Has a woman ever exposed you to your flaws?

Happy_Nuclear_End · 2023-05-14T21:25:25+00:00

No, I'm very aware of all my flaws and don't fucking care about them.

"It's just that, you're kinda... weird."

"Yeah I know."

AngelxEyez · 2023-05-14T21:10:17+00:00

//r/oddlyspecific

KirthWGersen · 2023-05-14T21:27:55+00:00

Mainly my teenage daughter.

But that is to be expected, right?🤣

BirdMedication · 2023-05-15T00:19:29+00:00

It would be awesome if this happened more often, one of the most frustrating things about dating (and interviewing) is not knowing if and where you went wrong because people are too hesitant to give feedback.

Den_the_God-King · 2023-05-14T21:03:44+00:00

My lack of fashion sense.

indigo_pirate · 2023-05-14T23:12:52+00:00

This is actually a decent topic and different from your usual repetitive stuff.

OP is a bit oddly specific. But some examples for me:

Cursing too much in some inappropriate settings

Having way too many commitments/friends to live successfully and peacefully

My tendency to always have things my way using one method or another.

Being overly sensitive to banter, teasing and threats to my manhood

Delivering brutal truths / problems too bluntly

Being late for meetings/ appointments

Body odour (occasionally) lol

Table manners

Kindness to the weak and or animals

Rising to challenges and suggestions instead of saying no or walking away

Women can give very useful feedback ( also n.b. Without walking away)

TheRedPillRipper · 2023-05-15T01:39:57+00:00

Has a woman ever exposed you to your flaws

Everyday. So I bought her a house. Just kidding.

My partner is blunt. We both also have solid communication skills. So when we disagree, or I’ve made mistakes; it’s pretty straightforward.

That said you have to possess a fairly thick skin, and have a solid sense of self efficacy. Lest you mire yourself, in self doubt.

Godspeed and good luck!

MxMaster9907 · 2023-05-15T02:10:26+00:00

Bro is describing the argument he had with his wife

OliveSuspicious8052 · 2023-05-14T20:52:27+00:00

I went to therapy for a year with a female therapist. It was a waste of money and made my situation worse.

As a man, we want to know constructive actions we can take. Self-analyzing is a bottomless pit and the people who I know do it that do it most are toxic and failures.

Those things are not flaws, I will add. They are subjective third party evaluations and don’t control your volition actions unless you believe in them.

just_a_place · 2023-05-15T07:03:48+00:00

Yeah... my mom, my sisters, my teachers, my aunts, my girlfriends, my cousins, and even that nice old lady cashier at my local mom & pop store.

It's because women tell me my fuck ups which is the reason I work on them and then I'm not such an awkward weirdo at the end of the day.

"The way you talk, it seems that as a little kid you weren't given much attention and you feel the need to make everything about you in conversations and it is really tiring."

That is not a woman pointing out legitimate flaws that you need to work on; that is a bitch playing a shit test on you bruh. She's being vindictive and spiting acid.

"You sort of don't want to accept everything they said and then once you've grieved the breakup then you live with the pain of how you made others feel in an eerie way."

You let her inside your head boi. That's where you goofed.

Never let a woman get inside your head.

Ohyarlysmiles · 2023-05-14T22:07:54+00:00

Like you are talking to a woman and everything seems really great and then suddenly they leave and they list out all of your flaws in a way that you wouldn't have noticed.

Buddy boyo, flaws according to who? Her?

Because her judgment --- especially if I barely know her or if we just fucked once or a few times --- is meaningless. And the fact that she thinks she's qualified to judge a person's intangibles after such a brief interaction means she's a moron.

Like they were psychoanalysing you all along while you were kept in this bubble thinking they were the best thing to happen to you.

With their degree from where?

You're confusing them taking part in some objective process with them forming an opinion.

"The way you talk, it seems that as a little kid you weren't given much attention and you feel the need to make everything about you in conversations and it is really tiring. You being unable to notice your flaws likely comes from years of receiving praise and being coddled by your parents that it never taught you to reflect. The fact you feel easily offended is because you weren't taught to be resilient with your own sense of identity and this doesn't make me want to date you anymore"

LMFAO I would laugh in this chick's face.

"The way you engage in psychobabble, it seems that as an adult you don't have much education or insecure about the education you do have, and it is really tiring."

