How much have you changed your style for your partner?

Fearless_Room_1970 · 2023-11-03T13:13:57+00:00

I radically changed my style. I secured my husband with a slightly edgy mostly black style, one visible tattoo, and only after becoming a housewife did a deep dive on RPW and everything else because I wanted to be perfect for him. I totally shifted to soft pink florals and dresses etc, long hair, bows in my hair, my tattoo looked totally bad and out of place lol.

Only after a few years did I rediscover some of my old clothing and he revealed it’s what he had preferred all along LMAO. The one thing we agreed on was mixing in preppy elements and “the duchess” archetype - he loves me in a pleated skirt and black turtleneck for example. But the super femme girly stuff all over tiktok he thinks is women dressing for women and I steered us wrong for YEARS.

Cosima_Fan_Tutte · 2023-11-03T14:21:33+00:00

Stopped wearing heels! He thought they were dumb and would shake his head at my blistered feet. I would have stopped anyway after I had kids--young children and heels don't mix.

PsychoticNurse · 2023-11-03T14:36:52+00:00

I did not change anything for my husband. He's happy with the way I look and never says anything. The only thing he would have a huge issue with is if I dressed in something too revealing, which I never do anyway. I have absolutely no sense of style (I'm not exaggerating), so I dress in simple things like jeans, khakis, tunic shirts, sweater dresses, pretty much anything that does not go out of style and can be mixed/matched. I've never been the girly girl type, and I never wear makeup (don't even know how to apply it). My husband likes that about me, as he's not into women that wear makeup (he likes all natural). I also have a ton of tattoos that he likes when I show off, since he's really into tatts.

pieorstrudel5 · 2023-11-03T16:08:13+00:00

This is a loaded question. Have I changed for my partner or for myself?

Mostly myself.

My style has evolved. I am older. I also changed careers.

10 years ago I worked a very casual job. I didn't wear much make up, my hair was naturally wavy, and I shopped at the thrift store for a very boho look. I was also in my 20s. I still had a very girl next door look.

Now? I'm almost 40 and I work in a very business professional setting. I do my hair, nails, and make up, and I wear a lot of dresses to work. I actually have switched to mostly dresses because I like it and I find I get treated better when I do. I don't think I've ever had to open a door when I have worn a dress.

But on the weekends I am still very much the wavy haired, no make up, boho type girl I was 10 years ago. I'll be in leggings, sneakers, and a flannel.... And I'll be out in the woods somewhere.

The only thing I do for my partner, is keep my hair long. It's the only thing he feels really strongly about. I would keep my hair shoulder length if I had my way.

Does he like the way I dress? Yes. He did 10 years ago and he does today. He also just likes me. And the fact that I do things that I love.

But be careful changing anything about yourself JUST for a man. It needs to be for you first and him second.

SunshineSundress · 2023-11-03T19:23:31+00:00

I used to argue to high heavens here for the case for dressing provocatively within reason. After all, I snagged my man wearing daisy dukes and skimpy dresses! As some years have passed, I noticed he started to like those provocative outfits less (outside of course, inside is another thing… 😂) and started really loving when I wore more refined pieces.

I think it has something to do with the transition of seeing me as the sexy girl he liked to hang out with into a more serious and long-term relationship. Although I’m definitely partially doing it to suit his tastes, I’ve also just changed and matured and can’t dress like a gaudy teenager anymore. I still like the skimpy stuff in theory for the fashion of it, but I’m feeling more comfortable and more me in “moderately modest” stuff I’ve been wearing these days.

Some pictures to paint a better picture:

Before: LOVED tube tops and high-waisted skinnt jeans, lived in these strappy sundresses, and pulled out the micro mini skirts and the low cut tops as much as I could.

Now: focusing more on the show 1 asset rule, if the hemline is short, I opt for more coverage on my arms and chest, creating interest by using accessories like a silk scarf instead of opting to show a lot of skin, adding cute cardigans to get some use out of my strappy sundresses lol, midi and maxi hemlines have become staples, and a pretty blouse paired with trouser or jeans for more casual looks!

Agreeable-Comedian24 · 2023-11-03T14:27:09+00:00

I’ve always been adamant about not changing yourself for anyone. But as I get deeper in my current relationship I see room for compromise. I’m perfectly happy going out in the ‘athleisure’ look with make up on, nails done, etc. My bf is not a fan and would rather i wear jeans and not sneakers. I can understand wear he’s coming from and keep that in mind. He also hates my boyfriend jeans for some reason so I don’t wear them around him often.

On the flip side he’s realized his clothes are getting a bit outdated and has made an effort to update his wardrobe. Couples are a reflection of each other and should feel comfortable with the way the other looks in public. Tho I would be concerned if one partner wanted the other to completely change their whole look.

