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| 88 | Be aware of giving your number into a whatsapp group with men in it — Even if it's friendly.I'm so sorry OP. I had something very similar happen to me. I'm an introvert and was having fun attending Meetup events. The male host asked me to add my number to a Group text. The next thing I know, he's texting me everyday. He was just looking for a gf/hookup. I tried to be polite and decline respectfully. He harassed me for rejecting him so I had to block him. Had a bunch of scrotes add me on social media as well. Never give out your real number tied to your social media accounts. Pay for an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 09:01 PM |
| 273 | OLD advice: When things move onto the texting stage, get his number before you give away yours.So glad you got out of that before meeting or talking. With how depraved men of today are we should investigate them before meeting up. Also please give men a Text Now, Ring Central or Google Voice number. NEVER give out your real number. Text now is the best free texting app I have ever used. It protects my identity when handing out a number to people I don't know. And you can choose any area code and change it every 15 days. Have your text now number memorized as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 02:57 AM |
| 75 | I'm really interested in how society in your country/culture 'discourages interactions in social spaces'!Reality is the opposite of this. Scrotes are always harassing women in public. We don't want to talk to or interact with them. Male delusions at it again 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 02:45 PM |
| 79 | Don't describe yourself as kind or empathetic to men.Yep so true because they see kind and caring as weak | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 12:04 PM |
| 27 | Don't describe yourself as kind or empathetic to men.Most women are expected to say they're kind or empathetic or caring when asked about their personality traits. Any other traits like saying they're strong or intelligent just isn't valued at all. So this is also a good weed out tactic. Men asking what personality traits you like about yourself seems innocent but it is a calculated question. And you can see scrotes expressing a shocked Pikachu face or seething with anger when you DON'T say you're caring or empathetic. As one commenter mentioned h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 12:03 PM |
| 14 | Update: Had a HV Date Experience. I will continue to vet but how when we won’t see each other for a couple months?I think it's alright to enjoy these dates if and when they happen. But don't let him take up too much mental space or emotionally invest. Focus on yourself. Two dates is pretty early. Be in a mental space where you're not bothered about whether it works out or not. You shouldn't lose anything when dating. Not your time, emotional energy, etc. Just enjoy the nice dinners and conversations when they happen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 12:11 AM |
| 115 | Most Pickmeishas will tolerate massive amounts of disrespect from NVM but won't tolerate that same disrespect from family and friendsIt's so sad. Most women are unhappy in their marriages because most men are NV. Breaking mom sub is all the proof you need. I just want to help them. But I'm getting tired of the vitriolic reactions I receive when I introduce women to FDS. I'd feel better if I knew it helped at least one woman. I was a massive Pickmeisha and finding FDS helped me level up a lot, especially financially. I achieved this by decentering men. I don't know if it's the right post at the right time, or if I've been thro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 04:11 AM |
| 7 | Scrote keeps on contacting me.Change your number. Never give out your real phone number. Use the Text now app. There's many free apps to use. You can change your app number every 15 days. Text now is much better than Google Voice. I now pay monthly for a seperate app. I've been through the painful process of changing a number to get rid of an ex- narc that kept harassing me from different numbers. Now men and people I'm unsure about will never my real number and I'm able to change the app number number as much as I want. You… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 05:53 AM |
| 4 | The fake proposal -- anyone else?Omg I can relate. It's almost like we dated the same person! I tried to leave him once to go stay with family in Europe for a couple of months to get away because I knew he couldn't follow me there because he wouldn't get a visa. He cried and begged and lured me back with an extravagant trip to Vegas and to the see Grand Canyons South rim. Needless to say, he started the most random fight out of the blue. I ran from the room and missed my flight with with 😂 So there I was at a Luxury resort cryi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 04:17 PM |
| 150 | The fake proposal -- anyone else?I think you ex may have been a covert narcissist or had some narcissistic traits. My ex-narcissist was the only one who would future fake. The other men I dated were definitely LV but avoided questions about the future. I think future faking is synonymous with NPD. I did get a fake proposal with no ring from my ex- narc. Here's how it happened. I tried to leave after one of his many unhinged abusive episodes, so he cried crocodile tears about how he had planned this huge trip to the Caribbeans t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 03:20 PM |
| 20 | A joke eh?lot of men can disguise their hostility towards women under a mask of humour and "teasing". This should be a post on it's own | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 04:42 AM |
| 75 | The next time you feel silly, know that there are men out there who will jeopardize their entire bank account funds for the chance to see breasts.These are the same broke scrotes who ask you on 50/50 coffee dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 10:21 PM |
| 28 | “Men are simple creatures”They will still berate you and treat you like shit if they do. But also have less respect for you for doing all that for them, and perhaps even a little more contempt for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 12:54 AM |
| 87 | “Men are simple creatures”Unbelievable that men are so delusional that they actually think that they are the logical sex. I can't seem to find a woman in history who has gassed over a million Jewish people to death, started senseless wars and ruined people's lives to the extent that men have. They are not logical. They are emotional, raging, egotistical monsters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 12:52 AM |
| -1 | Is it just me or do all your pickme libfem friends also just CHOOSE to have no ambition and low paying jobs?This is NOT teaming up against women. Seems like you've just left a comment without reading the post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Is it just me or do all your pickme libfem friends also just CHOOSE to have no ambition and low paying jobs?This is such an excellent point. I am saving this comment! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Is it just me or do all your pickme libfem friends also just CHOOSE to have no ambition and low paying jobs?I suppose you're right 😔 I only know of pickmes scraping by. All but one of my pickme the friends are ambitious. Unfortunately she gets used a lot by LVM and hobosexuals. She currently has a medical resident living rent free with her and she complains that she does all the cooking, cleaning and works and pays all the bills. But sHe LoVeS him. One commenter also made an excellent point incredibly intelligent women might not strive for more because they spend so much time being preoccupied with de… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 06:20 PM |
| 202 | Am I the only one who's starting to believe I'll never be loved?Hi OP, You will get to a point in your life where the love of your family, friends and self love is enough. I think what you're going through is a normal after effect of finding out FDS. It's a rough truth bomb. Romantic love in books and movies seems wonderful. Women often try to recreate that with LVM. Only to end up hurt and broken. And most women are trying desperately to fulfill these ideals of love that they're bombarded with in every movie, TV series, in books, on social media. Most men a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 05:07 PM |
| 6 | The grooming of girls and womenThese were my favourite shows in my early teens ❣️❣️ We should be friends 😀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 04:05 AM |
| 5 | Falling off of the maskI straight up tell them I prefer not to give out my company name until I get to know someone very well. I'm polite about it but I can't say that I'm diplomatic. Most normal people don't push. If someone is really pushing it I ask them to respect my privacy. Usually only people with narcissistic traits will try to force you to give out your company's name, and if that's the case, then I just lie and as soon as I am safely away I block and delete. I only do this because I've been stalked and haras… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 10:40 PM |
| 58 | Falling off of the maskWow. Definite red flag if a man shows too much interest in your career and how much you make. I always hide my money from men. I tell them the domain I work in without telling them I work in STEM and I don't tell them the company name either. It's a way to weed out gold diggers wearing a mask. From my experience, men who are providers don't really care about what you do or how much money you make. I'm sorry you had to go through this OP 😞 I'm glad you didn't meet him though. Better if the masks … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 02:02 PM |
| 108 | Above all, FDS has taught me to value my time. Following FDS would have prevented this from even happening imoThis is definitely a troll post. FDS women wouldn't caption such a post this way. I thought the story was hilarious. Block and delete is the FDS mantra but considering she probably doesn't know about FDS, I wouldn't really consider this to be Pickmeisha behaviour. She's definitely not a people pleaser as she was fine with putting this obnoxious man in his place 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 04:02 AM |
| 5 | Beware of the solo male traveller to certain regions of the world.Holy smokes never thought about it that way. Truth bomb for sure. Saving this comment. Most Western women I know out out after the 1st or 2nd date. After splitting the bill and paying for their own transport 😞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 03:59 AM |
| 53 | Beware of the solo male traveller to certain regions of the world.When I visited India, I was told by Indian women that it was a known thing that if Indian men went alone or as a group of men only to Thailand, it was to pay for prostitutes and/ or cheat on their wives. If they don't go as a couple for a holiday with their wives it was to cheat. I also found out that it's very common for Indian men to pay for prostitutes because it's hard for them to get women otherwise. When we traveled for work in the US last year they always used to be obsessed with going to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 03:17 PM |
| 43 | I met another FDSer in the wild! We are growing as a community!This is amazing. Gives me hope. Every woman I've introduced FDS has rejected it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 11:40 PM |
| 311 | I am just so... disappointedYou're human. It's normal to feel sad and emotional. Glad you left him. Most pickmes would stay and do all the emotional work of taking him through therapy, etc. I'm glad you followed FDS principles, did what's best for you and left. I'm so so so proud of you OP. You did the right thing. Your future self with thank you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 08:36 PM |
| 13 | Men start looking for reasons to hate/intentionally misunderstand you when they realize you’re smarter than they expected?Most men are LV, so the probability that it would cause an unhealthy lifestyle, mental health issues, emotional issues, etc is higher. It's funny how I lost weight after I left both my ex's. The depression and mental toll it took on me was awful. You're in a good position. Stay focused on your work. If he's not HV and doesn't make your life easier or better there's no point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 08:31 PM |
| 10 | Be weary of calculated kindness in men and vet carefully even if he seems to have great social skills, particularly in Group settingsThis is true. In my Pickmeisha days I dismissed it as him having a bad day or just needing to talk 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 07:26 PM |
| 6 | Be weary of calculated kindness in men and vet carefully even if he seems to have great social skills, particularly in Group settingsYep that's why being suspicious of men and saying no early on weeds them out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 07:23 PM |
| -16 | Be weary of calculated kindness in men and vet carefully even if he seems to have great social skills, particularly in Group settingsYour trolling comment is unnecessary and has very condescending pickme vibes. English is my third language, you probably only speak one. I'm sure most women are also incredibly tired of men anyway 😂 And if they're not they probably should be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 05:07 PM |
| 338 | Say to a man : "I don't trust men"This is true, HVM have expressed empathy and understanding when I've said things like this. They didn't judge it try to argue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 03:40 PM |
| 14 | Why you can’t take men seriously…Thanks for the award queen who gifted it ❤️👸 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 01:43 AM |
| 286 | Why you can’t take men seriously…😂😂😂 based on his Reddit activity it seems like even the Pickmeisha's don't want this ugly virgin scrote. And anyway, men's supposed love is selfish, controlling, abusive and dominating. That's why women are sold fairytales, romcom and book fantasies that lie to them. There's a reason why the white dress, wedding bells and Happily Ever after fantasy is sold to women from birth. Because who really would want to be loved by most men if they knew the truth about them being brought up on porn and deg… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 07:42 PM |
| 3 | HV Traits I've Observed in men I know - basically a few real life illustrations of why you shouldn't settle.Awe thanks for sharing. It's good for women to know there are HVM in the world and we shouldn't settle for less ❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 12:31 AM |
| 8 | HV Traits I've Observed in men I know - basically a few real life illustrations of why you shouldn't settle.They modelled for the same company when they were in college. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 12:29 AM |
| 4 | HV Traits I've Observed in men I know - basically a few real life illustrations of why you shouldn't settle.I'm glad you're scrote free now 👸👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 12:28 AM |
| 5 | HV Traits I've Observed in men I know - basically a few real life illustrations of why you shouldn't settle.Yes definitely. The intention is not to hype them but to show the default expectations you can have when you choose a HVM. The gut wrenching thing is that these sort of healthy relationships are rare. Most women are in horrible or abusive relationships. This is almost every woman's default reality but it should not be. And most women are emotionally healthy and considerate people who go way more than above and beyond for their families than the men in these stories did. Yet we don't have that sa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 12:27 AM |
| 17 | Hansel-and-Greteling my way out of a toxic relationshipI'm so sorry OP. It's a total mind £uck with a narcissist. It's so terrifying. The depression, losing yourself, questioning your reality. I'm so sorry 😞 I'm also so glad you got out. I was with a narc too. I secretly recorded his unhinged angry outbursts on my phone. He would deny everything he said literally five mins after he said it. Secretly recording his outbursts was the only way I could keep my sanity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 04:29 AM |
| 31 | He showed up at my door last nightOP please becareful. My ex narc did crazy stuff like this. He begged and cried. I was dumb and didn't realize the most dangerous time for a woman is when she's leaving or left a man. Things turned physically violent for me. I'm glad that I am alive. I'm glad you're safe. But 3 months is not enough time for the mask to falls off for some narcs. Please call the cops next time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 04:18 AM |
| 61 | What's your phone numberPlease use the Text Now app or a Google Voice number. In my experience Text Now is amazing. You can change the number and area code every 15 days.You're basically using an app to text and call. But whoever you are texting and calling sees it as a normal text or call. I wish I used this for my ex narc. My situation was extreme, he kept sending abusive texts from different numbers and blowing up my phone. I had 1000s of missed calls. My phone would be ringing all day. My boss couldn't get through … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 08:55 PM |
| 6 | Why do men show up to our homes uninvited?Gosh I can believe this. It is terrifying isn't it! My ex narc used to do this. He used to wait outside my apartment or job for me drunk after dumping me. It was a viscous cycle of breaking up with me brutally and then coming to my house or work crying, pleading and begging for forgiveness when I didn't answer his texts or calls. He'd do stuff like leave me in a different city on my own. The fights were out of the blue and over nothing. It was a complete mind £uck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 07:45 PM |
| 51 | It's Time to Let Go of Your Toxic Female FriendshipsMy cousins and friends also were disgusted with FDS. It took one of them being with a narcissistic abuser to start opening up to FDS. She was hesitant at first but I was hesitant in the beginning as well. It also took me coming out of an emotionally and physically abusive relationship with a narc to see the light. FDS was like a replay of my dating history. I think it's good to introduce to to many women as possible anyway. They may see the light later. The unfortunate reality is that some women… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 02:12 PM |
| 39 | Stop getting into cars with men.Omg this is terrifying. This should be it's own post as a cautionary tale. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 01:41 PM |
| 17 | Groom smashes bride’s face into cake & she rightfully is leaving himI think it's so hard for women to leave because everyone is United against women. This is why we gaslight ourselves into thinking it's not that bad even when we're feeling utterly miserable, hurt and hopeless. Glad she left. He would be smashing her face into more painful things in the future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 03:52 AM |
