I broke up with my boyfriend of four years. The last year it's been long distance and only seeing each other 4-6 days a month.

He had some high value qualities (no porn, has his own place car and bills paid, loyal, always there for me, decent job)

But I couldn't overlook the bad anymore. (Misogynistic, not generous, didn't do the little day to day stuff, followed a few insta "models" in the first year of us dating, "physical touch" was his love language but he never even held my hand, family didn't like him for me, friends didn't see chemistry between us, we met when I was 20 and he was 28, plenty more red flags)

I am letting myself grieve for a bit and then focusing on leveling up. I want to go back to school, tone my body a bit, finish my tattoo sleeve, finish dealing with trauma, start yoga and dance again, and learn to be single (I'm a serial dater).

I stayed longer than I should because I felt like he was in the middle between good and bad, so that can't be harmful right? Wrong.

Any words of wisdom, advice, love, etc are welcome.

Spring cleaning came early I guess.