Don't accept shitty behaviour just because "every man does it"!!!

shelballama · 2021-07-30T13:02:12+00:00

Imagine if she started masturbating to pics of his best friend-- who is single, flirty, and buff (and possibly better looking than him?) after she makes several comments praising the looks of said bf.

And then she gets photos of him shirtless and posed on her phone and he sees the photo and she admits she masturbates to it.

Anyone want odds on what level of anger/ insecure he'd be? All of a sudden it won't be so "totally normal and fine," I bet.

I don't know why only some men don't think of what the shoe must feel like on the other foot, particularly for the person they supposedly love

Muffcakelord · 2021-07-30T11:40:09+00:00

If "every man does it", just stay single. Luckily it's not even true

Big-Respond8481 · 2021-07-30T12:34:36+00:00

Every normal person should first and foremost be disappointed, because either he is actively cheating with her or he has the pictures (still) on his phone without consent. Or he is a creep who takes advantage of women's sexy instagram pictures.

None of those versions of a man is a man you should want to be with.

Many men are trash enough to do this sure, but that just means there is a lot of trash to throw away. Never fall for the lie that men cannot better themselves. They can, like anyone.

GrapeJuiceEnthusiast · 2021-07-30T13:32:06+00:00

"Well he actually told me if he found out I did the same [referring to her masturbating to his friend] he would break up with me. So I don’t think he could handle me doing that or anything even remotely close."

You just can't make this shit up.

I'm done commenting on the original thread, I've angered a lot of scrotes and reading their LVM coomer replies is lowering my IQ. I hope the OP will read my comments and realise she doesn't have to stay in that relationship.

spookymulder07 · 2021-07-30T14:06:26+00:00

So when we say "men are trash" they collectively become livid. Yet, when we call out terrible behavior, their response is "Yeah, deal with it. Men are just trash." Like I’m confused by their argument here.

pascalines · 2021-07-30T11:59:05+00:00

“Their aim is to ensure men as a group can continue acting in a bad way and get away with it”

A-FUCKING-MEN. This is Reddit relationship advice in a nutshell.

LindaBitz · 2021-07-30T12:57:51+00:00

It really seems to be the root of so much—men trying to protect the ability to act shtty without consequences. They’ve had centuries to not only act this way without repercussions, but to also have women propping up and excusing the bad behavior. It has to end. Awareness is key.

Mcccy · 2021-07-30T13:01:13+00:00

LVM: Not all meN! Also LVM: All men do this!

Novemberinthechair · 2021-07-30T13:07:25+00:00

Soooooo, if she were hoarding images of his hot ass male friend, he'd be told to get over it? I'd love to know what those clowns would say in that situation.

P.S.

Ever notice that men never have seem to have hot friends?

tactical_viper · 2021-07-30T13:32:42+00:00

Nah fuck that. That’s full ass cheating idc.

You legit had sex with someone in your mind and got off to it/whatever gross fantasy. And yeah it was someone that he interacted with not some random or celebrity, not that it justifies gross behavior when you don’t know someone but knowing someone makes it even creepier. People are so nasty. There are actually a lot of people who don’t do shit like this. Screw their gaslighting.

mamadgaf · 2021-07-30T13:24:02+00:00

My mom always told me “that’s just how men are” when I would tell her about my (now ex-) husband’s bad behavior. That’s because that’s how my father is, and she can’t admit that he’s acting poorly because it would shatter her world. So she continues to lie to herself and reinforced that behavior with me. Now that we’re divorced she acts like she had NO IDEA how bad it was. They both thought my ex-husband was great, but after we split everyone else in my life (literally, every other adult in my life, including my mom’s sister) told me he was awful and obnoxious and CREEPY and that’s why we stopped hanging out - they couldn’t stand him and/or he creeped them out. Many female friends and family have told me he was creepy and borderline inappropriate with them but never quite crossed a line. He is very very good at sitting right on the fence line between appropriate and inappropriate behavior - he does it all the time as a coparent now since that’s the only type of relationship we have anymore.

So watch out for brainwashed women who have been raised to accept this behavior. It’s up to us to end the generational curses and abuses. Fortunately women are waking up and demanding better.

seraphinelysion · 2021-07-30T14:21:47+00:00

Gotta love how logical it is that men can do whatever they want and women are the ones who have to constantly adjust herself if she wants a relationship.

It's easier to just be yourself and stay single.

arnezuara · 2021-07-30T11:52:40+00:00

Men are so conveniently open-minded when it serves them 🤡

If he masturbates to or dreams of fucking anyone but you, it is cheating. He deserves to be discarded, so he can fantasize his dick into ED on his free time.

MofoMadame · 2021-07-30T15:00:04+00:00

It's cheating to me.

N yes, if every man does that, I'll hold out for the rare exception, should it exist.

spookymulder07 · 2021-07-30T14:09:18+00:00

So is it cool for her to keep shirtless pics of his best friend on her phone and think of him when she diddles?

