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Jealous girlfriend who pretended to be a police officer for two years to control her ex and ban him from seeing other women is jailed

JohnKimble111

September 1, 2017
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http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4844738/Lauren-Adderley-pretended-police-control-ex.html
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Title Jealous girlfriend who pretended to be a police officer for two years to control her ex and ban him from seeing other women is jailed
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JohnKimble111

Upvotes 1408
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Date September 1, 2017 4:40 PM UTC
(8 years ago)
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Comments

[–]number4ty7 269 points270 points271 points 8 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link

Will serve 4.5 months. If a man had done this, destroying a woman's life for 2 years, he would get much longer. The stalking maximum sentence has just been doubled from 5 years to 10. I think that tells a story.

[+]Mencite -95 points-94 points-93 points 8 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link

She didn't destroy his life. A man wouldn't have gotten any time. Its such a rediculous story. He'd have to be special needs for this to count as abuse.

Don't you fools see what's going the police are using this to pretend that they're balanced they'll use this to justify attacks on men when women play their victim card.

[–]Live_Think_Diagnosis 40 points41 points42 points 8 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

  1. A man would've gotten time as this is a grave crime
  2. She did destroy his social life and probably traumatized him forever. Two years of loneliness, induced depression and broken relationships, plus the memories of having been tricked and all the things he didn't do for TWO YEARS.

Maybe he wasn't the brightest bulb, but you just have to look at the effects her actions left to see that he was left in a pretty bad condition, so this does count as abuse.

[–]GrandmasterSexay 13 points14 points15 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

The longterm effects ring all too real for me. His trust issues have probably crumbled and he'll be unable to have a stable relationship for a long while

[–]Mencite -4 points-3 points-2 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Just because women play victims there's no need for us to be victims. We have to stop the victim game.

[–]Live_Think_Diagnosis 3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Nobody is talking about women playing victim. He is a victim because he was abused. Are you just saying "he should man up and get rid of the longlasting consequences of his grave abuse because that's what a proper man does"?

[–]Mencite 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I'm very much against telling men to man up. Whether this person was male or female we shouldn't be arguing what happened there was stalking or abuse.

We should be getting away from the victim mentality.

[–]Live_Think_Diagnosis 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Victims are victims. It's a dictionary definition not based on some social construct. Abuse has dire consequences on any creature that suffers it, be it human or otherwise, even if we don't say "well that's a victim". Getting away of the 'victim mentality' is getting away from the 'finding a solution' mentality. If we don't consider him a victim, we won't give him the help he needs and he might live with more pain than if we had recommended him to go to therapy and helped him get back on his feet.

What we call 'victims' may be unjustified sometimes, but in this case and in many others, believe or not, the word does fit and is necessary in order to evaluate the proper response to the situation.

[–]Aarondhp24 6 points7 points8 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Gtfo troll.

[–]Bullfrog777 5 points6 points7 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Impersonating a police officer is a felony on its own.

[–]Mencite -1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

yea that's part of it but she sent an idiotic email which isn't impersonating an officer, ie. not there in person. She certainly didn't destroy his life. He's either very stupid or very smart if you get my drift.

[–]Live_Think_Diagnosis 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Impersonating an officer means pretending to be an officer. Doesn't matter whether it's really 'in person' or not. The word evolved and it lost that meaning in legal contexts and otherwise.

[–]asillyduck_ 91 points92 points93 points 8 years ago (29 children) | Copy Link

Last I looked a lot of comments blamed the man. Underlying suggestion of he deserved it because he's stupid.

[–]Novaer 71 points72 points73 points 8 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link

You should see all the comments on that famous "list" that was found in a glove box. You know the one where the girl said he can't get mad at her or can't talk to other girls and blah blah blah. On Facebook everyone is like "He must have cheated/he probably deserves it."

People can literally be shown a piece of paper outlying emotional abuse and control and somehow still find a way to blame the guy.

[–]fruitynoodles 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link

What list?

[–][deleted] 28 points29 points30 points 8 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link

this one

[–]Bandymidget 16 points17 points18 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Ho

Ly

Shit

[–]xNOM 3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

toxic femininity

[–]fruitynoodles 8 points9 points10 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Please tell me that is satire...

