My Thoughts After 50 Approaches (update)

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-04-18T11:19:34+00:00

You don't need to do more than 2-3 approaches a week, sometimes a month. Of course, That only works if you approach like me, full of confidence and positive outcome expectation.

If you are getting lots of numbers and lots of flakes you need to stop and reevaluate your strategy. Next time you go out, do me a favor. Don't go out for the purpose of picking up women. Drill it in your head that you are going out to have fun and get to know interesting people. Have a purpose, such as going out to a lounge to get a drink, then head to a live show, then to an after party bar or something like that. Always be moving around the night wjth a purpose.

When you do go out again don't focus on picking up women and looking at them like a hungry thirsty wolf. Enjoy yourself. Grab a drink. Shoot the shit with people. And when you see a gorgeous girl that catches your eye, change your thought from "omg I so want to get in her pants" to "okay she is attractive to me and I am attracted, but I know nothing about her. Maybe she is a bitch, maybe she's stupid and boring, maybe she's just dull. Let me go over and say hi and get to know her. That's my only objective, get to know this woman to see if she's interesting and worth spending my time with."

Trust me on this one. Your vibe will change tremendously and you will no longer have flakes or women who are on the fence about meeting you. Again, this is not a technique to get them in bed. I'm actually reframing your reality and how you see women. You are the chooser. You are the judge if they are good enough for you. Incidentally, this attitude attracts women like nothing else.

In no time, you will be dating 2-3 or more women (time permitting) and you will only need to approach every once in a while. I can tell you that all the guys making 100 approaches a night might get lucky here and there but none of them have a steady harem otherwise they would be too busy fucking as opposed to annoying a 100 women a night.

caguru · 2022-04-18T16:39:14+00:00

IMO the reason cold approach works so well is men don’t do it much anymore. Women often tell me they don’t ever get approached so any man that does really sticks out in their mind.

I also have different experience with meeting women in bars. They turn into dates just as easily as day time approaches for me, maybe even easier.

frenkoy · 2022-04-18T11:12:59+00:00

I saw this lady cop at a restaurant and tried a cold approach.. but she acted like i didnt exist.

eszibit · 2022-04-18T10:16:41+00:00

Very interesting thoughts. Is it worth it to go through the bitch face shield? Like, met any girls that are really nice once you get through it? From my point of view it seems they are not really adjusted socially and are too defensive but maybe i'm wrong

damnation333 · 2022-04-18T13:11:28+00:00

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hagakurejunkie · 2022-04-18T18:35:38+00:00

Well said!

Felix1178 · 2022-04-18T11:38:17+00:00

Night game can be a nightmare and disaster if you don't have it with the dance floor and you can't play around on a super loudly environment

BensonInFL · 2022-04-18T16:34:51+00:00

plus texting in general is a bitch.

Yes it is!! I have a lot of canned material for many texts in the beginning... the same interesting things keep happening to me over and over haha... :)

You won't like every girl that shows interest back. It's good not to assume that if it goes well with a girl after an approach (good reaction), you'll automatically want to even date/fuck them.

So true, but I don't discard these girls, I use them for practice, by experimenting telling them things that are very off the wall to see what their reaction is... you can get yourself into some cool situations..

-B

5_7pickup · 2022-04-18T10:56:39+00:00

Good job on approaching but those are rookie numbers. I do 50 approaches in 2-3 days.

ResponsibilityKey427 · 2022-04-18T16:52:10+00:00

So lots of flakes but apparently OLD is less efficient on this sub lol

heretolearnsth · 2022-04-18T10:26:51+00:00

so it took you 2 months to do 35 approaches?

sobrage · 2022-04-18T17:50:01+00:00

By night game sessions you mean street approaches? Bar approaches? Dance clubs?

misakiesc · 2022-04-18T20:24:13+00:00

Yeah I think this is my queue to give up I don't have a master's degree in human interaction

Title	My Thoughts After 50 Approaches (update)
Author	dnaisdmt
Upvotes	141
Comments	37
Date	April 18, 2022 9:19 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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