I’ve been in relationships where I felt like I was rushed into doing things. I got a sense that the men were impatient. I thought it was my fault for being so slow and inexperienced.

In a sense, everything was moving way too fast. Did I feel loved? No. I felt like he was checking off a list of romantic things people do. It wasn’t natural and felt off. At three months he expected me to put out, and demanded sex. Umm…these things take time.

I had another date love bomb me by calling me “the one” on our first date. That scared me. It’s true that men know right away if they found the perfect partner for them, but holy shit keep it to yourself and wait after a few dates before telling us. Better yet, after a year or two (not five or ten), when you propose, just tell us that you always knew we were “the one”.

Here’s the thing about when they rush you, that’s what they want you to think. The reality is that, they’re on a tight schedule. Whether it is for marriage or sex, it’s all the same. Once they get what they want, they stop trying and find ways to leave you.

My advice for all the 👑s reading this is to take your time and don’t be afraid to end the relationship if you feel rushed. It was already over the moment you felt rushed.

Communication doesn’t always work. Most of these guys will only wait a couple of days and then they’ll cross a boundary with you; don’t let them. Instead, you have to leave them. Whatever you do, don’t stay.

Trust your instincts ❤️