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points9 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Probably just a high schooler, they're all insane

[–]Jugalotus_lol 4 points5 points6 points 8 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link

Is it bad that her grammatical errors bother me more than the list?

[–]jeegte12 4 points5 points6 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

only because you're a fucking hypocrite and a liar. it's *than.

[–]Jugalotus_lol 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Hypocrite yes. Liar nah. It looks like the way my lol sister texts.

[–]jeegte12 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

you're lying; if grammatical errors bothered you more than this person's insanity then you wouldn't make that kind of mistake, and the one in this most recent comment.

[–]Jugalotus_lol 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

It was more the sheer amount of them that bothered me.

[+]Mencite -22 points-21 points-20 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

He's retarded. If anyone here would beleive the police would send out emails to threaten someone rather than call in person please resign from the men's rights community. You're a liability.

This should not be a crime. She's just a cutie with a wicked sense of humour. Don't you fools see what's going on here to pretend to men that they're taking crimes by women seriously so they can continue attacking men at the behest of women. What chance have we if we can think things through.

[–]UDT22 7 points8 points9 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Well you never blame the woman, especially if she is pretty. Blaming men is pretty much the standard in western culture

[–]MaturegambinoAFCB 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Imagine going on a female rape thread and calling the victim stupid. Can imagine how well that would go down

[+]mwobuddy -45 points-44 points-43 points 8 years ago* (7 children) | Copy Link

I think everyone deserves what they get. You either are willing to have it around you or you actually seek it out. Those are the two choices that make your life. If he didn't want this, he'd have left.

Abusive parents? leave home at 18. I've told that to whiny 20 year olds plenty of times when talking about their friction with parents. If you don't like it, why do you stay? if you stay, why do you complain?

[–]Nessus 25 points26 points27 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Did you even read the article? He had left her.

[+]mwobuddy -24 points-23 points-22 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Then im not suire what all the screaming is about in this thread.

[+]Nessus -8 points-7 points-6 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I think it's because the punishment seems relatively light. Please stop down voting him.

[–]rollypolymasta 10 points11 points12 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

He wasn't with her anymore though, she was his ex. I mean he doesn't seem that intelligent and she took advantage of that and manipulated him into thinking he couldn't go out because he was in trouble with the police. I could understand you saying he brought it on himself by being so naive (I wouldn't agree at all but I could understand where your coming from), but your comment makes no sense in relation to this story.

[–]panther455 6 points7 points8 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Domestic abuse victims must be masochists I guess.

[–]mwobuddy -2 points-1 points0 points 8 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

Its more like the egoism of thinking they either deserve suffering or they're such good people for being willing to suffer. There's a lot of narcissism in choosing to suffer needlessly.

[+]mwobuddy -7 points-6 points-5 points 8 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

If you cant figure out a persons motives then look at what the outcome is (or continually is in the case of relationships).

And yes, the savior complex a la narcissism is called 'the scorpion' on counter to the histrionic/borderline personality disordered individual.

[+]Mencite -14 points-13 points-12 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

Its such a rediculous story. He'd have to be special needs for this to count as abuse.

Don't you fools see what's going the police are using this to pretend that they're balanced they'll use this to justify attacks on men when women play their victim card.

[–]microcosmonaut 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Are punctuation and spelling just games to you!? Do you think run-on sentences are a joke!? I've never been so completely and utterly slightly annoyed in my life.

[–]Mencite -1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

My apologies clarity is important:

Don't you fools see what's going on? The police like to pretend they're fair in how they treat the sexes. Ie. they'll say see this stalker got a good sentence, so a guy can be jailed for hitting his girlfriend back. Hence my point that this can be used againsnt men.

Its not in our interest to play the victim. We have to stop the victim card mentality.

[–]goodbyehouse 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Charlie?

[–]Mencite 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Not Charlie. Who's he?

[–]Mallago 30 points31 points32 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

And remember, if feminists in the UK had their way, there would be practically no punishment for this girl.

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2016/jun/01/why-we-should-close-womens-prisons-and-treat-their-crimes-more-fairly

[–]WalkableBuffalo 5 points6 points7 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't know if it counts as "feminists in the UK" since the author is a professor who works in Australia

[+]Mencite -18 points-17 points-16 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

You're an idiot.

Its such a rediculous story. He'd have to be special needs for this to count as abuse.