| 3 | I dumped the guy I was vetting over the birthday gift I received 🍪Yes flipping the script is a great vetting strategy. All you need to so is ask yourself, if the situation was reversed would I do this? If the answer is no then you know you're not overreacting. It will slowly but surely deprogram the cultural conditioning that makes women grateful for crumbs and normalise bad and even depraved behaviour from men. I think it's a combination of all four. Clearly this man does not like her or even want to understand her because B)he truly cannot be bothered to put… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 05:31 AM |
| 172 | I dumped the guy I was vetting over the birthday gift I received 🍪You are NOT overeacting. Flip the script. If you knew he was health conscious or even allergic to certain foods and this was incredibly important to him would you give him this gift despite the fact that he emphasized he that he doesn't eat processed foods? Would you do this to a friend or your mother? Would you do it to an acquaintance or a neighbor? The answer is no. This man is either testing your boundaries, truly cannot be bothered, playing the weaponized incompetence card or trying to sabo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 03:51 AM |
| 129 | Marriage is not an accomplishment. Focus on leveling up!https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ruqx4w/the_happily_ever_after_marriage_fairytale_sold_to/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share I love her. She so articulately summarised how I feel about marriage. FDS is such an amazing place to find like minded women. It's really been the only thing that took the rose tinted glasses off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 01:48 AM |
| 100 | Pretend you can't cookI've been doing this for a few years 😂😂😂 I'm not a great cook I'm ok, sometimes bad. But I've purposely been acting completely incompetent in the kitchen and pretending I don't know how to cook when it comes to dating men. Did this with my ex as well. He always paid for dinners/dates and takeouts. I pretended to be broke and completely incompetent in the kitchen. Even as a pickme I was protective of my money. He was a raging narcissist who always borrowed money from his friends and triangulated … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 10:35 PM |
| 5 | Part 2. I blocked him, but he used someone else's phone to have the last word. Like I was going to let him 😘This is true. Most of the time they mean you harm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 01:40 PM |
| 133 | Part 2. I blocked him, but he used someone else's phone to have the last word. Like I was going to let him 😘This is such projection that women hit the wall. I work with a woman who looks not a day over 27 and I've just come to find out she's 42. She was telling me about her 19 year old son. I was confused because she looked like she's in her mid to late 20s She's gorgeous. Another woman I used to work with I thought was 35-38ish. Later, it came up in casual conversation that she'd going to celebrate her 65th birthday soon. She had a fantastic figure, always came into the office with above the knee cla… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 04:23 PM |
| 253 | How to reconcile with the fact that my brother doesn't support the FDS strategies, although he is an HVM?Hmmm. I'm not sure if you should label your brother as HV. How does he treat other Women? My brother is not HV but he did introduce me to FDS. He has a HV friend who told him about FDS as a way to level up and be a HV man. I will not label my brother as HV because he has lots of areas to work on and he acknowledges this as well. He read through FDS and then pushed me for months to look at the sub when he saw the shitty men I dated. He wanted me safe and to filter out these men ruthlessly. He tol… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 04:42 PM |
| 44 | First real date post-breakup and FDS helped SO MUCH. THANK YOU!!!I lie completely about where I live. I've been stalked and harassed before. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 02:18 AM |
| 165 | The idea that men peak in their 30s is a male fantasyThis is probably true. Most men start getting receding hairlines at 23-25. Younger sometimes. Idk. Saying women hit a wall is projection 🤣 I've mistaken 40 year old women to be in their 20s. Women always look good. But I have men younger than me who actually Look much older than me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 08:55 PM |
| 28 | The "Happily Ever After" marriage fairytale sold to women is a lie. The truth is most marriages are miserable FOR WOMEN because most men are NV/LV. Society gaslights and (in some parts of the world) even forces women into settling.Yep that's the one with the multitude of holiday horror stories and ruined Christmas's for wives and children, thanks to NV husbands/ male partners. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 07:03 PM |
| 128 | The "Happily Ever After" marriage fairytale sold to women is a lie. The truth is most marriages are miserable FOR WOMEN because most men are NV/LV. Society gaslights and (in some parts of the world) even forces women into settling.This is so true. I have a high school friend whose husband is so $h!tty that he didn't even want to buy the baby diapers or her personal hygiene stuff. He literally wanted to let the baby 💩 on itself 😭 She's still somehow convincing me marriage and children are desirable. I'm worried about my friends. In high school we identified as feminists and made a pact to be strong financially independent women who have our own money. A few years later both are married and totally dependent on their spouse… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 05:27 AM |
| 66 | The "Happily Ever After" marriage fairytale sold to women is a lie. The truth is most marriages are miserable FOR WOMEN because most men are NV/LV. Society gaslights and (in some parts of the world) even forces women into settling.This a great point. You should definitely make this a post on FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 05:16 AM |
| 312 | The "Happily Ever After" marriage fairytale sold to women is a lie. The truth is most marriages are miserable FOR WOMEN because most men are NV/LV. Society gaslights and (in some parts of the world) even forces women into settling.This is so true!! Women make Christmas magical. Men couldn't give a damn. I'm so glad you asserted your boundaries this holiday. You're a warrior for fighting cancer. I'm so happy your life is better scrote-free. I can't believe the audacity men have. He expects a gift from you every year but never gives you one. I know I shouldn't be shocked with how audacious and entitled men generally are. But I am shocked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 05:13 AM |
| 118 | The "Happily Ever After" marriage fairytale sold to women is a lie. The truth is most marriages are miserable FOR WOMEN because most men are NV/LV. Society gaslights and (in some parts of the world) even forces women into settling.This is absolutely terrifying. So he was alright for four years and then the mask suddenly dropped? That really sounds unnerving. I'm so sorry you had to go through. It's awful when you think you know someone but really don't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 05:10 AM |
| 219 | The "Happily Ever After" marriage fairytale sold to women is a lie. The truth is most marriages are miserable FOR WOMEN because most men are NV/LV. Society gaslights and (in some parts of the world) even forces women into settling.This is so relatable. I'm financially stable and I ate cake and drank sparkling grape juice while watching a Harry Potter movie marathon. I also got to spend time with family this Christmas. I did experience a bit of resentment from breaking mom's who did settle. My birthday is around the holidays and everyone was asking when I'm planning on getting married and having kids. I'm so happy single it would feel like self-sabotage to risk my mental health and emotional well-being by dating again. Edi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 03:53 AM |
| 134 | The "Happily Ever After" marriage fairytale sold to women is a lie. The truth is most marriages are miserable FOR WOMEN because most men are NV/LV. Society gaslights and (in some parts of the world) even forces women into settling.Throw some age on that lv/nv and you have an old, fat and ugly man living with you for years. Every time I would see him somewhere in the house I would think “are you still here??” 😂Hard pass now. Omg this part has me in fits of giggles right now 🤣 I'm saving this comment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 03:34 AM |
| 142 | lowkey don’t even care at this point if a guy wants to screw around with my feelings like that i simply just do not have the time and resources to deal with it - block and deleteGod this is the literal definition of a narcissist. Love bombs then withholds emotional and terrorises you. Perhaps she's not wrong to say all men of today are narcs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 12:42 PM |
| 8 | Stop Oversharing and Be SecretiveMy ex narc used my trauma against me. He did it brutally to the point where I was crying my lungs out begging him to stop. That's not who I am. It was reactive abuse. I generally am a reserved, calm person. But he did manage to manipulate me into revealing my trauma 3 months into the relationship. So now when men ask or try to forcefully pry into my past, I've invented a story that I dated an incredibly wonderful and amazing man but unfortunately we had to part ways because we wanted different t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 04:05 AM |
| 134 | The more I read, the more I am getting sure that I really don't want to have to do anything with men.Sometimes I think dating men is like societal pressure for women to do something that deteriorates their mental and physical health and put their lives at risk. Perhaps it's the equivalent or worse than constantly smoking weed, drinking alcohol, taking drugs and constantly binge eating absolute junk. Perhaps we need to restructure our culture to make being single be the norm and question wanting to be in a relationship. I feel you. It really does feel like choosing to be a victim everytime I'm o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 03:09 PM |
| 32 | How do you handle being approached by scrotes?Memorize a Text Now or Google Voice Number. Have a fake name handy. Text now is better. You can keep blocking and easily change numbers. DO NOT give out your real number. I've been able to find people's full name, addresses, family members, social media, etc from their real number. And that was not using any paid app. I found all that info for free online while vetting. Edit: similarly to the comments below I've also played dumb, walked in the other direction pretending to be on a phone call or … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 01:34 AM |
| 274 | Had a scary encounter last night and just could use some supportI'm so so sorry your experienced this. Sending virtual hugs. In this scenario call 911 and report a threat of assault. Men like this should never be allowed to get away with what he did. Most people are assaulted by someone they know. I'm so so upset and angry for you. I'm so heartbroken to hear this story. I'm glad you're safe. Please talk to someone in person about this as well. I am honestly terrified just reading it. Your friend may be sweet but please don't hangout with her when her brother… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 02:45 PM |
| 135 | If he’s late he might be avoiding to pay!Good catch. Men who are too early to dates as well are also a red flag. I've had the opposite experience in my Pickmeisha days where I'm on time, only to find my dates arrived 15 mins early and they have already ordered their measly $3 coffee/drink. They act clueless when I arrive and say something along the lines of "oh you can order upfront," or "oh did you want anything, the register is over there to order." It was calculated and done on purpose. Because if it wasn't calculated they would hav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 05:35 PM |
| 9 | Do Pickmes imitate their boyfriends?People who are in relationships with narcs exhibit symptoms of borderline personality disorder. My ex-narc did that to me. It's was a total mind £uk. He started a massive argument over me saying I liked my nails after I got them done. Another time he started a massive fight over me saying I was worried about my job prospects and I should probably start looking for other jobs. He belittled me saying that they are more important things to worry about in the world. And basically told me I was a s**… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 01:56 AM |
| 21 | This is not how you ask about financial healthYep most men want to leech or me to pay for the date if they find out I work in STEM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 03:11 PM |
| 19 | This is not how you ask about financial healthI tell them the general domain I work in. It would be easy to tie into my actual job should the man ever be high value. But most men are not. My ex narc was always trying to get money from people and gambling it away. Me pretending to be poor meant that he never could financially take advantage of me. I have more than one Bank account. Once he found out I had 1.5k in one of my bank accounts ( the only one he thought I had and the one I always keep the least money in) and he intimated me into giv… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 03:09 PM |
| 182 | This is not how you ask about financial healthShe gave it away by saying that she works in tech. I hide the fact that I work in STEM from men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 04:46 AM |
| 36 | I need advice about workplace sexual harassmentPeople think they're powerful till you file a police report. You were sexually assaulted and that is a crime. There's something about calling the cops that sobers people up. You're socialized not to rock the boat and not to make a big deal. You're socialized to suppress your gut instinct. Lean in to your instinct. Too many women have died and been assaulted because they've been gaslit into thinking that they overreacted. Look at Gabby Petito's case. She was gaslighting herself in the police foot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 11:10 AM |
| 180 | The Adorned Woman is AdoredI'd say I agree but also caution women to be weary of leeches who might view you as a sugar momma. Men are disproportionately gold-diggers and leeches in this day and age. I think pairing expensive taste paired with confidence and a bit of coldness/bitchiness is important. I remember a time being well dressed and looking expensive and beautiful, but I had those "nice girl vibes." Alas, a scrote picked up on my Pickmeisha nice girl vibes and was confident enough to have the audacity to try and wr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 04:02 AM |
| 29 | My HVM was actually just a golddiggerI would recommend dating up. Infact, Only date men who are much more well off than you are. Some of the above commenters made very valid points that men are disproportionately leeches and gold diggers. They also target single moms who are struggling and try to get a free car to drive, rent free home and cooked meals. He was a LVM in disguise. Did you dump him? Please tell me you did. The mask can fall off after years sometimes. Rather find men who can afford to spoil you with more designer cloth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 02:19 AM |
| 9 | Found a page online where the author listed several red flags to look for, while dating and in a relationship. It would be beneficial to us, so I'm going to list them down. Once again, credit's not mine.Holy mother of God. Numbers 1-8 was a sequential replay of my last relationship. My entire body is in shock right now. I just thought he was in love and obsessed with me and didn't know how to control his emotions. It took me a year to realize I was being abused. It was a horrific experience. Although later into the relationship he did try to manipulate me into giving him bjs when I wasn't well or when I was in pain. I need a few mins to go cry because if I found a post like this early into dati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 05:53 PM |
| 7 | REMINDER: It's ok to ignore / not be friends with / get distance from a man "for no reason".Op I agree with you. I'd like to add on its not only for no reason. And it's not only because he hasn't done anything (yet). Your instictual alarm bells are actually telling you it's only a matter of time before a man does something shitty, creepy, or harms/traumatizes/kills you. Men who say things like you can't compliment women anymore are always the predators with bad intentions. They're upset that we're refusing to enable their behaviour. If I had listened to my gut in the past, I could have… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 08:04 PM |
| 25 | I see posts like this weekly - thank god the comments unanimously say GTFO ASAP. But how heartbreaking that this woman WITH AN MBA has resorted to CAMMING and is putting up with this for some scrote she's dated for 5 WHOLE MONTHS?!?!?!??!Omg he's a narc. My ex narc love bombed the shit out of me and had unhinged fits of rage likes this out of the blue. We'd be having an amazing time hanging out together then out of the blue he'd have fits of anger like this. He first love bombed her and once she loved him, his true colours showed. Now she's trauma bonded because she doesn't know what she did wrong and why he's acting like this (not that she did anything wrong. It's the cognitive dissonance that makes her think this way). Victims… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 04:59 AM |
| 58 | Cautionary TaleI'm so so sorry you had to go through this. Sending you virtual hugs. This is an incredibly importance lesson to learn for most of us on FDS. LVM stay LVM no matter what age they are. He wanted a live in maid/chef/mother. I do think you have many better prospects and with younger, hotter men who will give you what you want. The age gap was also a red flag. You're too young for him anyway. I'm glad you are able to see he's just using you for his convenience. You deserve better. Also it's ok to fe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 05:12 AM |
| 7 | Communicating after a first date: am I being a pickme?I usually thank them for dinner on the date in person. If I had a good time, I tell the guy before we part ways that I had a great time. If they ask me to text them that I got home safe, I do that. But I'll wait for the guy to initiate contact from there on. I don't overthink it and even if I had a good time on the date, I get so busy with work that I have no time to think about whether or not he will contact me. I go about my life as usual and if he contacts me within a reasonable time frame I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 11:36 PM |
