Good afternoon TRP.

Today I want to cover something that a lot of men in this sub find relevant, and something that EVERY man will go through as they learn game. And that is, what to do when you get dumped and how to handle it with dignity.

There are a variety of reasons and situations that bring men to the Red Pill for answers, but it is without a doubt getting dumped that is the most common factor.

So with that in mind, let's understand who this post is for:

-It's for men who are new to RP that just got dumped.

-It's for men who have spent time with the information and are still learning, so you can be prepared for when it happens

-It's for men who have found a plate they like and spending more and more time with, so you can know how to navigate the situation if things go south

-It's for men who are married or in an LTR, ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE CHILDREN.

This post is not very relevant for dudes running the gauntlet with women every night who only like one-night-stands or unemotional fuck buddies, or for dudes so far gone in their relationship your woman is cheating on you or something crazy like that. If you've been seeing a bitch for one week, this shit also likely won't work as an emotional bond has to have been established for her to care.

Phase 1: Survival - Depending on how long you've been with a woman, the breakup can come as a shock to the system, and often is for a lot of dudes not in touch with their woman's attraction level. This revelation can cause you to say and do some extremely stupid things. This will lead to bad, bad situations that will escalate quickly and more importantly, WILL GIVE A BITCH EMOTIONAL SATISFACTION. The worst thing you can do is feed into a woman's negative emotions, especially when the stakes are as high as ending a relationship. YOUR GOAL DURING THE BREAK UP IS TO GET SPACE BETWEEN YOU AND HER AS QUICKLY AS POSSIBLE, AS CALMLY AS POSSIBLE. You may be feeling like shit and your dumb emotional lizard brain may be wanting to rationalize with her, but it is imperative that you don't. The single best reaction you can have is one of cool indifference. Or at least appearing that you are indifferent. This denies women the ability to have closure, and will quickly make her second guess her decision as you agree with her and show no signs of caring.

Phase 2: No Contact - Once you and her have been split up, you must immediately go into No Contact Mode. What is No Contact Mode? It means staying the fuck away from her ability to communicate with you. No calls, no texts, no liking her stupid social media posts, nothing. Delete her number from your phone, go silent on social media, etc. You become a memory to her, and quickly. What this does is provide an emotional shock to her system, as the reality quickly sets in that the person who was in her life every day is now gone. If she loves or loved you, this will have an even stronger effect on her. This complete disappearance has the same effect on her as the monster you never see in a horror movie. Her imagination fills in all the gaps of what you're up to, essentially doing all the hard work you want to do yourself by rationally talking to her. Keep the fuck away from her.

Phase 3: Stop the Bleeding - Depending on where you were at in the relationship, some very strong anxiety will eventually bubble to the surface as your masculine propensity to fix things that are broken tries to drive you to reach out to her. You must take this time to reflect and work on becoming who you ideally want to be. Those emotions you have are fine and normal, but the No Contact Mode is a great experience for you to learn how to control what are sometimes VERY strong emotions. The important thing to remember as a man is it's normal to feel sad when you were in love with somebody and they're gone, but you're only a little pussy when you act on it. These emotions will be VERY PROMINENT if you are married and have children. You must fill the time you have with productive shit. Get into the gym more. Go out and socialize. Drive up into the mountains for a weekend of camping. Do whatever it is you need to do to keep your thoughts off your phone and what she is doing.

Phase 4: Battle Buddy - One thing a lot of men I've worked with have trouble with is UNDERSTANDING why the breakup happened. As dudes, we like to break shit apart to get to the root of it. One of the best ways to deal with this inability to get closure on your end is to find a friend (a dude, DO NOT TALK TO WOMEN ABOUT THIS SHIT) and piece together your thoughts on that matter. This helps you see the bigger picture of what happened and what you can do to make sure it doesn't happen again. Another great resource is YouTube. There are a ton of videos and people who talk about the No Contact method, and listening to them explain it all will reassure your decisions if you start to get cold feet.

Phase 5: The Second Wave - If you've followed these steps to a T, if your woman had any attraction left for you at all, she will eventually reach out to you. Depending on how dominant you were, it might just be a simple "Hey" or a 5 page letter where they confess their undying love and devotion for you. Regardless, you must play this next move VERY CAREFULLY. DO NOT, AND I REPEAT, DO NOT RUSH BACK INTO TAKING THEM BACK. You left indifferent, you're still indifferent. Keep the conversation short and take a lot of time in between responses. This gets her anticipating your responses almost like a drug, and it shows that her behavior and choices has some very real, and frightening consequences. She still doesn't know how you feel, and that is where you want her for a while. You can agree to let her come over one night to bring you dinner and after you fuck her brains out, send her on her way. When a woman breaks up with you, they MUST earn their way back by your side. If you even want her back at all.

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Edit: One last thing. You must be prepared to never talk to her again. Don't break No Contact for any reason. Doing so takes away your power and will make things worse for you, even if you do end up back together as a result.

I hope this helps some of you. Feel free to share your thoughts!