Affairs boost self-esteem and life satisfaction - but only if you're a woman

pd33833 · 2022-11-16T10:57:23+00:00

When a man cheats, it's his fault, typical male. When a female cheats, it's his fault, he wasn't giving her what she needed in the relationship. Lol

Wafflefanny · 2022-11-16T12:23:19+00:00

"Men suffer more after cheating" is a funny way of saying "women can punish men for cheating, but men can't punish women for cheating"

Or it could mean

"Men have a stronger moral compass than women and actually feel guilt"

Or any number of other things, but it definitely doesn't mean:

"Women should be free to cheat on their partners because they won't feel bad afterwards so what's the harm?"

duhhhh · 2022-11-16T11:57:40+00:00

Love the "women who cheated" (with reasons of course) vs "male perpetrators" language throughout the article. Clearly no bias there at all.

el_jefe1978 · 2022-11-16T11:31:46+00:00

That's why I'm single. If a woman claims to love me, but cheats, she's better and I'm worse? It's like they aren't built for relationships (monogamous one's at least). I don't get it.

rabel111 · 2022-11-16T22:32:38+00:00

So fidelity, honesty and fairness/equity, do not impact women's self esteem. While for men, these issues do impact their self esteem.

I think that says it all. Nice study, completely misconstrued by researchers seeking confirmation of their sexist bias, and validation of their lying and cheating.

heeroena · 2022-11-16T12:38:23+00:00

hahahahha gtfoh. the gaslighting is real

CawlinAlcarz · 2022-11-16T15:14:12+00:00

In the aggregate, men tend to suffer more in family court from "divorce rape", especially if there are children involved. This leads men to tolerate a greater level of dissatisfaction with their wife, and might even make them more likely to tolerate infidelity because the alternative is to seek a divorce, which, because there is not likely to be a "fault" attributed to the divorce, will see the man more likely to take a pounding in family court.

In the aggregate, women tend to suffer significantly less from "divorce rape", especially when there are children involved. All of the above circumstances are exactly the opposite for women: they are less likely to tolerate dissatisfaction with their partner, less likely to tolerate infidelity of their partner, and more likely (by a large margin) to initiate divorce. Women in the aggregate, are decently incentivized by family law adjudication trends to seek divorce.

So... if the consequences for infidelity are less severe for one party than another, which party do you think will report a more positive experience about infidelity?

Lesson for the day for men: the cards are stacked against you in family court. Marriage is a raw deal and you had better be REALLY SURE you want to try to buck the odds if you want a family.

Trooper-Man1776 · 2022-11-17T01:09:26+00:00

This is what Thotsplaining looks like.

wanderlust_12 · 2022-11-16T21:11:31+00:00

Sometimes the conspiracy theorist in me believes propaganda like these are psyops done in part to divide people based on gender (part of the divide and rule agenda) and in part to reduce the population (the rise of independent unmarried women, also making men the villain will mean more men will end up lonely and not marry out of fear). It’s either that or society is just dumb.

RandomedOne · 2022-11-16T15:04:32+00:00

That maybe true. Average women tend to be horrible people, If average men cheated the guilt would just hurt him where as a women tend to be take pride in their horrible behavior like lying and being hypocritical.

There are men who can cheat without conscience getting in the way though, Considering how women act these days those men perfectly justified.

Drakethepirate · 2022-11-17T02:12:05+00:00

Either way it's always the man who gets all the blame, this proves most female cheaters lack accountability and see themselves as objects to be controlled.

Effective_Alfalfa360 · 2022-11-17T08:17:55+00:00

It's because a lot of women are taught that their boyfriend or husband is supposed to treat them like a princess and that they should accept nothing less than this kind of treatment. So when a woman is unfaithful to her boyfriend/husband, she can just say that her partner wasn't meeting her impossibly high standards as an excuse and people will blindly blame the guy for it despite that fact.

However, when a guy is unfaithful, even if the reason is that he isn't being given the bare minimum love and appreciation that he deserves, he is treated like absolute scum.

For men, society automatically assumes that he cheated because he is ungrateful for his wife and society calls him a terrible person.for this. For women, society assumes that she cheated because she is ungrateful for her husband but society actually sympathizes with the wife who cheated, and shames the husband.

Let me clarify. I don't think there is an excuse for cheating for either genders, but I think that the reason that a lot of women are happier after cheating and men are sadder is because a woman can cheat on a man and it doesn't matter the reason, there will always be a large community of people who blindly supports her assuming that the man was the problem that led her to cheat. Meanwhile, a man could cheat on a woman and no matter the reason, there will always be a large community of people who are completely relentless at making him feel terrible. We must acknowledge that cheating is wrong for women as well as men and need to stop victim blaming male victims and need to stop praising female abusers.

Trismegistus85 · 2022-11-16T20:31:23+00:00

The simple fact of the matter is that she “loves you” for her benefit.

rainbow_bro_bot · 2022-11-16T21:27:55+00:00

Who benefits most from divorce courts?

Wolflord-5 · 2022-11-17T01:38:44+00:00

So this is how we are running things

iwill_comment · 2022-11-17T07:11:49+00:00

Love these articles lol if a woman cheats, it's a sign she doesn't truly admire, love, and respect you. Basically the relationship is over. Women will be hoes, but don't want to be hoes. However, if a man cheats, he can still love his wife the same. Men, in general, would love to exercise options and have a wife by their side. We have different mating strategies. Women want quality which is the result of hypergamy. Men want quantity which is the result of hypogamy. Unfortunately, men's dating strategy is demonized. So we get articles like this.

prilexx · 2022-11-16T20:10:26+00:00

So basically what they saying is, when we call them bitches, we are correct. Just like female dog, as many dicks as possible to make her happy

TracyMorganFreeman · 2022-11-16T17:52:21+00:00

Probably shouldn't be further encouraging your self worth by how many people are willing to have sex with you.

Worried-Rent-8714 · 2024-08-11T11:59:53+00:00

What happened to healthy communication and just leaving if you aren't happy? This article calls this research out and I love it https://christophertabet.medium.com/affairs-boost-married-womens-self-esteem-and-life-satisfaction-a-new-study-out-of-the-33b961b2eaf9

CulturalRealist · 2025-01-01T13:07:14+00:00

This is a prime example why hypergamy has gone off the rails and cheating is being ENCOURAGED.

How are we men supposed to emotionally invest in this? Plot twist:

We refuse. We see you as sex objects, nothing more.

EducationalSky5294 · 2025-03-18T17:02:55+00:00

Women Finding ways to justify cheating, so that they can cheat without guilt.....

Disney_minus55 · 2022-11-16T22:51:55+00:00

Why the fuck do I keep seeing this shit everywhere which basically says “women get off on making men hurt” it’s so fucking wrong and all of this shit keeps popping up everywhere.

Different_Weekend817 · 2022-11-16T18:32:02+00:00

that's unfortunate. i loved cheating on my last partner; it made me feel great.

noserotonyn · 2022-11-17T16:54:10+00:00

"They are horribly tedious when they are good husbands, and abominably conceited when they are not." - Oscar Wilde

Title	Affairs boost self-esteem and life satisfaction - but only if you're a woman
Author	Kagedeah
Upvotes	221
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Date	November 16, 2022 10:03 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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