| 27 | Do not accept negging at all. It's always made to make you feel insecure so that you emotionally depend on them for validation.It's more that they panic when you block them because they have lost control over you. So they freak out and try to reach you on every platform they can. I think losing control of you scares them. Because now they've lost the validation that they're used to. They enjoyed the power trips and it's come to an end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 03:42 AM |
| 21 | Do not accept negging at all. It's always made to make you feel insecure so that you emotionally depend on them for validation.This needs to be it's own post | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 03:33 AM |
| 16 | Do not accept negging at all. It's always made to make you feel insecure so that you emotionally depend on them for validation.Just came here to say you're incredibly strong and disciplined. FDS is always right but it's not easy to always implement because it requires a lot of discipline. If you texted angry paragraphs he'd have gaslit you and invalidated all of your valid anger towards his incredibly rude and inappropriate comments. He'd had hit you with " oH cAn'T yOu jUsT tAkE a JoKe, yOu'Re bEinG sO sEnSiTive. YoU're cRazY aNd OvErEaCtInG." He sounds like an incredibly immature scrotum of a human being. If you react… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 02:50 AM |
| 7 | At this point women should just complain about going 50/50 for the sheer hilarity that'd ensueThis as well!! Broke men are the absolute worst! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 10:08 PM |
| 62 | At this point women should just complain about going 50/50 for the sheer hilarity that'd ensueFrom my experience this is what happens when you give short and/or ugly men a chance | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 02:31 PM |
| 2 | Waiting tables tonightA man paying for you dinner does not equal consent. Flip the script. If you paid for a man's dinner, could you even fathom coercing him into sex or feeling like he owed you his body? Because you spend some money to buy him dinner? Do you expect sex from friends when you pay for their meal? Does he expect sex from his bros when he pays for them?? Most men can are horrible horrible unethical beings. They've been treating women with such inhumanity from the beginning of time. You're NOT a $35 prost… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 04:02 PM |
| 8 | In light of recent events, this video highlights the importance of naming male aggression as a major contributing factor to what happened at Astroworld.This reminds me of something my depraved ex told me. He comes from a third world country that has a reputation for being the rape capital of the world. He elaborated that men in his country will rape women because they know they can get away with it. There aren't really any legal consequences. And most women will not report it because it could bring shame on her entire village/town. He elaborated that those same men will not rape Western women when they move to Western countries because they kno… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 01:31 AM |
| 21 | Don’t travel for a man. Especially on your own dime. If he was interested he would travel to you or at very minimum pay for your flight and accommodations.Y'all mean pay for faking their own orgasm* ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 12:37 PM |
| 51 | Guy I was talking to defends his misogynistic comments and covers them up as banter and jokes with his friends and tells me if I won’t accept him then to leave which I did. I can’t accept him for who he is because I don’t reward pornsick, misogynistsI ended up ghosting a guy like this. My he spiked my anger so I immediately blocked and deleted. No explanation. Just ghosted. It f*cks with them more when you ghost, block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 04:54 AM |
| 41 | Are these negs? Just a bi woman finally getting around to dating men and these are some of the things that have been said to me so farFlip the script. Have you or would you make these comments to other women who you've dated? Would you make them to a man? It's a block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 05:59 AM |
| 2 | How to make it clear you will NOT go on a drinks date?Block and delete. HVM do not ask women out on coffee, walk or drink dates. LVM filter themselves out when they ask you out to drinks, walks and coffee. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 01:48 AM |
| 25 | Waiting tables tonightI'm so upset for you right now. I cannot believe they had the audacity to get upset that you didn't split and cover some of their food 😡😡 And it's even worse that they tried to shame or guilt trip you. Men are so awful. It's not even worth going on a date with them anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 03:54 PM |
| 265 | Waiting tables tonightI think guys are more shocked when women don't pull out their cards and fight over the bill. Most men are LV and the will order a tonne of food to get you to split or pay for them. My brother said he stopped dating for a while because every girl he went on a date with would immediate whip out their credit and most of the time insist on footing the bill to pROvE tHeY wEre a StRoNg InDePeNdEnT wOmAn. He's in his early 20s and found this behaviour very cringy. I know a HVM who was telling me he was… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 07:41 AM |
| 35 | The mystifying "logic" of a pick meWow. Sounds like you were friends with a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 07:09 PM |
| 15 | Do not project your moral compass and attitudes onto men - you will lose every time.Omg I needed this reality check so bad. My ex-abuser manipulated me into seeing him oNe LaSt tImE tO tAlK after I left him. And I got the shit beaten out of me for falling for his crocodile tears, crying pleading and begging to see him just one last time. I thought he was going to apologize. The trauma bond and especially my projection of my own morality onto him was my downfall in this situation. Thankfully I healed and only came out of it with minor injuries. They get worse with every chance y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 05:00 AM |
| 38 | My family and friends push me to be a pickme & tell me I’m being too picky if I don’t want to date men I don’t find attractive.This happens to a lot of women. We're socialized to date and accept ugly men we're not attracted to. Don't fall for it. You're not shallow. You just have standards. In my experience ugly men have treated me horribly. They're incredibly insecure and a lot can be abusive as well because of those insecurities. Please do not listen to anyone telling you to date ugly poorer men. You're better of happy, single and at peace till you meet someone who meets your standards. And if you don't then being sin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 01:12 PM |
| 19 | “Women catch feelings easier than men”Fds is so right about dumping men as soon as they withdraw effort or show that they are not consistent. Also another strategy is to keep your feelings at bay and pretend you're now in love with them or really like them. It will make it easier to dump them as soon as they stop putting any effort in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 07:13 AM |
| 51 | “Women catch feelings easier than men”Every guy I've dated has done this to me. I try to occupy most of my days now with being productive. Otherwise my mind is often consumed with revenge fantasies. I don't think I'd ever act any out. It's just not productive to be so preoccupied with revenge fantasies towards men who Purposely wanted to destroy me for their own ego boosts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 07:09 AM |
| 50 | I don’t cook nor clean for any manI've pretended to be completely incompetent when it comes to cooking. Lately it seems to be the first thing men who are interested in me ask. I tell them I can burn water. My cooking skills are average but I'd like to find a man who is great at cooking and who wouldn't mind doing most of it as I don't enjoy it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 01:24 PM |
| 187 | This is what men think of women they hook up with. It is not in our best interests as women to sleep with men casually.I admit when Pickmeisha me first found FDS I was skeptical because I thought it was too harsh. But l honestly I didn't know any better. Deprogramming the way I was socialised was so MUCH harder than I thought. I started off with only agreeing with about 75%-80% of the handbook......I wish I took it more seriously earlier. I learned the hard way FDS is right almost 100% of the time. I had do endure so much abuse from men till I learned to redirect my highly empathetic nature towards myself and be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 03:25 AM |
| 80 | Upholding boundaries around porn/sex work/strip clubs is not insecure. Actually, it’s the opposite of insecure.Repost this as a whole post on it's own ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 01:46 AM |
| 29 | I need advice on how to handle creepy maintenance manIt most likely will upset him but you're in a catch 22 situation. Either way could be unsafe for you. If you don't report him, he gets bolder with his creepiness and the harassment will escalate until he actually does something. Reporting and documenting his inappropriateness is important even though it might anger him. Other people will know and you have some level of protection. Please buy some sort of dead bolt/ lock that prevents unauthorised access into your apartment. It's worth investing … | /r/askFDS | 27/10/21 09:59 PM |
| 78 | I need advice on how to handle creepy maintenance manBuy a deadbolt so that he can't enter unauthorized even if he has a key or access to your apartment | /r/askFDS | 27/10/21 05:50 PM |
| 107 | I need advice on how to handle creepy maintenance manPlease take the fear and discomfort that you feel very seriously. Your gut is telling you something is wrong. Listen to those instincts. Don't ignore them. Women are socialized to go against our instincts. Can you afford to break your lease? I would recommend reporting this to the apartment complex and telling them you don't want him to have access to your apartment. Get a door camera. You need to also keep mace, a taser or a firearm with you. Put men's boots outside your door. Let family and fr… | /r/askFDS | 27/10/21 05:47 PM |
| 82 | When you can’t handle rejection. Wait until the endMen take rejection personally. This is why I always say I am a lesbian and I have a wife. It's a measure to keep myself safe from aggressive men. They have the audacity to try to make you cheat on your bf if you claim you have one. Or they will ask you if you can be friends. They never ask for my friendship when I tell them I like women. They leave me alone at that point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 04:43 PM |
| 17 | I wouldn't touch that guy with a ten foot stick after he pulled this kind of shit. He agrees to pay first date if she pays for the next, she ends up being footed with a bill 4x what he paid.100 percent agree. Paying for a measly $60 meal is not consent. If most women simply just flip the script, I bet they can't even imagine coercing a man into having sex with them just because they paid for dinner. I don't understand why nobody stops to think what kind of awful terrible person he is for expecting sexual payment for dinner!?? But we're not socially or culturally conditioned to flip the script. But if women did what this man did, then we're gold-digging whores. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 08:01 AM |
| 20 | Men use going to the strip club as an excuse to openly cheat without actually labeling it as cheating. You are gaslit by society and men to accept this particular scenario of cheatingThat you for responding to this post. Especially women who formally worked at strip clubs. It's really put things into more perspective for me. I think it's helped a lot of women on here as well who may not have been aware of how far things really go in strip clubs. My ex-scrote used to frequent strip clubs before we met. He constantly wanted to go in there and get drinks with his friends. Like weekly. Apparently this was all before we met. It's likely he went when we were together. Who knows 🤷… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 03:15 PM |
| 189 | Men are such pick mes trying to gaslight me into being a pick meI've noticed this! When I have no emotion or show no interest, they're all pickmes! Show the slightest interest and they disappear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 12:50 AM |
| 597 | Thanks for keeping us awareIt was a set up. Women are socialised to go against their instincts and suspicions. Always trust your gut. Things never go well when you don't. Men who genuinely need assistance to jump start their car will ask other men. They generally don't perceive women being able to help them with that. The auto-industry is also male dominated. The behavior you described is suspicious even when you break it down logically. Always trust your instinct. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 04:44 AM |
| 204 | This is why you don’t tell men you enjoy cooking 🤦♀️Yeah it's all about what you can do for him. It's a block and delete. LVM to the core. Leech. Smh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 11:03 PM |
| 9 | If you're struggling with block/delete try these ideasThe clown pic / emoji is a great idea! I'm going to do that if I start talking to anyone. Thank you for this! Copied from one of my old comments: One thing I now do to stop myself from sending paragraphs is that I keep screenshots of the extremely cringy, heartfelt, emotional, or upset paragraphs I've sent men. I read those old screenshots and my whole face and neck literally grow hot with embarrassment. And because I no longer have any emotion attached to the men I sent them to, I cringe so muc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 03:59 PM |
| 81 | Help, I’m disgustedYou should loudly and publicly express disgust. Loudly shout "I'm 15 what is wrong with you, pedo creep! I am going to call the cops and my parents if you keep harassing me especially as I am a minor!" Maintain a disgusted facial expression the whole time. Claim you're 15. There's hardly much of a different between 15-19 year olds. This happens to a lot of women. I'm in my 20s but I get mistaken for an 18- 19 year old and I've had men as old as 50-60 try to prey on me. It happens to a lot go wom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 02:47 PM |
| 156 | No words. Rest in beautiful peace, AgnesThis is gut wrenching. Gosh sometimes I detest men when I see new articles about them killing their spouses! Why do we bother attaching ourselves to such vile, evil, souless creatures. It's articles like this that just convince me it's safer for most women to stay single or just all go lesbian. Because it's always the husband or boyfriend or male relatives murdering women. The husband was probably jealous of her accomplishments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 01:18 AM |
| 135 | Globally, most cultures, books, movies, media, the internet etc portray attractive women or women in general as bitchy, manipulative etc. The whole mean girl trope is so false in reality. In fact in real it it men who are manipulative, liars backstabbing, bloodthirsty, murderous & many worse thingsEdit: I see so many women post about abusive, gaslighting and manipulative bfs. Sis it's not you, most men are manipulative liars. He never loved you. He love bombed for easy $ex, home cooked meals and a maid to clean up and do his laundry. Now you have to beg him to put even an ounce of effort into your relationship or even take you on a date. And now that you're in love or trauma bonded he knows you're not going to leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 06:04 PM |
| 21 | Ladies, let's stop texting guys paragraphs when we're upset/angry with themThis is so relatable. FDS is a godsend. So many women having similar and relatable experiences. It's validating and motivates us to DEPROGRAM all the harmful things we've been taught and gaslit into believing. Before FDS I literally thought I was unlovable or there was something wrong with me or maybe I just had bad luck, not all men, etc. I didn't know women were having identical experiences with men. Men are the problem. It's in our best interests to ghost, block, delete and stop giving out an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 04:40 PM |
| 54 | Pick-mes Who Try to Act Powerful or Like BossesIt's sad. Some of these pickmes are super successful women but don't apply high standards to the dating world. I have a pickme friend and it really hurts to see her being taken advantage of by parasitic scrotes. She's successful, 2 masters degrees, full time job, a part time side hustle and she is experimenting with her own business on the side. She is super organized, has a routine, plans and cooks heathy meals, workouts out for an hour everyday. Probably the most productive person I've ever me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 04:34 PM |
| 114 | Ladies, let's stop texting guys paragraphs when we're upset/angry with themDon't be hard on yourself. I completely agree. Your post is a super important. It is difficult to put this into practice. If you mess up a few times don't be too hard on yourself. It is a learning curve. And unfortunately more empathetic woman just learn the hard way. It takes time and practice and a few bad experiences before gaining the discipline to do this. There will come a point in your life where you just don't have the energy for it. And it's an immediate block and delete then go to slee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 04:06 AM |
| 7 | The dates where nice, and he was a gentleman. However….If I really liked a guy I would never tell him that I found one of my guy best friends attractive. I can't believe he told you that. Huge red flag. Definitely triangulation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 07:11 PM |
| 90 | A very subtle sign of a manipulative, gaslighting LVBF.Wow I'm so sorry you had to endure that. That's definitely gaslighting and making you question your reality. That way if you guys broke up he was manipulating your family and friends to see him as this wonderful guy and perhaps painting you as an overacting gf. What a POS. Your story reminded me how insane it is that women are painted as manipulative, fake, bitchy, etc by the media, society, books, movies, etc. In reality it's men who are fake, liars, manipulative, bitchy and they throw tantrums… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 11:17 AM |
