My wife and I decided to get a divorce and she hasn’t been around the last 8 hours

RippedOffFather · 2022-12-22T17:58:20+00:00

Why do you care that she hasn’t been home? It’s over with. Collect yourself and drop all feelings for her.

Since you are in Germany, contact the legal assistance office on base and ask them how to proceed. DO NOT tell her what you are doing. Don’t discuss the divorce with her anymore. I suggest buying a tape recording device that plays 24/7 (not voice activated) and record any conversations you have with her.

File for divorce. Move on. You gain nothing from her. Luckily you don’t have any children with her and it’s a short enough marriage that you won’t have to give her anything.

Move on and don’t bother getting married again. Lesson learned.

Independent-Ear-7172 · 2022-12-22T16:56:43+00:00

And now to the point: yep, she sure wants a divorce and you should too and not bother yourself about stuff like this anymore.

dday_throwaway3 · 2022-12-22T22:41:40+00:00

> My wife and I decided to get a divorce and she hasn’t been around the last 8 hours

Time to celebrate.

Also, you need to not give a fuck about her comings and goings. You're getting divorced. She is a grown ass adult and can take care of herself. Turn up your Don't Give a Fuck meter another notch.

captainchippsixx · 2022-12-22T22:26:50+00:00

Right a detailed plan of to do - work the plan! Also starting working out and eat right.

Be in the look out of draining accounts and ratcheting up the credit cards.

2ndChance_1stMistake · 2022-12-22T17:04:42+00:00

You need to see a lawyer now...today...she's coming at you with both barrels.

Change the locks.

Stay off social media. Don't post anything. Don't talk to her, don't try to contact her, don't text, NOTHING.

If she reaches out, about ANYTHING, tell her to contact your lawyer.

GigaChadwafer · 2022-12-22T17:29:27+00:00

We agreed to delete them out of respect for each other

wisstinks4 · 2022-12-22T21:15:20+00:00

Your post raises some interesting questions, what were your expectations? If you both agreed on the divorce than it sounds like you’re both going in different directions. You may need to reset your expectations and plan for a future solo until you get your feet underneath you.

Orlando1701 · 2022-12-22T21:18:30+00:00

Not uncommon. When my ex wife and I separated she straight up disappeared for two days.

BrandoBLC · 2022-12-23T00:28:27+00:00

If you’ve agreed to get a divorce, the sooner you realize she’s not on your team anymore, the better. Get ready to be shocked at how fast she’s going to try and destroy you financially and emotionally. Start defending yourself now, or you’ll regret it later.

Small_Quarter_3673 · 2022-12-23T11:14:46+00:00

Everyone reacts different to big changes. I am not sure what would be ideal reaction for you? Anyway she is probably doing what's best for her as you should do what's best for you. You are divorcing so start training yourself not to worry about her and what she is doing

rsmiley77 · 2022-12-23T20:21:36+00:00

The number one thing you should do is start a new bank account and take half the funds in it. Then move your auto deposit to the new account. Figure out what credit cards if any you have and make sure she is not on those accounts. Do the same with any cash accounts you may have. The. Sit down and do a budget and needs that you have and work towards the future…

BrandoBLC · 2022-12-23T00:28:35+00:00

If you’ve agreed to get a divorce, the sooner you realize she’s not on your team anymore, the better. Get ready to be shocked at how fast she’s going to try and destroy you financially and emotionally. Start defending yourself now, or you’ll regret it later.

Independent-Ear-7172 · 2022-12-22T16:56:09+00:00

Name doesn’t check out.

Title	My wife and I decided to get a divorce and she hasn’t been around the last 8 hours
Author	GigaChadwafer
Upvotes	5
Comments	41
Date	December 22, 2022 4:53 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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