Having dreams

Malaine1 · 2023-05-16T18:06:41+00:00

It’s normal - they will subside though over time. Used to have really intense dreams in the beginning.

research002019 · 2023-05-16T20:36:06+00:00

I still have the random dream involving the ex every once in a while, even after 4 years apart.

Retying3043 · 2023-05-16T23:03:36+00:00

I had dreams too. They went away after ~1.5 years.

Reflog1791 · 2023-05-16T22:21:42+00:00

I enjoy an occasional wet dream about my exes fake tiddies lol. Alas, she belongs to the streets now. Whenever she breaks up with some dude I get the hoovering routine. I’m smart enough to stay away from her yet keep things cordial.

coffeefrog92 · 2023-05-16T22:56:06+00:00

At first I used to have these recurring dreams about my son being a newborn again and I'd hear him crying in a big house, and I'd search for him desperately but the house would just prove to be an endless maze and I'd never find him.

Seems obvious that was anxiety and heartbreak over becoming a part time dad.

More recently I had a very vivid dream that my dad told me she was seeing somebody else and it really messed with me. Maybe my subconscious trying to pre-process the inevitable.

Anyway, I think it's a normal part of the process. Maybe it's stuff you push away in waking life that you need to deal with to move on.

Gattsama · 2023-05-16T23:51:53+00:00

It's normal, common, and to be expected. I'm 6mo post divorce after a 1 year separation before that. She still pops up I'm dreams sometimes. It's not as disturbing as it use to be. Mostly me checking her on BS and her actually listening to me 🤷‍♂️ I had a few really disturbing dreams early on where we were having sex; woke up nearly in a panic and freaking out lol. We were together for 17 years and I'm still working on resolving issues, so no surprise that even though I don't want her and don't contact her, she's going to pop up in thoughts and dreams sometimes.

Don't mistake it for desire, it's just our brains sorting shit out...

Zbroskii · 2023-05-17T00:08:12+00:00

Pretty pathetic that when she's gone dreams and memories will all I look forward to from her.

The pains still fresh and deep but in real life I was a nightmare to be around.

Hopefully I treat her better in my dreams. Pitiful to say but it's all I have left since I threw our marriage away by drinking.

Plenty-Entertainer71 · 2023-05-16T23:17:13+00:00

I wonder if our exs have dreams about us

Title	Having dreams
Author	Plenty-Entertainer71
Upvotes	2
Comments	22
Date	May 16, 2023 5:08 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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