Okay, so I’ve (M 23) been with my fiancé (F 22) for almost five years, engaged for nearly a year, wedding scheduled about two weeks from now. We’ve had a few short breaks, fights, and breakups but nothing too crazy over the five years and not a lot recently. I just went on my bachelor party, and I agreed with no strippers or anything like that. And at one time we decided that we would not go to bars without each other…. I don’t remember agreeing to this, but I said yeah, sure, whatever. We get to the destination for the party and everything was literally textbook to the way she wants the party to go—no girls, no bars.. etc. While I was in a store, the guys outside decide it would be a great idea to go to a particularly famous restaurant that happens to have a bar in it. I come out, and they say we are going to so and so, and I’m like cool (I didn’t know what it was). Before we even start talking in-depth with me, my fiancé's cousin is on the phone with my fiancé's sister and soon my fiancé. I didn’t have my phone with me because I left it to charge, but my fiancé was texting and calling me. She was not happy that she thought we were going to this place. So this whole scene was pretty much made about going to this place, so we didn’t go. Even though if it turned out to be a bar we wouldn’t have anyways… Anyways she was pissed, and I’m like yeah, whatever, because I didn’t even do anything wrong. However, in the past, when I didn’t do anything wrong, she still found a way that I did something wrong or accidentally lied or something, so I’m just learning to stay calm and keep my mouth shut when I’m innocent. Anyways I get back, and she’s mad that I didn’t call her the whole trip…. Mind you, I texted and talked to her anytime she texted or called me, but it wasn’t a lot, but… I was gone for less than 70 hours (Literally 20 hours driving). Now that I’m home, I asked her to go to church with me, and she said no, so I said, okay, cool, and I went with a buddy, and I had a family event in the evening, and she also said no to. I was passing her house on the way to the family event, so I stopped by to see if she had changed her mind.. well, she didn’t, and she also let into me wanting answers about the lack of phone calls and whole bar situation to with I gave the honest and authentic answers…. It was not a bar situation as I never did nor intend to go to a bar, and I didn’t need to call her for anything; I was enjoying a short weekend with the boys I didn’t owe her anything if she wanted to talk to me all she had to do was pick up the phone and call me. Unfortunately, she doesn’t like to acknowledge that a telephone works two ways. So I said what I said and said, alright, I was allowing you to come tonight, but I have to go because I'm going to be late. I go to walk out the door, and she throws her engagement ring at me on the way out and says she's done. I say, alright, see ya and leave. I received a few text messages “1. Come back and take the ring. I don’t want it. 2. I'm not wearing the engagement ring any longer. 3. I broke up with you just so we are clear “ She also tried calling, and I answered, and she reiterated it was over and that I needed to pick up the ring... I just laughed out loud and said I didn't have time for this right now. I also received three more texts shortly after “Since I own our house, I will keep the house, and can you move everything out by January 1st? I’d like to start my daycare asap. I’ll give you a list of people to call and cancel the wedding and I’ll do my half. I’ll keep Milo since he was raised at my house.”

So that's the story, sorry to be extended.

Anyways on to me. I'm disappointed to lose her as I genuinely do love her, but I cannot deal with how she has started to dominate and manipulate me and make every argument (that she makes up) be her winning and me losing every time. I am not today to the point where I laugh it off. She will be missed, but I will be just fine without her life moving on, and it just gives me more time to focus on my own stuff.

Just curious about everyone’s thoughts on the whole situation.

I love her, our pets, house, her family, everything. I feel like me becoming settled has made me soft, and she’s taking advantage of it more and more.

BTW we do not live together. I live in a house her parents helped us buy, and her name is on the house but not mine. (But I pay utilities and mortgage payment every month). The bad about the house situation is I have a business in a 30 x 70 detached garage and have a ton of stuff to move and store if I’m kicked out, lol

I will not be getting on my hand and knees begging her to take me back I know that..