| 139 | FDS Works. It's best just to ghost men with no explanation when they do something shitty particularly in the early stages of dating. See link for why.Yes, I totally agree with you. For the longest time in my pickme and recovering pickme days I wondered why FDS stressed not explaining a breakup to a man. I used to think it was too harsh. However, I'm only recently learning about redpill tactics. I'm realizing that FDS does this to protect women from these horrible RP and PUA tactics. I thought I would share this because having an actual example of why not explaining yourself to men is so important and very helpful. Knowing how FDS principles c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 01:38 AM |
| 213 | When people ask me why I suddenly only date younger guysI'm currently in my 20s. My ex narc was 40 years old and the most emotionally immature and irresponsible man I've ever met. Before that in my pick me days I dated men of varying age ranges. The older ones (40+) were more perverted, vile and immature than men in their 20s. Also 22 year olds were much better in bed than 40 year old men. And Men 35 up have been the absolute worst in bed and most selfish in bed. It blew my mind. I bought into the misconception that older men are better in bed and mo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 09:41 PM |
| 4 | In my LV days, I was using breakups and blocks the wrong wayInteresting. I usually say " this is not working out because of xyz. I'm not happy anymore so I'm ending this. I will you well in your future endeavours." As soon as I've sent that or they have read it, I block and delete. If they happen to get a chance to respond before I block and delete, then I won't read it or respond. Whatever they say after doesn't matter. Because like you said, they will try to gaslight or manipulate you into staying or thinking it's not that bad. I think I would have a h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 09:44 PM |
| 14 | In my LV days, I was using breakups and blocks the wrong wayGod I really really needed this. It's very good and logical. I totally agree. I think writing out what you feel on paper or to yourself is great. Talking with a trusted friend or a therapist or just someone who can give you an additional outside perspective is super helpful. Letting yourself feel the grief and sadness after. Then acknowledging you're not getting what you want and this relationship doesn't serve you anymore. From there you can be at peace with the block and delete. What do you sa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 04:20 PM |
| 49 | Treat relationships with men like they are temporaryThank you. I really needed this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 04:03 AM |
| 22 | Make sure he’s complete because if you build a man, they will leave.I'm really tired of women being expected to take on the roles of both genders. Men have become irresponsible children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 03:59 AM |
| 12 | Just realized my brother and I were raised differentlyYup. This proof that male entitlement starts at home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 04:32 PM |
| 16 | Just realized my brother and I were raised differentlyHe got paid for the only chore he ever did. Wtf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 02:01 PM |
| 104 | 22 year old Gabbie Petito’s remains have been found after being missing for weeksThis is true. My ex narc scrote said his mother and sister would still stand by him even if he killed someone. Thankfully I got out. Sometime it sends shivers down my spine because my gut tells me it was foreshadowing would be in store for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 02:50 PM |
| 38 | They will stay mad for 7 years and never changeWow he sounds like a classic narc. Based on this it's probably safer to 1) Give out a different city to the city we actually live in. 2) Don't tell men much about your career. I tell them a different career completely than what I do. I never tell them I work in STEM. It gets rid of the gold diggers. I just give out a different industry that I have enough knowledge of to get by and tie back into my actual job if I decide he's trustworthy or HVM. Which most men are neither. 3) I give out my nickna… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 05:15 AM |
| 85 | I finally broke up with my narcissistic abusive ex and everyone around him thinks I'mI was in a relationship with a narcissistic abuser. Here's the most important thing that you need to know 1) Be prepared for the fight of your life. He might beg, plead, cry to come an guilt trip you. Never see him alone again. He will get physically violent even if he never has been. Narcs cannot stand losing control. 2) if you have nothing of importance at his place leave it there. Do not go there alone. If you have things of importance, like a passport that you need. Request a Civil Standby. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 12:52 PM |
| 52 | I can’t stand patriarchal menMan you described desi men to the T. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 10:44 PM |
| 3 | Always ask for a police escort or trusted male friends/relative to be present when collecting your belongings before/after a breakupI'm so sorry this happened to you. I agree the justice system doesn't exactly protect women fully. You're right. It is important to know that it won't always be the case. It's really awful that they would do something like this to you. I wonder if we'd have to pay for a civil standby. It's worth a try though even if they ignore you. I just don't want women to go collect their stuff on their own from an abuser. If he owns the place, he may have teh right to not let male relatives accompany her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 05:37 PM |
| 14 | Always ask for a police escort or trusted male friends/relative to be present when collecting your belongings before/after a breakupSuper helpful. Thank you for sharing this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 07:36 AM |
| 3 | Always ask for a police escort or trusted male friends/relative to be present when collecting your belongings before/after a breakupThank you @Ladyofblades. This helpful to know for anyone who needs to leave an abusive relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 07:35 AM |
| 10 | Always ask for a police escort or trusted male friends/relative to be present when collecting your belongings before/after a breakupThank you! Noted. Would there be any ways to get around this to get your stuff? What if you both have a lease together? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 07:20 AM |
| 26 | Always ask for a police escort or trusted male friends/relative to be present when collecting your belongings before/after a breakupI'm guessing you didn't read the whole post. I'm not talking about calling 911. I am talking about calling only a non emergency line or going to the police department to ask if a police escort is possible to help you take your things. You really should read the handbook instead of leaving unhelpful snarky comments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 07:13 AM |
| 30 | Always ask for a police escort or trusted male friends/relative to be present when collecting your belongings before/after a breakupNot calling 911. Just calling a non emergency line or going to the police department and asking for a police escort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 05:04 AM |
| 34 | Always ask for a police escort or trusted male friends/relative to be present when collecting your belongings before/after a breakupYes, I totally agree with you. I will take a look at it. Usually most women don't think man they've known for years will get physically violent even though he's already emotionally and/or financially abusive. They think "well at least he doesn't hit men." And some (myself included when I was being abused) think we know them well enough that we can trust they won't go that far. The cognitive dissonance is so strong. What we don't realise is that it's just a matter of time before he gets physicall… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 04:34 AM |
| 54 | If he makes fun of you for going to a community college, he ain’t the one.You'll get the same degree from the same university at a significantly lower cost. CC is a great idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 03:11 AM |
| 513 | Hotels in Turkey are banning men from staying without women because "they're harassing girls to try and hook up with"There's still so many places women are not allowed today. Namely religious spaces. Nobody bats an eye. Women in the past have been banned from universities and many other public spheres. In some countries women are still banned from public spaces. Men can dish it but they can't take it. Even though regulating them is for legitimate reasons like protecting women from their sexual harassment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 05:41 PM |
| 11 | I can't get over how society shames women for expecting men to pay for dates but they never shame men for using women for sex.This!! Exactly this. You should make this it's own post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 04:00 PM |
| 14 | Successful men and their entitlement to women's bodies (#YouToo)*What are you doing about the MostMen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 08:42 PM |
| 56 | The real reason your ex left and came back months laterYes. So true!! And for some men all of what you said also includes a power and ego trip to see if they still have power and control over you and your emotions! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 06:45 PM |
| 115 | Don’t respond when your ex reaches outOh love I'm so sorry. You might not see it now because the cognitive dissonance will be strong, coupled with the raw emotions. But with time you'll understand that he didn't "cry." He lied which based on all he did I'm sure you know deep down he truly lied not cried. It was all an ego trip to see if he still had power over you and your emotions. Once he was satisfied and proved himself right, he dropped the act. Block delete and make sure he can never contact you again. Ever. There's saying that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 11:22 PM |
| 33 | Guys Always Seem to Think I’m So in Love with Them I Won’t Cut Ties, Even When I Hated ThemYes people always get offended when I stand up for myself. I still do push back regardless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 03:50 PM |
| 102 | Guys Always Seem to Think I’m So in Love with Them I Won’t Cut Ties, Even When I Hated ThemHi OP. It could be that you're coming off as super nice, caring and sweet when think you aren't. This might make most men think you're a pushover. I agree most men really overestimate themselves in every possible area. May I suggest having a close and trusted family member or friend record a video your interactions with another friend or family member and also record how you answer a work call. I suppose I'm suggesting this because I had no clue till my mother and close friends recently told me … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 01:15 PM |
| 66 | How do you come to peace with the money you spent on an LVM?I'm so sorry love. It does hurt. I hope this comforts you, money is something that you can always make back and have an abundance of. Be happy you broke up with him because time is not something you will ever get back. You gave and you have and you gave. You were kind, compassionate and it's time to turn that kindness and compassion towards yourself. It's a learning curve. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Forgive yourself the way you forgave LVM. Sending you virtual hugs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 03:37 AM |
| 92 | UPDATE: If he needs space from the relationship, it's a noOmg I'm so sorry. I'm so proud of you for leaving. Make sure to never move in before marriage again. I am so happy everytime I see women realising their worth and leaving a scrote. It hurts but we're stronger for choosing ourselves. Also make sure you get tested for STDs. Go forth and live your life scrote-free. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 02:02 AM |
| 3 | He said he wanted a relationshipUnfortunately you were just a time pass for him. You are Miss Right Now. Not Mrs Right. It will hurt but the sooner you break it off the better. Prolonging it will hurt more and waste more of your time. Short-term pain is better than long-term pain and losing time you can never get back. It's time to take a deep breath and break this off. I'm so sorry. I know this hurts. You're human. You feel. It's normal. But you have to be strong you choose you. Sending virtual hugs ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 06:37 PM |
| 70 | Before deleting the number of a LVM who was being hot and cold and using TRP strategies on me, I called him out. It was fantastic.I'm glad you got rid of him OP. I'm proud of you. If it happens again with a different scrote just ghost with no explanation. It will be a total mind fu*k for him. My brother always told me that when you explain yourself to a man, it gives him an incredibly huge ego boost. He told me they are adults and know exactly what they're doing and they want a reaction out of you even if that's the last time you both talk. They enjoy that they can get a reaction out of you and have some form of control ov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 03:25 AM |
| 23 | Finally got the guts to break off my 6 month situationshipAwe. I'm happy you've left OP. 💗 Through experience I can tell you this. He wanted an ego boost. So he begged you for a phone call and turned the tables to keep you waiting and hanging. He wanted to invoke anxiety into you. It's a way to keep you hooked. Perhaps a bit of trauma bonding. And finally he wanted to be the one in power by making you wait around anxiously and then show disinterest with a short message to end the situationship. The truth is that he never cared about you. You were just … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 05:46 PM |
| 15 | First Block and DeleteI understand how you feel. I think keeping it short and curt by saying "we had different goals in life" is the best way to go if it does eat away at you. I used to feel this way but I've just been abused to the extent that I've stopped feeling bad about lying to men I'm vetting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 10:33 PM |
| 76 | First Block and DeleteI absolutely love this post! FDS is so validating. I think so many women have experienced this exact same thing OP. It's a learning curve and it's okay to want to give people the benefit of the doubt. Unfortunately, men are usually good at masking their depravity on a first date. We assume that they're normal, even intellectual till the damn mask falls off!! Recently I tried to go on a couple of dates and experienced the exact same thing. They were respectful untill they were not. The depravity … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 04:17 PM |
| 166 | Oh look, a message! This was a lightbulb moment for me. This explains some of the hate men direct towards attractive women who reject them.Straight from the horse's mouth. My brother told me this. He's not HV but I will make a post about men who have given me FDS advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 03:11 PM |
| 11 | FDS approved TV-shows?Cable Girls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 02:52 AM |
| 1 | All the red flags rolled into 1 little red pill incel ('I'm dominant, blow your back out, women cheat on nice guys') the women in the comments having a field day bc he's using a shower curtain as a bedroom curtain + no curtain rod. All jokes aside the fact that this has 50k+ likes is frightening....So cringy. Men ain't $h!t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 02:49 AM |
| 9 | How long is too long to wait?I think anything over two years is too long. You should know by then. Most HVM I've known will ask a woman between 6 months to 1.5 years of knowing/dating them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 08:53 PM |
| 18 | I often find myself using notallmen anytime I try to talk about LV behaviourThis whole paragraph. The fact that you have to do this highlights ALL men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 09:17 AM |
| 5 | The "I have a boyfriend" lie and my personal issue with itThe having a bf excuse didn't work for me. Scrotes just thought they could persuade me to cheat. I usually say I have a gf or wife if I feel like I could be in danger from rejecting them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 04:57 PM |
| 31 | "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft has a whole section describing the abuse tactics of softbois (Mr. Sensitive in the book)Thank for sharing this ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 04:44 AM |
| 97 | Pakistan Horror: Crazy entitlement and depravity and victim-blaming and gross animalistic behavior - All wrapped in oneMonsters do exist. Men are the monsters. They terrorise women and children. Even primal beasts are not capable of such evil. Men are evil. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 03:48 PM |
| 16 | FDS are female incels 🙄That's male logic for you. FDS teaches women to have boundaries and block and delete men who don't meet your standards or mistreat you. Incels advocate for taking away our basic human rights simply for being women, they advocate for violence against women they go on shooting sprees murdering women and children. I don't even know how the hell they can compare women blocking and deleting men to men murdering women and children. Unlike men we never have an never will advocate for harming, manipulat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 03:32 PM |
| 11 | LVM Lie: He treats you badly because he's out of your leagueUgly men always treated me horribly. They'd get obsessed with my looks and then project their insecurities onto me. Sexy men I thought were out of my league were always respectful and decent to me. They also didn't have any weird obsessions about my looks. They appreciated me dressed up but appreciated me more when I could throw on a hoodie and go get a nice breakfast with them in the morning with no makeup on and messy hair. They also paid for dates and cooked for me. I don't do hookups anymore… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 09:03 PM |
| 97 | Story Time: The importance of looking someone up on social mediaHoly smokes! Dude was reading a Holy book then saying women should be and dress modestly on his insta account and then objectified the living daylights out of you. To be honest the first red flag was him asking if you had enough fish for two. No respectful HVM would ever do that. Also I hope you didn't give him your real number. Please use a Text Now app. It's a texting app that you can download and pick a number with any area code of your choice if you live in the US. I've been able to look up … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 05:18 AM |
