I regret not making my marriage work and now my ex husband is happily remarried

When I was in my early 30s I divorced my husband. We didn’t have any major issues. Our relationship was just challenged after having kids. I was a SAHM and I expected him to do more of the housework and childcare when he worked full time. He did help me when I asked but I started to ask more of him and I burnt him out. I use to have him wrapped around my finger and I used that as an advantage to get what I want. He eventually got tired of it. I started threatening to divorce him and he said he knew the baby was just stressing us out and he will like to make it work but when I was 30 I thought I was a great catch because I’m still very beautiful for my age and I lost my mom bod so I thought I could do better than him so I left him, I got our house in the divorce and we share joint custody of our Son

Fast forward now I’m 41 and still single and my ex husband is 41 and got remarried to a 31 year old woman who is incredibly beautiful. They had their daughter 3 years ago. He bought a new house, my son loves going to his dads to spend time with his other family and I’m not gonna lie it makes me jealous. She has it all. She took my husband, she took my kid, she took my life that was once all mine and all I have is the house we created our family in… and now I live in an empty house

I’m 41, I gained 20 pounds, I’ve got wrinkles, and I’m alone and miserable. I’ve had short term relationships after the divorce but they never worked out. Men just don’t want an old woman like me with a child and I’ve noticed that men with kids just have a better time dating with kids than we do and I hate it!

I’m not happy anymore. I wish I could go back when I was younger and I would have stopped being so childish. Now I have such a miserable life. I work a useless job now and I have to share custody of my son where he has to go spend time at my ex husbands house with his new and improved wife. I feel like dumpster standing right next to her.

My therapist said I should do something that’ll make me happy like a make over since I’m reminiscing about how I looked so much and comparing myself to his new, beautiful young wife so I decided to get a new hairstyle and that didn’t help. No matter what I do I look like a middle aged woman

This is probably the most honest I’ve ever been in a while. I just feel like crap, I wish I was a better wife over 10 years ago so I wouldn’t be in this position

I know a lot of people on Reddit preach being alone and single but honestly this not an ideal life or a life I would wish on my worst enemy