Don't let outdated research and 'biological clock' concerns be a reason to rush the vetting process.

PippiLemongrass · 2021-04-10T16:33:29+00:00

I had three natural pregnancies after 34 and two of them were after 35. One abortion, one stillbirth and one living child. I’m almost 44 and I’m still fertile.

I regret the abortion, but I had no choice, he was a NVM.

Aocwannabe · 2021-04-10T16:56:43+00:00

Finally! I want to know what crusty, old white man designated the number 35 as when women lose their fertility.

Also, this much “research” and energy needs to be redirected to educating men about how they have a biological clock as well.

One of the reasons I opted NOT to freeze my eggs is because I think it preys on women’s fears. It’s too expensive (although GET It if your employer will pay dr it!) for me and it ignores the variable of the age of father.

lansburysoda · 2021-04-10T17:11:37+00:00

The problem is that men are less fertile than ever. Healthy sperm counts are dropping precipitously. It’s not us.

lansburysoda · 2021-04-10T17:12:12+00:00

They really want us to think we’re infertile past the age we stop looking like children

LR_today · 2021-04-10T18:00:27+00:00

My gyno did some tests & said the second I want to be pregnant, I will be (at 41).

Fertility doesn't drop for us until after 45.

The "after 35 fertility drops" nonsense is from a study in the 1500s in France.

gutsandgorey · 2021-04-10T17:16:01+00:00

Adoption will always be an option for me, I WILL have children WHEN I'm ready and not before.

MadameDestruction · 2021-04-10T18:55:48+00:00

I loved this part as well:

You know who isn’t treated as over-the-hill the moment they reach 35? Men. There still seems to be a pervasive idea that men don’t have biological clocks and can become a dad at any age. However, I’m afraid sperm doesn’t exactly age like a fine wine; sperm quality declines as men get older. Studies have shown that babies born to older fathers have been found to have an increased likelihood of health issues, psychiatric problems and cognitive disorders.

pinkcityscape · 2021-04-10T18:09:27+00:00

My mother conceived naturally at both 41 and 45 so I don’t know why people act like it’s impossible after 35 it’s definitely a lie...

Winter-Firefly · 2021-04-10T19:08:49+00:00

My mom got pregnant with me when she was 40, the fear-mongering bioclock nonsense is just garbage to scare women into settling for dusty scrotes early in their lives if they want kids.

fox_daria · 2021-04-10T17:29:50+00:00

No kidding! Glad to see this.

Several of my family members from grandma to aunts had their last kids between 37-41. When my other grandma had her last kid, at aged 30, she said the doctor kept saying things like "you know at your age" and that was in the 1970s. So it's about time we used science and data to inform our understanding fertility. It's not going to be the same for everyone that's for sure but pinning an arbitrary # is harmful not to mention stupid.

natashaalexandra · 2021-04-10T16:40:43+00:00

Article aside, there's such a thing called wikifeet? 🤢 Enough internet for me today...

janeaustenfan99 · 2021-04-10T21:02:53+00:00

This is somewhat of a relief to read.

-pop-fizz-clink · 2021-04-11T09:16:16+00:00

I'm very grateful to be cf. I do not envy my sisters who truly want kids in this socioeconomic and dating climate. Good on those who are able to comfortably (financially, socially aka has a support system, and so forth) do it on their own (freezing egss, etc).

Title	Don't let outdated research and 'biological clock' concerns be a reason to rush the vetting process.
Author	Splatzy19
Upvotes	169
Comments	21
Date	April 10, 2021 6:37 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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