How to drop a girl without being a dick?

noonewonone · 2022-03-01T02:58:01+00:00

Hey Sarah,

I think you’re a really cool person and I apologize if this comes off as abrupt but I don’t think is is going to work and I really don’t want to waste your time. I wish you the best.

Or something like that.

RSNK10 · 2022-03-01T02:10:13+00:00

You’re not a dick for breaking it off with someone. Just tell her you’re not interested in the nicest way possible

theowawausyss · 2022-03-01T02:11:24+00:00

Dude I’m having the same problem.. I’ve been trying for weeks.. but the girl is soo sweet I feel like an asshole

roakmamba · 2022-03-01T06:47:44+00:00

This is how I handled a situation like this last month. I was talking to multiple chicks,dated one and had a date set up with another one the following day. The first girl I was really attracted to and the second one I wasnt to as much. I texted her I met someone else that I really hit things off with and I don't think it's fair to her and me if we continue on with our date, best of luck. She never replied but I feel better not leading her on.

poly_nerdy_panda · 2022-03-01T13:19:30+00:00

just be honest with her tell her you only want to fuck and have an FWB thing.. she what she says if she's down then go for it.. most chicks these days look different than photos maybe get her to dress up and put makeup on ? I lived with a "model" and her photos looked nothing like her IRL but guys still wanted her for some odd reason even if she was a toxic piece of shit

jimsgympartyhouse · 2022-03-01T13:38:47+00:00

You should meet her. She might surprise you.

unicorntears13 · 2022-03-01T04:04:40+00:00

Please don’t listen to some of these tools who say to talk less and less. Be a man and just tell her you’re not really interested in taking this further. If you want to be honest about why then feel free to do so but it’s not really necessary unless she asks. There’s no reason to waste anyones time if you’re not interested. With the other option you’re just contributing to the toxic dating atmosphere that you are trying to avoid.

1DarkDD · 2022-03-01T06:28:58+00:00

Remember. She posted unreal pictures, tell her that she is sweet but not really your type.

t1mmyturn3r111 · 2022-03-01T07:34:47+00:00

If the roles were reversed she’d probably ghost you or say she changed her mind without having to give an explanation. Say some bullshit about how some shit came up and you need to focus on yourself, then just don’t ever talk to her again. You don’t owe anybody anything let alone an explanation.

BackFlashy2939 · 2022-03-01T03:13:21+00:00

You have to be straight up honest, not a dick, but honest. You were intrigued by the pictures she shown, but she catfished you. You're going to hurt yourself more than her tbh. Just let her know how you honestly feel about the situation. I'm pretty sure she knows that she doesn't look like the pics she sent you anyways. It's her fault tbh, just don't be a dick about it.

TheHungryRabbit · 2022-03-01T10:04:29+00:00

Every time i match a girl on tinder and meet 99% of the time they doesn’t look even close to the pictures, I always give them a chance if we click then I can look over that, but if not then I just ghost them, sure it hurts for them or even for me but sometimes if you say that you are not interested they start to ask what they did wrong, why you don’t like them etc.

2022-03-01T07:49:22+00:00

Tell her you didn’t feel the connection over the video call. What was a lot less sexy about her?

searinox2012 · 2022-03-01T07:34:18+00:00

“I think you’re very nice, we should just be friends”. If girls use it, I don’t see why guys shouldn’t.

monkey36937 · 2022-03-01T11:08:07+00:00

Or tell her the truth, that you don't find her physical appealing. Instead of running around looking for excuses.

vin9889 · 2022-03-01T06:21:56+00:00

Just get some head and never have sex…

RomanH101 · 2022-03-01T04:23:31+00:00

Guys who are downvoting people who are telling OP to do a slow fade get ZERO pussy and it shows.

The risks with an outright rejection range from the girl harming herself, you or even going down the “Me Too” movement route. You careless idiots are the same guys who hesitate to approach women because you’re afraid of being accused of sexual harassment.

