Why are more women interested in you,if one woman is?

One_Insanity · 2018-10-05T23:06:28+00:00

It's a safe and effective way of knowing you're worth a damn.

"My friend likes him so what's so special about him?" It's curiosity and confirmation that you're potentially some good stuff.

As for flirting I don't know but as long it's in a fun light that example shows you're not going to bend to her. And everyone else knows that. Plus it's risqué. "no you can't say that" and then she proceeds to giggle sort of thing.

SmashBrosNotHoez · 2018-10-05T23:46:45+00:00

We are naturally drawn to things that have been approved by others.

You want to buy something on Amazon and you’re not sure whether it will be good or not. What do people usually do? They read the reviews, they want to know this product has been approved by others.

Here’s a secret, it’s the same with people too.

We are drawn to people who are liked and approved by others, especially if our own friends like them. It’s why many people meet through social circles.

Why do women like men who are approved by other women? Especially those who are there friends?

Because it shows that you’re a safe guy. If my friend Jenna says Bob is alright, then it shows you’re safe.

It also shows that you have social value.

dailymanup · 2018-10-05T23:43:21+00:00

Preselection. Check it out.

2018-10-06T03:35:11+00:00

People want what they can’t have.

Social proof. Someone else has you so you must be doing something right.

WhereTruthLies · 2018-10-06T04:07:56+00:00

Not really, she makes you look pretty

LMFAO bold move cotton

2018-10-06T01:12:39+00:00

Because people want what they can't have, it means your not a creepy fuck and can actually hold down a relationship. Lastly you already have a girl, so you naturally come off more care free and confident since you are already taken.

rigbed · 2018-10-06T03:24:04+00:00

The hard part is getting that first chick interested

SquirrelHoarder · 2018-10-06T01:22:53+00:00

Bruh, “not really, she makes you look pretty” means that girl #1 was so ugly that by comparison girl #2 actually looks pretty. They may have gave you a shocked look because they were shook that you called her ugly to her face.

Westsider509330 · 2018-10-05T23:27:43+00:00

It's no different from advertising.

Same reason you see someone happy biting into a burger "mmmmmm"

CleanWholesomePhun · 2018-10-06T03:11:35+00:00

Someone already did the difficult research on you and gave the stamp of approval.

Also you probably seem happier and more confident when you feel liked.

2018-10-06T09:38:11+00:00

Your subconscious sorts for what’s familiar. Sexless guys with poor self-image tend probably filter out a lot of opportunities to get laid because they’re too scared to take them or don’t believe it could happen for them. Guys who fuck unconsciously manifest more women in their lives because getting laid is familiar to them. Whatever you practice is what you manifest. It’s basic law of attraction shit but it applies imo

Charles__town · 2018-10-06T10:08:28+00:00

If you have to choose between two restaurants. One to the left, one to the right. One is empty, one is full of people. Which one do you go to?

People draw people.

coolreg214 · 2018-10-06T01:55:19+00:00

I’m was a 48 year old divorced dude who hadn’t been on a 1st date in 27 years. I started hanging out in a local pub where I made friends with a 27 year old bartender who worked there part time. She was very friendly and had a lot of friends that she introduced me to. So here I am the old dude hanging with the under 30 crowd, always just as friends, I didn’t want to be the creepy old guy hitting on girls who were the same age as my son. Apparently when you hang with a under 30 crowd, the around 40 crowd takes notice that there must be something about you that attracts under 30 girls and I guess they just get curious. I had more fun than I ever had in my life and ended up meeting the 41 year old love of my life.

broghettiRolls · 2018-10-06T07:15:02+00:00

Bang’m all son

BonvivantNamedDom · 2018-10-06T08:46:40+00:00

Well, if other girls like you there has to be something about you she doesnt know (yet). The feeling gets stronger the more women are after you, especially when theyre really hot, too.

xyals · 2018-10-06T01:16:26+00:00

Also when you've been validated as someone who some girls want, you become subconsciously more confident. You're insecurities don't leak out all the time anymore and girls can sense that. If you ever interacted with a guy and just have a feeling that he gets laid or he probably has a girlfriend, girls get that too and they find that attractive.

Ikuyas · 2018-10-06T02:06:03+00:00

Yes.

