Single man wanted a child, hired a surrogate, had a baby.

chocoboat · 2012-04-07T19:06:49+00:00

Good for him.

$40,000 though... I wonder if adoption would have been a better route. But I guess to some people it's worth it to have a child that is biologically yours, and I suppose from a MR perspective it's unique for a man to have a child that cannot be removed from his care by a vindictive wife.

TheyCalledMeMad · 2012-04-07T22:55:27+00:00

I am curious what would happen if the claim that this "exploits the underprivileged women who act as surrogates" interacted with the mantra: "her body, her choice."

JockeVXO · 2012-04-07T19:50:04+00:00

This is illegal in my country.

It is considered a form of "violence against women".

Of course, I happen to live in Sweden, so...

frostek · 2012-04-07T20:37:59+00:00

This will have to do until we can invent artificial wombs.

2012-04-08T05:22:43+00:00

haven't skimmed the web yet, but cue the feminists pissing and moaning about how he "took advantage" of some poor woman to get what he thinks he's entitled to, and making other sweeping generalizations/presumptions.

real talk: good for this dude!

Jahonay · 2012-04-08T07:06:18+00:00

Odd, I'm 21 and this is basically what I want to do when I'm older. I want to be a single father with no question of who's child it is. Only difference is that I'd rather adopt.

Grubnar · 2012-04-08T08:00:09+00:00

I wish that man all the luck in the world.

starkhalo · 2012-04-07T22:20:04+00:00

DM;HB

2012-04-07T21:21:59+00:00

oh shit that so called bioethicist does research at my university

LonelySOB · 2012-04-08T11:49:49+00:00

Hero

PardonerGrant · 2012-04-08T17:10:09+00:00

Well Good luck to him, I can't say I necessarily support it though. Bringing a child into this world with 1 parent gives them a real disadvantage, but hey, if all the women are doing it, why can't we?

C0CKPUNCHER · 2012-04-08T07:43:50+00:00

Some friends of friends of friends paid an Indian woman to surrogate - she ended up blackmailing them for more money before she'd let them have their child.

So I wouldn't do it if you didn't either know and trust the woman or had a bit of extra cash.

chavelah · 2012-04-08T21:45:27+00:00

"There's a lot of pressure that's put on people to be in a relationship and I just didn't want to get into that kind of tangled lifestyle. It wasn't for me,” he explains.

“It doesn't mean that I can't and don't want to start a family.”

I'm happily surprised to hear about this. I thought the single men were forbidden to hire surrogates under Indian law.

But... if you don't want a "tangled lifestyle," then you have no fucking business getting all tangled up with a tiny person that is utterly dependent on you. That goes for men and women both.

Bartab · 2012-04-07T20:07:37+00:00

He paid about $5,000 to fly to India to donate sperm, $2,000 for a donated egg, $20,000 for six rounds of in vitro fertilization and $13,000 for the care of the surrogate.

A woman can do it for the cost of a turkey baster.

Where's the equality!?!?

nepidae · 2012-04-07T22:06:26+00:00

Just because men can father a child at 70, doesn't mean it is a good thing to do, especially if you want to actually be alive for your child's life. I don't know if there is a biological clock, but there is a biological need in many men to want children, and there is a physical clock that keeps ticking.

Bartab · 2012-04-07T19:08:27+00:00

Nice. Of course before the fold, he is already exploiting a woman rather than creating a loving family.

Edit: that's a lotta downvotes. I'm just saying that he didn't put a gun to anyone's head.

Title	Single man wanted a child, hired a surrogate, had a baby.
Author	eyeofthestorm
Upvotes	139
Comments	108
Date	April 7, 2012 6:56 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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