For reference, I have been through the ringer when it comes to the typical kind of abuse we see men going through in this subreddit. My own ex girlfriend essentially accused me of rape in order to cover up an affair she was having after years of a committed and seemingly loving relationship, then ghosted me and acted like I was some horribly abusive person for calling her out on the cheating and abandonment when I'm not and turned everyone against me, destroyed my career, was granted a restraining order by a judge in montana where I've never even been (where she ran off to with the homewrecker) and that judge violated my right to even have a fair trial by refusing to allow me to have representation in court. And for reference that's after she tried like 100 other times to legally victimize me and other judges said no to her but then she finally found one idiot female judge that was willing to violate my rights and just believe her crocodile tears and fabricated lies. You get the picture.

Yeah so, recently this new girl I work with invited me to hang out with her and her boyfriend to play DnD. She seems friendly to me so I agreed to hang out the one night as long as there were other people around. But now basically all of my female coworkers are telling me I shouldnt associate with her because they are afraid that she is the type of girl who will basically try to pull some shit and falsely accuse me of something in order to try to extort money out of me or sonething and that her boyfriend would be in on it (Its almost as if maybe she admitted she was going to try and do this to them in private? Because otherwise why would they all collectively tell me to be so careful around her at the same time?)

The thing that breaks my heart is that I dont know how to feel about this or what to do. My trust in people and women specifically has been so broken by my evil ex and this whole thing is just taking me back to that mental place that I've been trying so hard to escape from where I dont trust women at all and see women as basically just monsters who lure men in and spit them out like sirens or something.

Does anyone have any advice for how to deal with this (self diagnosed) PTSD that I think I'm dealing with and how to tell a good woman from a potentially dangerous one? I've been friendless for years and I just want to make a friend. But its like I cant.