NEVER outright reject a woman who has a very high interest in you. Just slowly engage her less & make things less sexual in your conversations and more platonic. At least then you and her can still be friends afterwards.

carrotverse · 2022-03-01T03:50:27+00:00

Don’t break up just talk to her less and less.

gnome_alone32 · 2022-03-01T04:00:28+00:00

Fade away

AlmostEasy89 · 2022-03-01T14:47:09+00:00

She created this problem for herself, not you.

gangweedsavedme · 2022-03-01T05:10:21+00:00

Well, you should have brought it up the instant you noticed it. But now you should just ghost.

Fun_Sun_97 · 2022-03-01T12:43:57+00:00

just say u r no longer into dating then carry on dating, if she finds out asks why tell her u didnt want to hurt her feelings over her being a big fat whale

mattgk39 · 2022-03-01T12:27:37+00:00

Is it just the angles she took the pictures at? Or are they obviously deceitful? If she looks nothing like her pictures (e.g. way fatter) than I think it’s reasonable to point that out. It’s completely unfair to make a dating profile and post pictures that are essentially lies about what you look like.

Scylla34 · 2022-03-01T12:31:37+00:00

You should better see the girl once or twice. After seeing face to face, then she will always busy and said you got no time for her. After a week without messaging, she will eventually ask to break up with ya. She will said you guys should seeing someone else. No worries. That what my a year in phone relationship with ex-girlfriend did this to me. We only been dating twice.

Jamesdoink · 2022-03-01T13:47:10+00:00

I'll take care of her 🤣🤷🏻🤦

Lucy-boy · 2022-03-01T14:11:47+00:00

I think you should at least meet her once before braking it

BrzR_R · 2022-03-01T15:21:55+00:00

So your talking to someone you like ready to get jiggy with and bail at the last moment because she doesnt look as sexy on a videochatscreen as in her posed foto's that most people take 1000 of before they post. Could be that you like her in person? Why bail at the last moment and at least be a man and tell her to her face if it doesnt work out but you can always gain a friend especially is you have similar interests (and she probably has hot friends). Honesty does work if your sincere

teinimon · 2022-03-01T15:23:47+00:00

We've been talking for too long for me to ghost.

Hmm you're being a dick right now for thinking it is ok to ghost someone even when you haven't been talking for long

2022-03-01T15:23:51+00:00

When I was younger I felt really guilty when I wanted to break up with a girl and because of that I often pushed it off for too long. Once, after I broke up with someone I had only been seeing for like two weeks, her best friend called me and berated me for being an inconsiderate bastard and how I had hurt her friend drastically. I was too inexperienced then to just hang up on her and/or tell her never to contact me again, so I just politely explained that I wasn’t feeling it and didn’t mean to hurt her, but fortunately I held my ground. I did feel really bad though.

Now even though I’m far more experienced, I still dread breaking up, and in those situations, I often find myself hoping the girl breaks up with me.

My advice, assuming that the girl did not purposely deceive you: Break it off as soon as possible. The longer you wait, the deeper her feelings might get and the more it will hurt her. Be as polite as possible, but don’t give false hope. Feel free to make up an excuse to soften the blow (say you rekindled with an ex rather than say that you actually don’t find her attractive), but don’t leave room in that excuse for her to hope. Expect that she will be hurt, but this has not gone on very long and she’ll get over it quickly. If she gets irrationally angry and or demanding, you are under no obligation to answer her questions, meet her demands, or feel bad in any way.

Persephone1230 · 2022-03-01T15:41:30+00:00

Not everyone looks great on video. Some people look better in pictures than they do in person, some people look much worse or not like themselves at all. Two of the most gorgeous men I know look like trolls on video. In my opinion you are setting yourself up for a life time of shallowness by basing your entire perception on a video call or picture.

thedrugsinyourveins · 2022-03-01T15:48:19+00:00

i know this probably the bad way to do it but I usually slowly ghost. Making up excuses like I was really busy and setting up dates only to cancel a day before. Eventually she gets pissed off and leaves - I feel like less of an asshole this way

oussamabouaoued · 2022-03-01T15:57:23+00:00

just tell her you have some shit goin on and you dont think you're ready yet for dating.... suggest to stay friends, if they use it we should do it too

Title	How to drop a girl without being a dick?
Author	LemonLimeNinja
Upvotes	167
Comments	73
Date	March 1, 2022 2:02 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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