My wife is a high end escort and the men who hire her suck ass. Abusive clients are rare, but unattractive, weak, not-very-masculine, men who are difficult to respect are the norm. Frat boys or military dudes out for a crazy night are rare. Doctors and lawyer who are simply too overworked to properly date are rare. The average client is middle class and willing to take a significant income hit to have a girl pretend to be attracted to him. The average client is married, he's a cheater, and his wife won't sleep with him. He sucks.

In my personal life, I've never met a man like this. My friends are charismatic, lift religiously, most are on steroids, they're smart, and they read. People like them and they look for meaningful relationships with women who they like and respect. They are gainfully employed and responsible with money.

As a man who is very identitarian about his gender, I find it just extremely frustrating when women on places like femaledatingstrategy use the accounts of sex workers as evidence of what men are like. Those are a very particular breed of men. They're a minority of men. They fill a lot in life that they only fill because they are low quality men who literally cannot give away their love or sexuality -- they pay a disposal fee. I hate being conflated with them. I hate having them be representatives of our gender. Sex workers have access to a weird little freak show, not to the true nature of men.