What is a weakness or bad trait you want to work on in December?

CountTheBees · 2021-11-26T23:27:36+00:00

I do this on reddit a lot - I type something out and then edit it a lot until I'm happy with it. Then I read the entire thing from start to finish - and if I think "eh best not to say that" I delete it!!

Maybe you can try making your messages longer, or typing them up in a different notes app rather than directly in the messenger box. It makes it harder to impulsively hit send and after 5min you can reconsider the need to send it.

Typing stuff out is therapeutic by itself, sometimes after you've typed it you realise you don't need to say it, or you realise it's not as cool as you thought it was.

sorcieres · 2021-11-26T22:21:41+00:00

I'm working on managing my emotions and being more patient with people. I get frustrated/annoyed quite easily, often due to lack of patience. It's something I need to improve upon.

goddessoflove1234 · 2021-11-27T04:44:38+00:00

It's idleness for me. Especially in the colder months I feel like all I ever want to do is get cozy on the couch and watch TV or sit in my phone. I really want to start cultivating hobbies so I can keep being "interesting" for my husband; I notice that he seems to be extra affectionate with me and finds it really endearing when he sees me actively doing my own thing instead of just laying around. And of course I also want to do it for me, so I can experience more things in my life and not just what's on my phone! As a wife and someday as a mother I want to be more knowledgeable and worldly than I am now.

Runningdisciple · 2021-11-26T22:42:17+00:00

Are you me? Did I make this post? 🙈

I’m also going to work on the oversharing! I feel like Ive gotten carried away and maybe shared too much during girl talk with a friend about my relationship (all good things about him/ us but unnecessary).

My boyfriend and I are together very frequently but I also feel like I talk more and maybe overwhelm him with details lol. So going to work on that!

HappilyMrs · 2021-11-27T13:13:37+00:00

Being more gentle

Scoobyginger25 · 2021-11-30T01:31:34+00:00

I’m addicted to mindlessly scrolling on my phone and it really prevents me from being productive and bettering myself

ApartTonight · 2021-11-27T03:43:08+00:00

I’m working on sharing my feelings instead of bottling them up, not starting any arguments for no reason with my boyfriend, and not letting my emotions control me.

purpleand20 · 2021-11-27T15:32:12+00:00

I need to work more on my jealousy issues. I keep comparing myself to other women and I know any man I date would see me as a COMPLETE nightmare. It's not healthy to see other women as my competition.

I'm also learning to cook, and while I'm not the best right now, I'm sure I'll be able to make a delicious, full-course meal.

Another one is laziness, especially with exercise. I need to shed off some pounds but haven't gotten up to work put like I should.

emmalai85 · 2021-11-26T22:42:46+00:00

Anxiety - focusing on turning my anxiety into positive interactions with being vulnerable, and demure/kind to my husband and allow him to help me.

- I like the head pats when he's busy, just him taking 30 seconds to acknowledge me when he's busy is all I need to beam like a happy child who's daddy just handed her a unicorn stuffie. I'm not hard to please, I appreciate that he takes any time to respond lol

amazing_jade · 2021-11-27T13:22:56+00:00

Being a soft place to land
cooking healthy while my pregnancy cravings are all those sugary treats
going outside with my toddler daily although it’s freezing cold and I’d rather stay inside all day

Cowgirlup365 · 2021-12-08T02:39:45+00:00

Being more understanding that my husband prefers face to face conversations and not texting. We used to text a lot and he has expressed to me that he really prefers talking in person. And at first I felt as if he was distancing himself from me, but I realize that is my own insecurity.

Pola_Lita · 2021-11-27T08:15:25+00:00

My husband loves listening to me chatter. He loves what I share with him. He loves when I flirt or take a kiss from him. He loves my observations about one thing and another. But 8 times in 10, he doesn't do more than smile and touch my head or grunt or laugh and go back to what he was doing. It's plenty for me because he's already told me he loves it. He says it's something he likes about women. And it's really REALLY rare that I will ask him something related later on and he doesn't know what I'm talking about.

But I don't babble about serious things. If something bad happens or makes me unhappy or if I'm going to tell him I don't like what he's doing, I wait until he can give his full attention.

AND (maybe most important) if I don't think I'm getting enough attention from him, I tell him. Flat out and no punches pulled. He takes me seriously and we talk. Things change from there, one way or another.

Maybe it's a matter of when you chatter and what you expect in return?

As to the recent butting of heads, unless you're positive your attentions are what's causing it, I'd ask him. None of us know him and we could all be way wrong.

Eh. Better ask him anyway. :)

princessandpearls · 2021-11-30T20:50:07+00:00

Trying to be more positive and generally happy/content with where I’m at in life. Sure there are some things that stress me out, but for the most part, I am extremely lucky and I want to be more grateful for that and appreciate it while I have it.

Lately I’ve been a little down in the dumps, negative, and a shorter temper and I’m hoping to change that. I’ve had more people asking me “what’s wrong” lately so I know it is evident to those around me.

Title	What is a weakness or bad trait you want to work on in December?
Author	pieorstrudel5
Upvotes	21
Comments	20
Date	November 26, 2021 10:02 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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