Angrboda229 · 2021-07-30T14:21:41+00:00

Lol sometimes I am so petty. If I'd seen the post, I would have commented how it's ok because she can just masterbate to his male friends who have bigger dicks and who are more muscular. It's just a FANTASY. But part of my FDS journey is reigning in my snark when it is uncalled for.

queen-wannabe · 2021-07-30T14:46:37+00:00

If the script was flipped, like if we masturbated to shirtless pics of our attractive male friends. They would be pissed, rightly so. Just as right as we should be pissed at them doing the same.

bioqueen53 · 2021-07-30T13:01:10+00:00

Also, it's so deeply upsetting to think that men we know (coworkers, friends, etc) masturbate to our photos. If I post a photo on Instagram, that's not what I'm consenting to. Period.

driftylandmissy · 2021-07-30T15:04:44+00:00

Not thrilled to admit I went through something similar. At the time, I tried to get over it and move on, but to this day, could never forgive him for it. Through that experience and many other experiences like it, I've realized that behavior like this is always, ALWAYS, an indicator of even worse behavior you don't know about. A surfaced betrayal that hints at underlying thoughts and feelings you may never know about.

eatnthrowtrashaway · 2021-07-30T15:05:23+00:00

Don’t forget it’s really really gross on several levels for the friend. Imagine finding out your girlfriends man is literally saving photos of you and jacking off? The way the post was written it seems like the friend doesn’t know about the photos (I could be wrong and if I am then both the boyfriend and girlfriend need to be dumped ASAP). It’s a breach of privacy, respect, and is just such awkward scrote behavior. I doubt she’ll tell her friend about the incident because it’s so rare for the insecure type of women who allow this treatment to not resort to hating the female in the equation and seeth with jealousy when the issue is the man. And if even you don’t blame the friend, it would be beyond awkward and possibly ruin a friendship to expose yourself boyfriends invasive behavior but still stay with him.

08__80 · 2021-07-30T12:23:58+00:00

It doesn't matter if EVERY MAN IN THIS PLANET, ALL 4+ BILLON OF THEM do it. If it makes you uncomfortable, LEAVE.

If all men drink water, and you can't stand men who drink water, you must leave. If all men breathe air, and you can't stand men who breathe air, you must leave. All men doing it is meaningless. What matters is that you don't like it. Now it's true that you're most likely not going to be able to find a living man who doesn't breathe air or drink water, but at least you will be happier. You don't need a man, but you do need peace of mind.

chainsawbobcat · 2021-07-30T13:33:05+00:00

What the actual fuck.

thatjimmylove · 2021-07-30T16:00:25+00:00

Not only is that disgusting for the girlfriend, it also is disturbing for the friend, I dont want some guy jacking off to me like its normal. This is why I don't have pictures of myself on the internet, of course this won't stop a real scrote from taking them if he needs to.

The mass gaslighting that occurs to protect mens "natural" perversion is gross and I hate it.

londochig · 2021-07-30T16:06:11+00:00

I would definitely consider this to be cheating!! I cannot imagine myself having photos of my SO's best friend and then masturbating to them. Why is depraved behaviour considered as "normal male fantasies." This is different to a celebrity. Everyday I realise more and more that men are not held accountable and their depraved behaviour is normalised. Not only are we expected to have no expectations, we are expected to expect and accept horrendous behaviour. And of course women are balmed for feeling iNsEcUrE. Blocking and deleting him is the only way she can move on from such shit.

raphaellastorm · 2021-07-30T17:49:17+00:00

You’re absolutely right about it being a bad idea to ask for advice on male dominated Reddit subs. My heart always breaks for the poor naive teenage girls who post and the responses are all “you need to work on your insecurities,” i.e. learn to accept any bad behavior and internalize it as a problem with you, when literally what teenage girls should be doing is the opposite and building up their self-esteem and standards, not lowering them in a race to the bottom to please whatever creep they’re dating at that moment.

veruscka · 2021-07-30T17:38:37+00:00

Every woman fantasizes about her bf’s big dicked friends, it’s just fantasy, move on

ennu_i_sao · 2021-07-30T17:37:33+00:00

The same men who preach “not every man” are the ones saying all men do their shitty behavior. They even try to say it’s in their biology when it is not, at all.

Platipus6 · 2021-07-30T12:15:27+00:00

reddit advice from LVM is affirmative action for undesirables via gaslighting.

Hedy__Lamarr · 2021-07-30T17:11:44+00:00

He is fantasizing about cheating on her with her own friend. That means he would gladly take the offer if it ever happened or will try to instigate a sexual relationship with her friend when he gets audacious enough. That's assuming he hasn't already cheated on her with said friend.

He also may have already approached the friend but the friend shut him down. Many times women don't say anything to their friends in these situations because they're afraid the friend will defend their SO, throwing them under the bus instead.

NotMyRealName814 · 2021-07-31T01:34:04+00:00

Yep, I'd much rather stay single living alone with my pets than putting up with some asshole expecting me to cook and clean for him while he watches porn and goes to strip clubs with his stupid bros. And I don't want to hear anyone's bullshit about how men are visual or telling me I'm insecure and controlling.

anotherdamnloser · 2021-07-30T18:40:46+00:00

Preach sista! You’ve got the nail on the head. “Everyone does it” oh to hell with that.

ilike2snap · 2021-07-30T17:03:26+00:00

Even at my MOST pickme, libfem self, I would not have been okay with my SO getting off to photos of my friends, for my sake and theirs! What a creep!

light_workerx3 · 2021-07-30T20:30:14+00:00

Yesss exactly !!! I hate reading posts like those !! The comments always make me want to throw my head against a wall . In my opinion, I do think it's cheating .

dancedancedance7 · 2021-07-31T08:05:10+00:00

No not every single man... there are some really great guys out there who pride themselves on treating their partners (and themselves!) with respect.

anxious-american · 2021-07-30T17:24:47+00:00

Oh HELL no. My HVM would never

Title	Don't accept shitty behaviour just because "every man does it"!!!
Author	GrapeJuiceEnthusiast
Upvotes	1807
Comments	86
Date	July 30, 2021 11:23 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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