The pain is still there after a month

Old-Macaroon8148 · 2023-10-28T16:18:04+00:00

Dude it kind of sounds like your wife abducted your daughter which is illegal. Do you have a lawyer involved? She can’t just take your daughter away from you.

potatotornado44 · 2023-10-28T17:25:42+00:00

You’ll have days like that, we all have. Just cherish the times when you are with your daughter, and you will have those times in the future. Get on the legal tasks at hand and get an emergency parenting agreement in place.

Retying3043 · 2023-10-28T16:10:17+00:00

I am sorry you are going through this. It sucks.

Pitiful_Apartment999 · 2023-10-28T18:40:35+00:00

One month is nothing. In your case it is more painful that you don't see your daughter. It just makes it double harder. The only thing I can tell - stay strong my man.

capitalawesome2016 · 2023-10-28T21:48:51+00:00

Did they walk out or did you get kicked out? You can't get kicked out of your own house. Do you know where they are? Fight for your daughter and make sure you can see her.

Acceptable_Piano4809 · 2023-10-28T23:26:30+00:00

I don’t want to upset you, but it’s going to be there a lot longer than a month… I’m going on a year and I can’t say that I’m 100% healed… it will get better, absolutely it will… around a month in for me and things were getting worse and I remember reading comments like this one telling me it will get better and thinking they were wrong… but trust me, time does heal all wounds… what you need to do is relish in the pain… but give yourself time each day; start with an hour, that you will not think about what’s going on, and do something you enjoy… increase this time every week or when you feel you can, until you get to a point where you tell yourself you will only think about the divorce for an hour… still after a year; not one day has went by for me that I did not feel pain, and think about it, but I can tell you each week that goes by it becomes less and less intense..: I’m looking forward to when I can go a day without thinking about it; and I can’t wait! Get yourself involved with things you like to do, and you will meet others that enjoy them… eventually you may meet someone that you are interested in romantically… I haven’t yet, but I haven’t wanted to… I know I will in the future and just thinking about that takes the pain away… I won’t get married again, but that’s for everyone to decide for themselves… good luck my friend… this forum has been a tremendous help for me, just knowing I am not the only one going through this has helped me more than I can describe!

BigSkyHiker · 2023-10-28T19:23:06+00:00

Another voice to say that a month is still very very new in the grief process my friend. I am coming up on 5 months and still have hard days. Grieving is not a linear process and you will continue to bounce around in all the different stages depending on what you are going through/triggers you. Just remember that you will be ok - even though you may not believe that right now - always remember that you will be ok!!

MidniteOG · 2023-10-29T01:03:43+00:00

I know this feeling all to well… ir sucks, it’ll continue to suck, it’ll always suck. It gets easier to manage it.

AirSailer · 2023-10-29T04:05:09+00:00

Sorry your going thru this. It's been a couple years for me and I still think about the divorce every single day. I have 50/50 and some days it's hard when my kid isn't with me, but it's nice too because I get to do more adult stuff when he's with his mother. Stay strong, you'll get thru this. Best of luck.

Title	The pain is still there after a month
Author	welldressedpepe
Upvotes	9
Comments	16
Date	October 28, 2023 3:17 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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