I had a big grand old idea that I would lock down one of my past flings from my CC days to get him to commit to me, with the idea being that if I got married it would be more stable. Would this work? And, if not, would it be better to try and work it out than find another guy?

I'm probably batting out of my league here (he's fit and successful, I'm overweight and not)

But it could work. I could lose the weight, start wearing makeup, grow out my hair, get nice clothing, maybe he'd commit...