FDS Works. It's best just to ghost men with no explanation when they do something shitty particularly in the early stages of dating. See link for why.

misscyansiren · 2021-10-04T23:29:16+00:00

Blocking hurts guys😇. I once witnessed a conversation between 3 teenage boys that I wasn't supposed to. This guy was telling his boys about the time he got blocked by a girl he was DM'ing. In public, they may say "FUCK THAT BITCH! SHE WAS UGLY ANYWAY!" In a private setting, they're showcasing their inner sad boy. His 2 other friends were there for him but they're also amused by the situation.

DivineGoddess1111111 · 2021-10-05T00:05:43+00:00

When that scrote called women "chicks" I knew utter trash was going to come out of his mouth. If you give men reasons about why you are breaking up, that just gives them ammo to use on the next poor woman.

Pryras · 2021-10-04T23:21:27+00:00

Yes never give paragraphs or look for closure. It stings but if he’s willing to put you through pain then he doesn’t care about your emotional response.

millennialpink2000 · 2021-10-05T00:05:03+00:00

Don't bother adding to their highlight reel of "dramatic" ex stories

MadamePotpourri · 2021-10-05T00:12:13+00:00

When I dump guys over text, I am short and to the point. When it's a situation of a guy being decent but I just was not feeling the connection, I just say so and leave it at that. Any response from him is irrelevant because I have already made my decision. It truly does not matter what he says. We are no longer together and that's that.

If a guy did something disrespectful to cause the breakup, I won't even send a breakup text, I just block and delete. He knows what he did so I don't really care.

This video has some interesting advice for men but the reality is that 100% of the guys I have dumped have either cried like babies, begged me to take them back, or insulted me 😂

vforvendetta87 · 2021-10-05T01:04:04+00:00

Ew.

WOMEN AREN’T FUCKING OBJECTS TO BE NEGOTIATED, BOUGHT AND DISCARDED AFTER USE. Human relationships don’t work like sales, you twat. If YOU did something wrong and she’s breaking up with YOU well then it’s best to jump on that self-reflection bandwagon and apologize like a MAN should.

Jesus fucking Christ. Is every man a narcissist?

”Let me try this clever sakes-trick I learned at the car dealership on women so they can be under my control because I’m really insecure and don’t know how to hold myself accountable like a healthy human does.”

They really see us as beneath them.

All I see is a man avoiding responsibility just to have the upper-hand.

oneheadlight312 · 2021-10-05T00:07:21+00:00

"#2: kNoW yOuR wORtH..." WTF!! He hashtagged Kevin samuels that's all I needed to see.

arnezuara · 2021-10-05T03:46:16+00:00

I once (pre-FDS) just blocked one of the guys that I used to talk to (him and I had a casual past). There was no doubt that he could care less about me.

However, when I recently ran into him at the bar my friends and I went to, I kid you not, he’s asked me at least three times about why I blocked him. At the time that I blocked him, he was just an orbiter that I had no interactions with. He still cared, lol.

I did the same with my ex and his friends, blocked all of them for the sake of privacy and peace. I’m sure it stung my ex’s ego, since he loves to keep his roaster in-tact.

It’s never a good idea to send them paragraphs. Fuck them and fuck wasting your time on them.

CountingDownTheDays5 · 2021-10-04T22:39:06+00:00

There are 6 other comments here from men who don't learn that this isn't the space for them. What do you think those same 6 men will do when it comes to being rejected by someone they feel entitled to?

I say this often and we discussed this on blacktwitter, and shout out to them because black men and women hold f-ed up men feet to the fire in the comment section. Men are the worse when it comes to rejection. They are horrible, and it is never worth being trigger to sooth a male ego.

onceuponasea · 2021-10-05T01:17:02+00:00

Thank you for this. The last time him and I talked it didn’t end well and I’ve been ruminating a bit here and there about whether I should apologize. Then when I think back on why we fought was because we was legit bread-crumbing me then told me it was because he was working so much. Eh. I don’t care, a man who values you is gonna make time to text you back. Or at the very least let you know what’s going on.

shockingupdate · 2021-10-05T05:15:22+00:00

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it forever until I die: closure in relationships is a myth. Closure is what you tell yourself you “need” when what you want is one more chance to change his mind, make him understand, or otherwise seek attention from a man who offers you nothing of value. And in return for your callousness, he has access to you “one last time” while you’re in a highly vulnerable state of mind. You open yourself up for more manipulation when you tell yourself you need closure. The block button is your closure. Be freeeee

