article: a couple that has mutual rules in their relationship that ban porn, lusting over the opposite sex, sexting and texting with the opposite sex behind each other's back has the scrotes and pickmes on the internet in a rage; media wants to emphasize this is a "Christian" or "religious" thing

aquietsword · 2021-11-24T11:23:24+00:00

It's always talk about "two consenting adults" until those two adults are consenting to something that doesn't dehumanizing the woman. 🙄

msinclaire · 2021-11-24T19:17:51+00:00

I’ve been married for 20 years and we have always followed these “rules”, except we know it as mutual respect and love. Ain’t no big thing.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-11-24T10:54:58+00:00

The California-based Christian revealed her rules are: “No friends with the opposite sex,” “No being alone with the opposite sex” and “No texting the opposite sex without the other knowing.

I do not see this as a 'Christian-only" or "religious-people-only" thing. I see it as what people in a committed relationship do.

I consider the "No being alone with the opposite sex” as too much, within reason. but that's just me.

but there's nothing wrong with this:

Additional agreements include: “No lusting after others (following scandalous pages),” “No porn,” and “Always put each other first (even over parents).”

especially since these people are married and have an infant.

no woman wants to feel second only to her MIL or to see her husband watching porn while she breastfeeds and changes baby diapers or to hear his phone blows up with notifications IG and OF models. I definitely wouldn't.

hensbanex · 2021-11-24T12:25:54+00:00

what a lovely, balanced, healthy seeming couple. these are great rules and I don’t see any connection to any religion at all; it’s just normal standards of monogamy.

ello-motto · 2021-11-24T12:54:06+00:00

Someone needs to logically erase this "having healthy sexual and relationship boundaries" is some sort of backwards religiously indoctrinated Christian thing.

Shaming healthy sexual and relationship boundaries, by falsely linking it to be "anti-progressive" and "religious indoctrination" has done more harm than good in society.

It has put countless young girls and women on the factory line of LibFem and PickMeism, ready to be used and gaslighted by LVM.

letsberealforamoment · 2021-11-25T17:08:50+00:00

Seems like the "internet" supports all the bizarre rules bdsm, polygamous and ENM couples impose on each other. Why is then so controversial?

Mmmmmm......

hexriot2001 · 2021-11-25T21:49:49+00:00

to be fair, these rules wouldn't work for everyone. like if you or you partner are bisexual are you just not allowed to be around anyone?

TherulerT · 2021-11-24T13:42:42+00:00

I'll go against the grain here, while I agree that many of those things are fine, especially if you're apparently both in agreement, making them rules just reeks of lack of trust. I'm also noticing your title only includes some of the logical ones, I'd assume 95% of couples have an implicit "no sexting" or "secretly texting" rule without it needing to be spelled out. No porn and no workwives/boyfriends are also pretty logical.

But theirs are way crazier than just those.

"Not being alone with the opposite sex" shouldn't have to be a rule for people just to not have them cheat. It's also a rule that's going to be pretty limiting career wise and frankly a bit insulting to someone of the opposite sex they can't be in a room with. As in, that's something you'd go to HR over.

And "no friends of the opposite sex" is just pretty bonkers to me. How would that even work when you're friendly with other couples?

I mean to me it's a red flag if a dude only has dude friends, and can't trust himself to be alone in a room with a woman, to be honest.

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