Don’t give her the same energy

BackFlashy2939 · 2022-03-17T00:14:37+00:00

Exactly, just keep it pushing

seerslayer · 2022-03-17T07:03:02+00:00

I strongly encourage this. I personally feel a lot of guys get so lost in the seduction game they lose themselves and end up depressed. Keep up your energy. If the other person doesn't match it, trust me, the sex will suck and you'll end up regretting it even more.

FiftyNereids · 2022-03-17T03:17:35+00:00

I feel you, however it never ceases to disappoint just how flakey and boring almost every chick I match with is. Literally the recent past 5 chicks I talked to were like this.

I've been through probably hundreds of girls on dating apps like this before that. At some point the chick has to put in some kind of effort or there is zero attraction potential. When a guy asks you a question, maybe try not to respond with a one word answer.

I get it though, when you're juggling 50 messages at once, it's hard to give quality attention to a single person. That's the flaw of online dating, you just get boring chicks, half of them who are there for the validation and not even to date.

Penguinsphen · 2022-03-17T08:49:49+00:00

Yeah I'm learning the key for social media is if they don't respond. Block em and move on. There plenty of people who will.

Anyone wondering how here:

ngl you (followed by compliment). 😁 (Insert question here)

Took me 10years to figure that out. Teen me has fallen through the cracks.

FlanneryODostoevsky · 2022-03-17T01:08:17+00:00

When I say it that’s what I mean. If she seems like she might not be interested, give an ultimatum so you can know whether to move on or not. If they’re interested, take an interest and curiosity in them. It’s not about matching energy tit for tat. It’s about not spending energy somewhere it won’t grow and be reciprocated.

nbh1995 · 2022-03-17T08:29:58+00:00

it depends...sometimes you want to mirror behaviour, other times you want to dictate the vibe...life isn't a clear black or white

alexmaycovid · 2022-03-17T02:33:37+00:00

"Move on to another girl who’s going to be worth your time and will actually put in effort"

If you can find one.

damiancontrol · 2022-03-17T16:57:31+00:00

Although I agree with you to some extent but bitter truth is that sometimes, you're just not much of a catch.

If you've gone over tons and tons women who aren't showing a burning desire towards you... then guess who's the common denominator?

I know ya'll are gonna downvote me for this and you can suck it. If you wanna play the blame game instead of actually working to improve then you're not better than those entitled toxic feminists.

BlancheCorbeau · 2022-03-17T09:24:27+00:00

Your advice is only really applicable in a monogamous context. For those looking to engage with multiple partners, it's a godsend to "fine tune" energy levels to match each partner.

Also, it's a highly-transferrable skill. In the workplace, in particular, you just can't give everything or nothing to all your peers...

2022-03-17T12:56:05+00:00

Yep. They'll eventually realize that they need to stop playing games but by the time they come to that thought process, it'll be too late.

aStonedPanda94 · 2022-03-17T13:06:53+00:00

This is good advice to an experienced person but for someone who has no game their idea of the energy they want to give off usually involves being clingy or overly excited which is known to not help the seduction process

2022-03-17T14:31:43+00:00

Yea, it is a childish and petty mentality ...

leeaerie · 2022-03-17T22:59:24+00:00

A lot of these comments are so funny to me. The guys I’ve met on dating apps are the ones that are super boring or just looking for sex. First of all what’s your bio say? If it says anything at all also how do your pictures look? Men are known to take terrible pictures. You want instant effort from someone that just went their whole life not knowing you. This guy I met on a dating app kept calling me unannounced after I told him I’m a naturally quiet person and phone calls are really only for people I’m super close to like family and that we can talk in person. Another guy kept saying “I need you. I’m ready. I wanna be your man. Come over” but lived an hour away and never offered to meet half way or give me gas money also when the day of our date came up he acted like he didn’t know what day it was then went on to say he was too nervous to plan anything. Girls aren’t boring it’s just a whole lot of trash out there and if you don’t actually make yourself stand out you’re gunna get lost in the crowd. That’s why women tell guys to apply pressure cause our time is being wasted regularly.

Lord_Augastus · 2022-03-17T03:22:48+00:00

This is as everything, situational factors dependant.

If you are trying and getting nothing, move on. If you are getting some energy but she has her own shit going on, do give it a go maybe she is just tired or overwhelmed with her own shit, and will appreciate your effort in the end. Dont go all or nothing just for because you have a silly rule to get what you give. Life isnt fair.

Busy-Attention-873 · 2022-03-17T15:53:12+00:00

I feel the same way about a man, my ex husband let me say he wasn’t the brightest crayon in the box. I need a man who can stimulate my mind as much as my body. It’s a definite quality I need in a man. He has to bring it!!!

SnooPets1514 · 2022-03-17T09:33:21+00:00

Spot on

originalgainster · 2022-03-17T12:24:12+00:00

Good advice!

Eideen · 2022-03-17T15:14:46+00:00

I think the statement have different meanings.

For many men they can come across as desperate/needi, and that is not the signal you wanted to send. Hens the rule, don't be more invested in the conversation then her. If you want send a sexual under tone to the conversation that is great. But for most a overly sexual energy is not wanted.

There is also the energy when of you when talking to a girl in real life, if you are exhausted, and almost rather be sleeping, and most cases you not match the energy.

Automatic-Ad2348 · 2022-03-17T16:52:51+00:00

agree. classic stupid internet advice

2022-03-17T22:04:34+00:00

I agree with this but sometimes you don't always have the full picture of what is going on in their lives. I'm in a LDR with a woman now and some times it's great and we have a lot of fun conversations and sometimes I barely hear from her for a few days because she has bad depression. She is very open about her struggle but it bothers her when she is like that, and she still thinks it's going to turn me off even though I've told it won't, so she will "stay away" until she feels better. Sometimes woman don't put in the effort because they don't have the energy to do so. Sure, keep your options open and if you find someone who matches with you better then go for it but don't ghost the other woman because you think she is a bad person. Maybe she just can't help it.

EstablishmentIll67 · 2022-03-17T23:00:50+00:00

On god💯

itsalyf · 2022-04-14T15:59:21+00:00

can’t agree more.

Odd_Check_1664 · 2022-09-16T06:26:50+00:00

Love is a two way street. I've learned a lot of guys are pushy. Including me, I don't like giving up. But it is help to step back and think. Just grow as a person and become more aware of others thoughts and emotions. Couples are two individuals trying to make it work. Communication is key

meowcaster · 2022-03-17T17:25:16+00:00

met a girl that I liked we talked alot irl but on phone there is not that much energy and later I don't see that same energy so I just said nope not gonna pursue further and will shoot my shot with the next person

Title	Don’t give her the same energy
Author	Prof4CMV
Upvotes	884
Comments	67
Date	March 17, 2022 12:13 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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