Don't you fools see what's going the police are using this to pretend that they're balanced they'll use this to justify attacks on men when women play their victim card.

[–]Lethn 96 points97 points98 points 8 years ago (23 children) | Copy Link

If somebody ever does this to you whether you are a girl or a guy dump them immediately. I think most will agree it doesn't have to be this elaborate but a partner who tries to control every aspect of your life and not let you have freedom is not worth it.

[–][deleted] 55 points56 points57 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

He dumped her before all this.

[–]Tramm 21 points22 points23 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Someone didn't read the article.

[–]speenatch 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Or the title.

[–]Lethn -3 points-2 points-1 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

It doesn't matter what tactics she uses, normal rules still apply, she can't legally force you to stop doing stuff like visiting friends and so on. I'm amazed this guy didn't wonder why he wasn't taken to court or anything like that, he didn't know his rights.

The only time the kind of shit she's talking about could ever apply is if he was under house arrest or witness protection, anybody with a decent knowledge of law knows that. This is a classic case of somebody young not knowing their own rights when it comes to the law and somebody using that against them.

[+]mwobuddy -86 points-85 points-84 points 8 years ago (18 children) | Copy Link

Eh, she's cute enough. I'd say go for it until she's around 24 or 25 and starts to get a bit haggard. Always keep that reason in your back pocket for a breakup as the looks fade.

[–]Lethn 42 points43 points44 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

All you've done by going along with someone like that is gotten laid and in reality wasted 4 - 5 years of your life when you could have met much more interesting people or attractive women.

It's bad enough people are getting screwed over by their education system at birth if you can avoid it don't screw up your life by getting married or being in a long term relationship with a girl that's going to fuck you over at the end of it all anyway because she's crazy.

[–]StrippedChicken 19 points20 points21 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

There's a reason you don't put your dick in crazy...

[–]Live_Think_Diagnosis 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Depends on the kinda crazy

[–]mwobuddy 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Sure, but it depends on where you are in life and weighing the pros and cons. If you're 50 and have that chance with that 20 year old, then why the fuck not? Its different from being 21-22 and having far more options from that group.

Lt. Frank Drebin: You know, sometimes I envy you and Edna. You have the same person every day for over 30 years. You wake up, eat with her, sleep with her. Make love to the same woman.

[Ed looks increasingly disgusted as Frank goes on]

Lt. Frank Drebin: You spend every possible waking moment together, while I'm out running around with a bunch of 20-year-olds who only want a good time and cheap sex sex sex. Girls who can't say no. Girls who can't get enough. "More, more, more. It's your turn now to wear the handcuffs... "

[Ed starts foaming at the mouth... literally]

Lt. Frank Drebin: I just want love, Ed.

Ed Hocken: I'm sure you'll... find love, Frank.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kGUu3jD2jUQ

Full version:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GUwhnO-nTLo <- nsfw

[–]goodbyehouse 5 points6 points7 points 8 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link

She looks like she would literally stab you in the back dude.

[–]originalSpacePirate 3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Or cut off your dick

[+]mwobuddy -17 points-16 points-15 points 8 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link

But at least id be man enough to take it

[–]Temperfuelmma 5 points6 points7 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

In the rear?

[+]mwobuddy -10 points-9 points-8 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

If you don't wanna get pegged you just might be a homophobe.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points9 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Are you that desperate? You'd rather get stabbed than dump this crazy bitch? Pathetic.

[–]mwobuddy -1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Beggars can't be choosers. You think pussy just falls out of the sky for the bottom 10% of males?

[–]goodbyehouse 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Maybe you two should meet. I feel as if you might share some commonalities.

[–]mwobuddy 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

We could exchange our black cover diaries filled with black, dried up and laminated roses.

[–]ManhattanT5 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

What are you trying to do?

[–]Endless_Summer -1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Holy shit, you're bragging that you're so desperate that you'd take a stabbing if you could get laid?? That's so far beyond desperation... What's below beta? Because that's what I would call you.

[–]mwobuddy -1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

omega

[–]Hell_Hath_No_Brewery1 points 8 years ago* [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link

Dude you'd get your fill, the novelty would wear off and you'd be done in matter of months, just like the guy this happened to, I almost guarantee it

[–]mwobuddy 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

You're probably right, but look at how many people got triggered by this. I was not expecting such controversy over a personal opinion like that, but people are really fragile around here.

