Me (29M) and my wife (25F) have been married for 3 years. Together for about 5. We have a 3 year old son, and have been separated for almost a year (not legally, on her terms). We’ve been living separately for almost 5 months. The point is she wants to join the armed services, but claims she can’t if she becomes a legal single mom. I’m not too sure on the laws and regulations regarding that, I don’t care too much to look it up. She says she wants divorce, but only after she joins the service. I’m definitely being used, I know this but should I let it happen? Her starting a new career could help her get way further in life than she can on her own.

Our marriage grew toxic, and when she finally told me we weren’t together, without giving me a choice, she literally did anything and everything she wanted. She tore down my self worth, broke my heart, and left me at my lowest. I feel I know what most of you will say, but I need other perspectives on this. The other day I asked her if she really wanted the divorce, she looked me in the eyes, and said “yes, our marriage is just a piece of paper now.”