| 54 | A male friend of mine said something interesting to me recently about leveling up.Fancy salaries or jobs don't matter to HVM. There's not many HVM unfortunately. I work in STEM and when I had just graduated a couple of years ago, I had a guy take initial fascination with my career. We dated for about a month and then he respectfully broke it off when he realised he didn't actually like me and couldn't see himself marrying me. He felt I deserved someone who would love and adore me and know if he wanted to marry me. Nothing bad happened between us. Despite my job title he paid … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 02:29 PM |
| 53 | Man on Twitter turned off by a woman being too GOOD at budgeting and not over-spending 🤡I think he feels he can't gold dog in these situations. That's why I never tell men that I work in STEM. Leeches the lot of them . | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 01:58 PM |
| 62 | Why should men pay for anything?Omg. I was having this conversation with a pick me cousin who attacked me for saying these things. Apparently halves work for her and her pickme friends and I'm a misogynist for putting women into a box by implying only one way of life is right. I was like if it works for you then cool but it doesn't work for me. These are the same pickmes that will cry and complain about their men's shitty behaviour constantly, and go through a cycle of using their friends for emotional labour and then ghost th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 05:28 AM |
| 38 | A surprise bouquet of flowers came today. Imagine my shock and disgust when it was NVX saying he "made the biggest mistake" of his life, blah blah blah. Anyway, here's an article that is keeping me sane.Ask him to send you some cash before you block and delete 👀 A small inconvenience fee of 200-500? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 11:15 PM |
| 33 | SNOOPING 1011) Create a fake OLD account and see if he's on OLD. 2) Get a trusted friend to "test" him. Maybe she can flirt with him, send him texts and then send you the screenshots. 3) You can pick a random Text Now number and text him "hi cutie" or something like that See where it goes from there. I caught my first bf. I used the Text Now app to choose a number with the same area code that he was in. I told him one of his work colleagues/friend's had given me his number and I thought he was cute. This wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 01:29 PM |
| 2 | I don’t agree with the beginning. (she’s wasting her energy helping him) BUT, here it is…Guys caring more about what other guys think then their own feelings. But tOxIc MaScULiTy doesn’t eXiSt right?LVM and NVM are other men's b!tche$. They would pick a hot girl they're not into to show off to other men rather than someone they have a genuine connection with. Their world revolves around other men. HVM do not care and they do not let other men determine their masculinity or happiness. HVM are not other men's b!tche$. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 12:31 PM |
| 73 | Notice how men that claim to want an “independent woman” usually just don’t want to help you with bills. Or they will call a woman needy if she asks for emotional support.Yep. This is why I never tell them that I work in STEM or what I studied in college. It has attracted male gold-diggers in the past. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 02:29 AM |
| 21 | Leveled up, but feeling alone: everyone I meet seems to be a LVM or LVWOP I was just about to post something very similar. First of all let me say congratulations on your level up journey! It's definitely not an easy thing to do. I am so proud of you! Sending you virtual hugs. I think our lack of boundaries in our pick-me days makes us more vulnerable to thinking that LV people are friends. Leveling up is incredibly lonely. I've lost nearly all my friends and most of my relationships with my pick-me cousins have gone down the toilet. It's been a painful journey to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 06:29 PM |
| 26 | Things I overlooked in my narcissistic ex because I WaS iN lOvEeI have a lovely friend that gave me this piece of advice this morning "Someone cannot feel powerful when they are ignored. When we pour into their behaviours they feel POWERFUL." I was in a relationship with a narc so I understand how you feel. He has gaslit you into not really seeing reality for what it is. Sometimes you feel like you're going crazy. He feeds off your responses. Change your number and make sure his emails are going to a spam folder so you never see them again. It's anxiety indu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 03:16 PM |
| 23 | Public Displays of DisrespectI've noticed a lot when I moved to the US as a teen. Particularly in middle aged and older couples. I thought maybe that's just how older American men were at the time. I didn't understand it that it was contempt for their wives. The other day a very old couple was standing behind me in line at a store to checkout.The old lady was in her 80s or 90s and very beautiful. You could see took care of herself. She was happily chatting away, very bubbly and sociable. Just good vibes all around. The man … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 04:31 PM |
| 210 | Public Displays of DisrespectI feel you. Unfortunately in most cases, they won't leave because they're getting a bangmaid and saving money by going halves. It's about manipulation, power and control. An older lady also told me that my generation of men are used to having their egos stroked while doing nothing, and many Pickmeishas are desperate to keep them no matter what they do, so they actually enjoy this and gain confidence from it. It's twisted and awful. Most women would leave a man they lost feelings for. My ex was a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 01:45 PM |
| 7 | Markers of AbuseThis list had me in tears. I wish they'd teach us this in schools. I'd have been saved so much pain, heartbreak, setbacks and money. Definitely saving this post. Knowledge is indeed power. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 10:22 PM |
| 19 | Walk away from people who overshare EARLY on in datingWow based on all these comment and my ex-narc oversharing and playing the victim on the first date I'd be interested in knowing if there any studies showing a correlation of early oversharing and abusers/narcs. Definitely saving this post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 04:12 AM |
| 33 | Walk away from people who overshare EARLY on in datingThanks for sharing. This is very true. The worst most abusive man I've ever met, ranted about his ex the entire first date. Apparently she led him on for 10 years and then married someone else 🙄 This woman was just smart enough to escape a narc. Upon questioning him further it seems like they didn't even establish that they were in a relationship. Good on her for not wanting to be in a forever situationship. This is an incredibly important post. In my Pickmeisha days I'd empathize with these emo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 04:04 AM |
| 29 | Don't accept shitty behaviour just because "every man does it"!!!I would definitely consider this to be cheating!! I cannot imagine myself having photos of my SO's best friend and then masturbating to them. Why is depraved behaviour considered as "normal male fantasies." This is different to a celebrity. Everyday I realise more and more that men are not held accountable and their depraved behaviour is normalised. Not only are we expected to have no expectations, we are expected to expect and accept horrendous behaviour. And of course women are balmed for feel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 04:06 PM |
| 36 | Dumped my negative value long term boyfriendClearly a troll. Women wouldn't say their SO shouldn't be tired of standing around doing nothing if he had a 10 hour surgery....... This is a masculine communication style that lacks subtlety. Some of seems to be a word salad and all over the place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 03:38 AM |
| 32 | Man scouted Ohio college in mass shooting plot to ‘slaughter’ women, Feds sayOmg spot on. It's insane how FDS gets labeled as femcels. All we advocate is to avoid, block and delete men who mistreat us or don't meet our standards. Yet men are literally out here trying to murder us and advocating for violence against women, rape women and male subs teach men how to manipulate women and use them for sex, neg them, rip their self esteem to shreds, etc. How the fuck is FDS even controversial!?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 04:48 AM |
| 1 | Note: the husband is a cop. Ladies, please don’t marry men irresponsible with money. They WILL expect you to pay their bills.Yep. On a different occasion he took me to Vegas and came with a little bag of cash. He made 7k in profits then lost it all even though I told him to stop and take his 7k profits home. The profits and the bag of cash were all gambled away by the end of our trip. Then he wanted to gamble my winnings which was barely anything. I pretended I also gambled it away. I never told him whenever I won a bit of money. I acted like I lost it all. I used to hide my money with my toiletries. I'd chalk it down… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 02:28 AM |
| 3 | Note: the husband is a cop. Ladies, please don’t marry men irresponsible with money. They WILL expect you to pay their bills.I suspect he wanted to borrow money from me. He gambled at casinos. I remember one time he lost 50k at a casino and didn't care. Last year during the pandemic he played options a lot and lost way more money than that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 05:38 AM |
| 6 | Note: the husband is a cop. Ladies, please don’t marry men irresponsible with money. They WILL expect you to pay their bills.Yup I'm glad I shed that skin too. We were not married. He was my ex bf. I was in a trauma bond with a narcissist :/ Once I figured out he was a narcissist and I was in a trauma bond it was easier to leave. Because I finally understood that my heartfelt communication was useless as narcissists have no empathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 05:28 AM |
| 12 | Cutting off LV friends/family?I'm considering cutting out my Pickmeisha friends. They call me to complain about their LVM and will say stuff like , "I'm considering leaving him because he's not meeting my needs no matter how much I communicate with him." Then the next time we talk, her scrote is moving in with her and she's looking forward to spending time with them. Also he can never ever take her on dates because they've agreed that he just doesn't have time for that 🤡🤡 But he has time to ghost you on his day off to watch … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 07:04 PM |
| 12 | Cutting off LV friends/family?😤😭 I'm so sorry you have to go though this. It's so hard to find FDS/HVW friends. I've directed all my friends to FDS and they rejected it. Leveling up can be lonely | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 07:00 PM |
| 51 | 🚩 when he asks “are you the jealous sort?”Very true. No HVM has asked me such a question. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 05:17 PM |
| 52 | Note: the husband is a cop. Ladies, please don’t marry men irresponsible with money. They WILL expect you to pay their bills.These men are so entitled. They would never pay for a woman if they agreed to split 50/50. Especially if she ordered more food. I personally know many grown men who are terrible with money (family, acquaintances and people I've dated). This doesn't surprise me at all. In my Pickmeisha days, I dated a 40 year old broke man (I'm in my 20s, I know 🤮). He was a software architect who was so irresponsible with money that he lived paycheck to paycheck. The man was was making 250k per year and getting … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 03:27 PM |
| 5 | I Put My LVM Father In His PlaceGood correction! Saving this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 10:00 PM |
| 79 | I Put My LVM Father In His PlaceI'm part Indian and was raised with that conservative culture. I understand it very well. Crazy how your dad cares about his culture and reputation while he's sleeping around outside his marriage by cheating. But YOU can't sleep with anyone outside of marriage. His bullshit culture and reputation is dependent on the women's actions in the family instead of his own. Indian culture is so misogynistic. 1st rule of misogyny, women are responsible for men's actions. Good for you for standing up to hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 08:18 AM |
| 9 | Use a privacy screen on your devicesI've managed to find all that information about men I was vetting with only their phone number. I didn't use a paid service. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 01:08 PM |
| 7 | Use a privacy screen on your devicesDownload the text now app and give out that number to men instead. They shouldn't have your real number. You can find a person's social media, address, full name and see who they're related to just from having their actual phone number. Google Voice is another option. I like text now as I can change the number whenever I feel like it. And I can choose whatever US area code I want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 01:01 PM |
| 5 | Female friendships and bonding is underrated. I hate that our society is wired in a way which discourages women from maintaining relationships with their female friends.Cable Girls on Netflix has a lot of sismance. I loved that show. Female friendship is a central theme. They end up dating LVM. But female friendship is the central theme and I love that theme. The women are there for eachother even when they're relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 09:47 AM |
| 150 | "If England gets beaten, so will she" when england loses a football match, the figure for domestic violence surges by 38%. Even if they win, it goes up by 26%.I totally agree. I had a few interesting conversations with my brother last night. This was one of our topics of conversation. He was pushing his manager to have more women in leadership roles. He said he was tired of dealing with a dick fest of big egos. He told me that men are highly emotional (in a bad way meaning they can be destructive) and illogical AND that they try to project that onto women. He observed that women deal with stress better at his job and make better decisions under stress… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 05:52 AM |
| 15 | So the LVM in my city are pulling this now. Thoughts on how to respond ladies? It was that “let me get the first you get the second” line. She declined a 2d date and got this in reply.He wanted a 35 dollar prostitute. Men are too cheap to pay the 300 per hour hookers charge for guaranteed sex. Honestly, where did they go to have such cheap dates? Fast food restaurants? Taco bell and Wendy's ? Most normal people wouldn't cry about losing 35 dollars somewhere. What is wrong with men?? The bar is below hell. It's in Satan's a$$hole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 08:11 PM |
| 11 | So the LVM in my city are pulling this now. Thoughts on how to respond ladies? It was that “let me get the first you get the second” line. She declined a 2d date and got this in reply.He wanted a 40 dollar prostitute. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 08:10 PM |
| 733 | So the LVM in my city are pulling this now. Thoughts on how to respond ladies? It was that “let me get the first you get the second” line. She declined a 2d date and got this in reply.I'm going to do a full post on this when I have the time. But I had a conversation with my brother last night. He told me me 50/50 is about men having power and control.They want to manipulate a woman and make her feel guilty about them spending money on her. A man will drain her finances so that she is easier to control. He also said this is especially true if a man makes more money than her. Some men want you to have less money so it's harder to leave them. Others can be stingy lazy parasites. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 01:16 PM |
| 144 | It’s Hilarious How Many Men Are Triggered By This Amazing Song (Ugh I Love Doja)But they be singing about how women are b!tch$ and hoes and bragging about how they abuse and cheat on women. They want to dish but can't take it. Smh. They ain't shit. Dick is low value and abundant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 09:25 PM |
| 14 | For episode 20 of the podcast, we will be doing an extra-special (and extra long) listener feedback episode! Comment below with your questions/feedback for a chance to be discussed on the podcast!I'd like to hear more about having healthy workplace boundaries. How to deal with, response to and manage rude people in your place of work. How to deal with LV people at work in a high value manner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 04:40 AM |
| 3 | If you are allergic to accountability or you call it "mean" or "making fun of someone" you don't belong on FDSI needed to read this today. Thank you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 04:31 AM |
| 127 | When you follow a financial literacy page and then they start posting this shit... Unfollowed!Snacks at movies are a rip off and cost more than movie tickets. Dinner often costs more than lunch. A suit is way more expensive than shoes. So now women must also pay more?? Urghh the very idea of 50/50 in heterosexual relationships makes my skin crawl That photo rubs me the wrong way. A beautiful woman with a bald old scrote. So now we must not only settle for old ugly men but we must also pay for them. Why does the media always tell ugly men that they can win over the beautiful woman and als… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 11:14 PM |
| 84 | Cry me a river.Omg this was my ex 🤣🤣 He talked about how his dad didn't buy him a bike as a child. It was very traumatic. He had a great childhood with his Pickmeisha mother who coddled him, never raised her voice to him and now his sister does the same. His dad spent 200k for him to move to America and get a great education. He had a decent job that made over 250k per year yet no savings. He lived paycheck to paycheck because he was so irresponsible with money. Gambled, drank and smoked. Before he met me he s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 02:53 PM |
| 12 | It isn’t that bad…Quick question. I have a copper IUD as well. It was fine for the first year and a half. But now I've been spotting or bleeding non-stop for months since November 2020. It's not my period. And I've only had my period twice since then. Did you experience this as well? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 06:29 PM |
| 2 | Blocked and deleted ex so he called from a different number.Awe virtual hugs. I've had an ex who kept changing his numbers to call me. Unfortunately my number was tied to bank accounts, emails and loads of important things. I bought a second cheap phone and put my original SIM card in there. I then went to buy a new number and immediately put it in my main phone. I texted all of my family, friends, co-workers and boss that this is my new number. I started changing my phone number for all my bank accounts, credit card accounts, emails, etc When I got veri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 03:12 PM |
