1. For the love of god, look people in the eyes and smile. I know this is pickup 101 here, i know you've read it a million times before. I know you are thinking "well no shit, we all do that." The thing about this is that people will be SO MUCH more receptive to you if you simply look them in the eyes and smile. It's funny because if you look people in the eyes and smile, they IMMEDIATELY become so much less intimidating, it's interesting how that works. This is a tip that can work with all people right away, your smile doesn't even have to be a GOOD one, but this is still something you should work on.

  2. Once you've got eye contact down, use your eyes. Watch people while they talk. You will notice their facial expressions, their general mood, their movements, their clothing, any accessories, their hair or whatever. Examine everything, comment on it, joke or tease about it, ask about it, this is amazing for generating some comfort building conversation as well as some light teasing. If you just observe the person it gives the conversation so many directions to go. It can also be great for putting you in the mindset that YOU are the one judging HER, which is great for gaining the right mindset. So remember, observe the person and learn to comment on your observations. This can make all the difference.

  3. I'm not sure how everybody here will feel about this one, but I would say as a general rule to try to avoid sarcasm. I know it's funny a lot of times but people whom you are just meeting generally are not very receptive to sarcasm. I would avoid it. (I would like feedback on this one, it's very much personal experience because I am a heavily instinctive sarcasm-user.)

  4. Remember, girls are cute. This doesn't seem like much of a tip, I know. Obviously we're here because girls are cute, right? Wrong. A lot of us came here initially because girls were just the opposite. They were intimidating. Stop taking everything about the opposite sex so seriously, girls are adorable and it's fun to see how they'll react, so enjoy it and laugh it off. Have fun.

  5. PICKUP IS NOT A LIFESTYLE, it's a hobby to supplement your lifestyle: I do not know how to stress this enough. We've all read the game, we've all been at that point where our expectations were way too high and we constantly compared ourselves to an unrealistic standard, and no matter how much progress we made it was never enough. Lifestyle changes like the ones promoted here take baby steps, sometimes very intimidating baby steps but do not push yourself to do too much at once. It's not necessary. It's OK to take baby steps.

Imagine for a moment that you go out with a good friend every saturday, and you play a game of basketball. Lets say that every week your friend absolutely stomps you into the ground, and you lose by a long-shot. You may be a little down that you lost, but once you step off that court you go back to your everyday life. You don't let the basketball game bleed into and taint every other area of your life. It's just a hobby. Pickup should be the same thing. don't let the outcome of your sets affect the rest of your life, your actions or self-esteem. Once you leave a set, you're back in everyday life and the two have no reason to intersect. So stop looking at picking up women as a detrimental part of your lifestyle, it only matters when you're in set, once you leave a set you go back to your life. I'd be happy to expand on this if i was no clear enough.

  1. This is the most important one so I wanted to put it last. The reason I put this after number 5 is because it ties into it. For the longest time I though I wanted my lifestyle to be pickup. This is the worst way to go.

YOU CANNOT BE PROUD OF YOURSELF, OR HAVE ANY LEVEL OF CONFIDENCE IF YOU ARE NOT PROUD OF YOUR LIFESTYLE. You have got to diversify, you cannot focus your entire life on pickup alone. Take a look at yourself. Now imagine your ideal self. I mean just physically, not mentally. Do you dress the way you want? Do you actually do the hobbies you like? Imagine your BEST self, the way you see it. What does he do? Are you doing that? Get out, go to the gym, get a job, surf, play guitar, go to concerts, dress whatever way you think is cool and fucking WEAR those clothes, accessorize, read more, take martial arts classes, it doesn't matter. Just start building your idea of a lifestyle you would be proud of and don't wait, do it now. You'll be amazed how much of a difference it would make.

I know this is a relatively vague peice of advice, but if you have no idea what your ideal lifestyle is then start taking cues from people you look up to. Emulate some of the things they do to see what you like or don't like. Whatever you do you have to diversify into as many areas as you can, the more things you do outside of pickup the less important pickup becomes in determing your own self-worth and the less intimidating it becomes. Not to mention it will become more fun, and effective.

EDIT: Something small I wanted to add. Remember that everybody is a pickup artists friend. Don't be afraid to talk comfortably with everybody you meet. Talk to them the way you'd talk to an old friend. Don't be uptight. Don't be afraid to be goofy.

tl;dr Get out there and create a lifestyle for yourself as soon as possible, don't make your entire life about pickup. Make eye contact, smile and have fun. Remember, girls are cute, and fun to flirt with.