Do y'all let your husband cheat on you? If so, what are the agreements and terms of your relationship and at what point do you consider the boundaries to be crossed meaning divorce may be on the table?

goddessoflove1234 · 2023-12-22T01:10:30+00:00

Omg I feel like some iteration of this is posted WEEKLY. Girl no

PinkRasberryFish · 2023-12-22T03:31:41+00:00

Literally the opposite of traditionalism. Gtfo.

SuperiorLake_ · 2023-12-21T23:26:07+00:00

PrincessIcyKitten · 2023-12-22T01:26:59+00:00

I would never let my man cheat on me

PinkRasberryFish · 2023-12-22T03:31:18+00:00

What the hell?

alaskabunny · 2023-12-22T03:38:04+00:00

No I have basic respect for myself.

Recent-Bid8659 · 2023-12-22T10:41:04+00:00

Seriously worried that this sub has turned from how to have a good marriage into how to be an absolute doormat and get treated like shit just for a few extra pennies in the bank. Seriously girls, STOP letting your men treat you like crap. Any amount of money is not worth it.

ddouchecanoe · 2023-12-22T07:34:01+00:00

Not really what we do here…

countrylemon · 2023-12-22T13:12:01+00:00

A cold day in hell would be the day he even considers that

LexiFromWestchester · 2023-12-22T09:07:01+00:00

I've known traditional wives who put on blinders and go into active denial about it. They don't go looking for it, so they don't see it, so it doesn't exist. I do not recommend this approach.

_trixie_firecracker_ · 2023-12-21T23:05:16+00:00

…. No?

Why would you willingly let someone violate your trust and boundaries?

If you’re talking about swinging/ polyamory where both partners have agreed upon the parameters and there is trust and honesty (a lifestyle that I would never want to participate in and wouldn’t recommend to others, but it’s a free country), then that’s a separate topic I suppose.

StephanieCitrus · 2023-12-21T23:27:47+00:00

No I married a man who is not interested in that sort of thing.

I married him for the lifestyle he provides me and part of that lifestyle involves dignity so divorce would absolutely be on the table.

Unusual-Jellyfish-54 · 2023-12-22T13:24:56+00:00

My "traditional" standing on this matter is that first and foremost, we have a monogamous relationship built upon mutual trust and respect where fidelity is expected. Having said so, I think I would be willing to forgive an infidelity if it was a one time kind of thing, for the sake of preserving the home we have built together and our children, but ONLY if he showed genuine repentance and willingness to take the necessary steps to heal our bond and make sure it doesn't happen ever again. And I wouldn't forgive it a second time. Thankfully I've never been in the position of having to go through such a thing, so I don't know how I would truly react. But in theory, although I don't think it should be something unforgivable in every case and you must put your family first, "agreeing" to be cheated on sounds like a travesty of traditional moral values where you become a doormat in a one sided open marriage which is not traditional at all imo. Also you're willingly putting yourself at risk of contracting an STI and your children too if you're breastfeeding.

Consistent_Sleep_341 · 2023-12-22T14:05:05+00:00

Lmfao

TheBunk_TB · 2023-12-22T21:01:27+00:00

Verbalize boundaries

RedditVirgin555 · 2023-12-22T02:13:10+00:00

🤣 Hell no. That d is MINE. I told him 20 yrs ago, I will stab him a*nd *the side bitch, don't get nobody killed out here.

👼🏽🙏🏽

Dancersep38 · 2023-12-22T23:43:36+00:00

Absolutely not! Divorce is on the table when what he's doing is considered cheating.

If you want to negotiate an actual "open" marriage that is one sided- not my cup of tea, but you do you. But you're calling it cheating so it's completely inappropriate in a marriage.

I swear, these must just be trolls trying to prove traditional women are just doormats or something.

grandma_jizzzzzzzard · 2023-12-22T19:56:43+00:00

He has my permission to date other women, but he has never taken the offer. I love him so much, and since menopause has been messing with my sex drive, I feel it is fair that he has that option. Sometimes we meet women on first dates but they typically don’t go very well. Most women we’ve met do not look anything like the images they share before meeting. It has helped me understand how difficult it is for most men to date. I get excited by the thought of him with other women who treat him well, which is another reason why he has my permission. But he seems to be largely content with just me and my diminished sex drive lol. I do make sure my appearance is as good as it can realistically be and he loves that. Hope this helps!

VeterinarianOne4674 · 2023-12-23T22:58:07+00:00

I think women are actually getting dumber as time goes on. Either that or they're wilfully obtuse.

No, I don't let me husband cheat on me. No, he doesn't cheat on me. No, I don't cheat on him. I cherish him, and he, me.

I'm not sure what about marriage, love and stability is so incredibly off-putting to these people but please, I beg of you, seek help.

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