I barely found FDS perhaps last July and it’s been life changing. It was reaffirming and so validating as I was beginning to feel isolated from a lot of mainstream liberal feminism. It was like I found this forum of women who were confirming and articulating all the shit I didn’t know how to say at times. I love my mom with all my heart, but she did marry my lvm father so childhood was tumultuous. I didn’t get the best example of healthy love. He was 12 years older than her too and so I think at one point I normalized older men approaching me at a very young age. Fortunately my mom left him in recent years and is thriving now. It’s inspired me in many ways.

I have to confess though before finding FDS, I was stuck in an age gap “situationship” with a male who is 15 years my senior (this went on for like two years). I’m embarrassed because I think like many women here, I wanted to think I was the exception to this age gap rule. I truly wanted to believe he genuinely did care about me.

I’m trying my very best not to do something pathetic like unblock him and call or text for whatever reason. I think asking wise and older women here for wisdom they would tell me or their 23 year old selves, would help me take my mind off this compulsory thought in contacting someone who never really valued me. I do have loving friends who treat me far better than he ever did, but I believe reading some FDS motherly/sisterly love today about moving forward could also really benefit me + will give me strength to not make a fool out of myself.

Also feel free to comment your birthday and find your birthday twin maybe? I’m March 18, so if any sister out there has the same birthday - happy birthday sis! 💜 thank you again to every woman who has taught me something here. 🤍

Edit; every single comment here has made my birthday that much better, TYSM 🥺 I feel so fortunate to be a part of this community of supportive women.