Dating a recently divorced guy

MonarchistExtreme · 2024-01-28T20:38:57+00:00

If he can still get that twisted up over his ex, his head space probably isn't ready for a relationship.

captainchippsixx · 2024-01-28T18:31:03+00:00

Can you pin point a catalyst that happened?’ Anything big happen. Not enough information to really say anything to.

Couple of things -if you were the first relationship after he might have decided I don’t want to continue. - he might have saw some red flags in you and he is ending it this way. - he is spread to thin with kid, career, family, and gf.

l3tsR0LL · 2024-01-28T14:47:34+00:00

Best to talk to him about it

We don't know enough information to understand your relationship

Emotional_Lettuce251 · 2024-01-28T09:49:32+00:00

This isn't the place for you. That being said, and I can only speak for myself (but can also infer on what I've read in this sub for the past 5 months), few to any men, 1 year out from a divorce, have any interest in a real, romantic relationship. We are still recovering from having our hearts ripped out, our family destroyed, our finances ruined ... at this stage in the game, all we are probably looking for is "a piece of ass" ... I'm not even looking for that. I want nothing to do with women right now, and am unsure I'll ever have the capacity to trust a female again. So, yeah, believe him. He's not ready.

GreenUse1398 · 2024-01-28T08:19:50+00:00

Believe what he is communicating to you. Don't assume any alternative motivations, don't try and read into things, don't try and 'talk about it' if he doesn't want to.

He says he is confused and needs space, because he is confused and needs space. Give it to him.

Kerry120 · 2024-01-28T07:14:22+00:00

Maybe his bum is sore.

New-Amoeba9042 · 2024-01-28T05:31:41+00:00

It’s probably best to move on. A guy post divorce is probably in a really bad emotional and mental state and not in any shape to mark long term relationship decisions.

For your own sake, probably not a good idea to hang around while he figures things out

Token_or_TolkienuPOS · 2024-01-28T05:27:53+00:00

This is not a relationship advice forum.

AirSailer · 2024-01-28T04:04:48+00:00

Go over to r/relationships and ask this. We're not here to give you advice on how to force yourself on a guy who's already been hurt and is trying to heal himself which you obviously aren't helping him do.

cryptus-maximus · 2024-01-28T03:54:37+00:00

Need more context. How recent is recent? Did he file or did she? What kind of issues is the ex causing? From what you wrote, best guess is that you’re a rebound. If you’re hoping for marriage/kids, just don’t.

FunnyQuirky3177 · 2024-01-28T03:46:59+00:00

Either he met someone else, and you were the rebound, or he needs to be alone for a while to figure himself out. Either way, he’s not in love with you and you owe it to yourself to have more out of a partner. As my daughter would say, “you do you, girl!”

hpsportsfanatic · 2024-01-28T03:37:34+00:00

Dude move on. He has a lot to figure out (speaking from experience). You probably ain’t the last to burn the bridge too.

77shantt · 2024-01-28T01:15:13+00:00

Common sense

stent00 · 2024-01-28T01:00:10+00:00

Listen to what he's saying and take it for what it is. After a year most people are still a mess and there divorce usually isn't final. Sure it feels great to date and get out there but most people after a year just aren't ready.

Title	Dating a recently divorced guy
Author	Odd_Explanation747
Upvotes	1
Comments	28
Date	January 28, 2024 12:47 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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