This isn't about men's libs, which I think we all know suffers from this problem. I saw this happen live in r/malementalhealth, but only from a couple of people thankfully. A man who suffers from autism and was abused most of his life, including by female therapists and social workers, made a post about how some of the "girl power" stuff in society triggers him because it was used as an excuse to defend his abusers.

He brought this up to his (male) therapist who said something along the lines that women are oppressed so it's ok and that he should just man up and deal with it.

And do you know what one of the top responses to his post was? Someone going on and on about oppression against women, and how he had it all wrong and his therapist was right.

This wasn't in a thread about women and it wasn't even posted in a neutral context. It was in a thread, and even a subreddit, specifically for men. And people still can't stop bringing up women to invalidate the feelings and lived experiences of men in what should be a safe space for them.

It wasn't just that one commenter, either. Someone else implied that he was a closet misogynist and was using his experiences to attack women. That person was, however, downvoted, and their comment ended up getting deleted.

There were a lot of supportive comment there though. And as the discussion evolved, I think people started to realize how inappropriate it was to say some of those things.

This is a newish sub that is still growing and (as far as I know) has the support of the mods of r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates as a resource for men to give and receive help. So my aim is not to attack it and draw judgement. My aim is to draw attention to this problem as a society where men can't speak up in safe spaces designed for them without some outsider (or a misguided poster with misandrist beliefs) telling them that they're wrong and that they shouldn't feel that way.