AChromaticHeavn · 2023-11-03T15:52:03+00:00

I did not change how I dress for my relationship. I have always dressed as a hippie, and that has not changed. My daily clothes are usually jeans, a graphic tee, and a flannel overshirt.

akitty247 · 2023-11-03T13:45:44+00:00

Not much. I always dressed in elegant classic style. Got my clothes tailored to fit me well one of the reasons my husband is attracted to me

beautifulbountiful · 2023-11-03T18:30:29+00:00

When I met my partner, I was dressing really differently. I rode a motorcycle, wore men’s clothes and androgynous styles, always heavy boots/black jeans/black T-shirts, had part of my head shaved, and presented a very intense masculine vibe. On our first date I wore a denim dress, did my hair and makeup, and wore sandals as I wanted to impress him. In the years we have been together I have had a complete turnaround in style. I got rid of all the masculine clothes over time, grew my hair out, started buying feminine and colorful clothing, styled my hair and makeup more soft and natural, and have walked away from my masculine habits, hobbies and interests.

I realized through being with him that the way I was presenting was a protective mechanism that was an attempt at keeping myself safe. I didn’t have a strong masculine presence in my life growing up and as a young adult, had experienced a lot of trauma, and was just trying to protect myself. I have found that his leadership and protection has allowed me to soften and be more authentic to who I am.

It truly was ‘just a phase’

leosandlattes · 2023-11-03T13:56:15+00:00

When we first started dating my style was earthy colors (olive green, navy, beige, neutrals) with jeans, more casual. But that wasn’t really my preferred style at all!

I love pinks, dainty florals, lace, tulle, puff, ruffles, etc., like the hyperfeminine stuff. I slowly changed my style to that because that’s what I actually loved wearing, which had nothing to do with my partner.

Then as it turns out, he likes a mix of the casual and girly - so instead of dresses all the time, it’s maybe a floral organza top with light wash jeans and a pink cardigan. He still likes accessories like my jewelry or bows in my hair and stuff like that :) But overall he likes the pastel and pink color palette on me.

Still though, he doesn’t really care what style I necessarily wear. He just cares if it looks feminine or clearly womanly.

malazanbettas · 2023-11-03T19:50:10+00:00

I used to mess with my hair soooo much but he likes running his fingers through it so I cut off my dreads and stopped getting extensions when I get tired of it growing out. I think he's also not into the same super slim runway model body type that I naturally have but I gained weight after my last breakup (divorce) so we can deal with that one later because I AM into my own body type and I don't think it's something I will compromise on.

patchouliflowers · 2023-11-03T23:08:33+00:00

Sometimes I wear things my husband picks just because he says- I thought you would like this. He did say, I’d like you to wear black eye liner, and I did that. But total style not exactly. I’d like to be more of a hippie bum but I settle for a happy medium bc I don’t think he would care for that. Lol

Egoistchan · 2023-11-04T06:05:56+00:00

I guess more variation in styles and colors? I've always been a tomboy and the "adrogynous" look actually suits me really well. I lived in black turtlenecks and plaid trousers and army boots before I met him. He likes my style a lot, but also loves how I look in dresses and heels. He'd never tell me how to dress, but has let me know what kind of outfits he finds cute and wants to coordinate with (he likes to match his outfit colors with mine)

Ive bought the stereotype flower sundress, dressy mini skirts to wear with tights, silk blouses, classy midi dresses, and some comfy heeled sandals. Still dress in tomboy style, but when I'm in the mood I'll go full girly.

Glockgualla · 2023-11-04T06:17:31+00:00

I asked him what he liked, what was appropriate so basically no cleavage, no dress shorter than under the knee. I changed my style to wear a more modest one, I always wear long dress but thats a style I like too, it’s very vintage/cottagecore so stuff as dirndl/sax etc. I didn’t changed my style but I adapted it to his needs

AutoModerator · 2023-11-03T11:40:48+00:00

Title: How much have you changed your style for your partner?

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Full text: I’m very interested in hearing from other women on how and if they’ve changed their personal style for their partner?

What was your style before, what is it now? How did the whole process make you feel? Do you regret it or feel happier?

I changed my style to something more preppy/basic for my husband, it’s quite opposite from my original style (black monochrome with hints of colour). Feeling unsure about it but want advise and experiences from women in this sub.

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Therandomderpdude · 2023-11-03T14:19:36+00:00

I tried to switch to more tight fitting clothes. More feminine clothes that flattered my figure.

I am a size small but I used to wear Medium and Large just because it was cozy and I didn’t care much about impressing anyone. I wanted to look more feminine and fashionable.

I also started wearing makeup more frequently, I rarely wore makeup before. It makes me feel very pretty. Also perfume.

Title	How much have you changed your style for your partner?
Author	mishkaforest235
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Date	November 3, 2023 11:40 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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