| 7 | Guy tried negging me and got frustrated when I didn’t care. Story time ☕️1) Your friend should have told him to leave as soon as he was rude to you. Women should not tolerate or entertain men who are rude to their friends or family. And if they do, they should not be surprised when they are the next person to get treated the same way. 2) The scrote randomly says "you're not that attractive." I'm not sure what your appearance had to do with anything? Especially if Mr Scrotacity was chatting up your friend. My guess is that he was after you and not your friend. It's a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 04:55 AM |
| 15 | What refusing to pay their share looks like in 2021.My mistake. Changed it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 08:02 PM |
| 41 | What refusing to pay their share looks like in 2021.2k for all your monthly expenses is not a huge deal when you're making six figures. This is what happens when you marry a stingy scrote who makes Edit: less* money than you. Whatever happened to men who valued their contribution to taking care of their families. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 07:59 PM |
| 60 | Reminder: LVM will pick at absolutely anything to make you feel less than. See it for what it is.Wow the comments on here are crazy. I never hear women insulting men's appearances or mentioning their flaws to their faces. But men seem to be very comfortable looking for flaws or making some up like too many goddam eyelashes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 01:40 PM |
| 29 | The guy is 55!!! 🤢From the horse's mouth. When a man pulls away don't go crazy trying to prove you love him or do stuff for him. He finds that desperate, pathetic and annoying. Leave, block, delete the score. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 04:16 PM |
| 3 | Rich AH mad that his GF is still poor after she took a second job.Sounds like his whole family is a bunch of stringy rich snobs. My first bf wasn't high value but the men in his family would foot the bill during dinners and outings. His step, then his brother, then him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 09:34 PM |
| 15 | My (26f) ex (m26) was low effort which resulted in me being very distant and him leaving me. However, I keep having this guilty feeling about it.Definitely sounds more like someone frustrating rather than someone special. Relationships are not hard. He couldn't even take you out to dinner. Sis right now it's the cognitive dissonance talking. He's not special. My two ex scrotes took me to only places I liked to eat and only bought me food I liked to eat. Your ex scrotes won't even do the bare minimum. And buying you a 20 dollar meal probably won't cause a dent in his bank account. Sis you dodged a bullet. Time to celebrate and take yourse… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 06:49 PM |
| 7 | Accountability for Pickmeisha actionsI really enjoyed the post you wrote today. May I ask why it's been deleted? The advice is really helpful for everyone on here, especially for recovering Pickmeishas like myself who want to turn their lives around and better themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 04:48 AM |
| 39 | Why are so many men so unhygienic and disgusting?😂😂😂 I feel your pain sis. These male specimen and their lack of hygiene give us some serious dating PTSD. It really does make dating a nightmarish experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 04:49 AM |
| 130 | Why are so many men so unhygienic and disgusting?Omg this is so relatable. I've been on dates with men who have horrible breath. One guy was super cute in his photos and in real life. Like hella cute. Then I got closer and his breath could have knocked me out. I too was leaning back in my chair. I could see some yellow soft plaque on his teeth like he hadn't brushed in a couple of days. The worst part was he tried to kiss me 😭🤣🪦☠️⚰️I dodged . For the rest of the day after that date I had the smell of his breath lingering in my nose. Even after… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 03:18 AM |
| 3 | When they lie about their ages on dating apps and think we won't notice 😂These comments have me in fits of giggles. I wish we had an FDS meetup or ladies night out so that I could meet all of you hilarious, lovely ladies in the comments and share stories and laugh. https://www.instagram.com/p/CP_8nndASAU/?utm_medium=copy_link Ideal girls night with mocktails for anyone who doesn't drink 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 05:02 AM |
| 1 | When they lie about their ages on dating apps and think we won't notice 😂🤣🤣🤣 RIP. I'm killed by this comment ⚰️☠️🪦 Gosh I didn't know about the saggy balls either | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 04:44 AM |
| 1 | When they lie about their ages on dating apps and think we won't notice 😂He just greeted me and talked to me like everything was ok, and I was supposed to recognise him from his profile. 10 mins into the date, I awkwardly asked, "Are those really old photos on your tinder profile?" He casually and nonchalantly answered, "yeah I don't really have any recent photos as I rarely take photos. I just put some photos on there that my buddies took of me a few years ago." He didn't seem to feel self conscious at all. He said it so casually, as if he were talking about the wea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 04:21 AM |
| 3 | Regarding online/technological safety as a woman, do you provide a different number (e.g. Google Voice) to your job?Hello. I use the Text Now app. It's amazing and you can pick any US area code. It's great if you don't want to hand out your real phone number. I'm not sure if it works in other countries. It's completely free. Only downside is all the ads are a bit annoying. When calling and texting other people from the app, they just see it as a normal call or text. I also use my text now number when buying stuff online to avoid spam calls, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 06:05 AM |
| 44 | When they lie about their ages on dating apps and think we won't notice 😂Fatfished 😂😂 I'm killed!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 05:30 AM |
| 115 | When they lie about their ages on dating apps and think we won't notice 😂When I just turned 21, pre-fds, I went on a date with what I thought was a very handsome tall 25 year old man. I didn't even recognize my date when I got to the bar. All I saw was an older looking scrote waving to me. He looked 42-43ish but claimed he was 37-38. He had photos of himself in his younger days on the dating app. In real life, he had grey hairs, a receding hairline, wrinkles, etc. I sat there and forced myself to sit through a horrible date for 30 mins before. I was internally throwi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 02:05 AM |
| 1 | Would you date a man who makes less than you? How much less?I would strongly advise against dating a guy who makes significantly less than you do. You're in the honeymoon stages right now. But it could make you resentful when reality hits, because you will definitely have to compromise on your standard of living. And you have way more to lose. Also never tell a man how much you make. I always tell them 50% less than what I actually make. He may be a great guy, but bear in mind that people can change. Men can be absolute leeches. Please be careful. I'm no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 01:49 AM |
| 12 | Srsly guys. What is the generation of male princesses we’ve been lumbered with. Having to approach a woman to get laid is to much effort for them now - they should be able to press a button and order us like a McChicken sandwich meal. BARF.Uhh religious men can be nut jobs. Sounds like he had a personality disorder. I can't imagine women doing that to anyone. He probably internally blamed you for temptation or something. Imagine claiming to be god loving and treating women like trash. Smh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 02:16 PM |
| 87 | Srsly guys. What is the generation of male princesses we’ve been lumbered with. Having to approach a woman to get laid is to much effort for them now - they should be able to press a button and order us like a McChicken sandwich meal. BARF.He clearly did think you were attractive. It bruised his ego that you didn't have sex with him. He was manipulating you with all those romantic conversations and trying to find out more about you. You hurt his ego by not sleeping with him. Isn't it just crazy how society, movies, the media, etc depict women as bitchy, manipulative liars ? Men are manipulative fake liars in real life. Women are not capable of faking it to that extent. I bet he thought sex would come out of you by putting in "nice… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 04:19 AM |
| 19 | I made a meme out of my cats for you beautiful women 😘I'm killed. I've been in relationships where I've had to beg guys to wash their hands with soap after using the bathroom, to brush at night, etc. I cringe so hard when I remember my pick-me days 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 04:30 PM |
| 15 | Not wanting my SO to post photos of us and not wanting to post photos of him- is this okay?Hello. Part Indian on my dad's side and raised mostly within the conservative Indian culture. I totally understand where you're coming from. You made the right call. I have never posted photos with any of my ex's and never told family about them (except cousins I trust). When Indian men post photos with a woman it's not as big of a deal for their reputation. However, when you're an Indian woman, your reputation will forever be tarnished in the community and you'll be slut shamed, especially if t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 09:50 PM |
| 41 | So let's choose wisely...Women have the ability to breed out the trash. Now just the challenge of getting the Pickmes on board. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 07:42 PM |
| 263 | Apparently single women can’t have nice things aka my attempt to buy a housePlease report her, and leave a review stating the things you wrote on here. Hopefully this will reduce discrimination against single women. It's worth even if it helps one woman out. It's absolutely appalling and insane that you were treated this way. I am so sorry you had to deal with this. If you were a single man nobody would have batted an eye at you buying a 10 bedroom house. They'd be falling over themselves trying to help you get what you want. I'm so stunned how rampant the discriminatio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 03:29 AM |
| 12 | Misogyny can be a powerful indicator of narcissism in men.Yes 100% agree. I thought that too. I just wanted to share this because in my pick-me days, I didn't realize the correlation between narcissism and misogyny. Hoping the last bit will be helpful to someone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 09:52 PM |
| 21 | How could any woman sacrifice this much??This is the start of an abusive relationship with a narcissist. Run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 01:28 PM |
| 22 | What is the reason??? For this kind of behaviour in women?🤣🤣 Perhaps she was being sarcastic? Although I do wonder.......I .saw a post on insta where some dude proposed in a parking lot with a tiny ring to his gf. She wasn't happy with the proposal or the ring. The gf reacted badly, as should be expected in such a situation. A pickme in the comments said the gf was ungrateful and she should just be happy that he proposed to her. The pickme then went on to elaborate that she would have been happy with a cardboard ring 😭😂🤦♀️ Too many pickmes enabling me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 10:15 PM |
| 13 | Kind of Peeved After “Build A Man”-6ft tall or more. 6ft at the minimum -Good looking -Full head of hair -Excellent personal hygiene (brushes twice per day, flosses, washes between his ass cheeks,etc). Goes the extra mile to take care of his physical appearance (Gyms regularly, grooms, etc). -Decent teeth At least 6 + inches -Makes 250k minimum or more per year. Outgoing/friendly/extrovert has hobbies that he is passionate about and balances them with his career, responsibilities and family/loved ones. -Good relationship with wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 07:45 PM |
| 90 | Kind of Peeved After “Build A Man”Your friend has bought into the lie that ugly men treat you better. It's not true at all. It's the opposite. I've been treated incredibly horribly by ugly men. Hot successful men have always treated me better than ugly men. I'll tell you a few examples. Pre-fds, I was open to casual encounters whenever I visited family in London. The men who were hot, tall, well to do/ rich and successful always treated me well even if it was just a causal fling for a few days. They'd take me on really nice plan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 07:26 PM |
| 22 | How I Have Leveled Up One Year Since Leaving My Abusive Ex-HusbandI'm so proud of you. I have tears reading this. You didn't deserve any of this. It's so heartbreaking that men suck the life, joy and happiness out of women's lives. Your story definitely highlights how dangerous NVM are. Often more dangerous than we realize. They inflict pain, traumas and can even cause women to have anxiety and mental health issues. Women's quality of life decreases significantly in relationships. It's the reverse for men. Their quality of life increases. Women often bring lov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 04:38 AM |
| 28 | Why there's no such thing as a green flag to confirm a guy as high valueStay ready to leave at the drop of a hat so that you don't have to get ready. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 02:50 PM |
| 7 | This sub has been a huge comfort to me as I'm going through my breakup, thank you. ❤️I'm so sorry you went through this. It sounds like you were in a trauma bond. Put the # trauma bond into tik tok. It's cathartic to gain an understanding of what was happening and why you stayed in the relationship. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Read up on narcissism and trauma bonding. Consume as much as you can on this. Dr Ramani on YouTube is a great source of info on narcissism. Lundy Bancroft's book why does he do that is also great for your situation. Please be kind to yourself ❤️ Virt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 02:13 AM |
| 23 | Imagine being this delusionalCorrection, Women are way more likely to be unhappy with men* Alone they thrive. No scrote to sap the life, labour and happiness out of them. Plenty of studies to back that up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 10:59 PM |
| 29 | I hate this! (TW, abuse, r pe)This was incredibly disgusting and disrespectful. Poor Sophia. Triggering too. I've had scrotes behave this way with me at work. And they continue to act inappropriately when you tell them to stop or when your body language is screaming get the f#&k away from me. Had a disgusting old boss grab me and try to kiss me once when I was a Freshman in college 🤮 Thankfully I managed to push him off me and leave. Innocent little me didn't even realize that he manipulated that situation for me to be alone… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 05:06 AM |
| 9 | Conversation vettingHas anyone else had men insist on giving them the name of the company that they work at and where they live? And then they also want to know the specific location or branch that you work at? I'm always so uncomfortable with giving out that sort of personal information. Knowing your name, where you live and work is an easy way for them to look you up. I've had a scrote do this. It was a terrifying experience. Because then he found out all the names of my family members too, etc....... What do you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 04:32 AM |
| 1 | How to get guys to stop staring at you 😂😂😂Love this. Share a story of how you scared a scrote away please 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 04:51 AM |
| 20 | Finally left the narcissistic abusive ex after one last strawAwe. Sending virtual hugs ❤️ As someone who was in a relationship with a narcissist I won't' judge you at all. Be kind and gentle with yourself. I believe you when you say that is not you. Narcs will turn you into something you're not. The abuse, gaslighting, lies, making you question your reality, trauma bonding etc will break your spirit. It's exhausting. You feel an unfamiliar monster inside of you that never existed. Their toxicity planted it there and worked on making you lose yourself and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 12:37 AM |
| 11 | Getting ready to leave my narcissistic abusive ex forever!Hello. As someone who was in a relationship with a malignant narcissist, these are the things you can do to help you leave. Watch Dr Ramani on YouTube. She will give you excellent insight to narcissistic individuals. Narcism is on a spectrum. Read as much as you can on narcism. Journal all your negative interactions with him. Secretly record thing stuff if you can, screenshot. He will gaslight you and say "I never said that." Documentation can be the only way to not question your sanity and stay… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 10:53 PM |
| 13 | He picked porn, so I chose myself.I can appreciate how incredibly difficult this must have been for you. Because everything else was going great with this guy and you genuinely had feelings for him. But you absolutely did the right thing. Short term intense pain is better than long term on and off pain. You saved yourself months or years of pain and wasting time with the wrong guy. A guy I was once friends with told me that he's become anti-porn because it damaged him. He said it affects a man's ability to be attracted to real w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 06:47 PM |
| 4 | Podcast feedback from men: "hate fan mail"Definitely projection | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 05:42 PM |
| 7 | Podcast feedback from men: "hate fan mail"🤣🤣🤣 scrotes have time to write manifestos on what horrible bitches women are for calling out men's shitty behaviour??? These are definitely NV, broke, insecure small dick scrotes. Seriously though, who on earth has time for that besides broke lazy men?? HVM don't have time to troll women online, invade their spaces and harass them. HVM are out there making money, building themselves/career, and enjoying their interesting hobbies. Why are NVM so obsessed with women and tearing them down? I genuin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 11:37 AM |
| 92 | After she struck out Babe Ruth and Lou Gerhrig in succession, women were declared "unfit" to play baseball because it was "too strenuous" and women were "too delicate".Damn. Men view women are incredibly inferior and are even more threatened by women than I realised....... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 04:14 AM |