[–]blunt-e 22 points23 points24 points 8 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link

ok...so this was fucked up and all, and I hope I'm not victim blaming here...but is it just me or was this guy not the sharpest tool in the shed? Like, how did this work? "yeah I can't go to the bar, a cop emailed me and said I can't go" "um...what? Like with a court order?" "well no man, through facebook...you know, the usual channels" "have you seen this cop?" "No but I talked to him through the phone. Real asshole, weird voice, kinda like a girl trying to sound gruff"

[–]Kardlonoc 23 points24 points25 points 8 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

Kid was 18 when she started. That's not a whole lot of real life experience especially concerning authority figures. If you are a good kid you do what authority figures say without much question.

They don't teach your rights concerning police until college and sometimes not at all. But really in a good society it shouldn't even need to be taught.

But yeah young people these days are a whole lot smarter and dumber in a lot of ways.

[–]thegreyhoundness 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

That was sort of my thinking as well. She's a piece of garbage for what she did and should face justice. But it seems that the victim is indeed nuclear-level stupid. Didn't deserve what happened to him...but still.

[+]mwobuddy -20 points-19 points-18 points 8 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

Kid was 18 when she started.

kid

18

Care to revise that?

[–]gloomdweller 12 points13 points14 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

18 does not automatically make you an adult. Legally, maybe, emotionally or cognitively, probably not. Many psychologist now say that adolescence falls within a larger range, starting younger than teens and older than early 20's.

[–]mwobuddy -1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

Let me guess, they're basing it off of the science of 'when the brain finally finishes 'developing/maturing'.

Isn't it funny that these psychologists are extending adolescence in lock-step with the ACTUAL extension of adolescent and childish behavior past 18 seen in millennials?

https://medicalxpress.com/news/2010-12-brain-fully-mature-30s-40s.html

I'm tired of all this extension. People mature at the same rate they always have for 2000 years. Its unthinkable that the more the human race evolves, the slower it matures physically or emotionally... unless perhaps there isn't PRESSURE to mature from environment/society.

18 does make you an adult and people like Ben Shapiro exemplified mature adults. I've seen plenty of 20 year old women and men that are highly mature these days, in contrast to the more and more common immature-until-30-year-olds, who, typically, reside in SJW camps.

Adulthood is a socially described event. NOT a biological event. It is, in effect, a 'social construct'. We used to rely on the 'brain maturity' of 25-30 to say "oh hey, this is when we're actually adults". Now science is telling us that it doesn't mature until the 30's or 40's. Does that mean that we're still adolescents until our 40's because the brain isn't done maturing? It should be no surprise to anyone with half a brain that our brain keeps changing and growing as we age, because it does so in response to experiences. It is constantly remaking itself to better work with its environment. The moment a brain stops 'maturing' or 'growing', its actually a bad thing because it means it has lost plasticity and the ability to reorganize itself.

In a few words, the concept of tying actual adulthood or maturity to brain changes has been horseshit from the beginning. People mature by taking on the burden of maturing, not by waiting until a magic switch is flipped in their head by the brain suddenly being "adult shaped", whatever that means.

[–]Kardlonoc 4 points5 points6 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

I use "kid" as a term of endearment for someone who is young without much life experience. Not that they are an actual child. This is a English colloquialism such as:

Referring to young men or men as "boy".

Referring to women as "girls"

Referring to a SO as "baby" or "babe"

Care to revise that?

No. Unless you provide an actual reason.

[–]mwobuddy 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link

Its ageist and discriminatory.

https://www.ted.com/talks/ashton_applewhite_let_s_end_ageism#t-408826

I mean, its basically a pejorative. Which is why women are offended by getting called girls or chicks. You essentially pointed out how it was a pejorative by associating it with diminished capabilities, and thus it is a patronizing term. It infantilizes someone AND reduces their agency.

Treat people like adults if you want them to become adults. Treat them like perennial children if you want them to become angsty 30 year old SJWs with no responsibility.

[–]Kardlonoc 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Its ageist and discriminatory.

I was bugged by it at first thinking that was the case but its not. It's simply cultural and has nothing about being ageist or discriminatory.

