I even give out these points? I tried anyways..
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/14 07:05 PM
3

I like your use of the default headings in msword in combination with the lovely illustrations.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/14 11:50 PM
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Lol at this "list," she just came up with 10 ways to say the exact same thing. It's just a rant with numbered sentences. As for your question, I don't think that withholding "wifely duties" is a good way to impress a guy. I do think it's a good idea to start slow-ish in a relationship but once you are fairly sure about him, you want to give him every reason to feel sure about you.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/14 01:23 AM
1

I agree with her points about not really being able to blame men for cheating. She's not doing herself any favors but that doesn't really bother me. I don't feel like she is doing anything morally wrong here, it's not her responsibility to honor someone else's monogamy agreement.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/14 08:18 PM
2

are girls bothered by the fact that often times guys are only giving them attention because they are girls, or simply because they want to hook up? Or do they enjoy the attention too much to even care? They will complain about it if they realize that's what's going on, but they in practice will choose that option over getting no attention at all. Girls who brag about having mostly guy friends are trying to be seen as "one of the guys" or the "cool girl" which means they are looking for attention…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/14 02:51 PM
3

So if you had smallish boobs you didn't really need one? It'd be kind of cool to not be expected to wear one haha. My old volleyball coach used to call not wearing a bra "freeboobing it."
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/14 09:11 PM
4

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/r/RedPillWomen23/10/14 09:03 PM
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Do you want a cookie?
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/14 03:43 PM
2

Did it used to be common for women to not wear bras? I love this photoset btw. Some of it needs to be kind of translated to modern times but it all still applies.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/14 03:41 PM
0

I have a couple friends who drop hard R's pretty regularly in conversation. To them it's pretty similar to "bitch" in severity/offensiveness. It's all about what you're desensitized to.
/r/TheRedPill23/10/14 02:34 AM
2

OP is female, looking to date men.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/14 04:18 AM
1

I thought it was just a social climate thing, that guys who are really muscley have the stereotype of either being meatheads or working manual labor, and some girls think they want more of the "successful business man who plays soccer in his spare time" look.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/14 09:46 PM
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So often people really have no reason for the things they do and if you tell them they're doing it wrong they resist but if you ask a question that puts them on the spot then they can realize for themselves. I read a comment in this sub a while back that said that the best way to get someone to close off is to judge them while the best way to get them to open up is to offer reflection.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/14 06:31 PM
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