| 112 | We love and admire an independent queen who stays true to her eccentricities60 year scrotes with that much money would spend it on their pedophilic tendencies to find multiple barely legal women or underage children. Women will always find something wholesome and focus on their passions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 10:03 PM |
| 32 | The First Date DebateExactly. It's such a huge turn on. Pickmeishas have slaughtered me for saying this. So I get how you feel. I don't think they can wrap their head around even receiving the bare minimum from men because they're so used to doing all the work and still being miserable. I would know. I was a Pickmeisha a year ago before finding FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 06:17 PM |
| 83 | The First Date Debate100 percent agree. I don't know how paying for dates or even paying for coffee makes women gold diggers??? Like when did the bar for the word golddigger fall well below the depths of hell?? Wouldn't a gold digger be someone going for billionaires in this day and age? And even if they do, more power to them (provided they have a fuck off fund to leave if the man starts acting up). It's always poor and middle class men who are worried about gold diggers. One of my ex male friends seethed about how… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 06:03 PM |
| 38 | Woman on Tik Tok reminds us that LVM neg confident women, and that patriarchy relies on women hating themselvesGod this is relatable. In my pickme days men would say things like "Omg, the hottest thing about you is that you don't even know you're so attractive." 🤮 My old pick me self would pretend that I didn't know that I was attractive. I'm cringing at the memories. An old male friend (we're no longer friends) told me that he never approached or talked to hot women unless they talked to him first because hot women are apparently bitchy 🙄 But they became more attractive when they were dOwN tO eArTh, mea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 05:38 PM |
| 84 | It’s lowkey empowering to embarrass old scrotes that try to approach you lol.But men won't get fired for sexual harassment or sexual assault in the work place 😡 It will be virtually ignored or they get a slap on the wrist. Urghh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 06:44 PM |
| 18 | I blocked a man without a second thought.It's not heartless at all. Women are socialized not to have boundaries and to be nice and the bIgGeR person when men are horrible to them. We're literally socialized to give these horrible men and scum of the earth scrotes chances, our time, our energy, etc. We're taught to enable their bad behaviour. You're deprogramming a toxic culture that society forced on all women. You're being kind to yourself and protecting your time and energy. You are enforcing your boundaries and respecting yourself. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 02:04 AM |
| 3 | I ended it with a textYep. This is typical LVM behaviour. Happens to a lot of women unfortunately :( Your story reminded me of something I read on FDS that sort of applies to your story and the OP. Nobody is nicer than a man who wants to fuck you A) for the first time B) again as an option when he's horny Also even when you're in a relationship, notice how most LVMs will only give you attention or affection when they want sex. You'll be begging for attention the rest of the time. | /r/askFDS | 11/05/21 09:12 PM |
| 26 | I ended it with a textIt's not at all cold. Women are socialized to be nice and forgiving and "do things the proper way." I promise you that he doesn't care. You didn't need to call him. These things make a difference to women but NOT to men. They don't feel empathy on the same level that women do and they don't think or care about how you ended things with them only 3 months into a relationship/dating. If he's checked out you can't change that. Men do not have the gonads to breakup with women. A lot of my lvm male r… | /r/askFDS | 10/05/21 10:25 PM |
| 1 | mEn ArE mOmS tOo...I've never seen shit like this on Father's Day. Why do men want everything to be about them...... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 02:17 AM |
| 5 | Men will be on their best behavior until they get what they want.This exact thing happened to a friend!! She fell in love with a scrote who paraded as Mr Perfect, only to find out that he had a wife and child. The wife apparently found his second phone (the one he was using to contact my friend). She then contacted my friend and she was devastated to find out her husband was playing both of them. It was such a gut wrenching situation for both women. My friend sent him one last fuck you message and then blocked him. I'm impressed by how strong my friend was. S… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 02:11 AM |
| 11 | Men will be on their best behavior until they get what they want.Yes this is so true. My first bf did a lot to impress me initially. A few months after he got me to be his gf, he started to withdraw his effort. In the beginning, he kept his house impressively clean, got me thoughtful gifts regularly. He planned very fun thoughtful dates. We'd go to dinner at cute restaurants then after, we'd go to a Christmas Light Show at the Morton Arboretum or do something fun and interactive. My birthday and Valentine's Day were important and he planned everything based o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 01:47 AM |
| 84 | They never say *why* they hate FDS...That's crazy. Women on here actually care about sex workers and want to get them out of a male dominated industry that's exploiting them :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 02:45 PM |
| 5 | I am so tired of working in a male dominated field 😢Hmmn maybe you could take your story to a journalist. Although they'd probably need to have a female journalist go undercover to expose this place. I suppose the challenge would be finding a news outlet/YouTuber/anyone willing to take this on....... For now you'll just have to go in and work, try to interact with people as little as possible and avoid this scrote as much as possible. I'm so sorry about your situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 03:41 AM |
| 6 | I am so tired of working in a male dominated field 😢Wonder if you can secretly record his behaviour and put it on social media.......let the world see his sexism | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 03:34 AM |
| 47 | Men’s fixation with younger girls really boils my kidneys.Female mentors are the best. I find that male mentors neg you, discourage you and tend to be overconfident. Their confidence often outshines their skill set. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 01:05 AM |
| 97 | TW: THIS IS WHAT BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A SCROTE LOOKS LIKEGod. Watching this just gutted me. This was me and my ex less than a year ago. We could never enjoy a weekend away because he'd go into a narcissistic rage over the most mundane things. Like as mundane as me getting my nails done. He screamed like the scrote in this video, threw things around the room, repeatedly kicked a mirror till it broke. I remember I locked myself in the bathroom I was so terrified. I was pleading and crying just like she is. That was the same night he turned violent. I tr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 09:19 PM |
| 5 | Ghosted after not putting out on a dateYes I agree with you. I meant that he probably put on a charming persona as men tend to be great actors, liars and manipulators. It's amazing how wonderful they can pretend to be until the mask falls off and reveals the monster underneath. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 05:43 PM |
| 19 | Ghosted after not putting out on a dateMen only show you their crazy weeks or months in. I'd give it a few months before going to each others houses. Even if you had a good time. My ex scrote was decent and made me feel safe for the first 6 months before he turned into a dangerous psycho. You never know. Men are great actors and manipulators. Ted Bundy was charming. Please be safe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 07:40 PM |
| 6 | Even in the midst of a pandemic crisis and requesting medical assistance, women can’t avoid unsolicited D**#pics! It’s a necessity to own a Google NumberLet me know if the alternative text now works for you? I also use it for junk online stuff that requires a phone number. Or if I'm just not comfortable with giving me phone number in general. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 05:34 PM |
| 78 | Even in the midst of a pandemic crisis and requesting medical assistance, women can’t avoid unsolicited D**#pics! It’s a necessity to own a Google NumberWhy do men have to be so vile and make this world such an unsafe nightmare for women to live in?? Just why? I would highly recommend every woman on here to use Text Now or Google. I personally prefer text now I can change area codes and numbers. Men will only show you their crazy 6 months into knowing you. It's a hassle to change your phone number especially if it's linked to emails and bank accounts, etc. Let them use your text now or Google number for a year at minimum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 08:10 AM |
| 38 | Beware of self identifying 'feminist' men and performative feminism.I had something eerily similar happen in my last relationship. Narcissism is on a spectrum. I bet this guy was somewhere on that spectrum. I wasn't aware during the love bombing phase, but my ex narcissistic used feminism as a pickup cover. He was Mr Perfect till six months in. Suddenly all his views on feminism and women were reversed. He'd brag about how he stopped men from beating their wives in India. He'd say men who beat women are not real men. Until he actually beat me one day. Then slapp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 01:27 AM |
| 6 | What kind of dumbass neckbeard neggs Azealia Banks online?! LMAO!Wow.......have fat ugly men ever bothered to look in the mirror before criticizing women's looks? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 05:59 PM |
| 165 | FDS must be an Eye Doctor, because I'm now seeing that most dudes are NOT AttractiveActually scrotes are starting to hit the wall in their mid 20s. I had a 26 year old hit on me (he looks 35-40ish, bald patch, receding hairline. I declined feeling he was too old (I'm in my 20s). I had a 25 year old hit on me on a different occasion ( he literally looked 40). On the flip side, women are looking younger and younger. At my previous job, I worked with a 42 year old drop dead gorgeous woman who looks not a day over 27. Before I left,we hired another woman who looked 18-19. I assumed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 01:58 AM |
| 5 | Does the FDS attitude apply to male friends as well? How might it differ?I learned the hard way. You can't always avoid hanging out with men. Sometimes you just have to in groups at social events or at work. However, don't invest any emotional energy or anything at all into friendships with straight men. I was in denial for years. I genuinely thought men and women could be friends for most of my life. Until one by one my male "friends" came out of the woodworks. Turns out I was always only being used for emotional labour. They were never there for me when I was havin… | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 08:35 PM |
| 270 | I was lurking on a subreddit and found this "HVM" lmaoLMAO 🤣😆 Six figure income? Sir, where is the gold to dig?? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Why are poor/ middle class men always worried about gold diggers??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 11:36 PM |
| 23 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseYep, my ex-scrote slut shamed me for dating someone before him and questioned my humanity as a person. He also slut shamed me for being with him and too soon 🙄 I'm part Indian. He was Indian and came from such a misogynistic culture. It's very common for Indian men to pay for prostitutes or sleep around if they're decent looking and/or have enough etiquette to get laid without paying for it. But they make sure that they marry virgins. My ex constantly degraded my worth etc based on the fact that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 04:48 AM |
| 1 | Is it your job as a woman to feed your boyfriendOp, I understand how devastatingly hard it can is when his friend group or your mutual friend group sees you as the bad person. He's probably charming and wonderful to them. My ex narcissistic abuser was incredibly charming and lovely and made friends wherever he went. Everyone in our big town absolutely loves him. They were always raving to me about how I'm so lucky to have such an incredible man. I'm sure they would never believe me if I told them that he beat the living daylights out of me wh… | /r/askFDS | 13/01/21 07:46 PM |
| 13 | Is it your job as a woman to feed your boyfriendAwe I'm so sorry you're going through this. If you don't mind me asking, did you cosign a lease? When will it end. You have to start developing an exit strategy. I feel like he might not have the incentive to move out. It's incredibly hard to leave when someone is pleading and begging. It's such an easy way for men to do that in order to emotionally manipulate women who love them into staying and letting them leech off us. He will paint you as the bad person when you try to leave. Don't believe … | /r/askFDS | 13/01/21 08:02 AM |
| 55 | Is it your job as a woman to feed your boyfriendDear God. He's acting like a needy 2 year old who gets upset when mommy doesn't take care of something. And throws a tantrum when someone eats from his favourite plate. He's gaslighting and manipulating you. Girl run run as fast as you can. We're here for support. Leaving will cause you short term pain. But I swear running is an investment in your long term happiness. | /r/askFDS | 13/01/21 07:50 AM |
| 48 | Is it your job as a woman to feed your boyfriendQuite the opposite. It's his job to be the provider and make sure that you and your children are fed. That's not your job. Is this really how you want to live the rest of your life? You will never get your time, youth or age back ever. Don't waste such precious, irreplaceable things on this scrote, he is gaslighting you into being his mommy. You need an equal partner who won't manipulate you into gender roles so that he can leech off your energy and willingness to take care of him like he's an i… | /r/askFDS | 13/01/21 07:44 AM |
| 11 | I just escaped an abuserOmg I'm so sorry you had to go through this. You absolutely did not deserve this. I went through a similar abusive situation last year. Unfortunately for me it escalated into physical abuse and blackmail when I was trying to leave. I'm glad you got out, so proud of you for doing that. It's incredibly hard to do with an abuser who parades as a HVM, lovebombs you, makes you feel special and once they get you to fall for them, they do a 180. The intermittent good and bad treatment that came after t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 10:16 AM |
| 5 | I have a history of getting into low effort relationships. How do I break the cycle?You can give that love and care to animals, pets, female friends and family who will appreciate it and care about you as well. You can channel that into growing or taking care of a plant. Perhaps volunteering. I feel like these things will be more fulfilling than channeling that energy into caring about Lvm. You can be selfless for so many other things in this world that matter. But please please don't do it for men. There are so many women, children, animals and issues that could benefit from y… | /r/askFDS | 09/01/21 05:00 PM |
| 145 | Hate to see itYou're*. This scrotum of a human being won't make it through law school. Smh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 01:43 AM |
| 6 | Apex Redditor... 😂 #goldOmg I though it was just my NVM ex. I didn't know women had incredibly similar experiences pre-FDS. So glad I found this sub. It's made me so comfortable choosing a happy single life over brining trash onto my life. Which all most men have to offer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 03:35 AM |
| 14 | This girl is coming for 50/50 culture. A lot of pick me’s are mad bc they just haven’t learned yetLove it 😍😍 Where can I download this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 07:12 AM |
| 46 | Don't let anyone guilt you for setting boundaries. The only people who guilt trip you for having boundaries are those who benefitted you from having none.Really needed to hear this right now. I've blocked my NVM ex eveywhere. But he still had the nerve to contact me from a different number saying pLeAsE gIve mE ONE MORE cHaNcE. It was always oNe mOrE cHaNcE. bAbY tHiS tImE I WILL REALLY CHANGE. He got worse with every chance I gave him. The 6th time he ended up hitting me. He felt bad for a couple of days but still had the audacity to beg for OnE LaSt ChAnCe. Then he turned around and completely demonized me for saying no. He started calling all … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 02:36 PM |
| 2 | When he says he doesn’t deserve you, it’s the truth.. don’t try to make him believe he does.Thank you. Really needed this today. LVM ex has been stalking, harassing, pleading, begging and crying. It's taken a huge toll on me and is exhausting to deal with all of the guilt tripping. This mofo hit me and still somehow tried to guilt trip me. The old Pickmeisha me gave him a million chances. He didn't change. And now this time like all the other times he's claiming that he will cHaNge. FML. I need to change my number and move to get away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 02:56 PM |
| 46 | Oh look another double bind for women. Damned if you do, damned if you don't 🤷♀️Can confirm. Those were the ones that treated me the worst | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 12:01 AM |
| 135 | Ugly guy want you to see past his looks but only if you are good-looking.Yes, women are expected to nOt bE sHalLow and date both hella ugly and poor men. Just last week my ex called me a gold digger for saying ambition is a quality I like in men. Hence one of many reasons he's now my ex. He asked me what I qualities I like in a man. I said I like intelligence, kindness and ambition. He got so upset that I wouldn't date an unambitious poor man. So now I'm expected to date ugly and poor men? (he was already the former). Are these men motherfuking kidding me?? The bar i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 01:29 PM |
| 55 | please take the time to watch this 1 minute video on reactive abuse.This resonated with me. I'm the calmest person I know but the NVM I was trying to escape and managed to leave a few days ago verbally abused, manipulated and gaslighted me to the point that I was questioning my sanity. My breaking point was having this exact reaction this past weekend. I have NEVER in my life screamed like that. Five mins to a day later he would deny that he said or did the things that he said and did. He'd always claim, "I never said that. I don't remember ever saying or doing … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 10:00 AM |
