Emotional unavailabity, push pull, unpredictable behavior, hot-cold, etc etc.

Is this why people OBSESS over somebody who is "kinda" into them or gives them some indication of interest but is a lot of the time cold.

Its not actual ATTRACTION to the individual, their traits, what forms them as a person. But just the constant thinking and feelings of uncertainty and speculation about IF they do or could care, get mistaken for feelings...

OR is attraction itself non existent. Its just a multitude of things. Comfort or lust or anxiety caused by obsessive uncertainty....

A guy who has options will cause anxiety in a woman because he is off giving them sex and attention when he's not interacting with the girl obsessing over him.

A guy FAKING that behaviour will eventually be found out or will have to maintain the facade FOREVER otherwise when that anxiety fades in the object of his seduction and comfort increases...what she THOUGHT was attraction will fade...