You realise something like, you're attracted to the breadcrumbing rather than the love.

Dude stop being a pussy. None of what she said makes any goddamned sense --- she doesn't know you, know the circumstances of your life, or even know psychology well enough to make a "diagnosis."

Goddamn...

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DoinIt989 · 2023-05-14T20:52:36+00:00

Never that directly. Many times I've made mistakes and had some obvious self-reflection after things went south.

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Chemical_Major_1403 · 2023-05-14T23:16:55+00:00

It's called the "speech" , it's well known when the men is better, I think when you watch "after " Tessa give the " speech " to Harden, it's like even men on top have flaws and it get translated a lot to women never have flaws and it is what we are watching now from feminist, everyone has flaws but somehow with men it's a problem with women it's "the man is picky and women are just human " . Posts like this are what made women thinking they are flawless, an easy example is the simps and feminists who say :" men should apologise even the girl is wrong " this is the most toxic sh*t I hears

KayRay1994 · 2023-05-14T23:26:34+00:00

sure, and each time its become an opportunity to grow a bit more (maybe it was never worded nearly as harshly as your post, but still) - i might not agree with every flaw she’d mention, but i’d think about what she said critically enough to be able to make figure out what she might be right on - besides, way i personally see it, somebody spitting them all out makes the job easier for me cause now i have some individual issues to be mindful of (whether it be when dealing with her or literally anybody else)

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puddingbike · 2023-05-15T02:04:47+00:00

Has a woman ever exposed you to your flaws?

Are you kidding? I think a better question would be have you ever been involved with a woman who hasn't at some point enjoyed explaining your flaws to you.

dumbumbedeill · 2023-05-15T02:12:24+00:00

No the one i dated was absolutely useless, supported her with everything and dropped me at the worst moment. The only thing i learned from it is to never accept any bs from a woman, treat me with respect always or i drop you like a bag of shit. Could only critisize me, was always my fault and never apolegized for any of her wrong doings.

tricep_bro · 2023-05-15T13:08:57+00:00

Women can sometimes give quite good feedback for our imperfections (because they are naturally better at noticing)

But oftentimes they are just messing with your mind. Like in OP' s case she is clearly messing with him.

Thats why you should just ignore them. When in doubt, ignore them and brush the comment aside. Thats how you hold frame.

AlmostKindaGreat · 2023-05-15T18:46:20+00:00

Women have exposed my flaws only indirectly, by breaking up with me, ghosting, saying she "didn't think we clicked" or the like. I wish I got direct negative feedback like this so I could reflect on it and improve without guessing what was wrong.

The best I have usually gotten from women is positive feedback, which let me know I was on the right track to fixing a flaw or weakness. Very helpful!

But I really needed that negative feedback more when I was unattractive. It would have helped a lot. The positive feedback is good when in the process of becoming attractive, but it's an unfortunate "rich get richer" while the poor stay poor phenomenon.

King-SAMO · 2023-05-15T19:39:45+00:00

[Laughs in Jungian psychoanalytic theory]

MaxMonsterGaming · 2023-05-16T03:23:52+00:00

Yes. I have had great female friends and colleagues tell me my flaws in my early 20s. I admire them for telling me because it made me grow as a person.

Acceptable-Truck3803 · 2023-05-17T13:53:47+00:00

Not all at once and not the same person, but over time slowly and surely.

I like you and we’d get along well in a relationship but you got fat (had abs freshman year, gained 40 lbs by senior year)- girl I was causally seeing in high school

You only offer fun but outside of fun you don’t offer anything for a relationship or stability - good friend of mine when broke AF in college as college kids do

You have wonderful and attractive people in front of you willing to date you but you don’t seem to want to take that chance - casual hookup friends who wanted a relationship (still actual friends btw while they date other people)

Not going to go down the entire list but it happens if you ask/chat about it and they feel safe that you’ll listen without criticism or exploding into a rage afterwards

kvakerok · 2023-05-17T15:06:37+00:00

Not really. That would require for me to be willingly ignorant of them. I'm either okay with my flaws or already working on them.

Having a kid and watching myself around them did lots more for my self-awareness than having a woman around.

Title	Has a woman ever exposed you to your flaws?
Author	HappyMan1102
Upvotes	11
Comments	38
Date	May 14, 2023 8:50 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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