Any tips for a 40 year old guy?

dirkberkis · 2019-01-18T17:17:15+00:00

The only people shaming you will mostly be women your own age. Or the guys in their 20s who havent yet realized its an open field for women after high school. Or maybe her parents hahaha

ethical_pa · 2019-01-18T17:10:02+00:00

I don't have specific advice but think of this: society will shame you for being attracted to 25 year old but will have the attitude of "you go girl!" if a 25 year old girl takes half your shit.

Do what you want. Leave the petty moralizing to the betas. Protect yourself.

Manunafraid · 2019-01-18T23:29:29+00:00

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Double_Lobster · 2019-01-18T20:00:51+00:00

I know a 48 yr old guy who slays girls in their mid twenties. The maturity is very attractive to most girls actually. The degree to which you have you shit together is so beyond most guys they normally interact with you are on a different plane. It's 2019 baby what's a 25 year difference when we're all gonna live to 150?

K3wp · 2019-01-18T18:05:11+00:00

I'm 45 and doing better than ever. Just don't lie about your age or brag about hers.

Also, don't chase. That's when it gets creepy. Let her make the first move and then take it from there.

iamenough78 · 2019-01-18T20:32:24+00:00

Dude my dad is in a polygamous relationship with two 20+ year olds and he’s 41 , you got this. I’m 18 btw

_do_not_read_this_ · 2019-01-18T18:27:05+00:00

You are the prize, not the women you seek.

They need to qualify themselves to be with you.

Lots of younger women *crave* older men, the "boys" their age just aren't doing it for them.

Confidence in yourself, your approach, and what you have to offer. Read about "game" but adopt it for an older person, a lot of the tactics are for the youngsters.

I'm 53 and dating a 28 year old. She told me she almost fainted when I *told* her she's going out with me (Looked her in the eyes, smiled, and said "Meet me for a cider Thursday, 6:00 at [location]". She said she gave up on the boys her age, ("uh, maybe, uh, you know, uh if you're not you know, busy sometime, uh, maybe we can hang out, if you want").

Women *want* the man to be in charge, they don't care about age. Be that man.

And if they give you shit about your age, be ready with a comeback or ignore it and perservere (read about "shit tests"). "I don't date grandpas" "Well I don't usually date immature brats but I thought I'd give you a chance" or something like that. "You're too old for me" "You're too old for me, too, but I'll make an exception."

asthebroflys · 2019-01-18T23:40:22+00:00

Similar situation here. I had this gorgeous, fun, 23 year old cancel our date when she found out I was 38. She thought I was in my late 20s. I told her age didn’t matter as much as maturity and chemistry but she wasn’t having it.

iamenough78 · 2019-01-18T20:25:09+00:00

It's nothing out of the ordinary, look up Todd, he also is an old fart but he's killing it, and let some pussy for the us the young folk.

JustAteSomeReddibles · 2019-01-18T23:18:53+00:00

Nah fuckin rock on mate! You got the age, wisdom, maturity, money, career etc. You're literally everything a girl between 20-30 is looking for

iamenough78 · 2019-01-18T19:11:23+00:00

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ejpusa · 2019-01-18T20:26:44+00:00

Suggestion:

Just do your yoga, get a manicure, and just say "Hello" And of course read the paper version of The New York Times daily. And listen, just listen.

I'm 2 decades beyond you, and I am swamped with dates. I had to stop, it was just too much. In Manhattan, so it's pretty easy.

So now, I'm on a break. Just me on my Netflix. Till Spring. :-)

PS, also great if you can cook a salmon, it's pretty easy, makes a great impression.

b0kk13 · 2019-01-18T23:02:52+00:00

Maybe reschedule and lift less? Spend some more time in women-friendly places such as shopping areas.

DajuanKev · 2019-01-18T23:14:09+00:00

Its all good, man. I'm like you, to. I'm whatever about it and have a complex philosophy. If she's down, cool. If not, its no pressure.

I'm 28 but if she looks good, that's how it is and I'm a picky dude. I'd date a 18 year or 17 year old when she's already close to 18 anyway. Women reach adulthood at that age so I don't even see what all the dramatic is about.

iamenough78 · 2019-01-19T16:08:17+00:00

Funny how young women will say older men are creepy. Yet, they'd jump on Dan bilzerian without a second thought and brag about it for the next 10 years.

LingeringGnome · 2019-01-19T22:15:33+00:00

How can you be "too old" for 20-somethings when you were just a in a LTR with a 20-something?

I think I have a lot to offer but then I think is it creepy trying to hook up with younger women.

Any tips guys?

If your hair is thinning, shave it. Experiment with stubble or clean. Your fitness game sounds spot on. I'm in my 40's, in LTR with fitness model. I do some lifting. At this point I don't have to pick up women most of the time. I just sit at a club or bar and they come over and start initiating kino.

Fit people attract fit people. Age doesn't matter and it's not creepy.

Fullofshitguy · 2019-01-18T20:26:02+00:00

Be attractive

TTV-DontEvnTrip · 2019-01-18T20:26:22+00:00

Get an IG , buy fake likes and get your likes to around 600+ will gym pics and lots of dog pics . If you don’t have s dog . Go to a local pet store and take some photos. After this they PYT’s will flock for the cock!! This is a proven strategy 100% unbeatable

SmashBrosNotHoez · 2019-01-19T00:54:07+00:00

Try going for women who are at least 25. Although you may do good with women who are in their lower thirties. Lots of 30 year old women are still hot.

I think anybody 21 and younger is too young for you.

xen911 · 2019-01-19T06:09:30+00:00

I'm 42, fat, bald, ginger (and now manly and awesome too lol). I've been with the most amazing and hot girl for the last two years who is now thirty. We hook up whenever I want with another ridiculous body hot girl who is 27 who I also usually take out once per week and we are hooking up with a DIFFERENT hot girl who is super smart and 22 this week who approached ME. Shit can be insanely good. Soak up the advice people give you and I give a strong shout out to 3% Man by coach Corey Wayne too. GL!

2019-01-18T20:22:53+00:00

The ending of the last of us :(

Jouissance_juice · 2019-01-18T23:19:42+00:00

I'll be 39 this year and I'm killing it. It's not creepy. I do date women in their 40's though, but I also date in their 20's. Early 30's is pretty easy to pull, and I find early 20's easier than late 20's. It literally doesn't matter, if there is chemistry learn how to make it go boom. My life is awesome, you should try it.

iamenough78 · 2019-01-18T23:21:12+00:00

First it's not creepy it's natural to want younger women.

Second, I prefer to think a younger woman is lucky to have 40 yo me. I've bought and renovated a foreclosed home, bought and sold several vehicles, finished 2 degrees and have 2 decades navigating the adult world... Not to mention 2 decades perfecting my bedroom skills. What more could a woman ask for?

youarentcleverkiddo · 2019-01-18T20:26:42+00:00

no one here is 40, the advice here might help you but i wouldn't take advice from 18-25 year olds. makes no sense to ask on reddit.

Title	Any tips for a 40 year old guy?
Author	iamenough78
Upvotes	44
Comments	87
Date	January 18, 2019 5:01 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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