What makes you gravitate towards Redpill?

cleanmindhappymind · 2022-05-12T15:52:18+00:00

I gravitated towards RP because I believe women and men are different and I like that RP acknowledges that. I think we all exist on a spectrum of masculine/feminine traits and for those looking for more heteronormative relationships, RP can be a great resource. I don't wholeheartedly buy into every RP idea at the moment, but I love that we have a community of women who strengthen their relationships by leaning into their femininity.

I can't think of a RPW equivalent of that saying, but I'll be watching the replies to see if anyone finds something.

rosesonthefloor · 2022-05-12T16:08:49+00:00

It makes sense to me. I love being a woman and I love being feminine, and I gravitate most to men with masculine energy, so it’s a natural fit. Why wouldn’t I want to use the strategies here to make my relationship the best it could be?

I am also a natural submissive, and trusting my man makes me feel safe and happy. The “girl game” herein also helps me make sure my man feels respected and happy as well.

But beyond that, I really enjoy the emphasis on personal accountability here. When you have a problem, there is always an element that you contributed to it, and I like that the focus is on what we can control (ourselves) vs what we can’t (anyone else). I also really like that here, the first response shouldn’t be just “break up” but puts the focus on strategies to help keep relationships intact.

TentacleEgg · 2022-05-12T16:47:42+00:00

Oops, I accidentally posted my answer without typing it all up first. Here's to try 2.

To be completely honest, it made me feel good about myself! I never felt like I connected well with the majority of the girls I met and knew. My family taught me to be disciplined and coming from an Eastern European country - the nuclear family is the ideal. I never found the appeal in partying, drinking, girls' nights out or anything like that - so it was nice to find a community that accepted that and actually thought it was a good thing! Throughout growing up I was called boring, weird and was often an outcast. I love to cook, cleaning is oddly satisfying, and honestly being a housewife nowadays seems like a privilege (having enough money for only one person to work? In this economy?). I hate being shamed for wanting to be a housewife and raise children and take care of a household - "internalised misogyny" bs.

The red pill community finally made me feel like the way I was living wasn't a negative but rather a positive, I don't have to try and force myself to be more out there, or seem more masculine when that's not me. Even if the language used by red pill youtubers is a little harsh, I find myself agreeing with the overall message a lot of the time.

LoveWitchXo · 2022-05-12T18:05:54+00:00

i love being feminine and ive always wanted to be a stay at home mom. i believe my role as a woman is to nurture and to he caring. i want a man that will provide for me and my future children and is willing to work hard. the redpill lines up with my beliefs

amarapalmer · 2022-05-13T10:00:05+00:00

I love RP because I used to be a feminist and my life was miserable. Then I started listening to my brothers and my man and actually listening to their problems with women. I learned that everything I thought about was selfish. I was all about my benefit. I used to think men didn’t have feelings, and then I saw how unhappy they were. And feminism makes women think that men and women are equal and think the same when we absolutely don’t. And since I have been RP men love to be around me. They always keep me around and treat me like the goddess that I am just because I listen to them. Then you realize that a majority of men are very good people. Not all rapist and dogs and evil. Then I met some men that literally kill themselves everyday doing back breaking work just to take care of their family, and without men everything wouldn’t work. And all they want is for someone to listen to them. Like @cigaretteandash said which she always has good points. I don’t agree with everything but I at least try to understand. And the masculine/feminine ying & yang is very beautiful. It works so perfect because that’s how it is meant to be. It’s like peanut butter and jelly. Life is the bread ☺️😅

HoneydewFlashy7858 · 2022-05-12T15:18:08+00:00

It works. It's not a game, men need x and women need y. If we do what nature intended and not fight against it, it's actually quite happy. It's changing what women and men are taught now at a young age and undoing years of the girl power mentality. Men need real women and women need real men.

tigresslilies · 2022-05-12T14:56:14+00:00

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FriendCountZero · 2022-05-12T22:37:22+00:00

I can't have a conversation with someone who straight up rejects reality. Feminists hate reality. They hate that men and women are different, that men are more visual than women, that men are more sexual than women, that all these differences means a successful woman and a successful man don't look the same. They hate that women's contributions aren't quantifiable and they can't feel like they are worth anything without someone telling then with a diploma or an award or a paycheck.

Redpill women are real women with their feet on the ground, doing their best, taking responsibility for the things that have room to improve without worrying about keeping score or being fair. They just give 100%. When I live these principles I feel happier. It's easy to slip though and seeing the convos here is a lovely reminder.

Exstntial-strawberry · 2022-05-12T19:44:15+00:00

When I started reading about the red pill women philosophy it explained a lot for me regarding my dissatisfaction in my previous relationships. I met a HVM who happened to absolutely adore me so I want to be the best support for him possible, and though we haven’t outright discussed it, I’ve been implementing red pill strategies and values from my end of the relationship and I can see that he takes well to it! It feels absolutely incredible to embrace my femininity.

