Do you care how many people your partner slept with?

KiwiCiv · 2022-09-06T01:02:18+00:00

I think the real average is closer to 5-7 And yes, I do care

baresquad · 2022-09-06T01:15:34+00:00

No because I want and expect the same grace in return.

It literally was the downfall of my first relationship with the girl I’d been with in high school and college because she wasn’t too immature and insecure over one person prior to her, which she also had. From then on I learned there’s never pleasing those type of people and that I’d never want to be that type of partner. It makes the relationship miserable as fuck

I can’t even imagine getting bent out of shape over 10-12. Like what?

Bandit174 · 2022-09-06T01:22:20+00:00

Yes, I care.

It just gives me an "ick" just like women often describe feeling an ick for any number of asinine things a guy could do or say.
I'd prefer someone similarly experienced to myself
I think women can fuck higher than they can date meaning if she's had a lot of casual sex, especially if it was from dating apps then the guys were probably taller, better looking, more endowed and more experienced than me because thats what women have access to for casual. I don't want to be the stable reliable guy she settles for after adding notches to the bed posts of a bunch of fuckboy type guys.
N count has been shown to have a correlation with divorce and infidelity.
If women can judge men on height, dick size and yearly salary we should be able to want a woman of a certain sexual history.

The_Madman1 · 2022-09-06T01:07:25+00:00

Yes I don't want a crazy women

DrinkItInMan11 · 2022-09-06T01:40:38+00:00

Yes, of course I do. I'll never say that to their face though, don't wanna limit my options now do I? If it's bigger than mine then it's an instant no go, if it's lower than mine but still kind of high I'll care a little bit, I'm more likely to be forgiving but it depends on the girl.

But basically she can't have slept with more people than me.

stats135 · 2022-09-06T01:43:35+00:00

Do you care how many people your partner slept with?

Its one of the things I care most about.

Does it factor into your decision of whether to pursue a LTR or get married?

Yes, if this is compromised, then I might as well hire a pro.

Did you stop caring about this type of thing after a certain age?

If anything, age only solidified this decision.

One reason is that as I've aged, I've grown wealthier, to the point of being able to afford pros regularly. Another is that, with age, I've wised to just how trivial other things are in comparison.

Patrickstarho · 2022-09-06T01:57:10+00:00

Yeah

themostgianthorse · 2022-09-06T01:57:20+00:00

Yes.

techr0nin · 2022-09-06T02:05:55+00:00

I care that the woman I LTR values her sexuality and does not engage in casual sex. I have no issue with women that date seriously and have sex within the scope of the relationship.

That said, n-count is a good proxy for her behavior, so it is more of an useful tool than the determining factor. Occasionally you’ll see a woman that has a highish n-count that supposedly all come from relationships, but in that case the red flag would be she is either really bad at choosing men or there might be some kind of personality issue that causes her to be unable to maintain a healthy relationship.

Either way though it’s just a vetting tool and not a hardline for me.

Playful_Art_5364 · 2022-09-06T01:11:33+00:00

Yea. Higher rates of divorce with those with high (average is like 7) body counts don’t come from nowhere. Women aren’t like men. They can’t like men detach sex from feeling as well as men can on average. And even with the dudes all that means is we can handle maybe a bit more before our own attachment part of our brain doesn’t fry.

Regardless I think both sexed need to min max in their search. Lowest body count and highest personality compatibility.

RicoEStrong · 2022-09-06T01:24:17+00:00

Not really. It's hard enough to get a girl who's a slut. And girls below the age of 25 who have low n counts are rare as hell

EatMyFleshSon · 2022-09-06T01:31:32+00:00

Not really, as long as they're clean.

Ainsleygz · 2022-09-06T01:59:02+00:00

No, I hope he had lots of fun

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SylvestorTalone · 2022-09-06T01:28:09+00:00

Yes.

No.

SoIlikeMangos · 2022-09-06T02:09:24+00:00

I see this question on the sub every single day

dukesaces · 2022-09-06T02:27:40+00:00

Yes i do care and yes it does factor into my decision as to whether or not i pursue an LTR. 99% of men do care although some have forced themselves to live with it

Psych_FI · 2022-09-06T02:28:32+00:00

I wouldn’t care per se. It would more be a case of do I think this person is capable of being in a relationship or are they a fuckboy for life.

Wide-Illustrator2906 · 2022-09-06T03:24:26+00:00

Yes.

Title	Do you care how many people your partner slept with?
Author	Consistent_Builder66
Upvotes	3
Comments	30
Date	September 6, 2022 1:00 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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