Our society takes women’s emotional labor and work for granted. Think about the unreciprocated emotional labor women do on a daily basis with not just their partners but also friends, neighbors, and family. The amount of women I know who do innumerable hours of emotional labor trying to understand a partner who feels no need to communicate is insane. Bell hooks said, “when anyone who thinks a women who serves gives because that’s what mothers or real women do they deny her full humanity and thus fail to see the generosity inherited in her acts.” Society does not thank someone for doing what’s expected of them; instead, it feels entitled to the person’s contribution. I think this is the primary reason this sub gets so much hate. It’s a patriarchal society balking at the idea that women are not just going to do what is expected of them and accept the bare minimum in order to be partnered. Honestly, what emotional investment is there for women in relationships today? It’s all taking and no giving, all work and no pay, all of the grudge work with no thanks because it’s just expected. What would happen to this world if women just shrugged? If women did not give work they were not adequately appreciated or compensated for?