Hey all. I (M34) have been dating my girlfriend (F29) for about ten months. I’ve been divorced for 15 months, (12 year marriage, 15 year relationship with my HS sweetheart) and my girlfriend has been divorced from her ex for 9 months. I have two kids (10 and 13) and coparent pretty successfully with my ex wife. My girlfriend and I are both in the military (I’m Army she’s Air Force) and currently co-located. My girlfriend started mentioning marriage about month 5 of our relationship. I’m still trying to find my bearings afterwards my marriage, so I told her no, too soon. Well now, she’s just received assignment instructions and will need to move within the next six months UNLESS we are married, in which case they won’t move her. She’s indicated that if I don’t want to marry, we probably don’t have a future. I am so torn because I’m really in love with her, but I absolutely cannot stomach the thought of another marriage. By saying no to marriage, I essentially am going to end the relationship. But I’m concerned things are going WAY too fast and that rushing into another marriage would be bad for me and bad for my kids. Any advice? Am I being paranoid?