Also why is this man acting like a breakup is a negotiation? Saying “ok” doesn’t grant you power or enforce your worth. It literally does nothing. We’re not going to read it. We already blocked you bruh 😐

CuntWaffe · 2021-10-05T01:47:08+00:00

Where is that guy's hair going?

dismayed_starfish · 2021-10-05T03:58:15+00:00

These men are so sad snd emotionally constipated. Rather than sitting down, having a real conversation about what went wrong, how they can learn or grow, it's all about trying to put on a front, worrying about some 'sales psychology,' stonewalling and being adversarial. There's nothing about healthy responses to difficult conversations, being able to be vulnerable etc. Your lack of emotional depth is probably why she's breaking up with you in the first place, so good on you reinforcing her decision.

Mighty_Wombat42 · 2021-10-05T04:34:02+00:00

Interesting how in his mind the two options when a woman tells him she wants to end things are 1) cry and beg or 2) manipulate her using high pressure sales tactics. I mean he does totally miss that if she’s breaking up with him, she already is the one who’s walking away from the “deal”.

Of course the idea of taking accountability for his actions and apologizing, or asking her if there’s anything he can do to repair the damage, or even just having enough respect for her to appreciate her honesty and walk away with our trying to use sales psychology or whatever to trick her into wanting him back. On that note I’d be really interested if anyone has ideas for a post about how a HVM would respond to a breakup!

throwawayaway388 · 2021-10-05T03:30:40+00:00

This reminds me of that meme with the person crying behind a mask with a smiling face lol

"I KNOW MY WORTH OKAY" 😭

Muffcakelord · 2021-10-05T06:34:45+00:00

Man i hate how men pretend like the invented the wheel when they just re-iterate what women have been saying always. He says it like it's some grand theory just because, ofcourse, the same goes for business (monkey brain go BRRRR when BUSINESS !!!! mentioned!! Business good, listen activate-), but it's not at all a difficult or new concept. The only difference is when this buff guy says it, men will likely think it's more worth to gain his indirect validation than the temporary pleasure of harassing a woman. They knew this before, it's just more fun to harass women. Yeah it's terrible that scrotes don't hold any accountability but i'd much rather all guys said "ok" rather than the wall of idiocy they tend to send during breakups.

This is also one of the core reasons women have inherently greater value than men in terms of dating; their answer is no until it's changed whereof with men it's often the opposite. I bet they also know this which is why they're so angry; the very same people they work to oppress are the main people in charge of their happiness. The harsher you are, the more value you have basically, a lot like OP describes.

blackmetalbetty · 2021-10-06T04:15:32+00:00

Another reason why you just block: If you cave and submit passionate paragraph, they end up zoning in on a single, insignificant part of it. "Thanks for wasting all my time, treating me like crap, siffoning money and emotional labor from me and leaving mountains of fucking Sprite bottles around the place." "I DoN't eVeN dRinK sPriTe". Stupid shit like that. Just block'em.

purasangria · 2021-10-04T22:39:35+00:00

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bananamilk58 · 2021-11-28T17:08:01+00:00

Recently just had to block and delete a dude I was exclusively dating for two months. We had just started sleeping together too. Everything seemed fine when he left my place but then I didn't hear from him all weekend. He sent me a bullshit text about how hectic the weekend was and sorry for being AWOL. I didn't reply all day. When I finally did I was hit (almost immediately) with another excuse about how school work was taking up most his time and he wasn't really on his phone. Oh okay but you're on IG looking at all my stories. They really think we're stupid lmao. I let it go for three days and he never replied. Finally on Thanksgiving night I blocked and deleted him on every single platform, LinkedIn included LOL. Good fucking bye sir. He seemed too good to be true anyway. I had a weird gut feeling I couldn't shake almost the entire time. Not to mention a couple red flags that popped up but I dismissed them. Never again.

I know old me would've tried to reach out and sent a novel of texts asking what I did wrong etc. etc. and demanded he talk to me and end it like a man. But I just do not care. Do not waste your time and energy on these men, ladies. They know exactly what they're doing. I hope their mothers are proud. So, thank you FDS. If I hadn't stumbled across this subreddit back in 2020 I know old me would've made a complete fool of herself. THANK YOU!!!

Title	FDS Works. It's best just to ghost men with no explanation when they do something shitty particularly in the early stages of dating. See link for why.
Author	londochig
Upvotes	875
Comments	39
Date	October 4, 2021 10:24 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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