ItsComplixated · 2018-10-06T09:20:10+00:00

sincerityisking · 2018-10-06T10:32:51+00:00

I don't even know what it is but this year I've had as many girls as in the whole of my life before this year. Maybe it's just getting older and more confident (25) but it seems like a subconscious thing as well. Like they sense it on some level. I'm not going to question it too much in case I break the spell. working in a bar helps for meeting women i have to say

LordHaragnok · 2018-10-06T15:17:58+00:00

It's called "social proof," and it's a psychological phenomenon that applies to female attraction. Basically it shows that if other women are interested in you, you must be worth it. This is especially effective on younger girls because they don't have the experience weeding out the high-value guys from the low-value guys by themselves yet, and thus are easily influenced by the opinion of other girls. Aka social proof.

fishdog1 · 2018-10-06T18:14:05+00:00

Scarcity and validation

DaygameCoach · 2018-10-06T18:19:01+00:00

It's called preselection. There is a ton about it on the web. Here's an example from Girls Chase: https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-preselection-can-get-you-girls.

My answer is that: It's a form of social proof. Also, makes you seem safe to women. Also, women can be jealous or envious of what other women have. You can use women as "pivots" (or paws), meaning, they can help you get other (even hotter) women. When I was single and out with female friends, they would make me look good (sometimes intentionally by talking me up) to other women.

-C

www.Daygamer.net

recyclablebanthas · 2018-10-08T05:00:29+00:00

1

Why are more women interested in you,if one woman is?

Trick question.

Those women aren't really interested in you, if another one is. What you're seeing there is likely two things:

You're demonstrating the ability to interact socially and the girl is accepting you, so it shows you're not awkward. It puts people at ease.
Or if you're actually talking about a girl showing interest, like flirting with you clearly, and other girls getting competitive because of that, then it's not actually interest in you, per se. It's them being into the whole thrill of the hunt thing. Which is a fun thing to play with, but the limitation of it is that the women you may attract with this trick aren't really into you, they're into the thrill of the competition, and you as a person, are actually interchangeable.

2

.... I know 1 girl really liked me, but i didn't really feel the same way. Now her friend wants me - she broke up with this white knight kid who tried it with her for 1 year, the relationship was short lived.

Once you crossover into being able to make friends with girls, like you did with the one who liked you, you're capable of getting referrals with the others who know her. Like, they'll know about you from her and if she's talking you up, it's good PR.

3

I regularly flirt with her entire friends group, and the odd thing is - they really like it. Like idk but from some reason they kinda compete for me - it's kinda funny for me really, it's like playing chess in a sense.

These girls are all pretty young and likely immature, so that's another factor.

At a basic level, girls who are mature and looking for a relationship, aren't really into those sort of group competition. When girls are younger, have baggage, and/or don't know themselves or what they want very well, it can seem pretty attractive though.

4

> > It's a safe and effective way of knowing you're worth a damn.

I mean, it's an ego boost for sure, but basing your own worth on flighty, immature girls who are attracted to the whole thrill of the hunt thing, is really not a good practice to get into.

You ought to be basing your worth on something more solid.

2018-10-06T04:30:49+00:00

I don't get laid at all but i have money so i go to strip clubs.

I went to one and did an experiement. One night I treat one girl like a princess. I throw 100$ at her on stage got a ton of lapdances and everything.

The next week I did this to another girl. They look very similiar and have similiar personalities.

In both cases i noticed that the girl i spoiled was busy all night while the unspoiled one didn't get anyone. No lap dances or tips or anything.

I asked some of the guys and they thought that seeing the girl i spoiled perform made her seem more enticing. At least they knew she was good and maybe i saw something they didn't.

I find strip clubs are a role reversal in the dating world. And this gave me some perspective. Guys that are taken are proven to have some value. Just like the girls I spoiled were. And that means something.

I don't think this means women are unintersted or unnattracted to you if you don't have a gf. They just do not want to take the first move . So in those situations where you are not taken, it is up to you to go for HER.

ls737100 · 2018-10-06T07:54:08+00:00

So basically, you're fucked unless you can somehow get a girl because no other girls will be interested in you.

What the fuck. I know dudes who have basically zero going for them, much worse off than me for example, that luck into ONE girl who straight up comes onto them and then get a pass to tons of other girls. Without doing anything.

Anyone who says that dating isn't a matter of blind luck is bullshitting.

Title	Why are more women interested in you,if one woman is?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	182
Comments	52
Date	October 5, 2018 11:01 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/9lr7ls/why_are_more_women_interested_in_youif_one_woman/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/why-are-more-women-interested-in-youif-one-woman.1292006 https://theredarchive.com/post/1292006

Comments