| 56 | LVs will fake support you and when you start succeeding theyll try lowering you down. Drop the deadweight.I can totally relate. However, a hvm will never be threatened by your ambitions. I think it's okay to tell them but drop them as soon as they discourage you, stop being supportive or sway you from your goals. Also immediately drop men who pester you when they KNOW you're busy in meetings or studying. You're not their mother. They are grown ass men and should know better. Also you did point out all these men you dated lacked the ambition to better themselves. I'm guessing they probably didn't hav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 07:11 PM |
| 15 | My first FDS block. It feels right.We can correct and help each other in kinder ways. "Giving off shades of Pick me behaviour "also encompasses women unnecessarily being unkind to each other instead of helping each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 09:57 PM |
| 19 | My first FDS block. It feels right.We can correct and help each other in kinder ways. "Giving off shades of Pick me behaviour" also encompasses women unnecessarily being unkind to each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 08:54 PM |
| 67 | My first FDS block. It feels right.This is not a very nice comment. It takes time to deprogram pick me behaviour. I know I'm still guilty of it but I'm getting better and better. That's why we're all here on FDS. To better ourselves. Sometimes we slip and need to come back to the FDS handbook and remind ourselves. Most women on here block men sooner than they usually would have pre-FDS. From there it's a learning curve, blocking men becomes easier and easier and we'll do it more frequently with less explanation. For some women it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 07:33 PM |
| 11 | I Don’t Want To Date An American GuyMe too. I'm an American and I've had a much better time on dates with British guys whenever I visit my family in the UK. Sometimes while travelling, I go on one or two casual dates to check out what the dating scene is like in a different country. Almost all the guys I met in the UK were well-travelled, had really interesting goals/jobs/personalities and could hold an intellectually stimulating conversation. Our conversations included a multitude of topics like moral philosophy, economics, mathe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 10:45 PM |
| 9 | I had to get on thisDid we date the same guy? 🤣 I need to do this. I bet it's therapeutic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 01:52 PM |
| 45 | Is it just me or do ugly men just generally treat you horribly or worse?So true. I remember reading this a couple of months ago when I first joined FDS. I was wondering if the general trend is that ugly will actually treat you much worse because they're probably insecure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 05:27 PM |
| 8 | I don't know who needs to hear this today but I certainly did. Wasn't feeling very good when I woke up. But this has already made my day a little better. Posting this message with lots of love to all of my FDS sisters ❤️You're only human. It will hurt. You will miss him. But put your dignity before your pain. You can't convince someone to care. You can't convince someone to want a healthy relationship and treat you right. You can only decide whether or not you will tolerate bs. It's black and white. We make it shades of grey in our head because the cognitive dissonance that comes with an emotional attachment prevents us from seeing things as they are. If he WANTED TO he WOULD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 04:04 PM |
| 6 | I don't know who needs to hear this today but I certainly did. Wasn't feeling very good when I woke up. But this has already made my day a little better. Posting this message with lots of love to all of my FDS sisters ❤️Short-term intense pain is better than the long-term pain that also brings long term unhappiness because you're not being treated the way you want to be. Happy to have helped with this post. Hurting for some time is part of the healing process. Imagine how much more it will hurt dragging out the picking up of what little breadcrumbs you can get. That combined with the incredible amount of time you waste will hurt more. Literally it will cause you regret combined with much worse anguish than what… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 03:58 PM |
| 9 | I don't know who needs to hear this today but I certainly did. Wasn't feeling very good when I woke up. But this has already made my day a little better. Posting this message with lots of love to all of my FDS sisters ❤️Glad this post helped. You would have looked back and hated it when you realised how much MORE time you wasted on your NVM ex scrotum of a human being. Your time is valuable. You'll you'll never get back priceless things like time and youth. It's never worth letting your ex come back and use up your emotional and mental energy again. Go do something nice for yourself today and spend your thoughts on something that makes YOU happy ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 03:04 PM |
| 8 | I better get my clown makeup on 🤡Wait I'm confused. Why is he asking you for money??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 02:45 AM |
| 31 | Guy spends days talking about plans Sunday to go for an early run and then brunch. Saturday he stops responding to my inquiries about time and place at 1:30pm. Sunday morning expects me to jump to fulfil non-plans. Thoughts?Women are accused of being crazy, psychos for having standards. You don't have to send an angry message. Staying neutral and pointing out to him that he didn't have a time or place nailed and didn't respond to confirm "non plans" on Saturday doesn't meet your standard. Then ghost him. In most cases, I don't think it's worth sending aggressive texts to scrotes. Staying neutral and not caring is better. It's not worth your time or energy to get worked up. You cannot be dancing to this man's tune w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 06:34 PM |
| 226 | Guy spends days talking about plans Sunday to go for an early run and then brunch. Saturday he stops responding to my inquiries about time and place at 1:30pm. Sunday morning expects me to jump to fulfil non-plans. Thoughts?He's deeply inconsiderate of your time. I'm glad you told him that you made other plans. It shows that you have a standard and that your time is too precious to be at someone's beck and call. It also shows that your time doesn't revolve around him and you have an interesting life with other things to do. He's testing your boundaries. I'd stop responding at this point. Please don't fall for the fake sadness. Men KNOW exactly what they're doing. They can be extremely manipulative and huge time was… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 02:44 PM |
| 2 | Had a horrible week so one of my closest girlfriends who lives a hundred miles from me had these vegan treats sent to me as a surprise (all paid for by her) along with a letter. IF a girlfriend can do it, then men can absolutely do more than just the bare minimum.Girl friends, cousins and sisters are our soulmates. They've done more romantic things for me than any man ever has. We write each other cute letters. If we have arguments, we apologise with flowers, chocolate and wine. We plan cute little surprises for each other sometimes just because ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 02:10 AM |
| 16 | What is your action plan for getting out of a date early? / Why you definitely need one.This is a good point. I suppose pretending to take an important phone call could be used as an excuse. Or you could say this is not working, pay your half of the bill and leave. This is why it's important to pick seats away form the door on a first date and try to make sure you're facing the door and he has his back to it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 09:09 PM |
| 77 | What is your action plan for getting out of a date early? / Why you definitely need one.Say you need to go to the bathroom and just quickly walk out of the restaurant. Leave him with the bill. Why on earth would someone ask you to dinner and then eat before dinner?? 🤦♀️ That's incredibly rude. Sounds like a cheapskate to me. He was already blatantly disrespectful when you were ordering your pizza and couldn't even be considerate about your dietary restrictions. Queen, sometimes you gotta bail on the spot. Either directly say, "I'm sorry this is not working for me," and leave. Or s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:39 PM |
| 2 | BROTHER HUGE SCORTE.He's not entitled to any respect just because he's older. This is one of the bad aspects of Indian culture. The lack of boundaries women are expected to have when it comes to family makes us tolerate abuse from family. Respect is earned. Yes, generally we should respect older people. But that does NOT apply if they start disrespecting us and pushing boundaries. I had to have some truly horrible experiences with my older cousin's wife from India to learn this. Being a part of FDS helped me stand-… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:09 PM |
| 14 | BROTHER HUGE SCORTE."Genuinely a nice guy" who calls his own sister disrespectful names like " bitch." I'm sorry, but NO, your brother is NOT a nice guy at all. And I'm desi as well, but my middle brother NEVER speaks to me like even when we have huge fights. He always texts or calls to see I've eaten dinner before finishing everything up. If I don't pick up or answer when I'm busy, he leaves me some food or just buys me dinner. My dad does the same. However, my youngest brother is a HUGE scrote who has called me d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 04:41 PM |
| 10 | LVM "friend" who I'm platonic with hmu for a quick bang after he broke things off with his perpetually on & off again gf. Needless to say, they're back together 🙄 thanks to this community, I've learnt that men are not your friends. You're just a sex toy that also gives them free therapy.I noticed this trend with my gay male friends as well. They are such braggerets and not even half as accomplished as I am. I recently changed my phone number and didn't bother telling them 😂 FDS is such a great find. I really underestimated the "block and delete" mantra and the power of not giving a fuck. Life is so much better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 02:30 PM |
| 5 | LVM "friend" who I'm platonic with hmu for a quick bang after he broke things off with his perpetually on & off again gf. Needless to say, they're back together 🙄 thanks to this community, I've learnt that men are not your friends. You're just a sex toy that also gives them free therapy.This is so true. I think I should have blocked and deleted as soon as he asked me for a a quick bang. It's easy to block and delete men in general. In this situation the intention was to block and delete but, I felt that I owed him an explanation after years of friendship as he has never been disrespectful before (we've always been platonic). It's a lesson I that had to learn. Thanks for putting this into perspective. Male "friends" are not worth the energy. In the end, he mocked me instead of a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 02:00 PM |
| 7 | LVM "friend" who I'm platonic with hmu for a quick bang after he broke things off with his perpetually on & off again gf. Needless to say, they're back together 🙄 thanks to this community, I've learnt that men are not your friends. You're just a sex toy that also gives them free therapy.I was NEVER sleeping with either of them. I mentioned in my post I was platonic with both of them. They have never met. Which is why I was confused and hurt when Tom hit me up for quick bang. I told Jerry I was hurt by Tom's, actions, and that I cut him out of my life. Jerry said I was cold blooded for sending that first message and cutting Tom out of my life. I have no clue why he also tried to get to get with me. All my male friendships have been platonic. However I strongly disagree. Male fri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 01:38 PM |
| 2 | LVM "friend" who I'm platonic with hmu for a quick bang after he broke things off with his perpetually on & off again gf. Needless to say, they're back together 🙄 thanks to this community, I've learnt that men are not your friends. You're just a sex toy that also gives them free therapy.This is so relatable and amazing and really put things into perspective for me. Thank you for this ❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:12 AM |
| 23 | LVM "friend" who I'm platonic with hmu for a quick bang after he broke things off with his perpetually on & off again gf. Needless to say, they're back together 🙄 thanks to this community, I've learnt that men are not your friends. You're just a sex toy that also gives them free therapy.I think you're right. We underestimate the fact that they know exactly what they're doing and they just don't care. I think in the moment it was very hard to wrap my head around that. I just couldn't fathom that someone who I had a close platonic friendship and a bond with for many years would knowingly do something like that. I got no apology in his response. His excuse was " You knew damn well I was a maladjusted type lol " It's very easy for me to block and delete guys when it comes to dating… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 05:43 AM |
| 18 | LVM "friend" who I'm platonic with hmu for a quick bang after he broke things off with his perpetually on & off again gf. Needless to say, they're back together 🙄 thanks to this community, I've learnt that men are not your friends. You're just a sex toy that also gives them free therapy.Not sure if you guys can see the the pics. I think a chunk of the first pic is missing. I did call him out on hmu for a quick bang. If not, let me know, I'll try to repost. I asked another male friend (let's call him Jerry) for advice on this issue. He felt I was "cold blooded" for sending that message in the first pic and cutting this friend (let's call him Tom) out of my life. A week later, Jerry tried to make a move on me when we were alone together. I was traumatized as we've been friends fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 05:06 AM |
| 6 | Posted a video about narcissism on an emotional abuse subreddit, and this scrote’s instinct was to...emotionally abuse me?Wow! I have no words for this. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. Are there any women only subs for emotional abuse? Try to join one of those if there are any. I find women's only spaces to generally be more healing and supportive. They're not saturated with scrotes who are almost always are the source of abuse or idiots that play devil's advocate to completely disregard female pain and experiences. Sending you lots of love and big virtual hugs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 12:08 AM |
| 8 | Dumped LVMAwe I know this hurts so much right now. But short-term pain is better than the long-term pain of years wasted on an idiot. And nothing will be more painful than the regret of losing time/youth both of which you will never get back. Keep yourself busy with productive things. You might not feel better immediately but at least you're investing in something that will benefit you in the future, while you're trying to get through this. We're all here for you ❤️❤️ Virtual hugs and love ❤️❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 02:56 PM |
| 19 | literally one day since blocking a LVMSo proud of you! Blocking is a HUGE step. I've never been able to get any of the women in my life to do this. Women are socialised to be pliant and "understanding," which makes us do all sorts of mental gymnastics to justify shitty behaviour. You did the right thing. It breaks my heart that almost all the women in my life have their contact list plagued with NVM "friends" or "acquaintances" because apparently blocking is too harsh. Like sis, wearing down your own mental and emotional well-being … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 06:07 AM |
| 3 | Ever had your career mansplained to you on a first date? Did a boyfriend tell you that you're too emotional/men are the more logical sex? Then the nine types of reply guy list is for you!😂😂😂😂 I'm dead ⚰️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 12:13 PM |
| 57 | Desi Pickmeishas?Brown girl here. I live in the US. Visited India for the first time last year. My observation was that so many women were their own worst enemy. They were already experiencing misogyny from men and they were misogynistic to each other. Men are served on hand and foot like kings. Women who don't want to conform to this are shamed by other women :( It broke my heart. People got offended when I stood up to a guy calling a skinny girl "fat." Desi culture is saturated with Pickmeisha mentality. I hop… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Recovering Pickmeisha in need of advice. How do I react when the bill arrives at the end of a date?Welcome fellow recovering Pickmeisha ❤️ I'm so happy we found this sub. It's made my life so much better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 11:11 PM |
| 55 | Recovering Pickmeisha in need of advice. How do I react when the bill arrives at the end of a date?Love this! That's so true! If I wanted to split the bill, then I'd just go out with friends. You're absolutely right, I really don't need any male "friends." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 02:22 AM |
| 92 | Dating and online profiles for LVM in a nutshellBut a woman with the exact same list would be accused of being a shallow, lazy, gold-digger 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 08:30 PM |
| 10 | What is my ex trying to tell me here?Take his power away to come back into your life whenever he chooses and screw with your head. I really needed to hear this today ❤️ Been doing it a lot more. A bit unsatisfying at times. But I'd rather be unsatisfied than disrespected and have my head messed with. I've really underestimated taking that power away from LVMs before FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 08:13 PM |
| 2 | Don’t give a man your real phone numberText Now is a great app. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 10:39 PM |
| 1 | A dozen red flags? Those are my favourite!Pickmeisha days were mental gymnastics of trying to justify the red flags and thinking you could 'fix' these men 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 09:46 PM |
| 3 | Membership increasing like crazyYeah this is true. I've been lurking for a while and created a Reddit account today just to join FDS. It's the best thing I've ever found. I'm a recovering Pickmeisha. The month of lurking this wonderful sub has given me the confidence to stand up for myself when put in a toxic work situation last week. It also helped me realise that my straight male "friends" are not my friends. They're just leeches that take up all of my emotional energy and use me as a free therapist. Or see me as a potential… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 04:44 AM |
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