Can my wife make me leave our home?

upandatom85 · 2024-02-22T04:23:13+00:00

This is a copy pasta I share with everyone who needs it. Most of this will apply to you. If you think part of it does not apply just wait a bit... this is what is known as the list. Feel free to add to it. It will only help others.

Don't drink. It'll only hurt the situation. Trust me. You need to stay calm drinking will not help with this.

Do not lose your temper. If you do not stay calm you will lose. She wants you to get upset. She wants to be able to call the cops on you.

You can be darn sure she is going to try to get an EPO (emergency protection order) against you. All she has to say is there is escalating behavior and she is afraid for her life and boom. It'll cost you 10k minimum to fight it and have it thrown out.

Give your firearms to someone so she can't say that you threatened her. She may try to have your firearms taken away. It is difficult to get them back from the police.

Record every conversation and prepare for false domestic violence accusations (CUBE ACR records calls automatically and can also record on your phone in the background. Its free in the app store). Check your local laws regarding recording. An illegal recording proving you innocent is better than none at all.

She will try to provoke you to get you to say things to use against you. STAY CALM! RECORD EVERYTHING!

Lift heavy weights.

Walk. Daily.

Learn to meditate.

Get therapy. Honestly, it will help. No matter how tough you think you are we can all use a little help.

Change all passwords. INCLUDING YOUR PHONE! Mutual or not. Be sure she does not have access to your accounts of any sort. Get a new credit card. Fully separate finances. Figure out what you still need to pay and what is her fucking problem now.

She will try to clean out your account and will take anything she is able to. You need to prevent that. Chances are she is way ahead of you on this.

Secure important paperwork including tax information and anything she can use against you in a safe location.

She's 10 steps ahead of you. She's already told her friends/family/attorney. She's got big plans for your money and property.

She will try to get you out of the house. Do not leave your home! If she wants to end the relationship she can leave. If you are gone from the home she will claim abandonment and keep rights to the home.

Document every fucking thing. Keep a notebook in your phone(New safe password). Record interactions and important notes. Record all interactions. Women lie! Sucks, but it's true.

She will try to rewrite history. Things that happened will not have happened. What was said or done will not be the same as reality. This is called GASLIGHTING. Look it up and understand it! She will make you question your grip on reality. She will rewrite your history to make you the bad guy in her story, to justify what she is currently doing to you and what she has done to you.

If you're wondering if you need a lawyer then you needed one last month. Lawyers suck and are expensive. Get a good one.

Research GREY ROCK/180 METHOD, then implement It.

Research MONKEY BRANCHING and understand the female imperative. If she's leaving you she probably already has someone else. Sorry.

Research and understand BRIFFAULTS LAW.

Research and understand the LIGHT SWITCH EFFECT.

Research and understand DARVO TACTICS.

Look up FEMALIE SOLIPSISM.

This is a catch all list. It may or may not completely apply to you. Most of it will I'm sure. Good luck. Stay strong.

Books: the first one is a Canadian book!

-Surviving your divorce by Michael Cochrane

https://www.google.com/search?gs_ssp=eJzj4tFP1zc0Sso1K8tOMjdg9BIrLi0qyyzLzEtXqMwvLVJIySzLL0pOBQDu5g03&q=surviving+your+divorce&oq=surviving+your+&aqs=chrome.1.0i355i512j46i512j69i57j0i512j46i512l3j0i512j46i512.7999j1j4&client=ms-android-rogers-ca-revc&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8

NO MORE MR NICE GUY is a book you should read.

If she cheated.... check out LEAVE A CHEATER GAIN A LIFE. And/or CHEATING IN A NUTSHELL.

If anyone has any advice or info they would like to add to "the list" please let me know.

GoofBallz913 · 2024-02-21T20:05:56+00:00

Has either side officially filed? Will vary by location, but where I am located, the person who files can easily get "Ex parte temporary orders" ex parte meaning one side only. I was advised to file first, blocking my then-wife from this possibility.

Regular-Bat-4449 · 2024-02-21T19:58:26+00:00

Get a lawyer to start protecting yourself

Alright_So · 2024-02-21T18:46:41+00:00

Depends on your jurisdiction but probably not.

What is your jurisdiction and have you filed for divorce yet?

wisstinks4 · 2024-02-21T17:57:32+00:00

Yes, false claims. because the fucked up legal system is broken towards normal men like you. Can you lawyer up to protect yourself? Try to fight leaving your home as much as possible. If she is set on divorce, you being able to stay in your home will work in your favor.

FUMoney · 2024-02-21T17:41:53+00:00

If you do rent, good. That means you won’t be fighting over ownership of the house. Once the lease is up, you have some flexibility.

Also, hopefully no kids. That will really smooth the divorce process.

Flapique · 2024-02-21T17:30:59+00:00

It's pretty easy to get an order protection on anyone these days. I had no police history whatsoever. No witnesses to any sort of abuse or violence. If anyone was violent, it was her and that's what happened to me.

soontobesolo · 2024-02-21T17:21:25+00:00

Nope. Even if you were causing problems she can't without a court order. (the problems would need to be severe)

Signal-Dot2326 · 2024-02-21T17:15:29+00:00

Just ignore her

tragicaddiction · 2024-02-21T17:02:07+00:00

if you own it together then no.

but if she really wants to she can go to the police and file false accusations that you threatened her or she feels unsafe.. then the police will remove you and you are on bail with conditions not to come near the house until it goes through the courts.

so watch yourself.. it happens.

Fwooply · 2024-02-21T17:01:12+00:00

Legally, not without cause. If she can manufacture believable cause, yes.

I can't think of a reasonable strategy to protect against an unethical STBX. Maybe journal, write about daily encounters. Capture your own emotional stability. Capture any instability she might have. Cameras are often recommended in this sub. CA needs consent from both parties.

Obviously talk to a lawyer.

Title	Can my wife make me leave our home?
Author	BlazeBarlow2
Upvotes	2
Comments	32
Date	February 21, 2024 4:53 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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