Throwaway230306 · 2022-05-12T20:04:37+00:00

I think it's a more-or-less accurate description of gender/sex dynamics. Even when RP is wrong, it's still closer to being right than anything else out there in the mainstream right now.

pieorstrudel5 · 2022-05-12T22:50:07+00:00

I like that it encourages being honest with your self, self discipline, self improvement, and responsibility for your actions. Male or female. That's what draws me in. I know that romantic relationships between men and what women, tend to be the focus - but to me that's just the jumping point. How you behave in relationships has everything to do with how developed you are as a person.

sunglasses90 · 2022-05-17T14:14:20+00:00

I’ve always gravitated to very feminine things and classic literature. I’ve always adored older guys who are extremely masculine. I was very liberal in high school and college and now in my later 20’s I’m pretty conservative.

I kind of realized that you can get what you want better and live life better when you embrace the feminine side. I think a lot of people see redpill as weakness in women but I see it as strength. Men actually approach me. I have doors opened for me, the thing off the top shelf handed to me, tires changed on the side of the road and all the guys want in return is a smile and thank you from a pretty woman. I feel safe, I feel protected and I feel admired which I didn’t feel before.

Red pill women are playing a game, but we’re all doing it willingly and for certain gain. Embrace the feminine side, support and serve our husbands and they do the same back. Women have more power than men. I know that sounds wrong given the nature of this subreddit but we do. A man in love will throw himself on a fire to please us, but women have lost the ability to woo men in general and second women abuse this power and then it is lost. Learn how to please a man and be a good wife and use your power sparingly and you’ll get whatever you want. It’s a delicate balance though that has to be taught/learned. You have to know how a male brain works in order to please it.

Since I’ve embraced RP and found a HVM I thank God every night and morning for how happy I am. I couldn’t even imagine being this happy. He’s extremely happy. We’re an amazing team. We adore each other and the sky is the limit as far as life and money. We have an absolutely beautiful home. It really is a dream. Hopefully it continues this way.

2022-05-12T15:28:16+00:00

Of course women hate redpill, it requires them to have standards and discipline. Anyone who values truth won't mind that price, others... well, they can fool themselves to their peril.

Redlimetree · 2022-05-13T04:16:21+00:00

A few things.

Seeing unhappy "independent" older women who trash talk all males. It made me realise that life would not make me happy.

Learning about how children really do need a present primary caregiver to meet their needs and to grow up into strong adults with the skills to tackle and be happy in this world. With huge consequences if they don't.

Learning about the importance of nutrition and how our modern western sources of food values profit over everything else. Made me realise more time and effort should be put into this then the average full time worker can do easily for themselves.

Learning about the biological differences of men and women. And understanding why similar gender roles exists across different cultures. I do think willpower (and modern inventions like birth control) can overcome many of these differences. Plus even within a biogical sex there's variances, e.g women with more muscle tone. But it made me conclude the logical thing in a partnership is let a person do what comes more easily for them relying on the differences to compliment each other.

Basically I learnt it's OK to be feminine. Our society needs lovers and nurturers just as much as it needs goal orientated achievers. And modern feminism has unbalanced the ratio.

adnawahs · 2022-05-13T23:40:08+00:00

A few years ago I didn't care much for RP and it's views because I was a major feminist and very liberal. The past few years I have been going through a major life transformation after finding Christ. I was in a toxic relationship where I did everything (roles were backwards) and became a mother young. I broke up with homeboy, moved 18 hours away, with my son, from my home city for nursing school. Through all these changes, I realized how much of masculine energy I embed because of the things I've been through (I had to lead, protect, and nurture my family). Throughout this I realized how much I want to be more feminine, I want to be catered too. God showed me I am very submissive and I love being a woman but I never realized it (I guess I felt I wasn't worthy enough to be catered too like a women should). As I grew as a single mother, my domestic duties obviously grew and I realized how much I loved it.

I hit a point in life, where I knew I wanted a family and I wanted to be a wife. I am currently engaged to the best man ever, he adores my son and I. He's so excited to be a husband and a stepfather. I actually stumbled across this forum a couple days ago after researching about masculine men and I was reminding of RP. I'm still new to everything but I believe these strategies will help improve my fiancé's and I relationship.

Capable-Squash2211 · 2022-06-03T15:19:40+00:00

Hello ,nice question :)! I was always a softer woman due to my disability. I could never be tough or a,”boss babe” because I was to naive and quiet . Other woman would slander me for said traits ,and this community was the only one that accepted me for it. It helped me accept its ok to be a follower ,it’s okay to like girly things and it’s okay to make marriage the center of your life. Also I never got a really good glimpse at what marriage (a loving one) was like. My parents don’t fight too much ,nothing drastic ,but they basically tolerate each other . Until I found RPW ,I thought marriage was some type of miserable business agreement. So from middle school I put marriage as a second thought and focused basically ,nothing. I felt lost and I did not know why. But one day when I found out about traditional living ,I had a purpose ,a reason and no longer had to hide my true self. This sub is a blessing that changed my life.

Title	What makes you gravitate towards Redpill?
Author	Particular-Yoghurt39
Upvotes	33
Comments	52
Date	May 12, 2022 2:20 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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