Pills?

JuneCleaversMudFlaps · 2022-09-08T20:33:13+00:00

I worked out like a mad man and got into therapy. Wasn’t enough for me. I got on Lexapro and continued my therapy and working out, and I’m a changed man. It’s not for everyone but you should absolutely talk ton me your doctor.

CommanderOfCheese45 · 2022-09-08T22:06:19+00:00

Anti-depressants are a valuable tool, not a cure. I actually needed them to fight off anxiety and have never felt better, but the pills are far from the only thing involved in the recovery process.

And my first one (buspirone) didn't help. It might have made it worse. The next one I tried (duloxetine), I went through a week of really weird feeling and then boom much better. It might take more tries to find something that really works for you specifically.

Don't feel bad about asking for help, and don't feel bad about actually getting help.

Orwellisnow · 2022-09-08T23:40:20+00:00

Don’t let the stbx know, she can use that to limit time with your kids and make you go thru years of court ordered therapy and psych evaluations before you can get to hold your children again.

DivorcedDogDad69 · 2022-09-08T19:39:06+00:00

They can help, but shouldn't be first-line defense. If you are not in personal therapy yet, I would strongly recommend doing weekly (if not twice weekly) sessions to help you develop coping skills and reflect on things.

Anti-depressants can be an adjunct to therapy, but they aren't a cure-all and personal work through therapy is needed. I'm sorry you're going through this but time will heal, and there will be several silver linings from this experience.

Gattsama · 2022-09-09T09:44:01+00:00

I'm a physician and can not provide direct medical advise. Here's an overview thought. Gor uncomplicated depression exercise has been shown to br equivalent to SSRIs. The issue for many us that they can't exercise (physical limitations) or won't exercise (to depressed). Even with exercise, which is first line, medicL supplementation can be helpful.

The most common antidepressants are SSRIs. These medications generally take 2-4 wks to become full effective and should be taken for 4-12 months. They need to be weaned off and should not stop them cold turkey. The dosage sometimes needs to be increased, and this also should be every 2-4 weeks.

Drugs of this class will not 'make you happy' or 'feel better.' They are better thought of as mood stabilizers (aside - mood stabilizers are actually a different class of medications, I am using the word here to describe effect NOT class). The goal of a SSRI is to help you get over the hump, so you engage in exercise and therapy. They don't cure or fix anything.

The next class for complicated depression would be to add either a mood stabilizer or an atypical antipsychotic. These medications have a lot more potential side effects.

Please talk to your doctor. A family medicine or internal medicine MD can prescribe all of these medications, and you normally do not need to see a psychologist. However, I personally recommend everyone on medication seek some form of therapy.

Some of these drugs can cause secondary sexual disfunction. If you want to avoid that consider Wellbutrin. If you want something with mild mood stabilization as well consider Lexapro.

I personally avoid using citalopram (this is the drug that Lexapro is based on) unless cost is an issue. With that said listen to your doctor. Most primary care MDs get use to using a few drugs and only prescribe them (as there are a ton on the market, so you pick a few and get use to their side effects, dosage, etc).

Again if you feel you are not getting relief from exercise, adding medication/s and therapy can help. But you want to do all 3 of these! The true goal of medication is to be a bridge, not an end result.

Be safe out there...

Legion4767 · 2022-09-08T19:32:04+00:00

Everyone has their own way of coping. I am recently separated and antidepressants have helped me keep up my work schedule and allow me to function (mostly). There are side effects, but the fact that you are asking the question is, to me, an indicator that you should have a good talk with your doc about it. My doctor was very supportive and understanding. Cheers man, I hope things start getting better for you soon!

FundamentalistLogo · 2022-09-08T23:55:44+00:00

I’m not a Dr but in my experience, you could ask for Wellbutrin. It’ll help get you on track, your desire for alcohol will decrease, and will allow you to compartmentalize the negatives. You won’t gain weight nor will you be a zombie. Explain to your dr your situation and tell him/her that you read that this could help you. Search for a reddit community of this med. Good luck man. There’s light at the end of this tunnel.

dad_bod_cargo_shorts · 2022-09-09T02:38:04+00:00

Primary care docs started writing a ton of antidepressants during covid, and most likely still are.

As someone mentioned, therapy will also help and can be done in conjunction with antidepressants.

Wellbutrin (buproprion) works differently than SSRIs and doesn't have the side effects that they do.

M1OREGON · 2022-09-09T08:13:10+00:00

Wellbutrin is the one I like and atarted with. It is not an SSRI, actually found it giving me energy!

I did take that energy to the gym and crush it though.

Hang in there, I live in my parents basement now and had strawberry daiquiri for breakfast the other day

jalopkoala · 2022-09-09T11:40:31+00:00

Therapy and then pills. I find it useful when my talk therapist is also my psychiatrist so I have a single point of care.

Without anti-anxiety meds and then anti-depressants I don’t think I would have been able to make it. It softened all the edges, allowed the racing thoughts to stop so I could sleep, and freed up just enough emotional energy to actually be a functioning human being.

Divorce was initiated 2017 and finalized in 2018. Coparenting has been very contentious and CPS nonsense was still going on for a couple years. But now I’ve now been off all drugs for a year and 2022 has been one of the best years of my life.

You got this.

BlackHoleSlurpy · 2022-09-09T13:44:56+00:00

Consider kratom as well. It does wonders for depression, energy, and mood.

Gunslinger1925 · 2022-09-10T00:44:43+00:00

I’ve been on 75mg of venlafaxine since 2016 - a year after my dad died. It helps take the edge off.

I use it for anxiety and depression - the latter I’ve battled most of my life.

The side effects haven’t been too bad. Libido is lowered, but I’ve been able to last longer. Granted, I’m also on BP and cholesterol meds, so that could have an effect on it. I don’t mind the lowered libido - let’s me focus on other things.

IcyEntertainment8673 · 2022-09-09T00:44:59+00:00

Are you my ex? You sound so much like it!!
I would lay off the alcohol. She can use it against you. I would also avoid medication or CbD. Honestly, stick to the gym, find a hobby or go out with friends to the park. Walk it off because Poor coping mechanisms are weapons she can use against you. Pretend everything you do can be used against you.

Im not being spiteful towards my stbxh, but that would be my advice. Don’t make it so easy to get screwed over.

Edit: are you in therapy? It seriously helped when I had PPD. A family member uses medication for clinical depression and it’s side effects are real. Worse still is when he runs out and doesn’t know how to live without them.

jimmyjames2003 · 2022-09-09T16:49:43+00:00

Yes by all means do it. I was already on some thing and I had mentioned to my doctor that I was going through a divorce and he offered up it because of how stressful it can be. There’s no shame in getting the help that you need.

Independent_Ad_5664 · 2022-09-10T02:07:02+00:00

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Title	Pills?
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Date	September 8, 2022 7:17 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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