I can finally move on

Gattsama · 2023-08-28T12:45:47+00:00

The process is what it is. Strong work on choosing to be better. Stay focused, don't back slide (but if you do, dust off and keep marching forward). These women are the eX for reasons. Release towards indifference and build your best life 💪

93tabitha93 · 2023-08-28T14:13:02+00:00

This morning I heard this:

“You can either say: ‘…one day…’ or ‘…day one….’ “

So, either: “One day I’ll…..”

Or

“Today is day one….”

I’m trying to keep myself motivated the best I can…dark days can be rather dark...but they come and go…

We’ll all get through this! Let’s stay strong!

Moist-Praline-571 · 2023-08-28T13:34:59+00:00

Send the other guy proof, and move on with your life. Don’t talk to her unless it’s about the kids. You got this.

ww3historian · 2023-08-28T15:21:46+00:00

You're not alone. I was also on vacation and saw all these families and it made me sad. But then I said it does me no good to mope around, time to make a new family.

Signal-Dot2326 · 2023-08-28T16:01:42+00:00

That's one thing I haven't missed for one second is her, I miss seeing my daughter everyday but seeing her being with her good riddance, toxic black hole

AxeMuley · 2023-08-28T18:57:03+00:00

Move forward, not back. Don’t expel negative energy by giving the other guy proof. Set boundaries for yourself i.e. no effing around with her, maintain communication only as it relates to parenting, etc. You can be kind and helpful if you want. Be you, not someone else. Make yourself happy.

dnbndnb · 2023-08-28T20:01:07+00:00

She had it all right now. Simp husband who gets pity sex, part time family so 50% freedom, boyfriend for the butterflies, plenty of attention, bills paid, and a variety of dick. That’s the life every woman wants today.

Get the divorce done, Court decrees, keep plenty of evidence of the two of you, THEN send it to OM with a note … “She’ll never by yours, it’s just your turn. She did you behind my back, she did me behind yours, and she’ll move on to others.”

Lumptbuttcat · 2023-08-28T13:49:29+00:00

Yes, I would also submit another way to look at your situation. Our feelings are very much like traffic lights. Red, green and yellow. Life becomes extremely frustrating when its full of these traffic lights. Sometimes red light after red light. A few greens make us feel better. The fact that there are so many lights to begin with, cause anxiety and bitterness.

Sometimes its better just to find a new route with no lights. Maybe longer, but a nicer drive.

While trying to fix yourself is great- mental and physical health wise. It’s analogous to fixing your car. Unless you change the route, your still facing the traffic lights.

Both need to happen.

Timely_Froyo1384 · 2023-08-28T15:35:26+00:00

I will tell you what I told my friend!

Stop fucking around with dirty dick, sure the sex is amazing but he isn’t just fucking your body, he is fucking you up mentally, so stop fucking dirty dick!

ijustdontcare74 · 2023-08-29T11:11:41+00:00

First thing to do is cut her off completely from ALL assistance except what is court mandated. Any extra she asks for the answer is NO. No hook ups ever, no matter what she sends you. In fact block her on every medium except phone and a parenting app which doesn’t allow deleting messages (msging app for coordinating child, phone only for emergencies related to the child). Say clearly to her you will only talk to her about your son and NOTHING more. If needs be have your lawyer draft a letter to her outlining the above. You need to grey rock her ass. Do not try to fuck with her new BF, nothing good can come of it except her fucking with your child custody arrangements.

Title	I can finally move on
Author	helloworld2389023
Upvotes	33
Comments	19
Date	August 28, 2023 11:31 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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