I mean, its basically a pejorative. Which is why women are offended by getting called girls or chicks. You essentially pointed out how it was a pejorative by associating it with diminished capabilities, and thus it is a patronizing term. It infantilizes someone AND reduces their agency.

When these terms are used its either how people were brought up speaking or you are speaking with friendly terms with someone. On a good basis it would happen, certainly some people overstep bounds and such but its not ageism. Its the language.

Treat people like adults if you want them to become adults. Treat them like perennial children if you want them to become angst 30 year old SJWs with no responsibility.

Well this guy was practically a kid which is why I referred to him as a kid. Thats how English works. I am re-framing the idea that this was an "adult" that got tricked. No, this was two young adults playing dumb games, two kids practically for a lot of us. "How could this happen?" is a question and its answered simply by this guy not having a ton of life experience.

Now a person not having a ton of life experience is really long to say so I use the word" Kid" and that encapsulates fully what happens here:

"(colloquial) An inexperienced person or one in a junior position. quotations ▲ 2007 June 3, Eben Moglen, speech, Freeing the Mind: Free Software and the end of proprietary culture, I remember as a kid lawyer working at IBM in the summer of 1983, when a large insurance company in Hartford, Connecticut, for the first time asked to buy 12000 IBM PCs in a single order."

Treat people like adults if you want them to become adults. Treat them like perennial children if you want them to become angsty 30 year old SJWs with no responsibility.

If I was talking to this person I would certainly do that. But I am not.

[–]mwobuddy 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

would a 40 year old be a kid to you when you're 90? If all it is is relative, then its meaningless.

[–]mateybuoy 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah he's not the sharpest but justice shouldn't be reserved for the clever.

[–]Novaer 5 points6 points7 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Same thing that happens with women, honestly. Emotional abuse and dependency. People wonder why women stay in physically abusive relationships yet men probably experience more emotionally abusive relationships. Same thing happens to your brain. You think "I love this person, they wouldn't hurt me". It's sad. I feel for this guy.

[–]mwobuddy -1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

10% of the population is in the lower 80s IQ range. There's some math here.

[–]crimekiwi 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Gosh, when stuff like this happens, I always wonder what kept her from getting bored or moving on in all that time. Yeesh!

[–]McFeely_Smackup 4 points5 points6 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

well, she sounds crazy. and he sounds like a moron.

[–]starryknight 13 points14 points15 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

To be honest the guy sounds like a bit of a dummy.

She's still wretched, but only a fucking moron would fall for the shit she pulled.

[–]HeyGuysImMichael 5 points6 points7 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, both parties seem like low-functioning humans

[–]Stupyyy 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

BUHUHU PATRIARCHY!

[–]ISOanexplanation 6 points7 points8 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I can't believe how he made her do this to him. He needs to be "thoroughly investigated".

[–]kulaiid6 points 8 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link

I'd think she's was pretty if you know, she wasn't a fucking psychopath

[–]Mencite -2 points-1 points0 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

No just a wicked sense of humour.

[–]Stevi100183 3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

She's a pretty girl but fucking psychotic! Damn, I've never heard of this level of crazy, and at the age of 19-21... wtf??

She'll probably find another victim easily. It'll be rainbows and butterflies until she flips her fucking crazy switch.

Watch out, fellas! If she's acting like this at such a young age and after a short dating relationship just wait until she really has her heart broken. This psycho could potentially kill someone and I doubt it would be herself..

[–]soparamens 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

just nine months? what about at least 2 years

[–]KingJonStarkgeryan1 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I am no expert on English law, but shouldn't this be a felony crime or at least whatever is the UK equivalent of a felony and thus get a much longer sentence?

[–]realister 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Never stick your dick in crazy.

But shame on a guy too, two years and he doesn't call the cops himself to check once? Cmon dude.

[–][deleted] -4 points-3 points-2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

What sort of dumb faggot believes a policeman has the authority to ban you from going to public places.

I believe in MRA but some people are too stupid to defend.

[+]Drezzzire -11 points-10 points-9 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

She looks hella cute in the left pic.

The right pick uh not so much lol

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Maybe you should date her

[+]Mencite -8 points-7 points-6 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Yea she's a cutie, good sense of humour too.

Not sure what she wants with a special needs guy.

[–]Chrissmith98x -4 points-3 points-2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

It's always the hot ones :(

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