When men make the claim that 'women like dating assholes' or 'women are attracted to dating assholes,' a common misconception is that they are only referring to the context of a relationship that has developed over some time.

Women will commonly refute the claim by saying "Women don't like assholes! The assholes mask themselves as nice first, then they become abusive over time." Then, you have the entire topic shift into women believing that "nice guys" are actually assholes hiding their true selves, then some go on about you being nice somehow makes you a sneaky asshole... then boom, we've derailed the topic into something entirely different.

No, ladies... (lmao) that might explain why women get into relationships with men that appear like assholes, but it does not at all explain why women keep going on dates with men who behave as mildly standoffish assholes (as opposed to behaving like a gentlemen). There are women that will stop seeing a guy despite the fact that he is being nice, and go after a guy that is noticeably more rough around the edges. I don't think it's as much as a coincidence as "Well, Girl A doesn't like assholes but Girl B does" as there are countless anecdotal experiences can confirm this with multiple women and multiple dates.

This also goes on top on what virtually all blue-pillers say, "Just be nice, respectful, and you can be more attractive to women", then some men do the exact opposite of what they are told, and they get hilariously better results when dating.

It's not like its some myth either, there are some studies that show that there is some correlation between men with dark triad personality traits, and women's attraction to them. Yes, I know that all women do not have characteristic, but it's enough of them and its a rather puzzling phenomenon that does not get analyzed as much as it should imo.

TLDR (Because I know some of you don't like to read): The "Nice first, Asshole later" argument assumes may answer the question in the context of relationships (particularly abusive and manipulative ones). However, it does not answer the question of why some women are willing to keep going on dates with assholes (at the very BEGINNING)!

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